im so scared about giving birth, any advice??

Catherine - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 222 moms have responded )

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im due 4 weeks tomorrow and im so scared about giving birth.... help

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Maritza - posted on 12/27/2009

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I know how you feel. I was very frightened myself. I was so frightened that when I found out I was going to have to wait two more weeks after my due date, I was relieved. It's sad. I was as much scared as I was excited to meet my baby. But when the day came, I was comforted alot by my husband and nice nurses. That day will come and when it does, all you will want is for your baby to come out and meet her already.

Good luck and best wishes to you!

Kelly - posted on 12/27/2009

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I have had 6 kids , the best thing to do honestly is stay calm! I spent about 2hrs by myself and by the time everyone got to the hospital I was in total control of myself and calm. You know it is going to be painful but as soon as you hold that baby it is gone, you will feel better. Take control, and you will be fine Best of luck to you.

Aimee - posted on 12/27/2009

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When I was giving birth and it got really hard...I thought of all the women that had come before me. For as long as we have existed, we have given birth. It's natural and it'll be okay. Trust your instincts over your doctors advice when you feel it is necessary and it'll be okay. Just BREATH! really, BREATH!

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Well my thought on my first was that my mom had four kids so it couldnt be that bad or she wouldnt have had them. fter going through it three times and being pregnant with no 4 honestly once they put the baby in your arms its all worth it and you forget all the pain.

Jessica - posted on 12/27/2009

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Do whatever you can to control your fear. Fear will be your enemy during labour so do as much reading as you can, talk to people who have been through it, ask any and all questions you can think of and remember that what you are about to go through is COMPLETELY NATURAL! You were born to do this! Also make sure your partner is prepared as well so they can truelly support you. When I went into labour I refused to think about the pain ahead, instead I got excited because it meant our baby was on the way. Best advise I was given: The pain is not because something is wrong, it is not something to fear! The pain is only a result of your muscles getting tired. When you go for a run you get a stitch because your muscles are tired not because you are injured. If you focus on the pain of the stitch it gets worse, if you ignore it as much as possible the pain decreases...labour is no different! Only other advice I can offer is keep moving! Dont sit or lay down unless you really and I mean REALLY have to. Walk on the spot if its all you can manage. I promise it will help.



Our daughter was born at 7pounds 11ounces and I was only in labour for TWO hours recieving no pain relief. She was our first.

Tawny - posted on 12/26/2009

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Have a support person with you who knows what to do in case you run into a bad nurse. I don't mean to scare you but you need an advocate who can think clearly and knows their way around the process of giving birth. When I had my first son I was induced and given meds in my IV that I tried to refuse but was told that since the nurse already had them she had to give them to me. That same nurse overdosed me on induction meds and put the meds on my cervix after dropping them on the floor. I went from 2-10 cm in 15 minutes and didn't have time for an epidural. I felt like I was drunk the whole time and my son slept all day and refused to eat due to the meds in the IV. My husband was with me but we were both scared and didn't know what to expect, so we listened to our nurse who was suppost to care for me, not put me in danger. I was induced because I was losing water so we were both concerned that there would be an emergency if we didn;t go along with everything. Later on that nurse was fired but was hired back and put on probation because she hired a lawyer and claimed that it was discrimination. So the point is that most likely things will go fine but it will help if there is an unemotionally tied bystander who is ablt to be that things go smoothly. When I had my second son I was much more educated and knew what to expect, my husband knew what was normal and what was not, and both of us realized that you can speak up for your rights and wishes to medical personal....things went much better. Good Luck!

Chez - posted on 12/26/2009

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You will know what to do. Even if this is your first baby, your body knows. There is nothing to be scared of. All i can say is, the harder you push the faster its over and done with. All the very best to you. I pray for a fast and safe delivery. :)

Alitha - posted on 12/26/2009

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Have you a bag packed with loose clothes for the ride home. It is not as bad as most make it out. I was told all kinds of horror stories about it and was scared like you. Just relax and remember to breathe. It will come and you need to do as the doctor and nurse says. Just remember that when you are finished you will have a beautiful baby to hold and love for ever. I am happy for you and know that you will be all right.

Sheila - posted on 12/26/2009

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Consentrate as much as you can and focus. The worst part about giving birth is not knowing what is going to happen but the best is your cute little baby popping out. Dont worry about the pain it might be the worst you ever felt but the baby that comes out at the end is so worth it and the pain goes away and motherhood begins. I am a huge wimp when it comes to pain and I still managed to do it three times so dont be scared.

