Is your husband a picky eater?

Raechil - posted on 09/11/2011 ( 66 moms have responded )

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I need help. Does anyone know any good meal ideas that dont have any kind of vegetables in them? My son's father refuses to eat vegetables but I am so tired of eating the same things all week.... I tried looking em up online but I couldnt find a good website for it.

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Nikki - posted on 09/11/2011

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My hubby hates veggies too but I make him eat them. I refuse to have my child growing up thinking that it is ok not to eat them. I do try to hide and disguise them as much as possible. I use grated veggies a lot, I put them in lasagne, meatballs, quiche, casseroles and sauces.

Sal - posted on 09/11/2011

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tell him to grow up and eat them....cook them for yourself and your child,he doesn't like it....let him cook for himself....

i am pretty big on food/ and vegi eating.....i dumped a guy once who picked tomato out of food just shits me....

Jess - posted on 09/12/2011

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I'm a picky eater and personally was highly offended by some of the comments people made against your husband. Science has proven that taste is genetic. So it is likely that your husbands genes predispose him to disliking food. I can also tell you that I know thousands of other picky eaters (there is an online support group pickyeatingadults) and most of them are extremely healthy, even the ones we have who are in their 70s and 80s. We have a large sample of people from which to draw information and there is currently a study going on at Duke University to further research the issue. But all indications are that it is not something that parents do to their children by eating or not eating foods in front of them, by forcing or not forcing them to eat their vegies, etc. Many of the members were forced to eat their vegetables and they still don't like them. In fact, research has again shown that forcing children to eat foods is more likely to do harm than to do good. Children are more likely to grow up with an unhealthy image of food and get an eating disorder. Offer healthy food, ever meal, and most children will grow up to be normal eaters. Some will not.

And I just want to say, hiding vegetables with the purpose of tricking him is disrespectful. Your husband is not a child. It is ok to hide them if he tells you that you can try it. But I would ask him if he is ok with you doing it on occasion first. But I do think that your best bet is to just make one meal with different courses. As opposed to making a casserole with tons of stuff in it, just stick to making a meat, with a couple of sides. Or ask him if you can have a couple nights a week where you do a fend for yourself type of night. He can make whatever he wants and you can make or go out for whatever you want. It works out well for my husband and I. He gets to go grab chinese or whatever other food he likes but doesn't get very often. And I can just make something for myself or grab something I like out. Just my 2 cents and what works for us.

Tara - posted on 09/12/2011

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I would also vote to try to get him to see a dietician, and maybe an allergist as well.

I have a number of food intolerances and allergies, but they are to things I have eaten, not just things I have tried when trying something new.

An allergist and a dietician can help find out what exactly he is truly allergic/intolerant of, and what he is not.

For example, I like corn, potatoes and chicken, but I tested out as mildly allergic to all 3 - if I put them together in a meal I can have a really bad intolerance reaction (vomiting, diarrhea, migraine) - so I just make sure my meals are planned so that I don't have all 3 items together.

If you know for certain what he has physical problems with, it would make it much easier for you to plan meals that incorporate vegetables as you could plan them to avoid things he has tested out to be intolerant of/allergic to.

That said, he really does need to at least try some vegetables/fruit because otherwise he will be showing a poor example to your son.

Lady Heather - posted on 09/11/2011

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I think it's totally cool to not like one vegetable. Everybody is going to have something they don't like. I don't much care for frozen peas (although I will eat them if served them at someone's house or something). Just...how can you not like any? They all taste so different!

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Nicole - posted on 10/31/2011

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I think my husband has no problem eating what I cook because he's just thankful that I cook at all. Especially since when he tries to act pickier than a child, I tell him, just like I tell my children, you either eat it or don't, but that is all there is. And then I remind him that he is an example to our boys and they will model his eating habits and he can't make them eat something that he won't. (I'm not really mean to my husband, but if he snubbed his nose at something that I cooked, it would hurt my feelings, and he knows that I'd be hesitant to cook for him again.) Plus, he knows that I will go out of my way to make his "favorites" at least once a week and he appreciates that since most of his favorites are either unhealthy, expensive, or both. I do usually run our meal choices by my husband to give him SOME say and let him pick his "favorite" for the week. Depending on how good our budget is and how active we've been, he gets his favorites more often. (Maybe I just have an agreeable husband???)

