Is this really fair???

Rhianna - posted on 09/28/2010

It's just a pure mental control thing. If you stand up to him and keep doing what you're doing i.e going out doing what YOU want to do and let it be known his attitude is NOT getting to you, he will learn you have grown balls and you're not to be controlled. Its a jealous, insecure trait which most men carry and women for that matter. Just be patient and don't let it get to you he will soon learn. And if he goes to the pick up bar for waitresses with his buddies, it doesn't mean HE is doing the picking up, maybe him and his mates are trying to set someone up. You need to have a little bit more faith in him. If you found any other evidence to support your theory then yeah neck him with the whole lot of information you have found out. But if you get on at him about it whether he has or hasnt doen anything wrong you will find yourself losing him, probably for good. it seems like you both have insecuriy issues that you really need to sort out, but only you can sort yourself out as only he can sort himself out. if it doesnt work then its a relationship not meant to be. and you should learn from this and move on.

Lisa - posted on 09/28/2010

I always tell my hubby, "I'll be home sooner or later."

I would say that you just need more communication. If someone isn't going to be home for dinner, they should have the respect to tell the other person. If your husband is going out for drinks, he should tell you that he's going out for drinks, go ahead with dinner, I'll eat when I get home. On the same note, when you went to the fair, you should have told your husband, I'm going out to the fair, dinner is in the crockpot since I won't be home until after dinner.

Shontae - posted on 09/28/2010

lol men are such babies sometimes. lol I think it's the male ego that expects their women to be home with the children, cooking, cleaning and waiting for them. Let him have his "fits". It's not fair that he gets to have his "boy" time and expect you to be alright in the house all the time. I did it for years and it drove me bananas. Never realized how crazy four walls can make you feel when you look at them 24 hours a day. lol Either he'll get the hint to stay home with you, take you out, or come home without spending a full day out.

Montana - posted on 09/20/2010

my husband is the same way!! he even complains if i am at his mom's house with all the sis inlaws for their monthly scrapbook day... and she lives NEXT DOOR! ugh, its so annoying. I HATE that certain "rules" apply to us but not them

Christy - posted on 09/20/2010

Maybe you 2 need some time together every once and awhile? Without the kid(s). Reconnect and talk it out.

Chesnie - posted on 09/20/2010

yeah I know right? It will always be this way I just wish I could get a "Have a good time and dont worry about a thing:...ha, if only?? I wish he saw things my way!

Tina - posted on 09/20/2010

Amen!! I hear ya girl. My hubby is the same way he can do what he wants to do but when I want to do anything I have to bring a kid with me or only be gone 10 minutes. He is all the time txting me or calling me with the where are yous what are you doing? I never get to do anything and if I do and even if I find a babysitter to watch one or two of our kids (we have three) then he still gets mad about it. Saying it makes him look bad that he aint taking care of his kids. It is not that I am trying to make him look bad I am just trying to make it easier for him to only have one of them. I have talked and talked and talked to him about it and it will get better for about a week then its right back to where we were. Has got to be a guy thing we are the moms and we are supposed to do it all. From watching the kids changing the diapers feeding bathing getting up in the middle of the night EVERYTHING not to mention the carrying them fo rthe nine months and labour!!