Kayla - posted on 12/26/2009

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i was scared 2!!!! but i just felt something, it didnt hurt i just felt something unusual i wasnt going to go to tha hospital cuz i had a dr. appt in the mornin but my dad talked me into it, when i got there i was already 8cm!!!! i was terrified!!!!!!!!! they gave me the epidural (that hurt, but onlt numbed 1 arm and 1 leg) but i pushed for bout 20mins and that was it!!! its not as bad as u think it will be, be strong and hang in there!!!!!

Sierra - posted on 12/26/2009

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Relax and enjoy it, because it's an amazing experience and it's over with fast. Have an idea about what you want the birth to be like, but realize it will definitely change and not be what you expected! I forgot all about the little details once labor progressed, because I just wanted her out to finally hold her. If you have questions, don't be afraid to ask your nurse/doctor, because that will help ease your fears, like it did with me. If they're doing something that you think is odd or you are uneasy about, do not be afraid to speak up! They aren't perfect and they are supposed to be there for you and your baby, and if they aren't helpful and are making you uncomfortable, request a different nurse ( yes you can do that)...especially postpartum when you will be asking a LOT of questions and in a lot of pain! The helpful nurses I had made my stay sooo much better and I loved being there. But most importantly just remember to breathe!

Susan - posted on 12/26/2009

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well i wont lie its not pleasant but its definatly ok you will be fine and it is just like any doctors appointment they will talk you through each step and when that sweet baby comes out you wont even remember the labor just try not to worry to much its not good for you and congratulations!!!!

Kristy - posted on 12/26/2009

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Its easy to say don't worry but int the end we all worry about it. We always worry that something horrible will happen or we worry that maybe we aren't really ready for mother hood after all. Of course we never look forward to labor pains, but in the end when we are finally holding our precious little miracle it makes it all worth it. Just hang in there listen to your doula if you have one or your coach and you should be fine. I have had two beautiful babies all natural and am currently try for a third, I know labor is not something I look forward to but trust me when I say in the end you forget about every thing that you just went through. When you finally get to hold your bundle of joy nothing else matters. Good luck.

Tyiesha - posted on 12/26/2009

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DON'T BE NERVOUS. JUST REMEMBER TO FIND SOMETHING TO CONCENTRATE ON AND TAKE BREATHE DURING YOUR CONTRACTIONS. YOU'LL BE FIND

Toni - posted on 12/26/2009

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i was too. i was horrified till after they said push and i felt nothing. did i say nothing ? I mean NOTHING! great eppdural. must get it. i have no pain torlerance. trust me nothing to it.

Melissa - posted on 12/26/2009

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Go into it with the attitude that it is going to hurt and be terrible, and in the end it won't be as bad as you thought! Mine wasn't as bad as i thought it was going to be, and I was also terrified going in! Again, our bodies were made for this! Just remember that you get the best reward at the end! Good luck!

Elyssa - posted on 12/26/2009

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aww. I was exactly like that, but it has to happen, its really not that bad, well I'm speaking for myself, it wasn't as bad as EVERYONE said it would be, I didn't even know I was in labor until I was ready to have the baby. My daughter was really low I don't knw if thats your case but, my labor was 6 hours total & she is my first child. Get your mom or a sister or whoever makes yu comfortable when its time, it might come earlier than the 4 weeks or later. Don't be scared though the drugs will num your pain.

Michelle - posted on 12/26/2009

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Just relax, listen to your midwife/ doctor, have a plan for pain control, and be prepared. If you can make a plan to keep your pain at a manageable level for you (be it with breathing exercises or drugs or what ever) it'll help you to be more relaxed. Try to not to focus on how it will be because that will only freak you out. Just know that your body will be able to handle and it will be okay. The less stressed you are the better for you and baby. I've had on c- section and a vbac (very much preferred the vaginal delivery). I got epidurals for both. Helped a lot. Don't be afraid to ask for drugs if you feel like you need them. It doesn't make you any less of a woman for having them. If you're in too much pain, the stress from it can give you problems too. So do what you have to do to be as relaxed as possible. Everyone's experience is a little different and as hard as it is, it's obviously not something that you think you'd never do again or we'd all be only children.

