ima 20 year old stay at home mom.. 2 kids . i know i shouldnt be bored.. but i am :S any suggestio

Zoe - posted on 04/13/2011

Tiffany, is this at me? cant find a post from me on this thread.
What i will say is; most people have friends, when you have a child those friends are not always available to you when you are on your own and need them. The simple solution is to get friends that are in the same position as you. when i had my dd i was on my own in the town where i had always lived. I meet 5 really good friends at different mums groups and we are still good friends 4 years on. 3 of the mums had just moved to the area and knew nothing of local parks schools anything. within 6 weeks of having there dc we all had a really good support network. of course we all still have other friends but they are at work at 10 am on a wet weekday morning, we just text each other to see which house or indoor play center we are going to meet at.
some people just need a good kick up the backside from time to time to make them see that all they need to do is get out of the house, do you see?
i am glad you have support and are not on your own.
maybe i am blunt sometimes but i i do find that most of the time people prefer it.

Tiffany - posted on 04/12/2011

I have plenty of friends, I just don't go to group things to meet them. That's whats not for me. And who says its a rule that if your a mom all your friends have to be moms too? Most of my friends are not moms. And I don't much appreciate you pointing me out in the same topic along with negativity. I stated my opinion about the groups around here. I'm sorry if the things i enjoy are not the same as the ones you do. And just to let you know, you are being quite harshly negative by saying " news flash if you have a child and you have no friends , ether no one likes you or you do not go where other mums are to make friends." That was extremely rude. And I didn't find it offensive to myself because I have friends. I find it extremely rude to the other mothers who may not have friends due to moving to another town or so on. It's mothers like you who are in the groups around here and mothers like you is why i chose not to go.

Tiffany - posted on 04/12/2011

I have plenty of friends, I just don't go to group things to meet them. That's whats not for me. And who says its a rule that if your a mom all your friends have to be moms too? Most of my friends are not moms. And I don't much appreciate you pointing me out in the same topic along with negativity. I stated my opinion about the groups around here. I'm sorry if the things i enjoy are not the same as the ones you do. And just to let you know, you are being quite harshly negative by saying " news flash if you have a child and you have no friends , ether no one likes you or you do not go where other mums are to make friends." That was extremely rude. And I didn't find it offensive to myself because I have friends. I find it extremely rude to the other mothers who may not have friends due to moving to another town or so on. It's mothers like you who are in the groups around here and mothers like you is why i chose not to go.

Tiffany - posted on 07/15/2010

The whole meeting other stay at home moms thing and the play group thing isnt for me. I feel like it is just a place where people go to compare babies or show off babies. Not that i think all of them are that way but all of them where i am from seem to be that way, but the funny thing is i love baby pagents haha. not much sence there but oh well. Anyways, when i get bored i take my kids to pet stores, or to wal mart, even if we arnt gonna buy anything, we go and play with the toys or look at stuff. because didnt you know, even if they have every toy in the world, even if its the same toy its always better somewhere else haha. Or if they seem tired but are fighting sleep we will go get a milk shake and drive around while drinking our shakes and they fall asleep. just find random things to do that you normaly wouldnt do and it will be fun.

Erica - posted on 07/15/2010

If I did not have my homebased business I would bevery bored. I quit my job last August because I wanted tobe home, but I knew I didnot wantto stay couped up all day with no adult conversations, so I wasintroduced to a home based business. It gets me out of the house, around other adults, and I get to contribute to income! It's a win win

Emz - posted on 07/14/2010

as ur health care visiter about sure start.
i got really depressed when my first was born but had nothing to do n noone to see..had my other son there 4 months ago and promised i wouldnt do the same.found sure start a god send!its a group of mums n babies that meet in a hall and the volunteers mind ur kids so u can have a chat, cuppa whatever!they can even mind them if u need to pop to the shops for an hour!plus its free!! they go on wee trips n stuff too..dunno where i would be without them now :-)

Kayla - posted on 07/14/2010

hey im 20 an have 2 kids under 2 an another due in november an sufferin from depression, i have the same dramas as you so if you find anything thats works please i would love it if u could let me know. Thankyou

Samantha - posted on 07/14/2010

yah..no i think im fine

Autumn - posted on 07/14/2010

Well I am also a stay at home mom and also currently without a car as well! My fiance is using mine to go to work while his car needs to be fixed and is just sitting in the garage. We have just bought a home almost a year ago and are strapped down financialy so we can't do much about it right now. So I get bored all the time! I usually will have my friends or family come over to keep me company or sometimes will take my fiance to work if his job site is close enough. But just like Penny Clarke commented try finding any groups in your area.

