Is there any other stay at home moms that get NO alone time and stress about it?

Nayuribe - posted on 11/15/2011

hahaha!!! my guess is there are thousands!!!! me included!!!

Kari - posted on 11/14/2011

ME!! The only me time I get is in the shower..(not even then sometimes) Its nerve racking. I have a 4yr old boy, a 3 yr old girl and a 20 mo old girl and they are ALL mommy's babies, so its VERY hard to do anything without one or more of them being there.

Kari - posted on 11/14/2011

ME!! The only me time I get is in the shower..(not even then sometimes) Its nerve racking. I have a 4yr old boy, a 3 yr old girl and a 20 mo old girl and they are ALL mommy's babies, so its VERY hard to do anything without one or more of them being there.

Saria - posted on 11/11/2011

That is me to the T! I VERY VERY seldom get alone time. It is super stressful being a SAHM. MY husband works everyday except for one day a week. So naturally he is tired often. But so am I... To be honest we recently had a fight about this exact topic. I am now volunteering a few hours a week to a local animal shelter to get out of the house for an hr or two. Matter of fact I'm going out tomorrow and volunteering for my local animal shelte at an event to help promote the animals and try and get them adopted.. This is going to be my first time out since my oldest was born ( she will be 3 in Feb) Talk to anyone you can about if they can babysit for you even if it is only for an hr or half hour. You want to start small at first. I'm still feeling guilty about leaving my children tomorrow for the event but I can't let it get in the way of what I've decided to do. Mommy time is essential. Or you get WAY to stressed. I was so stressed my hair was literally starting to fall out. I was also noticing I felt myself getting more violent. (NO I did not hit my children but the thought did arise) That's def when I knew I hit my limit. Good luck and I hope this post helps out.

Alecia - posted on 11/15/2009

Quoting Kimberly:

YES...YES...YES! I am a SAHM to 2 kids, 2 years old and 6 months old, I never get alone time. My boyfriend (their dad) works all day so he thinks that when he gets home he doesn't need to do anything but what he doesnt understand is that it would be so incredibly nice for me to be able to go lock myself in the bathroom and take a nice long, relaxing bubble bath or something. Not that I don't love my kids but sometime you just need 5-10 mins alone. I hate that people think it's so easy to be a SAHM because it is NOT! It's not like we just sit around on our butts all day, we are feeding our children, teaching our children, and cleaning house etc.

AMEN!!!

Jaime - posted on 11/10/2009

Yes! My husband works 6 days a week so it is just me and my son most of the time. The thing that kills me the most is the lack of adult conversation. There is only so much one can say to a 3 year old whose main topic of conversation is SpongeBob lol.

Brandi - posted on 11/10/2009

Hi I know exactly what you are going through. I have three children. My son is 11, My daughters are 19 months and 6 months. I have no time to myself unless the babies are sleeping. And ofcourse they don't nap at the same time! But when they are asleep I am usually cleaning and doing other things I need to get done around the house or I am asleep myself. My husband is currently deployed so I don't have him here to help. It is stressful and sometimes I do feel like giving up. It's hard sometimes but we are all strong and can get through it.

Genea - posted on 11/10/2009

Thats me no alone time whatsoever my three are 17, 10 ,3 never a dull moment at my house!But I dont stress I would rather be with them than ALONE.Fun factor!!!!!!!!

Carissa - posted on 11/10/2009

I am a stay at home mom and I get a little me time in. My husband works from 630 am to 6 to 7 at night and in the summer it is between 8 and 10. He works all week and even weekends. I try to get some me time in when she naps and I would suggest getting them on the same nape schedule so you can have a little bit there. I do have my husband watch our daughter in the evening when he can so I can just have some peace. However, it is hard with his work schedule. Since we have moved away from family it has been harder for me to get that time and for my husband and me to have time together as well. I do get frustrated about it, but there isn't much I can do about it. So I just take it and move on.

Iris - posted on 11/10/2009

Quoting Cynthia:

I have a 2 year old little girl that is under my feet all the time an all day I don't even get time to shower and if I do she is in with me . My husband works all day so when he comes home he does not want to do any thing . I live about 3 hours from my family witch makes it even harded for me. but I have just got used to it, i think in time there will be time for me I'm just wating for it .