Stacey - posted on 12/26/2009

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I was scaird aswell hun iv had to kids but with my first boy i never felt a thing because i had the epadural so i was terifide when i had to have him with out a epadural but with what time i had my second boy they couldnt give me one any way (well thats what they said) so i naturaly freeked out but in the end i thatgt to my self its not as bad as i imagend.
Dont worry about it hun just relax and do everything the midwife says to do.
good luck hun and congrats xx

Nicholle - posted on 12/26/2009

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i recommend an epidural.i have 3 children and i waited until i was 7cm with my first,6.5cm with my second and nearly 8cm with my last(they almost didn't give me one with my last) i believe you should enjoy the birth of your child.plus all of my doctors told me its good for the baby because you can focus on what you need to do more efficiently and babies are less likely to go into distress.(that doesn't mean they wont,just less likely) but every person is different as well as every baby and their labor.don't be afraid to ask questions and if feel like you want to choose drugs...don't worry...your doctor will explain everything to you and remember,they wont give anything that could harm your baby.

Angela - posted on 12/26/2009

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Don't worry! You will be ok!! Take the drugs and you will not feel a thing. I gave birth to twins last year... one naturally and one c section.. I am a wimp to pain and have no tolerance.. I came out great!! It's not as bad as what people make it sound like, trust me. Go in there cool and calm, take a deep breath, and get the baby out!! Good luck Sweetie!

Krystal - posted on 12/26/2009

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Quoting melissa:

Do not make the mistake I did. I was so nervous and thought the whole breathing and exhaling was silly but it really makes a difference in how quick everything goes. The more relaxed you are the faster you usually dialate because the muscles are not tense. Something an older friend told me is that she felt like no one was listening to her when she was saying it was too painful and she said she thought she was going to die. When I was close to my due date she said "Just remember, when you feel like its too much and you are dying-or going to die, then you know its almost over" so I remember being at the worst part of my labour and totally blabbing like a baby and thinking I was dying, and then it was over in a few mintues. As silly as this sounds, just make sure to rest and relax :) Hope this helps you :)



Melissa...i though i was dying too! I actually kept saying..i cant do this, im gonna pass out, i cant do this anymore. The nurse was like. Just one more push... im like "YOU SAID THAT HALF HR AGO" Lol - Then my dr came in and said "One more push and you'll have that baby in your arms". Thats all i needed.



 



Dont be frightened hon. I wasnt at all the day i was due to be induced. I got to the hospital and was put into my room and was completely at ease till i heard the girl in with me having contractions and completely freaked me out. I was like OMG this is really happening AHHHH.



The middy asked how i wanted to give birth and suggested on all 4's as gravity takes over. It really hinders labour on your back coz your trying to push a baby out uphill. So all 4's, gas and an epidural was me. Good luck hon and let us know what you have xx



 

Courtney - posted on 12/26/2009

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Oh and one thing no one ever told me! I dunno if this is your first one, but when that water breaks it's not just one big gush and then done, it's a big gush that keeps going! Probably the only thing that distracted me during labor! It was disgusting but kind of funny!

Courtney - posted on 12/26/2009

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I was so nervous coming up on my due date, but when my water broke I made every concsious effort to relax and stay calm. It was kind of funny actually. My water broke when I was in bed and I turned to my hubby "Honey, either I just wet the bed or my water broke." He flipped out! Running all over the house getting things ready to go (I wasn't due for a couple weeks still) and calling everyone (the doctor about 10 times in less than an hour). All I could think about was that soon I'd have this precious little baby and that that was soooo much bigger than any fear or nervousness I could possibly feel. I think God designed women to be in a sense soldiers in the face of labor. We find a focus, and that focus brings everything together. Don't focus on the pain just focus on the fact that you are doing something that women have done since the beginning. Honestly I don't even really remember the pain, just working towards bringing into the world a healthy baby and doing all I could to make her debut a loving one.

Becky - posted on 12/26/2009

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My Mother told me to tell you the fear of it is far greater then the pain. Not to worry it is worth it!

Becky - posted on 12/26/2009

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I am doing this for my mom because she is new to this so I am helping her. I am due in April and I am scared to but she said once you hold the baby in your arms what happen wont matter and she said it is not a picnic but worth it, and it will come natural to you.