Raechil, have you tried cooking veggies and pureeing them to disguise them in the food?? I bet he wouldn't be able to tell the difference.

Lois - posted on 10/31/2011

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Hi Emma, re FODMAPS diet/IBS, no it's not just bread and bulky foods that bring on IBS, it can also be certain vegetables including onions, can give you terrible bloating and stomach cramps. Just google FODMAPS/IBS.

Annah - posted on 10/31/2011

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Ok my husband has never eatten a hamburger. He only eats are you ready??? Mac and cheese, pepperoni pizza, chicken strips and fries, steak, and sushi. He's always been this way. When he was a kid his mother refused to make two different meals so if he didn't eat he didn't eat, the she realized he hadn't eatten in over a week so she broke down and made two different meals. He's still this way. So I cook for our son and I and he makes his own. He also eats once a day and that's dinner. Now that we have a son I keep trying to get him to eat different things for our sons sake but he won't. I have noticed that our son is starting to do the same thing, so when I cook things I know our son likes and he refuses to eat then yes he goes hungry. If I cook something new I tell him to try one bit to see if he likes it, if he doesn't like it then that's fine he doesn't have to eat it. But I do try to get our son to try different things just so he doesn't fall into the same thing my husband has. All I can say is when they are kids you try to do what you can, but when they are grown they're set in their ways and they're is not much you can do.

Joslin Irene - posted on 10/23/2011

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Thankfully NO, he trys everything that I make him, I think he is just happy that I'm trying to learn to cook! He loves new things..

Melissa - posted on 10/18/2011

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So why don't you have vegetables as a side. That way you can put it on your plate if you want or leave it out if you don't? He doesn't eat any at all like no potatoes or anything?

Raechil - posted on 10/11/2011

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He doesnt do doctors and Im not going to make him go (Or I cant anyways, god knows Ive tried, lol) But Thank you everyone for the great ideas. Ive tried a few and found some that he really likes so we've got some variety now (: and Ive found ways to get my veggies lol.

Lois - posted on 10/10/2011

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Sounds like he might have irritable bowel syndrome, can bring on some serious stomach cramps after eating healthy things like onions and veggies. I would get him to see a doctor, there are good treatments available, but in the meantime check out the FODMAPS diet specifically for irritable bowel (IBS) sufferers, there are some veggies which are fine and well tolerated.

Lin - posted on 10/08/2011

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I am in the same boat. My husband has been like that all his life; I think it's gotten to the point where he no longer has the enzymes to process beef, so unless we go out or I make something at lunch or a separate dinner, no steak or burgers for me.

What I've found that has helped me is seeing what he will eat and adapting recipes from them. For example, my husband LOVES chicken tenders, might have married them if I hadn't come along ;). From the concept of breaded chicken, we've had Shake N Bake Chicken, fried chicken, parmesan chicken, chicken tender tacos, etc. Anything where you can "build your own" would help you get the vegetables and variety you want and keep them off what he'll be eating; BLT's would be a great start if he does bacon. Like a few other people have said, allrecipes.com is a great source - tons of recipes and various versions of them, plus an ingredient-based search.

In regards to the kids seeing him not eat veggies, I have a rule for him. Vegetables must go on the plate, and he has to make it look like he ate some.

This may sound like a crazy question, but here it goes. How is he about touching veggies? It used to be that Jeff would have this disgusted face when he would feed my oldest pureed green beans, and I would have to clean up afterwards, and Goddess help everyone if any got on him. Nipped that nonsense right in the bud, and now he's having to help clean up after the kids. With him having to touch the dreaded veggies, he's gotten a bit more familiar with them (smell, texture, etc.) and he's a bit more willing to try them.

Hope this helps!

Vanessa - posted on 10/05/2011

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OMG I thought for sure my husband was the ONLY grown man who will not eat his veggies! I 100% feel ya on the eating the same thing all the time... im so glad I stumbled upon this post!

Sherri - posted on 09/26/2011

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That is exactly the arrangement I have for my husband as well Serena. So much less stress and everyone is happy.

Serena - posted on 09/26/2011

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My hubby won't eat anything green, or with sauce, or too much seasoning, or anything that looks "weird", etc lol. My solution? I cook what I want for myself and the kids and if he doesn't like it he can fix something else! I keep hot dogs, steak-ums, pbj, and cereal in the house at all times. He is perfectly happy with this arrangement. We don't fight about food anymore!

