Need advice!

Ashlea - posted on 10/25/2012

Dont pressure him to poop. My son did the same thing. He would pee in the toilet all the time but refused to poop. I decided not to stress. I put him a pull-up to poop then i would take off the pull up till he needed to poop again. I never told him that i was puting on the pull-up so he can poop in it. I kept that to myself.

So after i changed him i would calmly remind him that poop belongs in the toilet. My exact word were "Where do we pee?" he would say "In the toilet." then i would say "Where do we poop?" he would say "In the toilet." Eventually he got it and decided on his own to poop in the toilet one day.

Ashley - posted on 08/01/2010

Have you tried candy? I dont ever give my son any type of sweets so when we started potty training it took 3 days with the treat system. One m&m for pee and a marshmallow for poop. If not, hes just not ready. Unfortunately you have to be on their schedule. there is a book just google 3 day potty training. you could try it. if it doesnt work you can send it back. What have you got to lose?

Jennifer - posted on 07/31/2010

I have 4 children, ages 19,16,7 and 5, 2 boys and 2 girls. I stressed myself out with the first 2 about potty training and "fought" it out with them to make it happen when I thought it should. With my last two I was older, wiser, and much less uptight. Relax. I will tell you what my pediatrician said to me on the subject...He said..."I have never seen someone walk across the stage to accept their diploma wearing a diaper or sucking their thumb." Be patient, keep taking him to the toilet, but relax. He will do it when he is ready. And don't forget to get rid of the diapers for daytime use.

Deanna - posted on 07/31/2010

wait him out. take the pull ups away and wait him out. Once he goes without a diaper on it will start to make it easier to adjust.

Fatima - posted on 07/30/2010

That happened to me too. What I did that I made my daughter wear the diaper and then made her sit on the pot for few days and she got comfortable with the idea and then she just started to do it in the pot....

Kelly - posted on 07/30/2010

We had a potty song we sang for peeing and for pooping. "When I poopy in the potty I am big, when I poopy in the potty I am big, I am big when I poopy in the potty like my mommy (sister, brother, whatever), when I poopy in the potty I am big!" Potty training is so frustrating! But he will get it eventually, just be patient. I am sure that forcing the issue works for some, but I never had the heart to do it. I would take his poopy diaper into the bathroom and put the poopy into the potty for him to see that it should go there, just like peepee does. And let him come into the bathroom with you (or hubby) and show him that is where you put it (sorry to be gross, but whatever works, right?) HAHA, good luck to you, this too shall pass!!

Nicole - posted on 07/30/2010

I let my daughter get the pull up. I did not think it was a battle worth fighting. HE is obviously not ready. We would put the poop in the toilet after. This lasted for a while. I do not see any kindergarteners pooping in pullups. Good luck!

Sherry - posted on 07/30/2010

What is it with pooping that they hate so much??!! LOL! Try singing a song, letting him know he will get a reward, and make sure to Praise, praise, praise. And, I know this may sound weird, but maybe you should let him see you or daddy go poop on the potty... just so he knows it's a normal thing everyone does. It takes a lot of convincing & patience baby girl, but hang in there... it's so worth it in the end. ; )

Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2010

When I took the second shot at potty training my son I said good bye to the diaper and went straight to underwear...it was a hard two or three weeks with washing poop out of the underwear but he got the point and used the potty no problem...maybe try the underwear-he probably won't like the poop on his bottom in them!

Darlene - posted on 07/29/2010

Well, I only have girls, but believe if you look at things from his perspective, it seems he just wants to be in control of this situation and poop in the diaper. I say the less of a deal is made of it the sooner he will outgrow it. Go with the flow more or less and make him "right" for his choice. Maybe in a week or so, try the potty again.

Katherine Leslie - posted on 07/29/2010

my son did that for a while and I got to the point this is it. I told him no more cookies, candy, ice cream. cake, and anything that was sweet. Then he still didn't do it for about a month, but what got him was my hubby and I started to giver ourselves one when we went poop on the potty (toilet) and that really did him in saying it wasn't fair to him not to get one. I said well then poop on the potty. so that took care of it for us. then after little brother was about 6 months and we found out we were pg again, he started to pee in his pants at home all day long. so we are now back to the same trick. I don't know of another way, because when we were training my neice it was easy she just did it. Oh yeah we made it a game with her about peeing and pooping. with my son we just praised him a lot for being a big boy.. It is working and he is doing better he even wants us to get little brother a little baby potty.... LOL

Julie - posted on 07/29/2010

I concur my 3 yr old daughter was doing that in the begining where she would not poop on the potty instead she would go in her underware i would put pull up on her but than she just did it one day on her own and we made a game out of it i told her silly poopy and she just laugh. He'll get there.

Bonnie - posted on 07/29/2010

If he does it in his pants, just take him into the bathroom and have him put it in the potty, flush, bye bye, wash hands...Eventually he will see it is better just to do it in the potty, and notice that he will feel better without it on his bottom. Buy some of those trainer pants. Only use those, and make sure to buy a mattress protector for the bed. Put up a chart that he can choose and place stickers on to show his success. When he earns so many stickers, he gets a nice treat. A toy, book, movie, eat out, whatever...
Boys do take longer than girls. My eldest reverted twice, and my youngest wanted the big boy toilet over the potty, with some assistance, and potty trained pretty quickly. Good luck.

