Looking pretty again

Linda - posted on 11/30/2008 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I wonder how many stay-at-home-moms out there still make an effort each day to pretty themselves up - like, do their makeup, their hair, get dressed in the morning (vs staying in their PJs all day long, lol) even if they dont step out the house? It sure is hard for me to all this but I feel so much better once I have. Makes me *want* to take my kid outside and get some fresh air. I feel more motivated too but its a lot more work. Worth it?

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Ilissa - posted on 12/02/2008

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I don't feel human unless I've showered and gotten dressed. A lot of times I won't bother with makeup since I don't really leave the house. But I always feel so much better about myself when I do put makeup on, especially since I am still not happy with the way I look physically. I still have some of that much hated baby weight to lose.

Rachel - posted on 12/02/2008

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I think it's always harder to with the first one to get back to "normal". My husbands only request was no pj's. He didn't care what the house looked like, just no pj's when he got home. I think that request really helped me. Now we have 3 kids and it's so much easier to get through the day when I'm cleaned up. I hardly ever wear make-up, and am a ponytail girl too. The girls and I wear dresses or skirts 90% of the time, so people usually think we're really dressed up.



I totally agree with Chris, do what works for you!!

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Yup, I've stayed in my pajamas all day before. I'll admit it. Sometimes I take a shower during first nap and put on makeup. That's usually when I have to be somewhere during the day. Other times I'll stay in my pj's and get dressed just before my husband gets home. Ha! Usually I will take a shower, but let my hair air dry most of the way and no makeup. My husband likes me without makeup anyways. I will usually put on some comfy sweats if I don't need to go anywhere.



I do accomplish more when I take a shower and change my clothes. I think it helps my mental state and gets me energized for the day. I also like to have the house somewhat clean and myself clean when my husband gets home from work. I just try and picture how I would feel going to work all day and coming home to find him still in his pjs with a messy house. I would feel so much better if he was there to greet me looking halfway decent with a fairly clean house.

Heather - posted on 12/02/2008

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I think it's really interesting how many moms say they get more done when they take better care of their appearance. I wonder how true that is, statistically. I bet it's right on the money. If I'm up and dressed early for the day I do feel like I have more energy to turn to the tasks piling up in front of me. I wonder why that is?

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I pick out a day once a week to stay in jammies and not go anywhere. But the other days I find it's easier to get stuff done when you take shower, get dressed, at least basic make-up (can't wear mascara). House gets cleaner, kids are happier, husbands happier :-). & I keep moving.

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Wow, Jenna you're old school, getting pretty for your man LOL~! I'm spend 99% of my time in sweats or pjs, same with my hair and makeup.

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I very rarely stay in my pajamas all day. When I do I keep the kids in their pajamas too and we call it a pajama day. It's usually when I'm sick. I like to take care of myself. I take a shower every other day using a co-washing routine so that my hair is always manageable and soft to the touch. I shower after I drop my oldest at the bus stop while my younger two are watching cartoons. I always put Clark either in his jumper or in the bathtub (he can't get out) so that I know he's safe. I let my hair dry about 75% of the way then hit it with a blow dryer for a minute. My make-up is pretty basic but it looks nice. We just moved to a small town and I know I don't have to keep this up, but I've always done it for myself anyway, so I know I will. Before my husband comes in I try to take a moment to make sure there's no baby goo on me, I don't smell too bad, and my hair's down. My husband loves my hair and I like it when he gets that look in his eye. I suppose another reason I do it is because I'm the worship leader for our churches' youth ministry so I feel like I have to be approachable by the kids. My new hair cut has an "Emo" feel to it.

For the record, I LOVE to cook so I also do about 90% of our family cooking from scratch. This time of year I make a lot of soups, they're always easy, warm, and healthy. I also bake and have created some original cookie & cake recipes.

All that said, sometimes my house is less than spotless. I try to pick up the big things before my husband gets home, but I don't always. Frequently my laundry situation is a bit out of control. I've been using Flylady.net for years, without that help I'd never have figured out how to get all my activities into one day! And without my husband I'd go insane! He's always encouraging me, even when things turn out less than perfect. He's extremely helpful around the house and with the kids. I figure the least I can do is give him a pretty wife to come home to!

