My 2 year old refuses to talk. What should/can I do?

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Okay, so my sons' doctor has told me a million times that my son should be talking by now but he isn't and I can't seem to get him to either. What should I do to help my child start talking?

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Michelle - posted on 11/15/2011

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Obviously continue to encourage him to talk. When you talk to him then get down to his level so you are face to face and he can see what you're saying as well as hear you. However, I really wouldn't worry too much about it. He probably communicates quite well without talking so doesn't feel a need to. Unless he has a hearing problem, which would certainly affect his speech, then I think he will talk when he's good and ready to do so.

Carol - posted on 11/14/2011

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This is the most helpful!!! I am searching for my daughter. she is number 3 and will be 2 on Jan.1st. My first 2 girls were speaking full sentences before a year and my alost 2yr old just won't. i could tell her to go upstairs to her closet and get her longsleeved purple shirt and bring it back to me and she will do just that. She only says words of things that she really likes. "shoes, Barbie, baby, dog, ball, yummy, momy, daddy, juice, go, no, mine" She will also slur, "may I please be excused and thank you." She will not say milk, cup, please (alone), or anything that I think she should say. She is stubborn. I am losing my mind with this one. Oh yeah, she knows the letter "A" anywhere... ugh

Kristin - posted on 03/27/2010

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Read lots of picture books to him. Carry on conersations with him and allow time for him to respond. Just carry on even if he doesn't, the pressure could be what's holding him back. Maybe introduce some sign language to him, so at least then he's commuicating beyond pointing? Is he your first, mine was slow to really start talking. He really took off when I started getting him around other kids; library storytime, playground, art classes, and playgroups. Sometimes peer pressure is just the ticket. If he is your second, perhaps the older child is answering for him? I had to get my first to stop answering for his brother.

Speech therapy can definitely help, even if you only go to a few sessions. If nothing else, meet with a therapist to find out what you can do at home. Maybe that will be enough.

Good luck.

Gina - posted on 03/27/2010

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My son is 2 and 1/2 and he is having some of the same issues. He doesn't make sentences and he has a limited vocabulary. I've been working on flash cards with him and its helps some.

Jamie - posted on 03/27/2010

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Play the where's mommy's eyes where's Jr's nose where's teeth etc. this way he is right in your face and touching and hearing you again feeling your words like how he felt your vibrations and sounds in the womb...

Jamie - posted on 03/27/2010

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As long as your lil'guy doesn't any medical issues then introducing words and recognizing his and your effort eventually when he's ready he'll talk. We had same story with my grand son he was 3yrs old now turning 5 and all of a sudden one day blah blah blah.
There is also your local Community Centre, and Public Library that could have listings of free or minimal cost speech therapy clinics.
I still to this day place his fingers on my throat and lips so he can feel the vibrations and he is looking at me so he is seeing my mouth move and contract the words. My second daughter vibrated "I love you"at three weeks old my son was 2.5 when he spoke his first words" Mom my tisters are bugging me" he never did goo goo baa baa
Start with basics vibrations ;)

Monique - posted on 03/25/2010

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there shouldnt be a problem there at all my nephew is 18 months and he doesnt even try and talk, but the one day my boyfriend walked in the room and he all of a sudden said "hi tyler" you have to give them time they will come around

Magen - posted on 03/25/2010

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You cant rush him. My daughter is almost 3 and she finally started to actually "talk" at about 2 1/2 years. When she started it was almost like she knew how all along because her words were so clear. Its not that they dont know how at that time, I think its just they dont want to right now. He will do it eventually I promise. I let my daughter take her time and se finally did it just keep trying and eventually he will do it. :)

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

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Thank you so much for your reply. I have talked to my sons' Dr. and she suggested doing the speech therapy, but it did come with a price. I guess I will keep working with him the best I know how. I just feel helpless!

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have tried everything you have suggest with my son. When he wants his cup I hold the cup and say "say cup" and he will get mad and start crying. My mom told me that if he won't say the word "cup" then don't give him the cup until he says the word. I have tried that, he went almost all day without something to drink. His Dr. said there is nothing wrong with his hearing and to keep trying with him. I am so lost, I try every day to get him to say simple words like cup, toy, book, door, food, but he won't say any of those things. I also read to him, all he wants to do is flip the pages he could care less about the reading part.

Christy - posted on 03/25/2010

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My son is 2 years and 1 month old and still does not talk. He has a vocab of 5 words. My state has a government run program called Early Intervention. They come and asses your child and if he qualifies(having a 25% or greater delay for his age, which my son easily qualified ad sounds like yours will too.) they will provide free speech therapy at your home until the point where he is caught up to his age group. They also test for other delays to rule out any other problems. My son actually scored so high that he is classified as gifted and they believe that is why he is not talking yet because he has no real need to, he communicates in his own way and can understand everything being said around him so he can function at an above age group level as far as comprehension goes and we know exactly what he needs or wants or is trying to convey so he does not feel the need to verbalixe yet, The speech therapy is designed just to bring out the verbalization. Hope this helps, I don't know if the Early Intervention Program is a nationwide or just statewide, but it could not help to check out. You may need a referral from your pediatrician just to get you started.

Christy - posted on 03/25/2010

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My son is 2 years and 1 month old and still does not talk. He has a vocab of 5 words. My state has a government run program called Early Intervention. They come and asses your child and if he qualifies(having a 25% or greater delay for his age, which my son easily qualified ad sounds like yours will too.) they will provide free speech therapy at your home until the point where he is caught up to his age group. They also test for other delays to rule out any other problems. My son actually scored so high that he is classified as gifted and they believe that is why he is not talking yet because he has no real need to, he communicates in his own way and can understand everything being said around him so he can function at an above age group level as far as comprehension goes and we know exactly what he needs or wants or is trying to convey so he does not feel the need to verbalixe yet, The speech therapy is designed just to bring out the verbalization. Hope this helps, I don't know if the Early Intervention Program is a nationwide or just statewide, but it could not help to check out. You may need a referral from your pediatrician just to get you started.

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well for starters show him things and tell him what they are. If he wants a drink, don't just let him grunt and point, show him the glass/cup and say drink..do the same with other things. If he wants a toy make him say the toys name or at least try to say it. If he's gotten what he wants by grunting and pointing, he's going to keep doing it because he knows it works. Also reading to him can stimulate him to talk. My 8 1/2 month old says about 6 words now and is learning how to wave. I read to her all the time. She likes the pictures in the books and colors. It can really stimulate them. Other than that, maybe he's got a hearing loss and everything sounds like people are mumbling. Did the Dr check him out to make sure he's not hearing impaired? If not, I'd find a new doctor or ask that doctor to do his or her job and see if he's got a reason for not talking. You must make sure that he's not talking because he won't do it, not because he can't. If he's just not doing it because he won't, he'll come around, but mom needs to work with him to make him feel comfortable enough to do so. Good luck

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