Jamers - posted on 09/25/2011

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roasted garlic parm, shrimp or chicken linguine super simple i just grab the ragu sauce boil the noodles and shrimp together strain then add the sauce and i oven cook chicken breast then slice then add to noodles and sauce

Judith - posted on 09/20/2011

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I went to the site www.realmomsrealdinners.blogspot.com that was suggested on here and I am so going to make some of these. I like that they don't have an ingredient list of processed stuff.

Judith - posted on 09/19/2011

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I can almost gaurntee that your child will question it when he gets older. My daughter only wanted to eat big people food since the time she could sit in the highchair. It may help in the future to have your husband sit down and feed your son his veggies, this way the child can see that even though daddy does not eat them, he still wants me to because I will get big and strong. I think the key here if your husband is going to remain steadfast in his insistance to not eating veggies, is that at least he knows the importance of your son eating them and supports that.

Raechil - posted on 09/19/2011

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Thank you everyone for the supportive comments and great ideas. I see now that it could definately be worse.
At the moment we actually eat out quite a bit so I usually do a chicken salad or something and so I havent had to worry about it much. My main concern is, as a few ppl mentioned, my son questioning it when he gets older... But ive got awhile cause he's only 3 1/2 mo right now. Thank you very much for the ideas recipes and links tho they have helped out alot...

Michelle - posted on 09/19/2011

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My husband is not picky but he is allergic to all meat. I actually end up cooking two meals most nights. One with meat for us and the vegetarian version of it for my husband. Since there are some things that are easier to make a vegetarian version then others we end up eating a lot of the same stuff too. I know you can't force a grown man to eat vegetables. My husbands friend used to do that exact thing until he developed diabetes. Now he eats veggies. I like Alison's idea of having meals that have a meat, starch and veggie is probably your best bet. You can be as creative as you want with the vegetables because he's not eating them.

Alison - posted on 09/19/2011

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If you are having a casserole you can them into large chucks so you get the flavor in the dish and he can easily pick them out. Or just make a meat, starch, and veg. Then he can just have extra potato or rice instead of the veg.

Judith - posted on 09/19/2011

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I personally do not have an issue with my husband or children with veggies. I think that he should see a professional about his aversion as it could be just the tip of the iceberg to a bigger problem. If he had bad experiences as a child with veggies then telling him to just grow up and eat them could be rehashing old issues. If he won't eat them then at least try to get him to support your rules with your children with eating their veggies. I know it sounds silly "how come I have to eat them but dad does not?" Also you might want to try things like Zucchini breads or things like mushroom and cheese ravaoli with pasta sauce, I know there are frozen ravolis in most stores. While hiding the veggies in your husband's food may work for now, you are eventually going to get tired of these foods as well, and will have to eventually face the real problem head on. So I say just grab the bull by the horns now and nip it in the bud. Otherwise you may wind up with a whole household of picky eaters.

Charity - posted on 09/19/2011

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I have the same problem, Husband doesn't eat vegetables and he is also picky about what he will eat (No beef or pork & very little sea food). I make a menu for the week and if I'm fixing something he doesn't like (which is quite often) he either writes in what he wants and I end up cooking 2 separate meals, or if he doesn't write anything down then he has to fend for himself.

Hayley - posted on 09/19/2011

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i would let him cook himself his meals, as im not one for messing about at meal times, bad enough i have 4 kids who can be picky let alone the hubby, if my hubby dont like what i cook i tell him to feed himself lol

Nicola - posted on 09/18/2011

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wow my husband would be so hungry i cook good healthy food if they don't want to eat it and this goes for the kids too now they are 6 and nearly 10 they can go hungry or make themselves something.

Dana - posted on 09/16/2011

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Yes! My kids and husband are all picky... Here are some great recipes that my kids and hubby like. (Especially the ones under the easy category)
www.realmomsrealdinners.blogspot.com

Khara - posted on 09/16/2011

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Oh my gosh doesn't it drive you nuts!! My husband is soooo picky and it makes me so mad if or when he starts complaining about it before the kids even try it because then it gives them the mindset that it won't be good... He doesn't like to try new things and he's totally picky..! Our 7 year old is already like that! & when you work so hard in the kitchen to provide a good meal the last thing you want to hear is everyone complaining!! lol Good Luck!

