BEATRIZ - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have 2 daughters, 3 and 1 yrs old (trough a c- section). I just find out I am pregnant again. I was really shocked because it was very unexpected. My husband wants to have at least 4 children (and he already have 1 daughter from previous relationship). I told him I can't have more than 3 (I am also a physician and know the limits when it comes to c-sections, putting aside my limits as a woman/mother!). Anyway, we had an argument because i asked him to get the vasectomy.
I don't want to have my tubes ligated + I think that as a women I have given and sacrifice so much. Going from birth control such pills, the myrena and horrible side effects and 2 horrible emergency c-sections (and awful recovery). I do not want to risk it anymore with a 4th or 5th pregnancy. Is also good to mention that my husband doesn't like to use condoms neither!!.
So, the only thing I asked him was to get a vasectomy and the answer was NO. He doesn't give a reason. He says that i should get my tubes ligated during the c-section and period. He also thinks, that I just want him to have the vasectomy to create conflict and because my reasons for not having it done during the c-section are only because I want him to be miserable!. He believes that I am giving wrong excuses, but he's not even giving me a reason??.
What should I do?. Since is me who doesn't want to have more kids, should I have the surgery?. Is it wrong the way I feel about the whole thing? is it the hormones and the pregnancy already creating conflicts??. At this point I think I should ligate my tubes (thinking as a physician) but still can't cope with the whole idea.