YOU ARE WAY CLOSER TO YOUR THAN I AM FROM MINE ---

THEY ARE OVER 2,000 MILES FROM ME I LIVE IN MINN AND THEY ALL LIVE IN TEXAS :(

Iris - posted on 11/10/2009

Quoting MAYRA:

OMG. SERIOUSLY I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO FELT LIKE THIS.
I HAVE A 20MONTH OLD AND A 3 MONTH OLD BOYS.
GOSH.. I GET SO STRESSED...
I NEED SOME ME TIME AND MY HUSBAND DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HOW EXHAUSTING IT IS TO CARE FOR TWO BOYS AND DO HOUSE CHORES....

i have 6 kids my youngest is barley 1 month and over a week old

my hubby is the say way US MOMS HAVE A 24HOUR JOB WITH NO PAY WE DONT GET TO CLOCK OUT IF WE WERE TO LET THEM DO IT FOR JUST ONE WEEK MAYBE THEY WILL HELP OUT MORE  LOL THEY CANT HANDLE WAT WE HANDLE :D

Krysten - posted on 11/10/2009

oh yeah! you're definately not alone in this one!!! my husband is in the marine corps.... so i'm lucky to see him at all sometimes.... which means i spend 24/7 with my lil man. it doesnt always bother me because i knew what i was getting myself into..... but every once and a while, i'd love to just have a few minutes of quiet and alone time or time without somebody always attached to me at the hip....... hang in there... as your baby gets older, it'll get better.

Ashlie - posted on 11/10/2009

ohh ya, my husbands deployed after 2 wees of blake beig born and doesnt come back till next july, so its me blake 2 dogs and a snake in a state im not use to... there is no time to run in some where no time to clean cook bathe him.. its difficult but i feel like im going crazy

Bettyjo - posted on 11/10/2009

I am a stay at home mom, and I wouldnt change it for the world. But there are times I just want to pull my hair out. I have a 2 year old and a 8 month old. My husband works long hours, so by the time he comes home, the kids are already in bed. So thats the only time I get to relax.

Cheryl - posted on 11/10/2009

YES!!!! i am a stay at home of a 3 year old and its monday thru sunday that i am home with her and don't have any time to myself i know how hard it is and it sucks but us mothers have to do what we have to do sometimes.

Selinna - posted on 11/10/2009

I'm right along with you! It's sounds like you're in the same boat I was. Now, that our daughter is older (3 yrs.) my BF takes over a lot more plus, she's more independant, too! My daughter was a colicky baby, I delt with it alone, while my BF went to bed. I swear I did everything, I don't think he ever made a bottle. I'd make it for him and he'd feed her, but to bath, clothe, diaper her or do anything else forget it......that wasn't possible! So yes, we faught constantly b/c I never had alone time or my own space/quality time. Eventualy, I had to take it upon myself. I started to get up a little earlier to get a shower, while she was still asleep, that'd also give me extra time to do my hair or put make up on. Maybe even do some house work with out having to attend to her, at my own leisure, or to just read or watch tv, etc.

Nowadays, after my BF goes to work I spend me time on the computer and I know my daughter will sleep until 8-9am I have time to get things done before she wakes up.....

I hope you'll find this helpful!

Hannah - posted on 11/10/2009

the easiest way to answer that question is definately yes!! its just human to want some quiet down time for yourself!! try not to stress about it but maybe ask for someone to take your kids out for a couple of hours so you can have some of that time just to yourself!! ive got used to the fact that asking for help every now and again doesnt make you a bad mum becasue you want to be on your own!! xx

Alecia - posted on 11/09/2009

I am a stay at home mom with a 5 month old and a 3 yr old. Their dad leaves at 5 every morning and isn't home til 6 every evening. I tell him I wish he could spend more time with them and me but really what can he do? We can't both stay home. I don't have a driver's license (no dui or anything just never have) but I go crazy. Even if I had a license my kids nap and who wants to take two young kids anywhere. Lately I've been on facebook because it's my main link to the outside world but I end up awake all night and sleep through naptime a couple days a week. I get through it because I know that 3 years went by so fast and I know that it will continue to go fast and if I wasn't stuck in the house with them I might miss something wonderful

Leanna - posted on 11/09/2009

oh yeah.....my husband has been over seas for a year and a half....i ended up pregnant with our 2nd when he came home for r&r....so now i have a 2 yr old little boy and a 3 mo. old little girl....and i get NONE whats so ever....i can't even shower alone....i have to take a bath and have my kids with me....

Mary - posted on 11/09/2009

Hi I am one. I don't get no kinda alone time at all. My 2 month old son is almost all the time awake. And my step-daughter is always coming down here everyday single day. So therefore I'm never alone.

