I'm sad that people complain so much about their husbands/boyfriends :[

Laura - posted on 01/29/2010 ( 88 moms have responded )

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My husband is NOT perfect, he can't change diapers, is not affectionate in general, and assumes that I'll always have time (what time?) to do things.



BUTTTTTTTTTTT, he works SO hard so that I can stay at home. Yes, we barely scrape by. Yes, we have both had to give up a lifestyle so that I can raise our child and I am SOOOO grateful!!!



Come on, let's BRAG on our husbands for once!! :]

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Sue - posted on 02/15/2010

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On one hand I think the person our husbands were before we got married should continue, meaning if they wee affectionate before saying I DO, then they should continue to do that even more so throughout the marriage. When they don't I think it is a legitimate complaint.
At the same time, I agree we should give them credit for where they are doing right. I have to say when I met my husband he was a single dad raising his son and step-daughter. Seeing that he had his kids oer on a regular basis and was really tere fr his son as well as a daughter that wasn't even biologically his really meant something to me. He also had a steady job and knew how to cook and clean. I believe in marriavge the wife should carry more of that responsibility, bt the husband should at least help to lighten her burdens. The idea, however, tat he did this on his own told me he wasn't marrying someone just to be his maid and child care. He genuinely did all those things because it was theright thing to do. Since our two girls were born he was great about helping with diapers, dressing them, being silly with them, taking them out for walks, and right now he and the girls(who are now 7 and 10) have gone out to pick up his son and visit the grandparents spending the afternoon together whil I take care of errands that need to be done. He is very good about doingthings with them. Every Wednsday he takes the girls out to lunch at the same Italian restaurant saying he's taking his two "girlfriends" out to eat and adds that thy are the only two "girlfriends" I'll let him have.(lol) We've been married over 10 1/2 years now and even though he's had to learn a few things about how to talk to a wife, I have to say he really isn't a bad husband and he really is a good father. He also remembers to buy flowers for special times like Valentine's Day and y birthday, Mother's Day, etc. and Chritmas he has good udgement on what to get for me, knowing I like nice, but practical things and he knows what music I like.

Ryan - posted on 02/06/2010

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i'm glad to see all these moms braging on their men!

my husband was selfish and immature for a long time. and we definately had our share of ups and downs. but now i look back and i can't even believe that he used to be like that. now he always helps with our kids and he puts my needs before his.(which is a nice change! lol) and i can't believe what a good husband and a good daddy he has turned out to be! we had our daughter last June, and since she was born he has really steped up and done such a wonderfull job. i am so proud of him and can't imagine my life with anyone else!

Darcy - posted on 02/06/2010

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I agree with you also, because my husband works very long days to provide a good life for our kids and I, but sometimes we as mothers need to vent a little. I don't think I ever commented on a lady's post venting about her significant other, telling her that she didn't love her husband. I think it's a natural thing for us to gripe from time to time. I would never ask my husband to come home and give our kids a bath and clean the house, after working a 15 hour day....but on the weekends it would be nice if he offered. I am incredibly greatful for my husband and the life that he provides for us, but come on! Sometimes it feels nice to get a little tension off of our chests!
Thanks Laura! I really do appreciate your post, and I don't think we should forget how much our husbands do for us!

Nichole - posted on 02/05/2010

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there's nothing to brag about. im basically a single mom with two kids, and an extra kid (my fiance) on most days.

Jaclyn - posted on 02/05/2010

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My husband is not even close to "perfect" but everyday i tell him or text him that we love him and appericate everything that he does for us so that I can stay at home and raise our children. So i always do my part and i dont expect much from him when it comes to housework because it is "my job" and he works hard enough at his job that he should not have to worry about the house and not feeling apperciated. So im grateful for my not perfect husband!

Kim - posted on 02/05/2010

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WOW - I am SO happy to see someone adding a post like this. Such a Very welcome change from all the posts that rant - Thank You !
I Love my husband - like yours he is not perfect, far from it ... but guess what, neither am I ! My husband works hard to be home with us every weekend, he works hard so I can be a stay home mom and home school our kids, he works hard at work. Our kids and I work hard at home - we clean, cook, do school, go on field trips, care for our rescue animals - and he always comes home to a clean house and hot dinner. It's a fair, even trade. We're all happy - yes, we have had to give some things up, and we do have to save a lot to get those things we really want, but it makes us work harder in our relationship because we work together.
I love my husband, and I am very proud of him and I am a very lucky wife !

