my youngest child which is 16 months old is not talking.She doesn't even say dada or mama.what to do

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Jeanell - posted on 01/09/2010

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Please don't panic. If your pediatrician does not seem to think there is a problem, there probably isn't.



Remember, Einstein did not speak until he was 5!

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Racheal - posted on 01/13/2010

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thank you everyone that has commented. I am glad to know im not alone. we are working on what we can do and will go from there

Kathleen - posted on 01/12/2010

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My 16 yr old started talking in complete sentences at the age of 2. We were coming home from vacation and her older sister (now 20) was sleeping. Emily just started talking. It was quite shocking. We also have three more who are 5, 3 , and 17 months. The 3 year old followed a similar pattern to the 16 year old. The 17 month old points and says jibberish, no real words except maybe "that" as he is pointing at something. Your child is just taking her own sweet time and will talk when she is ready...

Michele - posted on 01/12/2010

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This could be a sign of a speech or hearing problem, or maybe he's fine and just a late talker. He is still too young to be sure. I would say speak to the pediatrician about it at the next visit. A good pediatrician will ask you and look for signs. Then follow their advice. My child needed speech therapy and he did it through preschool and it helped a lot. Hang in there.

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my son was the same way. and they tested him and learned that he was actually excelling in other areas. so they told me not to worry, that he was learning other things and the words would come. And they did. Now he has been testing at genious levels. I would not worry to much.

Bonnie - posted on 01/11/2010

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My son is the youngest and about 16 months. He is the same way about pointing and grunting. When we try to teach him he laughs and points again. His only word is OTOH. By accident we heard it. His brothers treat him like a doll and I am trying to stop that. But they will learn.

Carrie - posted on 01/11/2010

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Since her hearing is good and the sign language us helping try humming songs that she like continuously then slowly add words here and there. slow but surely she will want to join you. before you know it you mite be catching her humming and singing along. I hope this helps you out!

User - posted on 01/10/2010

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You may need to seek help with your countys PPI ( pre primay impard) school. My oldest did not start talking untill I inlilsted there help. He was 2 and a half. Now he is 12 and all is right in the world with him.

Kerri - posted on 01/10/2010

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I know where you are coming from. My son is 4 now and still can not make complete sentences and most of the time you can understand what he is saying. I talked to his dr. and she sent us to a speech therapist. He has been going now for about 5 weeks and there is so much improvment. I forgot to mention that he has a lisp, but with speech it is almost gone. The only time you can hear or see the lisp is when he is excited about something. My son loves to go to speech. They play with toys and read books. Its seems to be alot of fun for him. If your child is on medicade they will pay for it if the speech delay is bad enough.

Natasha - posted on 01/10/2010

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i would take her to a speech therapist some kids a way later than others if she said words when she was a baby you shouldnt be worried

Stephanie - posted on 01/10/2010

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Like the other post said, it could be due to others talking for her. I use sign language for my son who has autism. Do you watch the "signing time" videos? They are great. He has learned to talk and sign together with them. Also if you call Easter Seals they can come out and do an evaluation. If they feel your child has a speech delay she can get in house therapy until she is 3. It is all free also. I agree every child is different and some talk later. However it wouldn't hurt to looking into the free services. It is not like they give them meds or anything. They just sit and play with them.

CARRIE - posted on 01/09/2010

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My niece is 20 months and only recently started saying a few words. When her Mom started to worry and asked her Pediatrician why her daughter wasn't talking he looked at her and asked how often does she walk around without her pacifier in her mouth. She said her daughter had it all the time. Her ped said well there is your problem she can't talk with something stuck in her mouth all the time! He was right when she started breaking her from it her daughter started to talk!

Danielle - posted on 01/09/2010

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I didn't read all the other responses. My son did not talk for the LONGEST time and now he won't shut up lol. People kept telling me he was delayed or autistic and that he needed a dr. He did end up needing tubes in his ears b/c of fluid and constant ear infections that lead to febrile seizures HOWEVER his neurologist said that there was a recent study proving that fluid in the ears has no impact on speech development. He did have slight hearing loss but the neurologist said that ultimately a child cannot be "behind" or "delayed" in their speech until they're school aged- if they don't catch up with their peers THEN you should be alarmed.