Candi - posted on 07/29/2010

give him a picture book to look at while on the potty or a hand held video game. It will help him relax and take his mind off of pooping. My daughter loved to poop in the potty but she hated to pee b/c it would shoot under the seat and wet her pants! He will get the hang of it. Just give him time and help him ease into it. If he feels pressured, it will just make this transition harder on the both of you

Dawn - posted on 07/29/2010

my daughter did that i took her to her dr and he gave her something to help her go so that she could not hold it and finally she went on the potty he told me to time it to give it to her a couple of times till i could time the right time that it would hit her and finally she went in the potty and it didnt hurt that might be why he wont go it might be too big for him to pass and so he holds it try speaking to your dr about it .

Sarah - posted on 07/29/2010

my daughter lucy has just gone 2 last mth an havstarted potty trainin her and she did her first poo in her potty yesterday she was holdin on for ages an eventually she went an did it herself, she has no problems goin potty now, u got to keep at him keep askin him does he need potty eventally he will learn xxx good luck

Kristin - posted on 07/29/2010

I think I'm the odd Mom out here. My kids have all pooped on the potty first. Go figure.
Maybe there's a fear issue with your son. I'd say give it time. Forcing it may backfire. Forget about the poop for now and come back to it again in a little while.
Bets of luck!

Alice - posted on 07/29/2010

maybe he is scared that he will fall in, my grandmother gave me a toilet seat that u can fold up it fits perfectly on the toilet seat but its perfect for their little bottoms doesnt feel so big for them, but yes brib them that always works!!! good luck!!

Christina - posted on 07/28/2010

I worked at a day care for a while and this was a big issue with most kids... we bribed them, if you poop in the potty you get a sucker at snack.... and it was a big deal. Some kids werent so impressed with the sucker and some parents would get a toy a car or barbie and we would put it on a shelf in the bathroom and the kids would see it everytime they pooped in the potty and when they wanted it bad enough they did it. some kids the parents wouldnt bring diapers or pull ups and the kids were afraid to poop in under wear and would go in the potty
good luck no matter what you try and know that it will happen eventually

Katie - posted on 07/28/2010

Remeber boys do not do things as soon as girls do. My son was 3 before he started going pee on the potty and almost 4 before he would poop on the potty. What I found that finally worked for me was buying him underwear like daddy's. My hussband wears boxer briefs, we tried the regular cute little underoos but he still insisted on going in his pants. As soon as I bought him the little boxer briefs herefused to go in his pants and would have a fit if he did have an accident. Patience though. That is the best advice I was ever given.

Gemma - posted on 07/28/2010

My daughter was the sae, we had the potty in the bathroom and kept trying to get her to poop in the potty but it wasnt hppening if you think your son is having a poop in his nappy, take him to the bathroom and put the poop into the potty or toilet to show thats where it goes, you could also try a toddler toilet seat on the toilet, and make a big deal about him being a big boy and pooping in the big toilet like mummy/daddy/siblings etc.Do what u feel is right, i personally wouldnt humiliate him by letting him poop himself. Hope that helps!

Marilis - posted on 07/27/2010

awe poor thing, best advice i could give u is throw the pull ups away. let him know he doesnt have any. he eventually will go. My daughter holded it all day. she was almost two and i told her straight out if u poop in ur panties ur cleaning it. She looked at me like *omg* big eyes ran to the toilet at full speed, she forgot that i had to wipe her she was so excited she had gotten up and wipped the toilet sit with poop.. she was so disgusted lol she was horrified. shes going to be 6 and still wont wipe her self bc she says its just gross. LOL stand ur ground let him figure it out oh his own, no pull ups tho :) good luck

Marsha - posted on 07/27/2010

if he doesn't want to poop in the toliet then don't force him to; in my opinion making him doing something he doesn't want to do will make him just hold his poop more and that defeats the whole purpose of toliet training. when he is ready he will..keep encouraging him to poop and pee in the toliet and he will have more successes as time goes on.

Sharon - posted on 07/27/2010

I had the same problem with my son & daughter. Trying to get them to do poo int the toilet/potty was a big deal for them. But I had to be a horrible mum, put my foot down, made them sit on the toilet when I know they had to do a poo, I don't let them get off the toilet until they have done it. They will be sitting on the toilet screaming, crying & shaking, but you have to be tough to get the job done. Once they have finished doing their poo in the toilet once, they will feel better, & encourage them, let them know there is nothing to be scare of doing a poo in the toilet/potty, & reward them afterwards. Try it, & good luck!

Jessica - posted on 07/27/2010

maybe try sitting him on the potty backwards, so that he is strattling the tank of the toilet? i know that probably sounds crazy to some people, but i know it has worked for most kids. they can watch what they are doing, and for some odd reason seem to enoy watching themselves potty. thats how my mom potty trained all of us kids. my little brother used to strip down naked in the walmart bathroom in order to sit backwards lol. (wouldnt have been as bad if he knew how to put them back on!) but other than that i have no clue, cuz i have never personally had to potty train just yet...

Lindie - posted on 07/27/2010

apparently this quite common. Try showing him his poop when he has done it is his nappy and explaining to him what it is. I have read that kids don't like to poo because they think they are loosing a physical part of themselves, or go for Carisa's strategy or both?

Carisa - posted on 07/27/2010

We had a hard time getting my daughter to poop on the potty too. She would only go if we put a diaper on her. I know this sounds horrible, but I finally just refused to let her put on a diaper. She held it in for about 4 days, and then pooped in her underwear at nap time. She was horrified and started going on the potty after that. We also had a talk about the importance of pooping every day.