Lisa - posted on 02/05/2010

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I agree and am so happy that you posted this! I spend so much time hearing other moms complain about their "other half" and, even on a bad day, I keep that to myself. We all work very hard at home and they work very hard away from home. My husband is an amazing father and supporter...both financial and otherwise. I just think that on some days they don't "get it" just like we have our days where we don't get what they're going through. It's a give and take and, in the end, we're both doing our part to be the best parents we can and give our kids what's most important...our time and our love! Congrats to all the women that want to stay at home and are blessed to be able to do so because of a supportive partner!

Lorraine - posted on 02/05/2010

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Hi there, I have to say, since the birth of baby daniel, my husband has been briliant, with him and me, he changes nappies, feeds and plays with him. I so grateful to have a husband like him. Two weeks ago, he booked me into a spa for the day, just dropped me off, and he minded daniel all day. and he was fine. OF course I was nervous.

Arielle - posted on 02/04/2010

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i love my husband. he has been wonderful to me since the day we started dating. i am so greatful he gives me the option to stay at home with our daughter bc some moms dont have that option. my husband is a wonderful dad and loves our daughter to death. and again i am so greatful bc my husabnd is deployed in kuwait for a year (our daughter 1st year of life) and i am home everyday, every min with our daughter not missing a min, but yet he is missing her whole first year. i cant wait till he comes home, bc it is hard trying to take care of her by myself but i know he didnt choose to deploy he was ordered so.... i try and hold it down here at home while he is deployed

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I am with you 100%. It seems people complain about anything these days. I don't understand it. Men don't think or function the way we do. So of course it may seem that we're better mothers than they are fathers. It's so untrue though. They just do things differently. I love my husband so much and I am thankful for the things he does for me. Some girls just complain for attention. You just have to learn to ignore the immaturity.

Myrtis - posted on 02/04/2010

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What a refreshing post! I totally agree with you, it's time to brag about our hardworking husbands



My husband rushes home after working hard all day so that he can read to our three boys before they go to bed. Sometimes he can't make it home before bedtime but he'll still go in and check in on them while they sleep. Then there's the fact that he walks our eldest to school every morning, rain or shine, without complaint. On saturdays he takes them to music lessons so that I can have some time to myself. Recently he gave up a massage at a spa that he won so that I could go in his place.



He may not change diapers, but I don't think he has the time! :)

Lisa - posted on 02/04/2010

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Great thread!! LOVE the positive energy! I agree, I work hard at home but my DH works hard so I can be home to raise our kids.

TJ - posted on 02/04/2010

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I agreee with you all, my husband has been amazing since we had our son 5 months ago. He changes diapers, feeds him his cereal (which can get a bit messy, as he lets him help) but oh well it gets done. On his days off he allows me to sleep in a little extra and takes charge for the morning, which he has sacrificed his time out in his leather shop to be with our son which is great. He is also working very hard so hopefully when the time comes I don't have to go back to work.

Keisha - posted on 02/04/2010

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My fiance works so hard to support our family. He works all night then comes home and still spends lots of time with our daughter and I. He cleans, he cooks, gives back messages, changes diapers, lets me sleep in... I feel SO lucky to have him. Sure sometimes things dont run completely smoothly but that would be kind of boring if it did, wouldnt it? I love Mike and Jazlynn more than anything else in the world ♥

Kat - posted on 02/04/2010

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I must agree with Laura on this one!! We both gave up stuff, so that I could stay home!! I love being home with my son, and am so appreciative of how hard my husband works in order for this to be possible!!!

Candice - posted on 02/04/2010

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yes i agree with....BUUUTTT....... there are some husbands that just expect you to be super woman and cook clean do everything with the baby do the shopping (with no car btw) do all the house work and then they start fights with you when they come home and the vaccuming has not been done......... not to mengen that on the weekends when he's not working he's playing compture games or ps3 or sleeping they just dont do anything to help..... and showing affection well u try to give me a kiss and he says ure smothering him.......

Melanie - posted on 02/04/2010

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My husband makes dinner almost every night and he is a great cook. He is also very good with our daughter. He's always very excited to see her when he gets home from work.

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My husband of almost 21 years is my partner and my world. We have built a great life together. We have argued when needed and got along and compromised and changed and grown. That is marriage. He has sacrificed and so have I to make a good life for our family. And every day when he calls from work to tell me he loves me..I know the world is right and good things are still possible. My husband can't do my job and I can't do his...both of us are necessary to the family we created together. He is my best friend, the love of my life...and the fact that he has stuck with me through all the struggles we have had...says to me that love conquers all ....if you can endure some of the hard and petty stuff. I love how he has invested in our children and they love him so much. What a blessing he is to my life. Thanks for the reminder, Laura, to count them...our sweet husbands... as a blessing!

