I need help !

Ashley - posted on 05/23/2016 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I need help I've tired basically about everything & my daughter isn't catching on to potty training & im done with her diapers she is two & I have a 5 month old it's getting a little crazy 🙄

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Jodi - posted on 05/28/2016

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Doctors don't know anything about raising kids. They are not behaviour specialists. That's not their specialty - in fact, they don't learn that at medical school. After all, THEY also told you no rewards charts and any behavioural psychologist would tell you that's total bullshit. All doctors know is that STATISTICALLY, the average girl will potty train at 2 1/2. AVERAGE. There is a very broad range.

I'm sorry you feel like you aren't receiving any real advice here. You are, however receiving real advice from real mothers who have really potty trained their children and are sharing their real experiences. You have received advice, it's just not what you want to hear. But the fact is, if your child is one of those not physically ready, anything you do will not work. You can have all the goals you want, if your child either does not share that goal or is not ready, you will not succeed and you are setting her up for failure.

Jodi - posted on 05/24/2016

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She may not be ready. Children are all at different developmental stages when it comes to toileting, and two is actually considered quite young. The average age for a girl to be potty trained is about 2 1/2 (it is a little older for boys), but that's average - not all are physically ready at that age. Maybe give it a break for a bit then try again? I found this worked with my daughter. Also, have you tried a rewards chart for her training?

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Snow - posted on 06/24/2016

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No problem, glad it helped! I hope it is as successful with my daughter. Congrats on being diaper-free :)

Ashley - posted on 06/24/2016

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Omg thanks at first it didn't seem to work so I gave her a break started a week in a half ago & she is basically potty trained during the day she is completely done with diapers & at night she hasn't peed her pull up in 4 days she would wake me up & tell me she needs to go . Thank you so much .

Ashley - posted on 06/06/2016

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Omg thanks for that article I'm going try this weekend & I'll keep you updated thanks 😉

Sarah - posted on 05/28/2016

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"my goal is to have her off a diaper by time she turn 3" You do realize that is still 5 months away? I don't know where your doc is getting his advice but even the AAP states it is typical for any child to be over 3 when training.

Dove - posted on 05/28/2016

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Doctors are great for medical advice and the averages on developmental milestones, but they do not live w/ your child. There is a WIDE range of normal when it comes to potty training... some kids (even w/ zero developmental issues) are not ready until around 4 years old. The more you push... the worse it gets. Letting the child take the lead is the absolute best (and easiest) method of potty training.

As for night potty training... any doctor that tells you that you should be working on it at 3... is an idiot. Wetting the bed til 5 is VERY normal... and even later is so normal that my pediatrician doesn't even contemplate being concerned about it until the child is 8.

Stop letting the doctors push you into pressuring your child on HER bodily functions.

Ashley - posted on 05/28/2016

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Yes I know how I wrote it came out kind a funny but she is 2 she will be 3 this October & the doctors are telling me she should at less be almost done potty training during the day that I should be on stage two which is not wetting the bed at night & I take her to ST.Christophers Hopsital those are her doctors I know mentally she ready but physically she might not but I'm trying to encourage her & find other ways to have her use the potty I came on her for encouraging advice or different types of ways to help her not to get bashed about how it's too earlier for her to be potty trying when professional doctors are telling go ahead ! I have took breaks we would try then if she would be stressed we will take a break maybe 3 week or a month or 2 but the doctors told me NOT to do that cause it's only showing her that all she has to do is wine about it & it will go away & that's not what they want y'all do it how y'all do it but my goal is to have her off a diaper by time she turn 3 obviously not completely potty trained but working on it !

Sarah - posted on 05/26/2016

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My first child was 3 1/2 when he trained. In one day. Prior to that my sister (who helped sit for him a lot) had gotten a bit pushy and made a chart and had a whole plan for him to train before his 3rd Bday. He was frustrated, she was frustrated and so was I. I put my foot down, got rid of everything and told everyone, when he is ready, he will train. One day, he said "I need to pee" that was the end of diapers, day and night, pee poop. Much easier than struggling. A toddler can only control so much, and toileting is one thing they have to both be capable of doing and desire to do it as well.

Dove - posted on 05/26/2016

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So she WAS two last October... not that she WILL be 2 IN October... You would probably get better responses if you check your posts for typos and make sure the information you portray is correct.

Anyway... kids are ready at different times. I have two that used the toilet 100% right from 18 months... ONLY if they were naked and awake. They had accidents (day and night) for YEARS though. Then I had my son who potty trained himself in diapers. He was fully potty trained about 3 months before turning 3, but held on to the diapers a little longer... and only had a few random day and/or night accidents ever.

Let her take the lead. Encourage her to use the toilet when you do. Let her know that if she doesn't want to wear diapers then she needs to use the toilet or clean up any messes she makes (she will need help, but calmly have her take responsibility as well). She can wear the diapers, use the toilet, or help clean up when she doesn't.. and simply be encouraged w/ a 'you can make it to the toilet next time'.

Ev - posted on 05/25/2016

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Ashley--A child this young has not developed totally in the use of the organs that control the need to use the restroom or bathroom. And to push them to do so would be more detrimental than helpful and cause a lot of stress on both child and parent. You need to wait until she is really ready and shows you she is. My daughter was able to potty train by 2 to 2.5 but always had accidents due to stubborn nature. She finally got it. My son I waited until he was about 3 and he was 3.5 before he was fully trained. He was easier to get to do things than sis was.

Jodi - posted on 05/25/2016

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I'm sorry, where did anyone call you young and stupid? Also, you said in an earlier post that she will be two in October, which is a big reason people are suggesting she is too young.

If she was ready, you wouldn't be driving yourself nuts over it. A child who is ready will often potty train quite easily. She might say she is ready, but she obviously isn't PHYSICALLY ready to do it.

As I said earlier, why not give it a break for a bit and go back to it in a month or two? With both my kids I did that, and when I gave it a rest and then went back, they both actually trained in a matter of a couple of weeks, and it was far less stressful all round.

Ashley - posted on 05/24/2016

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She tells me she is ready she shows signs she wants too & she tells me she doesn't like the diaper I'm young not stupid I wouldn't potty train her if she was that young she is two she will be 3 in October

Jodi - posted on 05/24/2016

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So basically, she is only 1 1/2? That's a long way from 2. It sounds like she isn't ready.

Amber - posted on 05/24/2016

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She is still a little young, don't get mad or inpatient with her. Keep a diaper on her so she doesn't pee on herself and ask her a lot though the day if she needs to potty, tell her she is a big girl now and big girls use the potty. If you have to demonstrate by using it in front of her (there are ways without showing any body parts). Then encourage her to, also get her a cheaper diaper brand like luvs.

Sarah - posted on 05/24/2016

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So she is not 2 yrs old until Oct? So she is not 2 yrs old? Why do you want her to grow up so fast? She is only 18/19 months old......don't expect her to do something that developmentally she is not ready for. You will live a life of frustration and your daughter will live a life of never being able to live up to your expectations. She will potty train when she is development ready......most likely around 2 1/2 years old.

As far as two in diapers. Yes it can be crazy and expensive, but you also choose to have kids close in age.....diapers is part of that.

Ashley - posted on 05/24/2016

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She'll be two in October so I figured she'll be ready & my doctor told me don't is a rewards chart cause she will always expect something she said just encourage her & do a happy potty dance but no luck still she will poop in the toilet but won't pee she'll hold it till she can't no more then pee herself .

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