Wendy - posted on 07/06/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
I have 8 children.They have overall gone through phases and like and what not.But my 8 yr old daughter wants nothing to do with girl stuff.She wont play with girl stuff ,but she is into all types of boy things.Football,baukuagan,wrestling,cars,etc...My question is my mother and I just had a horrible arguement she feels I am confusing my daughter letting her dress how she wants.She choses to wear long shorts boy shirts.I buy girl stuff she doesnt wear it.I buy boyish stuff she loves it.I recently bought my daughter a swim suit she wanted.I bough her a boy suit.It has a top and shorts almost surfer type if that helps describe it.My mother feels that my daughter is confused.But I have asked my daughter if she knows these are boys things she said yes!! I also asked "You do know you are a girl right?" She said I know I am comfortable in boy clothes.I said okay.So she is more than aware she is a girl.Am I doing wrong letting her dress like a boy how she feels comfotable? I also spoke to her and asked if kids have ever othered her she has said yes but it never has bothered her becasue she is comfotable and thats all. :) I know kids are cruel so I just want to make sure she understands but honestly how much does an 8 yr old understand about this?I have asked two counsleers if what I am doing is correct they stated let her express herself eventlually put a limit and boundaries but overall she is 8yrs old.She wanted her hair cut short we compremised and did a cute little bob ..still girlish but short how she wanted....Need some insight and need to know if otthers are have gone or are going through what I am going through......