let myself go

Elyse - posted on 11/13/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am a 24 year old mother of 2 boys (3 years/4 months). I have totally let myself go and was wondering if there was anyone out there who was having the same problem. I guess I feel the time and energy spent trying to look pretty isn't worth spending when I can be doing something more productive and the end result is puke all over your nice shirt, your shirt looking horrible after going up and down all day for breastfeeding and your hair pulled out by the baby. I normally don't get out of the house but to do grocery shopping, taking my 3 year old to preschool and going to the park or other outings, but when I do I don't pay attention to what I am wearing. I feel sorry for those who have to look at me, but at least I get a shower in! Part of the problem is my clothes don't fit and have no income to buy clothes. Is anyone in this situation or has been in this situation and has gotten out! and HOW!???

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Ali - posted on 11/14/2008

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A shower? I'm jealous. Sometimes I can't even squeeze that in. Just remember this time is short... they grow up so fast. Don't sweat the small stuff right now. Just enjoy your time with your kids, they won't be this little very long and they don't care what you're wearing, if your hair is a mess... or even if you stink. Eventually, you will have more time to care about your appearance, but don't worry about what others think. Most people understand and most people, quite honestly, are so focused on themselves that your appearance never even crosses their minds. I say let yourself go during this short and precious time with your kids. There's always time later for washing your hair, shaving your legs and smelling pretty!

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Keely - posted on 11/14/2008

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If you have a Goodwill, look for things that are 50% off, that day, its a different colored tag everyday. Also if you have an ARC they have 50% off clothing every sat and you can find ALOT of nice namebrand things there. Esp after christmas, prom, the wedding season ect. Try to do some floor exercises everyday, like stretching and leg lifts, ab crunches. This does not have to last long, only a 10-15 a day and maybe your kids would like to join in. Make it fun and see who can do the most jumping jacks or situps or can hold a stretch longest. You get into shape, they get exercise and have fun. I cut all my hair short so i dont have to worry too much about it. V neck shirts are great cause you can pull them down instead of up and are easy to find. I dont wear make up and i dont dress fashionably up to date. if you look a little haggard, its all part of being a mom. In the end it really doesnt matter as much what you wore but the time you spent with your kids. But it is important to take care of you so you can feel better. When you feel better, you are happier and its easier to cope with everything. I hope this helps, best of luck!

Amanda - posted on 11/14/2008

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Hello! There's no way in this world that I would claim to be "together." I hardly put make up on either unless I'm going out and I feel bad for my husband to have to look at me, but I do exercise for 30 minutes from 3 to 5 days a week. It's not that long of a time considering our job lasts for 24 hours!! Of course, I only have one child, 6 months old. I'm scared about having a toddler and a baby! How do you do it? Anyway, it's amazing the difference I feel about myself in doing just that much. I'm far from where I need to be, but closer to it since I started!! Try 15 minutes even!

Ali - posted on 11/14/2008

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Besides, your 24! You're SO young... you have so much time ahead of you. And because you're so young your body will bounce back. Again... I'm jealous!

Sarah - posted on 11/13/2008

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The only thing I can say is, make some time for yourself. I know that's hard when you have such a little one, but, I've found that I feel so much better about myself when I've done my hair and thrown on a little make-up...at least some foundation! Both of my boys love to watch me get ready. They love to watch me dry my hair...with it blowing all over the place, they think it's hysterical! As babies, I just but them in a bouncy seat next to me, and they sat and stared the whole time! As far as clothes, I've just set aside a few outfits that I only wear if I'm going out for something. That way, they don't get so gross and I'm not doing so much laundry. You just need to find some time for yourself, you're worth it! You're too young to feel this way already. And don't worry about your boys, they'll go with the flow.

Jennifer - posted on 11/13/2008

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Check your local Goodwill store for good deals. Get a bunch of girlfriends together and do a clothes swap. You would be amazed at how much better you feel when you take a moment to pull yourself together.

Megan - posted on 11/13/2008

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Completely understand. My wardrobe is sweats, yoga pants, and bug shirts. I don't feel like there's time for me to "pretty-up" and really, why waste the time?Don't feel bad about how you look. We're all in the same boat with and completely understand. I'm lucky if I shave! I'm not going to try and hand out advice because I don't follow it either but atleast you can feel like you're not alone.

Mitzi - posted on 11/13/2008

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One of the stores in my town gives me credit for clothes I turn in to sell. Then I can turn around and spend money on new clothes in their store! It is great for kids clothes too! You might check that out!

Karen - posted on 11/13/2008

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Boy do I hear you. In fact, I just booked our sitting for Christmas pictures and am thinking that I had best get out to get a new shirt as my latest purchase was a sweat pant suit...not really appropriate for pictures. I only get out of the house on grocery day (Sundays) as I have twin boys and also provide care to two kids four of the five week days. My best outfit at this time is anything that fits and doesn't have paint or food spots on it! I tell myself each week that this week will be different and that after all has been fed dinner, laundry is started, dishes are complete and the boys are in the tub, I will hed outside for some excercise. HA, each night I see all is complete and my jammies and comfy couch call out my name.



Sorry, I haven't got any suggestions to help but thought that perhaps you would find some peace in knowing that you are not alone on this one!!

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