Hopi - posted on 12/01/2008

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Thanks for the recipe Heather. It doesn't sound hard-sort of like pie crust actually but with more flour. I will have to try it.

Nicole - posted on 11/30/2008

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I know what you mean I have two boys under three and there isn't much time for me anymore. love when hubby takes me out and i can actually take time in getting ready while he looks after the boys if only it happened more often.

Joanna - posted on 11/30/2008

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Ps... I definitely don't think there's ANYTHING wrong with hanging out in sweats all day. We moms are busy and if we can't get a shower in, it's for a good reason! We're taking care of kids, which is the most important thing in the world.

Joanna - posted on 11/30/2008

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I say, totally worth it!! I'm not a vain person at all, but I've found that if I spend all day in my jammies without a shower or makeup I get depressed. So, as soon as my little one goes down for a nap, the first thing I do (before laundry, before cleaning) is get in the shower and put some makeup on. It really helps SO much with getting things done around the house. Hubs loves me without makeup so I really just do it for me. Is it weird that I can't find motivation to clean or do stuff around the house without being dressed for the day??

Marcee - posted on 11/30/2008

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I take a shower everyday..I have to just to make myself feel normal. I may not put make up on everyday, but when I do put make up on, and do my hair, I feel much better about myself, and have the motivation to get out and do things!! Don't get me wrong I love to just wear my pj's all day, nothing uncomfortable about that, but I think I would loose some sanity not having a shower. I don't usually shower until just before lunch though. I always drive my oldest daughter to school in my pj's..so much easier!!!

Nicki - posted on 11/30/2008

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just to wanted to say my version of make-up is eyeliner and blush. trust me there are many days i have "choosen" not to shower cause there is something more important i need to do like sleep or eat!!

Ashley - posted on 11/30/2008

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I try to look pretty when I can. I feel better with myself when I actually look different. That being said, the only "makeup" i ever use is mascara or maybe a little eyeshadow. You do what you can. Audrey is only 7 weeks old so I might start staying in my pjs a little more often when she gets older.

Heather - posted on 11/30/2008

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Well, I tried to send it to you in a message, Hopi, so I wouldn't clutter up the thread, but your profile is private (good for you!) and so here it is :) I have a homemade refried bean recipe too. I make it from the soaked, dried beans because they're high in iron, protein, and they're CHEAP!!! ;)

Tortillas:

4 cups flour (I use at least some whole wheat. )
1 1/2 tsp. baking powder
1 1/2 tsp. salt (I use sea salt)
1/3 c. fat (shortening, butter, marg. I use smart balance spread)
1 1/4 cups water (add more a drop at a time if it's not enough. If too much, add a pinch of flour till it's right.)

In a large bowl combine the flour, salt and baking powder.

Next cut in the butter with a fork. (or, as I like to do, mix it in the food processor with a cup or so of the dry ingredients from the bowl and then pour it back in.)

When the flour is crumbly, add the water.

Stir the dough with your fork until it makes a cohesive ball of dough.

When the dough forms a ball, knead briefly (I count to 20 times). Then let it rest (the resting part is important for fluffiness.) in the bowl for about 10 minutes.

After it has rested, form it into balls.

Roll each ball in a little flour, to coat the outside of it evenly.

Place a ball of dough on a sheet of waxed paper, or a clean, well floured surface.

Roll the dough out into a a 6 or 7-inch circle. Try to get it as thin as you can.

Loosen the tortilla gently and flop it onto a dry, hot skillet. (I prefer a non stick griddle) Cook about 30 seconds, until the under side is dry.

Flip it and cook the other side the same way.

Transfer the cooked tortilla to a plate. Repeat.

Now, here's the trick. They aren't going to be quite as pliable as the store bought ones. To help with that you can use a plastic shopping bag. Just place the plate inside and every time you put in a finished tortilla, close the bag around it to capture the steam. Serve. Enjoy. They freeze really well, too! (another money saving tip.)