Sometime between 2.5 and 3 years old he started talking. He's almost 3.5 now and every day he has a new word. He's CONSTANTLY talking.
My advice is to consult your pedi for right now but not to worry about it too much as every child goes at their own pace and more often than not (as I've seen with kids I know) sometimes they aren't talking because they just don't feel like it and they're too interested in other things :)

Maggie - posted on 01/09/2010

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Well you did the hearing check, very good and if you've gone to your family doctor and they say its fine, then don't worry. I actually have a friend and her son didn't say anything he pointed, did the hugh ugh thing and he is 2 1/2 now and hes saying words and repeating. Just don't forget just because your child isn't talking doesn't mean you stop talking, keep conversations like "oh kayla wants a cookie, the cookie is yummy" just an example.

Cindy - posted on 01/09/2010

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My son was about 2 and we noticed he could only say a few words mama, Dada,and then we noticed that he could not stick his tongue out all the way. I talked to his doctor and come find out he was tongue tied and had to have the extra skin clipped. He is also in speech and one thing they thought me is when he would point at something and you know what she wants then say what the object is the first few times and then after that she has to start to say it and it don't have to be clear as long as she tries and that really helped. It wasn't long til he started trying to say things he wanted. I would talk to your doctor if you haven't already and maybe she can tell you some things too do to.

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My youngest was like that. He was almost 3 before he "found his voice" so to speak. He then started off with complete sentences and paragraphs. He is now 9 and has followed this pattern in pretty much every area. He is slow to pick up things, but not because he is slow, but because he watches and learns. Once he can do it well, he just does it. He didn't walk along furniture, he just one day started walking across the floor. He didn't learn to read slowly, he just started reading books. It seems to be his character to watch and learn then do. Yours could be the same. Don't rush. Just enjoy each stage.

Tina - posted on 01/09/2010

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I know exactly what your're goin through. My youngest son, who is 25 months old didnt start talking until very recently. He still doesnt talk alot but he does understand everything that is said. I also took my son and had his hearing tested and started teachin him sign language. The doctor told me not to worry about him not talking. He said that my son will talk when he has something to say. I wouldnt stress yourself out about it. Einstein didnt speak until he was 3 or 4 years.

Rachael - posted on 01/09/2010

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my youngest is 17 months and he, just now, started saying small things like ball, stuck, but he doesn't say much else. He, also just points. I talked to the doctor and all she said was just to keep saying one word, words to him. He will get it. Also, I guess that it doesn't help that I have 2 older boys (ages 4 and 7) who are always talking and it seems like he just sits there and takes it in. With that said, I wouldn't worry about him talking yet. Some kids take longer to talk than others and soon you won't be able to keep him quiet. lol

Tara - posted on 01/09/2010

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If you're worried I would talk to your pediatrician. You've said you had her hearing checked and it was good, so that's one thing you don't have to worry about. I've found some links that might give you some ideas on things you could try, they also show the speech milestones that are the basic guidelines:
http://www.babycenter.ca/toddler/develop...
http://www.babycenter.ca/toddler/develop...
http://www.babycenter.ca/toddler/develop...

I agree with some of the other moms that it may just be the way she is developing, or that it may be due to your older children talking for her. It may also be that she just doesn't want to talk right now - my mom said that when I was little I would wait until I was sure I could say a word properly before I would say it, and my youngest sister just blurted out anything she thought was a word, so it might just be how she is choosing to learn.

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My sister was three years old before making any attempt at speaking in adult sentences. She refused to talk, and only made grunting sounds and my Mum had to decipher what she wanted. She took her to a speech therapist once she started making an effort to do it (after much loss of privileges) as she had a few speech difficulties.
She was also my Mum's youngest child.

