Lori - posted on 11/19/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
I know kids lie. My question is...the kids are encourged to lie at their mother's house (to keep secrets from my husband's family.) So when they lie about stuff here, how do I help them understand that lying isn't good and telling the truth will be better?
For example, this summer the 2 yr old hit her 6 yr old sister, so I had the 2 yr old lay down in my bed and not play with her sisters. The 6 yr old came downstairs to tell me her sister got up and when she came to tell me, the sister ran back into my room, closed the door and got back in bed. So I go up there, and the 2 yr old is passed smooth out. So I ask if she really did come out and the 6 yr old kept saying and kept saying yes. So I say she isn't that good at lying or pretending to be asleep. She even lied to her father over the phone. Finally after an hour, she admitted that her sister didn't get up and she was lying because she was mad at her sister and knew I would get onto the sister for getting up. This is the kind of thing that is encouraged at the mother's house. What can I do to not be too hard on them yet still help them understand what they're doing is wrong?