Staci - posted on 11/09/2009

YES! Sometimes after my husband gets home from work I fake an upset stomach and lock myself in the bathroom with a good book for about 20 minutes. Some weeks that's all I get-my husband suggested I go to the doctor because I seem to have "bowel problems" lol :P

Rebecca - posted on 11/09/2009

When our son was born 2 years ago i never had any alone time. In fact i recall one night i wanted to take a bath to relax and i heard my son crying so i got out and my husband was shoving a bottle down his throat and i flipped out at him and he just said well he doesn't want it one second adn then the enxt he does...our son was nursed so he didn't take well to the bottle the frist few times we gave him pumped milk so i just took him and cried adn nursed him while my husband went back to his computer games...it was the worst moment of our relationship. We now have a 3.5 month old daugher who we truly believe saved our relationship. We argue less and i get time outof the house usually 4 nights a week. He comes home from work while i'm with the kids all day and i make supper while he gets his uniform ready for the next day and he does some laundry and we both put our son to bed and once he is in bed i take off to the gym for about 2 hours and i do this 3 nights a week. I try ti get out for a 4th night to a movie with some friends or for a bite to eat or we will just rent a movie adn have time together. He is much more understanding now for sure. Your husband will coem around and regret missing the young days of your child(ren).

It can be hard for sure and i agree that both of you need to sit and pkan time at least together. Even if it's to go for a walk. I found while i was pregnant wiht my daughter jsut to get out of the house to play in the yard with my son was a great stress reducer.

Good luck:)

Amanda - posted on 11/09/2009

OMG...I couldnt resist posting to this one. I am a 26 year old stay at home mom of 2 year old twins. There is never a dull momment in our house. Ido all the house work and take care of all the kids needs. I have learned how to multitask BIG time. I honestly cannont remember when the last time I had at least 5 min. to my self. I cant even go to the bathroom by myself...and thats sad! I take on everything in my household, because there is a certain way I like things done, so I just do it all, but I do stress out....A LOT! I have my momments where I sit on my porch and cry for about 10 min. on my husbands shoulder and then Im great after that. So Lora, dont worry, your not alone, at all, we all have our momments

Sarina - posted on 11/09/2009

OMG! YES!!

April - posted on 11/09/2009

yes, I have 3 kids, I feel like I never have any "ME" time, with homework, sports, household duties and so on i never seem to catch a break

Iris - posted on 11/09/2009

ALONE TYM WHAT IS THAT??? ha ha ha i have to rush in the restroom too sometimes lol i mean dont get me wrong I LOVE ALL MY KIDS BUT I SOMETIMES JUST SIT ON THE TOILET to get 5 min. alone or just let the hot water finish wen i shower :)

MAYRA - posted on 11/09/2009

OMG. SERIOUSLY I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO FELT LIKE THIS.

I HAVE A 20MONTH OLD AND A 3 MONTH OLD BOYS.

GOSH.. I GET SO STRESSED...

I NEED SOME ME TIME AND MY HUSBAND DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HOW EXHAUSTING IT IS TO CARE FOR TWO BOYS AND DO HOUSE CHORES....

Ashley - posted on 11/09/2009

Oh yes i never get alone time i always think if i leave my kids with my husband that hes not going to watch them he dose tho but when i get back i feel like i haven't had any time to my self. i cant even take a bath by myself my 3 year old thinks he need to be in the tub too most times,

Heidi - posted on 11/09/2009

I am like Tara..the only time I get alone is in the shower....I stay up there for about a half hour with the water running sometimes..just so I have that time( when husband is home). He asks what am I doing up there so long I tell him girl stuff. I also recently joined the gym..I have a mommy and me class there as well. I am still afraid to leave my 7 month alone with their daycare..so I go when Hubby is home. Even when I go to the store or gym I hurry..My mother keeps telling me to knock it off, but I can't help it. He's a great Dad, but he throws her whole schedule off than I have to pick up the pieces. This has all been a learning experience for me. I was someone who was never having kids and at 37 unexpectedly got pregnant.( on the same pill since 17yrs old?)

Lisa - posted on 11/09/2009

My husband travels 20 days out of the month and I felt like I was permanently attached to two children. I got a part-time job waitressing in the evening a couple nights out of the week. I get out of the house, away from the kids and I make some spending cash. And it's at night so I can have grandparents watch the kids. When my hubby is home, he is good about taking the kids outside if it's nice so I have time to myself in the house, or he'll send me on errands to town so I can get coffee or hot chocolate by myself.