Melissa - posted on 02/04/2010

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I adore my husband, but right now he's my main contact with the outside world. Part of how I function is venting to friends, but most of them work full time jobs. I need a chance to vent about him occasionally.

I love that you're making a point of being positive about our spouses, though. My husband is my best friend and has been working hard to be a good father and husband. Our 8th anniversary is next week, and I keep marveling at how much he's worked at changing since then. We used to have these incredible fights about the dishes, for example, and yesterday he sent me to do my workout and did a spectacular job cleaning up the kitchen.

Kristy - posted on 02/04/2010

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I love this post! I am so lucky to have the AMAZING husband that I do. He too works so that I can stay home with our son. He is always involved with Brady, he comes home everyday and plays with him and helps with dinner if needed. He lets me sleep in on his days off if I need it, and helps with some housework occasionally. I love being a stay at home mom and am blessed to have the best husband to help! We tried for 7 years for our little miracle and my husband makes having him so much more special for us. I love to brag about my wonderful husband! Thanks!

Caroline - posted on 02/03/2010

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Yes ppl complain about their hubbies and everytime i feel so lucky. Yes he sometimes gets grumpy but thats about it. he works all day then comes home spends time with the boy, after dinner he baths, dresses and reads a bedtime story for the boy then after all that he will load the dishwasher or washing machine. on the weekend he tidies inside and/or outside as needed. he just never stops and i couldn't ask for a better hubby.
oh and now he studies and goes to the gym ontop of everything else he does. (dont it feel good to brag once in a while lol)

Prisscila - posted on 02/03/2010

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I agree, my husband has a job that requires a lot of him but I have been able to stay home with our two boys and be at every single assembly, ar awards, field trips and have time to myself when they are at school. I have the joy of being there when they go to school and come home. We to dont have the luxurious life we dream of but my husband does what he can to make sure the boys always have one of us there. I love my husband !

Kryss - posted on 02/03/2010

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I am thinking somewomen pic the wrong mate at times..or they get caught up in a fantasy that really isnt there..so when they say the i do's ...and the kids come along.. some men choose to think...that they did their thing now the woman has it under control...BUT, then there are these guys that some women meet and ...they dont expect them to be perfect and they see when mommy is stressed and give them a break...i never had to complain abt my childs father ..he is a good daddy and he wrks hard...he spends more time with him now that hes 10 but still even when he was younger he never complained to help or what not..and alot of times spared me from pulling my hair out...so see there are some out there that are complained abt alot...i feel for the ones that have experienced it so...

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My hubby is VERY brag worthy, he is one who CAN change diapers, bathe the kids, feed the kids etc. he also often comes home from work and does a heap of housework that I've not gotten to as I have some rather time demanding, young, kids. He is very understanding and believes that it is more important for me to look after the kids and myself than the house. Sure he has his faults, but he like all of us is only human, and there are times I wish he was home but that is largely because he has only recently started working after being home with me for the first 5 years of parenthood and I'm still lewarning to cope at home without him to help and with an extra kid that was born just before he started work.

Nikki - posted on 02/03/2010

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Im glad so many of you see things the same way i do. My husband works hard everyday. He's always on time for work never misses a day, and will hold onto a job for years. He never changed a diaper when our daughter was born and he doesn't even attempt to play softball with her, thats my area. But he works hard to provide for us and when money is tight he will find other ways to make money whether it be mowing yards or hauling off scrap iron. He works hard and allows me to stay home to raise our child because i want her to be raised by us and not someone else. I want her to grow up on our moral beliefs and not someone elses and he understands. All that he ask is that i keep the house clean, cook and pay the bills. I admit i am guilty of complaining sometimes but who doesn't? Im very grateful to be married to such a wonderful man, who is a good husband and father, and i love him for that.

Victoria - posted on 02/03/2010

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definitely singing that tune!! lol. my husband's an emt. he works 2 jobs equalling about 60 hours a week. I hate when he works overnight shifts, but i remember he is saving lives. My husband is always ready on the phone if I need to vent. When I was sick the other day, he made me put the bassinet on his side of the bed so he could be up with our youngest all night and I could sleep. He had to leave for work at 4:30 the next morning!! He does whatever he can to make me feel better, if I feel like I'm neglecting one or the other of our daughters. he has completely fought my in-laws and my parents when they think we are doing something wrong with the way we raise OUR daughters and I'm too tired to argue with them. I may complain that he is away so much but he is supporting our family and that is all I need to know.