Becky - posted on 12/26/2009

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I am doing this for my mom because she is new to this so I am helping her. I am due in April and I am scared to but she said once you hold the baby in your arms what happen wont matter and she said it is not a picnic but worth it, and it will come natural to you.

Vicki - posted on 12/25/2009

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ok it will hurt lot but the relief that you have right after baby gets here is the best feeling you'll ever have. remember to buy pads. lol no one told me that there would be any drainage. it takes like a month. but the thing to look forward to is when your baby holds your hand for the first time when baby's looks you in your eyes, and the first time you hear the word mom coming out of that little mouth. i think that i was bon to be a mommy. and think about it i was 17 years old when i had my son and 19 when i had my daughter. i made it out just fine. i am just now putting my kids in daycare and i feel i am cheating my daughter just because i have had my son at home with me this whole time and my daughters only just now one. all the things you have to think about. its a lot of work but look at the great stuff. first family pictures. they to me are the best. so after my daughter was here it was 8 days after she was born when we first got our nice family picture. just look at the bright side.

Geanna - posted on 12/25/2009

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use visualization techniques to help you relax. think of somewhere you want to go for vacation and think of what you might see, do, and smell there. its really awesome for helping in the delivery room. Everyone ive ever met was scared about giving birth (yes even the dads get scared about their wife/gf giving birth to their child). you just got to relax and remember your body was made for this and you chose a good doctor that will do his/her best to help you with what they can. in the end your body and your baby know what to do.

Marina - posted on 12/25/2009

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I was absolutely terrified of giving birth. The entire pregnancy I couldn't talk about the birth, it would bring me to tears! But when the contractions started and I realised I was in fact IN LABOUR, I felt strong, physically and mentally.
Don't have any expectations, not one woman's experience is the same! Just live in the moment, to get through the moment. Don't stress, and don't think too far ahead, deal with it one contraction at a time, and you'll be fine!
After a 7 hour labour (first time), I gave birth to a 10.6pound boy without painkillers! I look back to the hole experience and can't help but think how amazing it was!
Good luck, and enjoy it!

Sarah - posted on 12/25/2009

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i took a birthing class and that really helped ease my tensions about the experience. but once it starts happening your instincts take over and you know exactly what to do to make yourself calm. i kept my eyes closed pretty much the whole time. long deep breaths, though hard to remember to do sometimes, really really help ease the pain. also walking around till you can't possibly stand anymore helps move things along faster and takes your mind off the pain for a bit. i walked until the nurse in triage told me i needed to stay put so they could monitor the baby's heart rate. it's all very scary from your point of view, i know from experience. but once it is over and you have your beautiful baby staring up at you from your arms the all of your worries and woes will dissipate. the human brain isn't capable of remembering physical pain. you'll remember that you were in pain but you won't be able to remember what it felt like. this is how people are able to have more than one child ; ) so relax. it will all be over soon.

Meagan - posted on 12/25/2009

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its not that bad but when they offer the hospital pain medication dont knock it back ever it helps so much also u find a position where it really good and dosent hurt as muchgo with it if the hospital offers it id try a water birth friends of mine have had 1 and they reccomend it it takes a lot of pressure away but it also depends on your hospital and your doctor but dont be afrasid to ask your doctor when u go

AMANDA - posted on 12/25/2009

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I think while were pregnant, and im guessing this is your first, everything is so exciting and new. Then when it comes close to the big day EVERYONE gets a little nervous(I know i did.) But I can tell u that with my labor.....i was having cramps that led into contractions for 2 days before my son was born. ANd just like with the pregnancy you will get so caught up into your labor the last thing your going to think of is whats scaring you. If its the pain your worried about get an epidural and with all the advances in medicine now "problems" with labor are easliy worked around. Maybe you could say a prayer about it and just go with the flow. Worrying about it will really only make you anxious and you should enjoy experiencing new things! Especially ones that lead to the biggest love of your life :) Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 12/25/2009

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Women have the most amazing inner strength, you will be proud of yourself. Please try not to stress, as it hasn't happened yet. Stressing yourself out isn't good for you or your baby. You can put all sorts of notions into your head when you are consumed with thinking about it. And you will find it will probably be totally different to what you had thought all that time. Spend this time relaxing and resting.

Crystal - posted on 12/25/2009

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The birth is the easy bit! I would be more concerned about the 3 months after the birth.. Try not to have negative expectations, otherwise you may manifest them!!