She's outspoken now, at nearly 18 years old. :)

Some kids just need time and a bit of patience and persistence to reach some milestones. Don't give up and try not to become frustrated; they need encouragement and positive vibes when they do something good. But I guess that's a given, so it really didn't need to be written, but did anyway :)

Good luck, and hope you reminisce when she does start to talk (and talk and talk...) the days where she didn't and you were worried! lol

Theresa - posted on 01/08/2010

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most communities have early intervention programs and most of them are free, my 14 yr old was born they thought he had a stroke inside me said he had right sided semi hemiparesis and would never ride a bike or any of that stuff he had speech therapy along with therapy for his legs my mom took care of him while i worked and worked his legs and arms everyday he rides a bike,plays football, basketball etc you just have to be a good advocate for your child do not give up she will be fine then you will wish she did not talk cause she wont shut up lol

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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I have had cousins that did that. They would point and make a noise when they wanted something...we just kept telling them what the object was...now you can't get them to be quiet. They were both about 3 or 4 when they started talking.

Susan - posted on 01/07/2010

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my son didn't say mom or daddy until 24 months. he's 3 and 1/2 and still doesn't talk much.
at 16 months my son pointed or grunted to get his point across. My pediatrician told me kids take their own time and not to worry about it until 3-4 years, and even then he would need to be assessed. Though he isn't talking much now, he is starting to talk more and more.
talk to your doctor.

Bethany - posted on 01/07/2010

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I had the same things with my middle son. He was diagnosed with Verbal Apraxia when he was 22 months old. He didn't say any words and only made odd vowel sounds. Using sign language is what kept us from major frustration. Our family practice physician reffered us to Child & Family Connections (in IL they have similar organizations in other states-like First Steps in MO). Child & Family did evaluations and then reffered us to a Speech-Language Pathologist. (It was all free of charge.) He has made AMAZING progress. He is almost 4 now and sees the SLP at the public school. Most people don't even realize that he had a delay. Good luck with finding out what the delay is with your little one!

Angela - posted on 01/07/2010

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Thanks Stacey for that post. I feel better hearing that. I was a little worried. We do exactly what you say to do already. I know it takes time.

Stacey - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter just started talking at 30 months!!! She started saying mama and dada when she was 24 months... she had a major speech delay... but, the doctor and therapist kept telling us to point at pictures in books and every day objects. Every time you do anything try and point and tell them what it is... say the word at least 3 times each! (i.e. Point at their cup and say "Do you want a drink?", then say "This is your drink!", then say "Your drink is water".) Repetition is the key! Now my daughter is speaking clearly and putting together sentences... she just all of a sudden started doing this over Christmas! The therapist also told us our daughter was behind in speech, but was really advanced with her Gross Motor Skills... and sometimes - babies work on motor skills before language... then, they switch to working on language later... and they usually don't do both at the same time. Each child is different in how they develop - so, comparing isn't really good. I bet you find out to be surprised your daughter can do something - other kids her age can't! So, just be patient! She will talk when the time is right!

Carrie - posted on 01/07/2010

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try to make her at least say please ,thanks, the manner words , then go from there ....

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if your worried call her ped, ive read that if a child does not utter a word by 2 then thats when you should start getting a little worried she just might be one of those toddlers who is going to wake up one day an be talking paragraphs, my little cousin was like that he used to point an scream at the top of his lungs till he got what he wanted an then one day it all came toi him an he just started talking

Angela - posted on 01/07/2010

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my youngest is 19 months & doesn't talk either. he just started saying mama. he says other things but i am the only one that knows what he is saying. so i guess that doesn't count. my oldest talks for him. if we ask him to do something or go get something he knows exactly what we say. he points to what he wants & gets what he wants but he just wont say the words. the doctor is not worried about him. he says he will talk we just need to keep working with him.

Michelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son did that, and we also talked for him. Try looking into speech threapy, Its has helped my son out, we are still working on it. The sign language is great, it helps the child so they don't get to fustrated.

Stella - posted on 01/07/2010

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If you have talked to the doctor and they say the baby is fine then don't worry my husband has a friend who did not talk until he was 4 and he is fine

Racheal - posted on 01/07/2010

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my youngest do not talk. she uses no words. she will point or go get what she is wanting but won't say it. I started teaching her sign language and that is helping I have had her hearing check and it is good. Any suggestion what to do now

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