Nantce - posted on 02/03/2010

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I agree... My husband is not good with the little, little ones - but once they are potty trained and can speak so someone besides mommy can understand them - he does absoutely wonderful! I love the fact that I can stay home and raise our children and he doesn't mind - he prefers it just as much as I do! I love my husband and am grateful everyday that he is mine and the father of my children!

Jane - posted on 02/03/2010

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I agree with the ladies. My hubby, while not perfect, nor am I, and he can probably rattle off all my faults if asked hehe, is a great guy,an awesome husband and father!! For those interested, and I am not sure whether it has been posted previously or people already know about it, but there is a site where you can brag about your partners/husbands etc :-

http://www.circleofmoms.com/moms-with-wo...

Karin - posted on 02/02/2010

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My husband is AWESOME! It's sad that I can't brag on him with girlfriends too much, because then their husbands get in trouble. lol!

My husband is a pilot, and he really appreciates being home with his family. I think that he hears about a lot of divorce and misery from his co-workers that it makes him appreciate his family even more. When he is home, he takes over so I can get some rest. He will get up with our little one's in the night or when they are sick. He makes dinner (it helps if I have the menu/recipe!), and just picks up wherever I need help. He's a loving, thoughtful Dad and husband, and we all know how important that is as well! God truly blessed me when he put the two of us together.
Thanks for putting a thread out there that allows us to express our love for our other half! :D

Penny - posted on 02/02/2010

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I totally agree, my husband stinks at seeing the trash is overflowing, but I have been a stay at home mom now for 6 yrs. because he works hard and doesn't ever complain!! If he came home and the house was turned upside down first he would greet us all with hugs and kisses and lots of smiles, cuz he loves us and the rest of it is easily cleaned up, usually with his help.Thanks for never complaining LOVE!!

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In general, No one is perfect. Me and my husband had our ups and downs. We had a daughter together when we were just 18. We are now 23. Still strong as ever. He is an amazing father, as well as a husband. He's my best friend. No boudt about it. He also works hard so I can stay at home with our now, 4 yr old. I can't think of how I could fall more in love with him, but find myself utterly suprised. Everyday, every minute that goes by, I feel myself falling more and more in love with him. I couldn't imagine what my world would be like without him. I'm very lucky to have found someone like him.

Melaina - posted on 02/02/2010

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I'm so glad to see this post! It saddens me to see so many women down on their partners. We really need to try to focus harder on the good that they do, instead of all the little things they do wrong. My hubby is also not perfect, but guess what... I'm not either!! He works so hard to support us, including working overtime hours to make ends meet, allowing me to be a sahm, and he is an amazing father. I don't know where I'd be without him and I'm so grateful to have him!!

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Bethany, not knowing either you or your partner, I'm sorry to hear that you feel negative. Your partner may be someone who doesn't know how to communicate the changes of emotion and responsibility that have hit him since the birth of your child. (Let's face it, it is a life-changing experience for all concerned). Another really good book to read is "Boundaries" by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend. It's aimed at teaching you to take control of your life...might be a good read for both of you. There is also another great book called "The 5 love languages" by Gary Chapman. It focuses on how to love your partner by understanding his needs as well as yours. Hope this helps, and that you start to feel a little more positive (within yourself). Take care

Jodi - posted on 02/02/2010

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Bethany, I apologize, I guess I didn't take your post as asking for advice or support. The original poster is right in that there are SOO many threads complaining about husbands/boyfriends etc (and about mother-in-laws as well) that I was a little put off that your post had nothing nice to say about your SO. I am sorry I mistook your post.

Rachelle - posted on 02/02/2010

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Bethany, my husband was exactly like yours and sometimes he still is. he never seems to hit the laundry basket...sigh. and he didn't want anything to do with our babys, but hes not a baby person. now that the kids are 3 ane 4 he is getting more involved. and dont forget all the stress your hubby has at work that he doesnt come home and unload on you. it could be worse! and men will always me men. i read an awsome book called "loving your man without loosing your mind" by susie davis. sometimes i get so caught up in the day to day i forget to be happy for what i have. this book is a great read and a great reference for when your feeling really angry with your live and husband in general. the book is ment to be a womens study together book but you can use it on your own. its great! tell me if you read it!

