Mom has seperation anxiety

Jill - posted on 12/30/2008 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is six months old.I am a single momand work from home.I love being with my baby he's very calm and happy,I even miss him when he sleeps!I have yet to leave him!I even have my more than capable Mom(who had 5 children) offer to watch him and I can't do it without feeling sick or experiencing anxiety.

I'll get ready to have dinner with friends and feel excited to get out...and I can never follow through....I always cancel...it never seems worth it.

Im 30 and my friends who have babies leave them overnight and really don't sweat it.Am I super crazy?Does anyone have advice for a Mom who can't leave her baby?

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Nicky - posted on 09/14/2012

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I feel exactly the same! My baby is just 5 months and i cannot bear the thought of leaving her. people keep saying you need to leave her and it really makes me feel even more anxious!

Kimberly - posted on 12/31/2008

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No, I don't think you're super crazy! I have 4 kids and I still don't really like to leave them overnight! I think you just need to take it slow. Go out for dinner only, the next time maybe go for dinner and another activity as well. It is important, especially for a single mom to have "me time". If you don't get into the habit of recharging your battery now it will only get harder and eventually your son will suffer. Don't let anyone make you think that you need to leave him for extended periods of time, they're the super crazy ones:)

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My baby just turned two and we've left her for a total of one hour. We did that after her 2nd birthday. My husband leaves her every day when he goes to work, but other than him taking her shopping a couple of times and the time we left her for that hour I've never been without her. You aren't crazy. Take baby steps. Leave your baby with someone that you truly trust and just do it for a few minutes at a time. Make a goal of fifteen minutes and increase it little by little. That's what I'm doing. I don't know when I'll go out without my baby by myself, but I left her for that hour one time and got through it. She didn't even miss me! Give yourself time. I would try to start now though because in a few months your baby is probably going to start experiencing the separation anxiety himself and you don't want to experience it together. It will be harder for you to leave. Look at it this way, you are fortunate that you don't have to leave him. If you feel good about where your life is right now there isn't any reason to change things.

Tasha - posted on 12/30/2008

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Hey don't worry almost every mom has that problem my son was a year old before i left him, and I have 2 other childeren. Here is somthing you can try, you can ask one of your friends that you trust to come over to your house without calling ahead this way its not planned then you go to your kitchen and see if there is somthing that you need from the store. Hopefully there is at least one thing that you need then you say to your friend that you have to run to the store ask them to sit with your son just long enuff for you to go to the store. if that works then your on your way to being able to go out for dinner with your friends.

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