Shaquansia - posted on 11/09/2009

Hi Lora



Yes at the moment Im a stay at home mom while my fiance is away at basic training for army national guard. Its gets furstrating honestly I feel its only fair when the hubby or boyfriend get home they should give you at least an hour to yourself plus its bonding time for dad or child!! If your like me Im with my mom and sis to help me even though I cant stand to be away from my daughter.........

Lisa-Marie - posted on 11/09/2009

Yep, that me, If I find the time or mostly if I'm lucky I have time for a shower if not I have one every second day. I have a 3 y.o. going on 4 and I new born 3 months this weeks. And another one that 33 :s

Beth - posted on 11/09/2009

My husband works and I understand that he is tired but I watch our daughter all day. I am usually in the bed by 10 because thats when she goes down. I usually get a shower to myself but sometimes I have Kaylee standing on the side of the tub with me. Its hard because I get so stressed and so aggravated. I clean house, cook supper, and take care of her.....its so hard.

Gin - posted on 11/08/2009

Quoting Ashley:

Yes!! Beleive me, you are definately not alone. I would say the only time alone i get away from my three kids is in the shower, but to be perfectly honest, half of the time, someone is knocking on the door looking for something, or wanting something to eat or drink... EVEN THOUGH DADDY IS SITTING ON THE COUCH AND IS MORE THEAN CAPABLE OF GETTING IT FOR THEM, I guess juice or a snack has a different taste when mommy gets it. lol.

My husband used to do that too, but I learned to teach my little ones to ask daddy for help. It's worked out for me, because when they ask, he can't refuse even if he's watching his favorite show.

Gin - posted on 11/08/2009

Quoting LeeAnne:

im a stay at home mom and i feel i dont get "me time". i find it sad when im excited to go to town for somethen, then i get there and get what i needed then half to go home to watch the kids. my husband is a wonderful man and i wouldnt ask for another but there is no mommy time and it can get really stressful

funny, i do get stressed when I'm done doing errands because it means I have to go back to my kids.

Alleah - posted on 11/08/2009

Quoting April:

my god, yes. i can't even go to the bathroom by myself without having to take my son. he gets so upset in the pack and play that i can't pee! hope that wasnt TMI. oh well...he also won't nap. it is go go go until bed time at 8 pm. hes 10 months. he wakes up the second i lay him down (he falls asleep while nursing). he also nurses thru the night, so i am not alone at night either. it's literally 24-7

wow, I hear you there...  Anna still falls asleep nursing too, so I'm literally tied down if she's in a clingy mood when she goes to bed.  Anna is nine months, and refuses to go down for naps if she can help it.  Which means that my last bit of me time has disappeared ina flash....  It's gotten worse since I started work recently, (conveniently when she decided to cut her first tooth--urgh!), with her developing a textbook case of separation anxiety.  My husband works graveyards, and sleeps in the afternoons, and I work in the mornings.  There is NO me time, very little us time, and absolutely no relief from the guilt I feel when I leave her screaming at the door of my sister-in-laws house.... actually the most relaxing moments I have are in the car.  Anna will usually fall asleep, and I can just concentrate on the road, listen to some music, and ignore everything outside my head for a bit.

Alexnadria - posted on 11/08/2009

i am stay at home mom with my two boys and my fiancee lives 9 hours away and is tryin to better himself for us. i currently get no time to myself everytime i do something i have one of the boys with me so i am really stressed out needin sleep and hatin it.

Brandie - posted on 11/08/2009

Yes!!! my hubby is a truck driver so he is gone alot and when he is home he is sleeping a majority of the time. I miss my me time lol. It is nice when I go to my friends house and my daughter plays with her daughter it is a little bit of a break.

Heather - posted on 11/08/2009

I do stess about it. I have two boys and my oldest is in school. I get up get them dress and fix breakfest then clean the house cook lunch and then clean up and then go get my son from school cook supper and bye 6:30 my husband comes home and by 8:00

were in bed. and it like that everyday.

Heather - posted on 11/08/2009

I do stess about it. I have two boys and my oldest is in school. I get up get them dress and fix breakfest then clean the house cook lunch and then clean up and then go get my son from school cook supper and bye 6:30 my husband comes home and by 8:00

were in bed. and it like that everyday.

