Stacy - posted on 08/11/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
OK. this is personal but I need help! I have an 18 month old, we want more kids in the future, but not for another year or two. I have used all the methods of birth control that is available to me, except IUD which I cannot afford and natural planning, I cannot trust myself or want to risk doing so. Me and my husband have had very few "less than 10 encounters" together since my son was born, and it was risky. He refuses to use condoms, and it has been months since anything has happened. We still have our sex drive, but we cannot do anything about it. We dont have ANY type of sexual time together, and no romance, its like it drained out of him since we quit having intercourse , and I feel as it is putting a wedge in between use. We are happy together, but this is really starting to cause tension. I dont know what to do. I want to have a sexual relationship with my husband, but Im afraid of having another child when right now would not be a good idea expecially with our terrible finances, I know things always work out no matter what happens, but Im just not sure what road I should take. Is there any way that I can some how replace our sexual relationship with some other way of bonding?