Is anyone else a SAHM and their Husbands work out of town all week??

Rhonda - posted on 03/26/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hey, I am a SAHM and my husband usually leaves out on Mondays and sometimes doesnt come home until Saturdays. He loves it but I HATE it. I feel like whats the point of being in a relationship if I feel like a single parent anyways?!

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Tinker1987 - posted on 03/31/2012

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My guy works on the Rigs,and they have a bad reputation,and alot of people think they are "cheaters" but a man can cheat no matter what kind of job they have.Home or Away from home... I find it hard at times but this has been our lifestyle for 5 years. i used to be very insecure but im not anymore...i dont have time to waste my time worrying about something that hasnt happened yet. if it ever did then when One door closes another opens! i found since i give him More freedom and dont hound him with questions and insecurities we have a better relationship and he is open to talk about what he does,or if they went out for drinks after work. I just hate how much time he spends away from our Son. i feel guilty he doesnt have the luxaryof staying at home with our son24/7 but he chose his job and is happy so i grin and bare it!!

Jen.sparkles - posted on 03/28/2012

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schedules have to work for both of you or they don't work. I found out some devastating information when i was asahm& my husband was working all the time. And was completely dependent on him & had no way to leave really. If u hate it, that needs to MATTER to the man who loves you, &a discussion on boundaries may b in order. after u decide to what extent u will continue to hate your husband being gone all the time, and where u decide there must b change for u to continue supporting his career. Hopefully u guys can find balance that is mutually respectful & honoring :) best of luck :)

Tinker1987 - posted on 03/27/2012

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My hubby works out of town mostly longer than a week. he has no set days off so he comes and goes as he pleases, i do feel like a single mom,and sometimes i wonder what kind of relationship is this but he does work his tail off too provide us withthe best life and when he is home we make the most of our family time. its a bittersweet thing.

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Rhonda - posted on 04/05/2012

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Oh God girl, I thought I had it bad! Im sorry, I usually get to spend the weekend with him at least. I hate it still, I feel like he chooses his job over his family.

Samantha - posted on 04/04/2012

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My husband leaves out on Monday and doesn't come home until the next monday. Sometimes he gets off at 5:30am, gets home at 7:30am, sleeps until 12-12:30, then leaves again at 3:30pm to be back at work by 5pm. And I have a 3 week old little girl. It's hell on our relationship and I've felt the same exact way. He loves working out there though.

Rhonda - posted on 03/28/2012

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Exactly! I have heard A LOT of rumors about what his co-workers do when they are on the road (all of which are married) and it makes me really paranoid about what he is doing. We recently had the conversation about this and I told him if he accepted this job back I would leave, he didnt too much care and needless to say he is on the road as we speak!

Kimberly - posted on 03/27/2012

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My husband has always worked out of town from time to time depending on what job they were working on, he now works out at one of the mines but has a roster so I know when he will be away and when he will be home. It is hard sometimes when he is away because I have to do everything myself but I love that he is home for more days in a row when he is off. He gets to spend more quality time with our daughter and it makes it feel not so bad when he is away again. It is hard on them too being away from home so much but we make it work and it does keep us in a lifestyle that lets us do alot more.

Rhonda - posted on 03/27/2012

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I hate it! He worked there before and quit so he could be home at night and he didnt like the jobs he had so he went back which made me livid. I absolutely hate being here alone all the time.

Gabrielle - posted on 03/27/2012

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My husband used to work out of town sometimes. It sucked but now he has a job where he is home every night even if they work 2 or more hours away from where we live.

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