My spouse and I are having a debate and need some community input.

Anglstar457 - posted on 06/03/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

2

0

1

The Question is what should each persons responsibility's be in the home?

We have a 4yo Child together.
The husband works 40+ hours a week, while the wife is a Stay At Home Mom that babysits and helps with chores for people she knows on occasion.

Specifically what should each person be responsible for in taking care of the child and maintaining the Cleanliness of the home.

Please let us know where you are coming from in regards to your answer.

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Michelle - posted on 06/10/2017

4,052

8

3246

Carol, only Admin or mods can delete your comments and if they do it would be with a warning. I certainly haven't deleted your comment. You may not have actually posted it or there may have been a glitch with CoM. Either way, there was no need to flag the OP.
Michelle,
SAHM Admin.

6 Comments

View replies by

[deleted account]

it was in fact there because i had seen it a couple hours after i posted it. But thank you for your response.

Sarah - posted on 06/08/2017

141

0

4

Gee, the age old question.
The problem with sharing some chores is that he then puts the required items in the wrong space! They I can't find them!
To share chores you have to both (and children who are old enough) be clear on what to do, how to do it, where it all is.
There is also stuff that due to the fact he is bigger and stronger than me, he is physically better suited to do (he can reach the ceiling better than me.)
Cooking, he should at least know how to cook some meals.
Some things you should sometimes do together so you know both are doing the same thing.
When something annoys you because of what the other did, or didn't do, say it. Don't tell him off, say (example) it annoys me to find your socks on the floor, please put them...
"But it make the carpet much more colourful."
Above all - communicate.

Juni - posted on 06/06/2017

6

0

0

I believe that family is created by two people agreed to build a family together. Once they said I do, they were one not two anymore. Thus, responsibility around the house becomes their responsibility together, not individually. It also the same principle for raising children. Children need both dad and mom to nurture and discipline them. It is important for both parents to come into one agreement about what and how they discipline children. I hope you find a common ground together as husband and wife.

Michelle - posted on 06/04/2017

4,052

8

3246

It really is up to the individual family.
Basically, if someone sees something that needs to be done, do it. Like washing the dishes, hanging out laundry etc. Why does it have have to set things for each person? You are also both responsible for taking care of your child, it took both of you to create it so both of you should take care of it.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms