Michelle - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )
I've been reading some of the conservations in the Communities sections and started thinking about a few things and wanted to know people's thoughts on stuff. O'kay it's a lot of questions. By the way, I don't mean to offend anyone. Everyone is unique in their situations and such. Obviously, I'm asking these questions for my own personal reasons.
One why do you think SaHM's feel so guilty for staying at home? Is it societal? Where we are only considered productive if we are making money. Do you not think you "work" to when you are a SaHm? Is it not the same thing if you were paying somebody to take care of your child?
When your spouse comes home does he do anything to help with the house and child/children? Or is it assumed since he was working outside the home he's done contributing to the family? When do you get off "work"?
If your spouse is working two or more jobs, why did you guys make the choice of him doing all the working outside the home? Is it again a societal thing where the man is the "bread winner" or is he kind of nervous/scared/whatever of being in charge of taking care the children and would rather be working outside the home? Or it's just easier?
Why is it assumed if you are a SaHM that you are in charge of the home and children meaning you do everything from cooking to whatever? Did you stay home to take care of the children? I guess what I'm trying to get at is when do you have time to "clean" the house and everything, besides the picking up after kids? Do you stay home all day in the house or do you go out and do activities? For instance, playing outside, parks, nature stuff, playdates, and other activities.
Also, for the moms with school age kids or about to be school age kids. Do you work full time? If you do is it a career type job or just a job? Do you work part-time? Do you volunteer? If you volunteer, is it with the hopes of it leading into a paying position of some sort?
Do you work from home? If you do how do you manage work and your children?
Any other thoughts?
I appreciate the time and thoughts you put in answering any of the questions. Again don't be offended. I'm not implying anything. I'm just very curious and have my own reasons for wondering.