I spent so much time investigating birth and no time investigating what will come after my bub is born.. the birth was over in 5 hours.. turn your attention to what comes next :-)

Debora - posted on 12/25/2009

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most hospitals will let you play the style of music that helps u relax ,a very good support team is important like mom,grandma,a aunt or best friend .they can help you to remain focused and remind you to breathe normal .exercises like yoga can help since it make you very flexible which helps with delivery .reading up on the different types of deliveries can help then remember to write a list of questions u can ask drs/nurses/midwife since they are there to help u .of course the best thing for us to do as circle of moms is pray for u and your delivery to go well.

Myra - posted on 12/25/2009

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My advice is to read up from reputable books (not websites!). As hard as it may be, don't watch any of those shows where women are having babies, either - they will likely trigger more fear. Not every birth is smooth, but if you relax and know the facts about what is going on, it is easier to deal with. Depending on how you plan to deliver has a lot to do with it, too. Choose your birth plan based on what you want, and what you think you can handle - not what you feel you SHOULD do. No one will give you an award for doing it naturally and without pain meds, and you will have to explain why you chose to have pain meds to those that did it naturally...so, do it how you want to. There is a lot of pressure to either have the baby natural or to have certain pain meds...but do your research and talk with your doctor or midwife about your options and their recommendations based on what's been going on so far with your pregnancy, your pain threshold, and what options they provide (if you decide you need pain medication, the last thing you want is to find out that's not an option).

Just try to relax about the process itself. You can talk to 1 million different women about their experience, and you'll get some similar things that happened with them all, but when it all comes down to it, they are all different in so many ways. Read up on your books and keep talking with your doctor (they expect you to have lots of questions).

Hope you have a comfortable and speedy L&D... :)

Christina - posted on 12/24/2009

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i was 15 when i got preganet and i had both my kids with out drugs i thought i e=was going to die of pain that what every one was telling me so i was tarafied but when the labor atared it wasnt so bad it will make you fill proued that you made a beautiful baby good luck

Katy - posted on 12/24/2009

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Labor is nothing new. Women do it all the time. You like all women are strong. Don't be scared about it. The staff at the hospital will take care of everything, they deal with it every day. Take a deep breathe and take it all in so you can recall the event with your family and child years down the road. If not, you may miss those little moments with your husband and baby that make this time so special.

Melissa - posted on 12/24/2009

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You will be just fine. As soon as the contractions get to where you can't bear them then its time for your epidural. It will be smooth sailing after that. You are going to be fine... if your contractions are unbearable before you reach a 4 then just let the dr. know and they can give you stadol or another medication to take the edge on the contractions off. Good luck, and dont worry. Enjoy your experience. **Watch a baby story on The Learning Channel** It gives you a really good idea of what will happen but dont freak out cuz some people do natural births on there too.

Shelby - posted on 12/24/2009

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Giving birth is the most amazing thing you will ever experience!! I had no drugs and I loved it, I can't wait to have another baby! I used the Bradley Method. The biggest thing to do it just relax through your contractions and try your hardest to breathe normally. Have your spouse rub your back during contractions or just give you an all over massage. You should practice relaxing and find some comfortable positions right now. There are a few books about the Bradley Method and they are really good, read and educate yourself about childbirth. Don't view it as painful, view it as your body working, because thats all it is, contractions are just your muscles working. Good luck!!

Danielle - posted on 12/24/2009

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everyone tells you how to prepare for birth but not to many will tell you things after the birth. my sister told me the greatest advice the faster you get out of that bed the better my Bella is Six months and my first i got up and walked as much as possible even though i didn't want to i did it and going to the bathroom terrified me but it wasn't as bad as i thought it was. going number 2 they said would be hard to but i ate plenty of fiber and drank a lot of water and i didn't have any problems... you may think that you will get sleep but you might not i didn't sleep the whole three days i was in the hospital something you might want to think about is if your hospital has a nursery or not mine didn't and i liked that because i wanted to know what it was going to be like at home i didn't even have any one over until two weeks later that way i didn't get used to having anyone there to help me i made my husband go back to work its not like he was helping me at home. get as much support for after just in case you need it and don't ever be afraid to ask for it

Anne - posted on 12/24/2009

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Keep in mind that this is one thing we were made for, I know there's many but no guy can do this for us. For me the best think I did was read up on everything from my options for the pain and god forbid I needed a c-section I was prepared for it, I asked the questions that seemed pointless or stupid. Its not the easiest thing to do but I felt alot better about all of it, I could relax knowing that I knew all I could with out getting too much info I didn't look for anything other then just explanation about what those things where and how they were done. If your scared the best thing you can do is talk to your doc about everything you need to know and make sure that your partner understands and can calm you down. You`ll be fine, and remember women do this everyday, Best of luck to you!

