if ur not married and ur having a baby what does the baby take for the lastname?
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Tia - posted on 07/30/2011
Traditionally its supposed to be that the child takes the family name used by the majority. meaning like, if the woman is married well then everyone would have that last name as well. if the woman wasnt married the baby would have her last name since she is considered primary caregiver...
But, i on the otherhand am not married,and with the father. we have given our baby girl both of our names hyphenated :) i wanted her to have my lastname as well. now-a-days women want their name also. i think the best answer you couold get wold be to do what you think is the best :) hope ot helped
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Jen - posted on 07/29/2011
When my daughter was born, we wanted her to have Daddy's last name. We both had to sign a parental affidavit saying he accepts full parental responsibility since we aren't married, and in a couple months, he plans to sign the paper again for our son. When we got pregnant with our daughter, we had no plans of "sticking it out" if things didn't work between us, but I knew from the first moment that he is an AWESOME dad, and I didn't ever want to take that from Baby Girl. It really is up to you, but since you're not married, talk it over with your OB and see if you have such "parental" laws where you are. It's definitely good to know before you fill out the birth certificate!
Jenni - posted on 07/29/2011
Yup, it's really up to the two of you to decide.
I'm not married, although I consider my spouse my husband. But I wanted our children to have his last name. Someday.... it will be mine as well. lol But even if it wasn't going to be I still prefer them to have his last name. For one, I like it better than my own. ;)
My partner has a child from a previous relationship and since they were technically broken up when their child was conceived. And they weren't planning on getting back together after she was born. They decided to compromise and give their daughter a combo last name of both their surnames. Both their surnames are short, so it works and has a nice ring to it.
Kelly - posted on 07/29/2011
It is all up to you. You can give the baby your last name, your boyfriends last name or hypentate it. With my oldest she has my maiden name (when she was 6yrs old her father asked the court to hypenate with his - LONG story). My son (2nd child) got my now husbands last name, as we knew we were getting married. Now that I am married I feel bad for my oldest daughter because she has a different last name than myself, my husband and other two children. I actually kept my maiden name as a second middle name, because when I got married I wanted to take on my husbands last name, but not hypenate and have 2 last names. So I still have my maiden name as part of my name for my daughter and I have the same last name as my other 2 children. If it was up to my daughter, we would change her last name to my husbands, but her father would NEVER allow that.
i am married and took my husbands name. but if we weren't married or if i didn't take his name then we would have hyphenated the kids names, we talked about it, that what made sense for us. realisticly you can have whatever you want. whatever works for you.
Jane - posted on 07/28/2011
As others have said, it's up to you. If he is going to stay in the baby's life and pay support for it, or if the two of you are planning to marry, then his name. If he is a passing fancy and will soon move on, then yours. If you want you can also hyphenate your last name and his as they do in South America or England sometimes. You can also simply make up a last name if you want, as long as it isn't offensive.
Michelle - posted on 07/28/2011
I am married but my sister is not. Legally it's up to you. You can hyphenate, use yours, or his, or I think you can even make one up ( most people don't do this but it does occasionally happen). My sisters kids have their dads last name. That's the most common way but like I said it's up to you.
Montana - posted on 07/28/2011
When my husband and I had our daughter, I hyphenated her lastname. Once we got married, I changed it to her dad's lastname and since I changed it to her birth father's name, it was free. I didnt want to have a different last name than her but I didnt want to deprive her dad of that either.
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