Valerie - posted on 02/02/2010

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I love this post!!! I am so greatful for my husband and everything he does in allowing me to stay at home with our 3 kids. He is such an understanding man who not only works all day and sometimes all night to provide for our family, but who also comes home and helps cook, clean, and take care of our kids!! He is truly a blessing and I am so appreciative of everything his does.....except leave the toilet seat up in the middle of the night!! (lol).

Meagan - posted on 02/02/2010

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My husband went and found a Job not the one he wanted when I found out I was pregnant at 17 (he was a college student). He got us our own place, kept going to college, and still worked 3rd shift so I could stay home and raise our baby 7 years later we are still together and I still get to stay at home while he works and provides everything that me and our 2 children need and want.

Amy - posted on 02/02/2010

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My husband sometimes has a short temper with our eldest son, but he is a super dad! He works hard so I can stay home with my boys, plus he does all he can to help with the boys when he is home. I wouldn't trade him for the world!

Bethany - posted on 02/02/2010

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i wasnt meaning to comment in a bad way, perhaps i need some uplifting myself. I apologize I am new to circle of moms and just thought that maybe someone might have some suggestions for me since they say their men have changed and maybe they would be able to help me out. Since everyone here is so positive i thought there might be a light at the end of the tunnel. Was looking for more encouragment than "If you dont have anything to brag about, leave him". But i do apologize. Sorry.

Jodi - posted on 02/02/2010

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Bethany, this was supposed to be an uplifting thread, if you dont' have anything to brag about your man...leave him. Also, even though this is a public forum and you have the right to say what you want, it IS an option to not say anything at all...which would have been more appropriate in this instance.

Bethany - posted on 02/02/2010

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Well i understand how all your husbands work hard and take care of the family. My boyfriend works.. but doesnt work on the family or the relationship. He wants nothing to do with his son.. most days doesnt even say hi to him.. and my son is only 3 months old. He also thinks that i am just a sex machine and thats about it . He expects me to clean up after him (as he throws everything on the floor and hanging from here to there, food mess here to there blah blah) and take care of the baby. do the laundry do all his grandmas bidding and then of course be a sex slave when he comes home at 4 in the morning.. So not all of us are going to be braggable on our men. Some of us got the short end of the stick.

Ashley - posted on 02/02/2010

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I LOVE MY HUSBAND I'm just like you I stay at home I can barely scrape by BUT would not change it for anything I'm about to have my 3rd child and I just read something on here about a husband that works 50+ hours and she's upset WHAT ? I wish my husband could work that much........................That's just me thinking aloud

Clara - posted on 02/02/2010

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My husband is the best too..He is very similar to alot of the hubbies that are being bragged about here, i loved reading the braggs ladies i kept marking encouragement on comments..Thank you all for encouraging us!...You ladies are the best thats probably why your hubbies are great..kindness and love and respect for our hubbies speaks volumes to them eh? God bless you ALL!!! xo

Teresa - posted on 02/02/2010

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I am so proud of my husband for what he does... I do agree he can't change a diaper or get up with the baby in the middle of the night. But I love him. I am happy I get to stay home, and raise my 3 wonderful children... Love you Babe

Allison - posted on 02/02/2010

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My partner is AWESOME. He works fulltime as a teacher, comes home around 5 every day and takes over the kids so i can finish preparing dinner if need be, usually i'm ready and it means i can just sit and relax for a few minutes. . . he's great. He loves the kiddles to no end, brings the oldest to school every day, after getting him ready in the morning to let me sleep in. He cooks dinner for us at least once a week and will take days off of work if i happen to get sick. He encourages me to go out in the evening alone with my friends (when the oportunity arises) and i can do so with all confidence because he's great with the kids and knows exactly what to do in any situation, he's worth his weight in gold.

He realizes that home and the kids are my work, and that i deserve time off and I often go on weekend trips with friends so that i can have quality time off and when i come back i'm usually rested and relaxed, ready and happy to resume my role as housewife/mama. . .



greatest husband EVER

Rachelle - posted on 02/01/2010

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I love my hubby too! he has a very stressfull job and all he wants to do at home is veg. but so would i if i was him! he's great and i get to raise my kids b/c of him!

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I agree with Mandy...at the end of the day my husband is the one I want to see. I still get butterflies in my tummy when I see him (and that after 9 years of marriage and 2 kids later)! I get to spend the time at home with our boys, which is at times very trying and tiring, but he sacrifices that opportunity to go to work and provide for us. Thank you, Arthur!

Leza - posted on 02/01/2010

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My husband is almost perfect but maybe for some this is the only place they have to release anger and frustration. Better to vent here than cause a fight at home.

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