Carly - posted on 09/15/2011

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ugh girl i know how you feel! my bf grew up eating a certain way. i like to eat a lot of vegetables and all different things. he will only eat perdue chicken, he only likes green beans and corn. he doesn't like anything with chunks in it, hates mushrooms, onions, tomatoes, peppers, etc. he likes instant mashed potatoes(gross!) and velveetta or kraft mac n cheese(gross). i buy mainly organic/all natural foods and want to cook that way. but he prevents it.. its very frustrating. im slowly getting him to eat more all natural things. ive found with chicken you can do a lot. i buy jack daniels honey mustard sauce and cook that on the grill all the way while basting it or on the stove top firs tthen the oven. i've also done chicken franchaise, chicken and dumplings, i also take corn flakes and crush them and bake chicken with them, you can fry it like that but i try not to. i do a stuffed chicken with the same jack daniels honey mustard. i slice the chicken in half and mix whatever cheese i want , with the hm sauce, salt pepper and garlic and then stuff the chicken, pan fry it and then bake it. i make a lot of baked potatoes to try and get him away from the instant potatoes. i've also started using some stir fry sauces and doing that with chicken/pork and a brown rice....

Bethany - posted on 09/14/2011

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wow, what a pain for you. I'd approach it like when my daughter started solids. One food type at a time to test for reactions. Safest was potato and sweet potato. cooked and pureed and mixed through a familiar recipe in a small amount then more added once no reaction encountered. might help. One veg type at a time, avoiding the acidic ones like onion and tomato, etc. The digestive system is finely tuned, would take a while to slowly introduce a veg. type. slowly slowly, this is something built up over his whole life.

Julie - posted on 09/14/2011

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Make yummy casseroles and sprinkle veggies in them -

Make a good beefy soup and use a blnder to blend and puree the veggies and then add them as sort of a thickener -

Raechil - posted on 09/12/2011

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Good to know Im not the only one that it irritated. And thank you for the idea. We have a few nights a week where we just eat whatever we feel like fixiing but I dont like cooking for just myself cause I grew up with a relatively big family so I learne to cook large meals and havent really gotten the hang of smaller meals and we dont ever eat leftovers so its a waste of food really. But thank you very much.. I'll check that website out n see if anyone on there has the same problem lol

Raechil - posted on 09/12/2011

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Lol hambuger helper is noodles and seasoning that comes in a box and you add it to hambuger meat. lots of variety in flavors but i think weve at least tried all of em -.- lol

Robin - posted on 09/12/2011

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Hamburger helper is in a box in the isle with mac & cheese....My husband made me promise that I would never make it for him or our children :)

Robin - posted on 09/12/2011

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I have a friend who grinds up veggies and puts them in tomato sauce. She also grinds them up, adds breadcrumbs to them and puts that on chicken, bakes it and her kids and hubby eat it.... I'm a picky eater myself, but you can tell him that he has to at least TRY the veggie. I always tell my daughter, you can't say you don't like it if you've never tried it.

Sal - posted on 09/12/2011

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ok another question, what is hamburger helper??? sorry i am no use at all at totally vegi free meals, quiche maybe??? add a salad for you

Raechil - posted on 09/12/2011

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oh and yeah i think he can but wether he will idk. he eats watermelon but thats the closest ive ever seen him come to fruits...

Raechil - posted on 09/12/2011

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It isn't healthy for ANYONE not to eat vegetables, and that is essentially what you will be subjecting yourself and your children to.

May just be the wording but it sounds judgemental when your reading it.

But I also wasnt singling you out jodi. Ive tried to get him to see a doc but he's a grown man and i cant force him to. What I cook will adjust when my sons older and like i said i get mine through out the day.
but i was only asking for help with meals also not a lecture from people on how its not healthy...

Keri - posted on 09/12/2011

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I have to say both me and my husband are picky. My hubby's never been too keen on veggies, but he likes UNCOOKED carrots, corn (cob or kernal), and mashed potatoes. If you're looking to be sneaky about it, there are a lot of products - pasta sauces, Manwich, pastas (like chicken & veggie filled ravioli) that have a serving of vegetables in every serving of the item. He likely won't know he's eating it unless you tell him or he sees the packaging. Or, just do what my mom did when my husband started eating over when we were dating: you eat at least one serving-spoon size portion of the veggie or you don't get dessert or "dessert", but I wouldn't use the second kind against him this way.