Jennifer - posted on 07/14/2010

Are there not any local mother and baby/toddler groups you could attend? I'm 20 and have a 7 1/2 month old and we go to various baby groups but I'm in the UK so don't know what's available where you live =]

Stephanie - posted on 07/14/2010

try art projects, garage sales, parks, games, anything you can imagine just to get out with the kids and have fun.

Diane - posted on 07/14/2010

I have three babies, the oldest will be four this September, I am a SAHM also. I have never once been bored. My little ones and I play alot of crafts, work on their "school" work, play pretend, read, write, make pictures/cards for friends and family. When it is nice outside we go out back to play, out there we have a small pool, a swing set with a slide, some small "tents", a kitchen, and of course their riding toys like their bikes and tricycle. Sometimes we go for walks up and down our road (we live on a dead end street but it connects to a road that has alot of traffic so we avoid it when we can. I do not drive much so we do not get out much unless Daddy is home. The kids do the errands with him to get them out for awhile and it gives me some alone time. They also help with the housework ( their ages are 3,2, and 1). I also work on crafts with out their help (my fav is painting sculptures), read books, do puzzles in books and on here, sometimes when I play games on here they watch and tell me the answers ( I use a laptop now and do not let them play on it but we are hoping to get the other desktop set up soon so that they can use that to play games and do school work on).
We do not watch much tv but do occasionally watch a movie together and talk about it... I also chat with friends and family on here whenever I get a chance and enjoy chatting and playing games on Facebook, we also bake together...
basically I spend most of the day doing whatever I can with my three little ones and they help me as much as they can so we can spend time together and learn new things (they get mad if they can not help clean! For awhile the three year old was literally making messes just so she could clean them, finally I stopped letting her clean the mess she made and she stopped doing it!!) but I also spend time by myself...
I am not sure if any of these ideas helped you. I know most people suggest getting out of the house, which is great if you can and you enjoy it. Personally I would rather be home ;) so my idea/suggestions are crafts, pets, reading, games, chatting, maybe gardening? some kind of hobby you like to do!
Hope this help and you have a great day!!

Kayla - posted on 07/13/2010

Definantly know how u feel! I wanna get out the house for like a day! But I dont have a car and its WAYY TO HOT here to take baby for a walk.. so i just have to sit and hope my bf is in the mood to go somewhere after work.. Which honestly isn't very often. lol

Crystal - posted on 07/12/2010

I use to get very bored as well. So now on Mondays I do all my house work, adn laundry. Then on Tuesdays I go to the local libary were they have baby lap time. The babys have so much fun and you can kinda just chill out while your baby is still with you. Then on Wednesday we go walk the mall, even though we are broke it is fun to just walk. Thursday we just hang out at the house and play all day. Friday we rest and watch movies.

Carisa - posted on 07/12/2010

Why shouldn't you be bored? I was bored until my daughter was old enough to talk to. I would check your local library to see what kinds of programs they have. I have found that a good place to meet other stay at home moms. You might also be able to find a local Moms group if you look on the internet.

Kimberly - posted on 07/12/2010

You could always go to school online. When I had my daughter I knew I would be bored at home while my huband worked. I also knew that I would be looking for a job when she started school, so I take college classes online. You could also help out at church, or with other groups. Since I have older kids that are in baseball and girlscouts I help out in both. My youngest is know 4 and I coached her tee-ball team this year. You just have to find something you like to do. Libaries have reading time for little kids. You can meet other mom's that also.

Jennifer - posted on 07/12/2010

Check out meetup.com and search for moms' groups in your area. It may help if you get out of the house and socialize. I joined a group that has weekly playdates. The kids play while the moms talk. I have made a lot of new friends and it helps my mood when I can talk to people other than my son.

Rebbeca - posted on 07/12/2010

It's kinda funny...just read the other thread on here about what to do when babies are sleeping and something that came up (and which helps with boredom) - masturbate! ;)~

Samantha - posted on 07/12/2010

ya ive thought about doing that but the thing is im a very shy person.. also where im iving there are quite a few people that i dont really want to run into so thats whats stoppping me from doing that

Penny - posted on 07/12/2010

i know this is probably a bit obvious, but see if there are any mom n baby/toddler groups in your area, usually the health visitor/childrens centre have a list of these. this way you can make friends that are also SAHM's and go round each other houses when you are bored or just need some adult company
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