Anika - posted on 08/07/2012 ( 77 moms have responded )
I have a new baby boy who is 5 days old. Since he was born, he has only been able to sleep/settle sleeping on me or my husband. I also have a 3 year old son who we suspect has ADD and I have just realised what a huge problem this has become, my newborn sleeping on me all day. Since he was born he has had to be held constantly, during the day and while we are all sleeping at night. I can't do a thing for my older son now and I'm very frightened and depressed because of this whole situation. I've tried putting my newborn in his bassinet over and over, but he just starts crying a few minutes after I put him in it. I have a nice sheepskin in his bassinet, over that one of my tops so he has my scent, and we put a hot water bottle down before he goes in so it's warm..but it's still not working. We have tried swaddling him a bit but he hates it..I don't know what to do.. I haven't been able to feed my older son, or eat anything myself, or do anything... I need to get him sleeping in his bassinet, at least for short periods of time. My older son didn't have too much problem with it, and would often sleep in his vibrating chair but my newborn doesn't even like this. Any advice on what to do? I'd really prefer not to let him cry but I'm open to any suggestions.
Just a note (based on recent comments): This isn't a new thread anymore..my son is now 9 weeks old, not 5 days. We found out he does have silent reflux & have had some improvement with medication but it is still not completely gone. We didn't let him cry, we have tried pretty much all the suggestions everyone had added here now. Unfortunately as I mentioned in the thread, any suggestions of spending even 10 minutes attending to baby, patting him etc isn't going to work because my 3 year old follows me round everywhere & wakes him up, and I basically don't have time for that as 3 yr old can't play. Our plan at the moment is to see paediatrician & try get reflux completely under control, we wear him in a wrap all day and still hold him at night. He can't stand bouncers, prams & car seats for more than 5 minutes. So not much improvement,but we found we were less stressed once we decided to just go with whatever was working, and try to keep in mind it won't always be like this. Life's hard, but all we can do is our best.
Btw, we did also remove the sheepskin (I read conflicting information on it, some say its safe, some not, but we decided to not take the risk). Also, this isn't a thread asking for advice on my 3 year old. My husband and I know he has ADD, so I don't need to have his issues invalidated by people who don't know him saying he's 'normal'. I'm his mother & know him best. You cannot understand it until you go through it.
Thanks for all the suggestions for my baby though :)