Jodi - posted on 09/12/2011

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Raechil, sorry, where was I criticising? I was simply asking if he had seen a professional about this and suggested he should be seeing a dietician, and should also be properly tested for his intolerances.

Secondly, can he eat fruit?

Amanda - posted on 09/11/2011

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Have you tried to hide veggies in sauces. I hide a ton of veggies in spaghetti bolanaise and no one has any idea about the amount of veggies I have put in there

Kim - posted on 09/11/2011

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Just a suggestion - make all your meals with veggies on the side. That way you have them available to you and your child and your husband doesn't have to eat them.
I always make a meat, veggie & rice meal ... fried chicken, gravy, steamed green beans & rice, for example ... so we all can take what we want.
In our home we all love our veggies so it's not an issue - but some veggies my husband simply doesn't like, so I do occasionally make 2 different veggies so he has one he likes with our meals. My kids and I eat almost all veggies, so it's just a matter of pleasing him.
Also, unless he truly gets ill from the veggies, start sneaking them into other dishes ... zucchini bread is YUMMY - and unless you see it go in, you don't know there's a vegetable in the bread. It's almost like a banana bread. I have a friend who makes banana bread and adds zucchini to it, I have another friend who makes the most delicious chocolate cake, that you would never guess has zucchini in it ! There are so many ways to sneak things in ... like I said, unless it makes him truly ill, try it. Just don't Ever tell him. =)

I suggest all recipes (it's a website) to get more meal ideas. They have many simple dishes that make cooking seem easy ... I love to cook, lol, so all it does for me is make me want to cook more and more. We love their make-over morning glory muffins - yumm !

I wish you the best in finding recipes you'll all love and finding a way to feed your husband healthy foods he'll enjoy.

Raechil - posted on 09/11/2011

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lol right. like i said i never would have believed him if i hadnt seen it happen myself. and ty for the recipe.. that one sounds really good

Melinda - posted on 09/11/2011

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That's crazy that he CAN'T eat them. Think of how many men would love to be able to say that. LOL. I get a lot of recipes from food.com and actually I made a dinner tonight that doesn't have veggies. It calls for ground pork (I use lean ground beef), pinto beans, taco seasoning, enchilada sauce, cut up corn tortillas, and a little water. Brown the meat, then mix it all together and stick it in the oven for 40 minutes. Melt some cheese on top and voila. Very easy and yummy. We had veggies on the side.

My husband is also a very picky eater. Has to have meat, and doesn't like cheese or anything creamy. I just alter a lot of our recipes to suit him. What a pain.

Sarah - posted on 09/11/2011

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Try allrecipes.com. I love that website! I used to hate cooking, but now I enjoy looking up new recipes & trying out new things.

Raechil - posted on 09/11/2011

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I eat em during the day and my sons only 3 months old so its not like hes being neglected. i didnt ask for criticism. i asked for recipes.

not trying to be rude im just tired of being judged. its irritating.

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2011

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If he has an intolerance to them then perhaps he needs to see a professional about it. His intolerance because he never ate them doesn't make sense. My mum has a lot of food intolerances, but they don't develop because she never ate them. You need to find out WHAT he is intolerant too, because intolerance to ALL vegetables just seems bizarre. Maybe it is only certain common vegetables? And how is he getting his vitamins? Honestly, if he has such a critical intolerance to healthy foods, he really should see a dietician to ensure he can still maintain a healthy diet, or he is going to end up seriously ill.

I don't think you are going to be able to get away with not cooking two lots of meals. It isn't healthy for ANYONE not to eat vegetables, and that is essentially what you will be subjecting yourself and your children to. I can't see why you can't cook the same meat for everyone, just steam up some vegetables, and do a pasta or rice side for your husband (just for instance).

Raechil - posted on 09/11/2011

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Idr exactly what it is thats in em thats does it but its basically what makes them healthy for most ppl his system cant process as healthy since he never ate them. I dont really understand it myself.

I usully get stuck cooking basically hamburger helper type stuff i just dont do it outta the box. Or we eat out... Its really getting old.

Sal - posted on 09/11/2011

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i can honestly say i have never heard of anyone intollerant to all vegies,what exactly is his prob (and i'm not being nasty) what exactly does he eat...

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