Carolee - posted on 12/24/2009

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I know how you feel. I was induced a week early (without notice... showed up for my doc appointment, then got sent upstairs), and when they said "push", I freaked out! I told the nurse that I wasn't ready to have him yet! She just kind of laughed at me, which calmed me down. It's a wonderful experience. I got the epidural after 20 hours of labor (my son was born 3 1/2 hours later), but I kind of wish I had asked for it sooner, as I didn't progress until I got the epi. I was scared all through the birth, too, but as soon as they laid my son on my belly, he rolled over and put his miniature hand on my arm, and I was in love! It's all worth it. No matter what you go through, it's ALL worth it! Good luck, and congratulations.

Sheryl - posted on 12/24/2009

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just relax and know in the end your going to have your lil angle in your arms! that's what help me get through! all i wanted to do was just hold them! just puch hard! hope that helps!

Ashlye - posted on 12/24/2009

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There is nothing to be scared about, Its a pain you will never remmeber, if you do it naturally! I can honeslty rememer a good portion of my labor, except the pain of pushing. Just calm down and breathe, you will do GREAT i promise you tha!!! Just member you finally get to meet the baby in your stomach you have grown so fond of, and thats been kicking you and sitting on your bladder LOL
Hope it al goes weel!!

Catherine - posted on 12/24/2009

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thank you to everyone who has responded to my question, you have all been more than helpful, i will keep in consideration what you have all said, thank you all again, i appreciate it x

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1. Education.
Read every single thing you can get your hands on! Know what to expect, know what they are talking about. When they throw numbers across the room, know its the APGAR, and be able to interpret that. Laying there with people talking in a strange jargon can be scary enough as is, without the labor. Educate yourself. Be prepared, understand what your body is about to do, and you'll eliminate a LOT of the surprises.
Surprises cause fear, fear makes your body release adrenaline, adrenaline slows contractions. That's the last thing you want to have happen! There is a reason those midwives will keep telling you "just relax honey"
2. Exercise.
Keep yourself active. I understand you feel like a beached whale, every inch of your body aches. Push thru that. Walk, squat, whatever you are comfortable with, but please keep your muscles toned. The better shape you are in will mean LESS pushing time. I promise you, pushing SUX... make it as fast as possible.
3. Surround yourself with a great support team. Your husband, best friend or maybe even your mother is a good place to start. Talk extensively with them, and let them know what your wishes are, and what you expect from your delivery. Let them read your birth plan. When you are laying there in labor, any little distractions can be handled by those who love you, and know what will make you more comfortable, without having to distract you during a contraction.
You CAN do this, our bodies were designed to do this. Your body will take over, you will feel like you are in a fog, or slightly disconnected. This is normal. Let it happen, your body knows what to do.
Get as much sleep as possible now. I know that's hard to do when you feel like you have a dump truck sitting on your bladder, but please do try! Once that baby comes, You'll never sleep again :) JUST JOKING!!!

Brandy - posted on 12/23/2009

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It's completely normal to be scared. All you can do is prepare yourself by learning about all the different things you can do to help distract yourself from the pain and all the different pain relieving methods you can use and which ones have side effects on the baby and which ones don't and make a list of different things you might want to try and prioritize them on the list so that when you decide it's too much, your spouse or whoever your support group is going to be with you that day can bring it out and suggest things to you and ask you if you want to try them. (You might forget what they are with everything that's going on so that's why I say to write them down and maybe go over them with your spouse or whoever). I'm not going to lie to you, even though it is the most amazing thing you will ever experience in your life, the process isn't fun and what helped to calm me my first time around whenever I would start to feel anxious about it was to remind myself that it was going to happen and it was going to hurt but it was only one day. When friends would ask my if I was scared I would say "I'm know it's going to be a long, hard day, but it's just one day that I have to get through and then I get a baby for the rest of my life."

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