Pat - posted on 11/08/2009

my partner works away all week only come home on a weekend hes got other kids two so i dunt get no me time me and my son are on are own 24/7 hes only 2month old so its hard to get out dun my mum helps me alot comes ova and watchers baby while i get in a bath n relax.i try to have a kip but its hard coz every sound baby makes am awake is there any one eles like me am so bord staying at home alone.

Eugenia - posted on 11/08/2009

yes im a stay home full time parent. i get so stressed out that i actually break out on my face and shake. so to help with the frustration i usually wait until my son goes to bed and read a nice book or watch some tv or talk to a pal. it reallys works for me i hope this helps a lil bit!

Elizabeth - posted on 11/08/2009

yes i am a single stay at home mom i have to have knee surgery my daughter is 13 months old and her father dont help with her i usually have appts booked all the way up to 3 months in advance i dont have a car so i have to take the bus its real hard cause i had carple tunnle surgery on my left hand now have to get a knee surgery and my daughter just had stomach surgery a lil over a week ago and she was a preemie she has alot of health problems between all her health problems and mine i dont have the energey or the time to do anything for myself everyday is a struggle for me so i get stressed out all my family lives between 35 min to 2 hrs away so i feel all alone but swomehow i still keep striving my daughter goes to sleep between 7 and 8 and i am so tired from the days events and then have to clean my house and cook so i do my cleaning when she is asleep then i am so tired i just want to go to sleep cause there usually is 2 appts a day so i totally feel u on the no alone time and being stressed out there is times where i dont know if i can keep going

Cheri - posted on 11/08/2009

I am a stay at home mom of three, I understand, first remember they are small for a very short amount of time and soon they won't need you as much. Second on days when you are really stressed get out of the house, even just to the store for a half an hour. And third sleep whenever possible tiredness makes you more emotional about everything. Keep your sense of humor and you'll be fine. Hang in there!

Jen - posted on 11/08/2009

Yeah, it seems like I never get a break! When my child was born my boyfriend was great about taking shifts but after he went back to work he gets home and is too tired to help me out. When my little one goes to bed I usually have homework to do. I am a stay at home mom and a full time college student. This is a challenge. By the time I get "me time" I am so tired. I get an occassional break when I have to run to the store or something like that and leave my little boy with this father. But, other than that I take my showers at night because I am so busy throughout the day and there just is no time for myself anymore.

Ashley - posted on 11/08/2009

Yes!! Beleive me, you are definately not alone. I would say the only time alone i get away from my three kids is in the shower, but to be perfectly honest, half of the time, someone is knocking on the door looking for something, or wanting something to eat or drink... EVEN THOUGH DADDY IS SITTING ON THE COUCH AND IS MORE THEAN CAPABLE OF GETTING IT FOR THEM, I guess juice or a snack has a different taste when mommy gets it. lol.

Michelle - posted on 11/08/2009

Alone time what is that? I don't even get to shower or go to the bathroom by myself. Before my daughter was born I was able to find some time to walk or workout, something just for me but in the last 4 years I have developed a 3 foot shadow all day and night every day and night. Good luck I hear it does get better.

Shayla - posted on 11/07/2009

ME! I used to have the time at night after my daughter went to bed to take a shower and relax but recently all I have to do is start the water and my daughter, the bath nazi, wakes up and wont stop crying until i put her in the bath. it is very stressful. I have been trying to find something else for me after she goes to bed. any ideas?

Lyndi - posted on 11/07/2009

I have 2 boys (3 & 6) and I feel like all I do everyday is break up fighting, clean up after them, cook, try to get them to eat what I make, take them to school and pick them up from school. I really would like to have some alone time once in awhile but it seems that when I get it I would like to be able to have my husband want to spend that time with me. Instead he seems to always have more important things to do than to spend any time with me. My boys are finally at an age where they can and want to spend the night with their grandparents and when that happens I feel like that should be the time that my husband and I can actually talk about things. It just never happens. I sometimes just think I live with 3 boys instead of 2.

Nicole - posted on 11/07/2009

OH YESSSS! I am totally in this category! I sacrificed my job of 10 years for my husband to keep his job, (he was making more than I was and his required him to stay longer which interferred with moy job). It had become to hard to find a steady sitter. Which also forced me to become the "stay at home" mom. I have 3 kids, 2 are school age but my youngest and I are in the house all day, my husband works night turn so he sleeps all day and I get no time to relax! I don't know how what the term alone time is anymore. Before I atleast had my drive to and from work that was just me and I could clear my head now its just constant do this that ALL DAY! I AM SO STRESSED!!!