My 12 month old loses it when I take a shower. Any suggestions?

Jaclyn - posted on 11/29/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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This has been going on for about 4 months. Every time I take a shower she cries and screams like she is in pain. She even starts gagging like she is making herself sick. I have tried baby proofing the cabinet and toilet so she can be in there with me and giving her toys and books to keep her occupied in there but she loses interest at soon as the water is on. I thought that just making her tough it out would make her adjust eventually but i'm losing hope. Any suggestions would be helpful.

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Cindy - posted on 12/02/2009

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I had the same problem with my son! I had to either have someone distract him (usually only on weekends) or not shower. Although he'd freak out if I tried to wash my hair under the faucet to. I learned to shower fast. LOL. But, what I did was play some music while I showered and I hung a clear shower surtain and kept talking or singing and reassuring him that mommy was ok.

Hollie - posted on 11/07/2011

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does she want in to?? my 12 month old loves the water and gets very upset if i get in without her. I usually just put a couple of toys in the bottom of the shower tray or bath and let her sit and play while i shower.

Nikki - posted on 12/01/2009

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Take a shower with your baby. Sit down and lower the shower head so the water is not coming from such a height. Then get the foam alphebet against the sides and see who can knock off the most letters with the spray. When the water runs cold could be the time to finish washing your hair and finish your shower lol

Kimberley - posted on 12/01/2009

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Bring her in with you what she is scared of she may find is not so scary after all.Make sure you have a nonslip mat or sit down in the tub.Be happy, positive explanatary or shower when she's sleeping.

Aimee - posted on 12/01/2009

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I had this issue for a short time with now now 13 month old son and I actually got to the point where I would stick him in the shower with me, or, take one in the evenings when daddy was home. Would either of these be an option?

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maybe you could turn it on and both of you throw balloons in from outside just to get some fun happy times with it or something like that...or crank the tunes!

Katy - posted on 12/02/2009

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i had a similiar issue. it seemed every time i tried to take a shower my daughter would wake up or scream. i transitioned my shower to before bed. it helps cut the time of getting ready in the morning.

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well do waht i do i take one when my 3 year old is in bed for the night and asleep.it helps just to get some alone time

Jill - posted on 12/02/2009

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Have you tried putting her in there with you? My sons loves showers, I have been putting him in there with me since he was 12 mo. I would put his baby bath in there so I could lay him down while i washed and i just focused the water away from him.

Myra - posted on 12/02/2009

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My daughter did that for the longest time, too. It seemed to me that there were only two options; 1. take a shower when she is asleep, or 2. someone needs to watch her when you get a shower. With my daughter, taking a shower when she was sleeping didn't work because the sound of the water woke her. But taking one when my husband is home and able to watch her works.

It will get better once she's a few months older, but a shower is very important, and can't be put off that long.

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Quoting Nikki:

Take a shower with your baby. Sit down and lower the shower head so the water is not coming from such a height. Then get the foam alphebet against the sides and see who can knock off the most letters with the spray. When the water runs cold could be the time to finish washing your hair and finish your shower lol



 





I didn't take showers with the boys, however I did put them in the bathroom with me and had the door cracked to ventilate. We played peek a boo n the humidity is good for clearing the head n sinus.



 

Jeanne - posted on 12/01/2009

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My daughter is 15 months. She isn't a fan either. It is also difficult to keep her contained. I usually jump in the shower when she is napping, in bed for the night, or when my husband is home from work. Hope it helps. Good luck!

Beth - posted on 12/01/2009

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What about having a shower while she's having a nap? When my 8 mo old was really little, that's what I did but now she sits in her bouncy thing by the open bathroom door while I shower. Have you tried keeping her just outside the bathroom where she can see you but she's not locked in the room with the water noise? I experienced the screaming at the water business when we were staying in a hotel once and my girl loves the water and the shower. I think it was the loud noise? I'm not sure it would work but you could try a jolly jumper in the door way or something like I do with a round toy table thing with a seat in it that I can carry around the house. It keeps her contained but she is amused and can be just outside the door. Hope this helps.

Sarah - posted on 11/30/2009

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Does she get up about the same time every morning? Would it work for you to take a shower before she gets up? I know you mentioned she is a light sleeper at nap, does she sleep harder at night? Or maybe taking one before you go to bed after she is asleep? I know what helped my kids stay asleep better when there were noises in the house is having a sound machine on playing white noise (or a fan). That would make a consistant noise in their room and drown out the other noises in the house.

Wendy - posted on 11/30/2009

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Can you take a bath instead? : ) Then you can still interact with her standing next to the bath.

Michelle - posted on 11/29/2009

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If you are showering and she can not see you, maybe she is scared. Try showing with the curtain or door cracked so she can see you. Sing songs while you shower and maybe that will comfort her a bit.

Remain calm and don't rush, she probably picks up on your anxiousness. talk to her in a smooth calm voice that mommy is almost done. Maybe reward her with a soothing bath after your shower.

Kerrianne - posted on 11/29/2009

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Is she reacting to the sound of the shower?
2 of my kids have sensory issues meaning certain sounds(among other things) can cause them to scream and cry.
My daughter used to be very upset by the separation of me in the shower or bathroom.I could not shut the bathroom door until she was about 3 years old.

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My 18 month old daughter watches Baby Einstein while I shower. Have you tried a video? (Just don't let her watch them all the time, too much tv is not good!)

Jaclyn - posted on 11/29/2009

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Thank you for the suggestion, Sarah. Unfortunately I have don't have anyone availible to watch her during that time. I have also tried to sneak one in during nap time but more often than not she wakes up from the noise of the shower. (She's a very light sleeper during nap.) These were very good suggestions thank you.

Sarah - posted on 11/29/2009

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Is there anyone that can watch her while your taking a shower? If there is then it is a good idea to have that person start playing with her and just slip out of the room unannounced. Make sure she has a full belly and a clean diaper too. If you don't have anyone to watch her maybe you could try taking a shower while she is napping.

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