I'll add here that I got this recipe and adopted it for my own family's use from the website hillbillyhousewife.com so it's not technically mine, but I use it all the time! :)

Hopi - posted on 11/30/2008

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Thanks Heather :) Yes, the profile picture is my mom do. I have never really liked myself with short hair until this cut. I am now trying to grow it out again now (I think I have a better routine so can deal with the longer hair-it may also be because it is winter though).

I would love the tortilla recipe. I will at least try making them once. Is it hard to get them thin? Is it time consuming? Could I make a whole ton and then freeze them and have them be good? I just gave my daughter a bean and rice quesadilla for dinner the other day. She loved it but I would feel better about it if I had better tortillas that still taste as good.

Heather - posted on 11/30/2008

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For Hopi :)

Two things: First, if that pic of you in your profile is the mom 'do. . . Love it!! Not everyone can pull of a short cut and have it look like a preferred style instead of a mom haircut. I KNOW I can't! Nice.

Secondly, if you want the recipe, it's yours. :)

Hopi - posted on 11/30/2008

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I have a pretty basic routine for hair/make up etc. I try to make sure I get a shower and clean clothes every morning and do my hair etc., but since it is such a basic do it does not take more than a few minutes. I did get a mom chop when my daughter was about 2-3 months old to make it all easier and faster. I used to try to wait for a nap to shower, but now I tend to do it while she is awake and put her in her exersaucer or high chair in the bathroom with me.

I also like to cook our meals from scratch, but I don't make my own tortillas! I have no idea how to do that!

Dana - posted on 11/30/2008

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I'm a ponytail girl too, but when I do fix my hair I do what Nicki does. Run a flat iron through it and it looks good and you don't have to do anything besides brush it for a couple of days. Although there have been days I realize at the end of it I never even brushed my hair... :) I know I have really quit caring so much since having babies. Sometimes I look in the rearview mirror when I'm headed to town and think 'I never would have left the house like this 3 years ago...'

I'm impressed that you make so many things from scratch! I've been making homemade bread for a few months and there are always a lot of other things I PLAN on making...

Heather - posted on 11/30/2008

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Boy do I feel like a slob after reading your posts! I never was one for make up except on "date nights." Even so, I guess I have frumped down a lot since having my son. I never used to be a fashion plate, but I showered every day and put on a clean t shirt and jeans. Now, I'm lucky to get a shower before the afternoon time and sometimes I skip a day. I still dress in clean jeans and tshirts, but I don't usually do that until the afternoon either. I guess I *should* make more of an effort to look nice, but there's so much to do during nap time.

I cook almost everything we eat from scratch. I'd rather do that in my pjs I guess than get dressed in clean clothes and make a pot pie mess or cover myself in flour making homemade tortillas for bean burritos.

Hmmm. Perhaps I could try doing something nice with my hair and buy an apron. . . :) Sounds about right. Any ideas to pretty up my (medium length -- just below my shoulders) hair besides a french braid or my usual ponytail?

Dana - posted on 11/30/2008

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I don't usually bother most days, but when I do my husband seems amazed :) So maybe it is worth it, if not every day at least sometimes!

Nicki - posted on 11/30/2008

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i avoid the mirror... but seriously. i try to take ashower during first nap. then later in the day i starighten my hair so i dont have to wash it for a couple of days. then during second nap i apply make-up (if i feel like it) and like i said earlier i avoid the mirror. i forget that i dont have make-up on but i feel clean and my hair feels good so i feel like i look pretty. i wear nice sweats all day since i dont fit into my regular clothes yet

Seana - posted on 11/30/2008

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I know how you feel. Some days it is nice to stay in your pjs all day but I think that it is important to get dressed and do your make-up and go out every once in awhile. If nothing else, so that you can feel normal. I know after my daughter was born I had a hard time because I didn't feel like myself. When I put on real clothes (now that I can fit in them lol) and go out, I feel like a real person again and I tend to get more done around the house. I say, it's worth... most days : )

Chris - posted on 11/30/2008

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For me, a shower in the am is a must to get anything productive done with my day...however, I don't bother with the hair and make-up. But, I will go anywhere as long as I'm clean and in fresh clothes. So, we get out quite a bit.



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