New SAHM tips needed

Aquila - posted on 11/07/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi... I have 5 month old twins and am a SAHM... did any of you find that at times you would be depressed? I LOVE being with my kids but there are times when I feel depressed and alone like I'm in my own little bubble... Has anyone else felt that way and if so what did you do to get out of that?

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Kristina - posted on 11/07/2008

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I DID!!! ME! ME! ME! I joined a stay-at-home moms group in my church. You could start one if you don't have one. I get dressed, make up and shoes EVERY day! This helps a ton! Even if I have to get up 1 hour before my girls to do it, it makes a world of difference to me! Also I have gotten on a schedule for cleaning the house via FLYlady.net an awesome website! I also send my older daughter to a mother's day out program. I can meet friends for lunch or just enjoy some quiet time at home with the baby. These are the tips that have helped me a ton. Now I feel like I can do anything! Hope this helps, keep me posted! Try FLYlady, it has helped me a TON! Kris mother of 2 and SAHM for 6 mo.

Melissa - posted on 11/07/2008

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Yes, you ar not alone. My husband is starting to realize that it is straining me, so he has told me to get a sitter, and we are having a date night. He works two jobs and only gets a night off once a month. So you can see what a dilema it is for me getting a break, I have only just started trying to FIND a good sitter. He wants me to hire a sitter more often for myself so I can go out with the "girls" or get my hair done, or whatever. You do need a break once in a while. Otherwise you will feel like an ankle biter puppy jumping through hoops to talk to an adult (main target husband) and sometimes even snapping at you hubby for no good reason other than you need a break. Just simply joining a MOPS group in you church (mother's of pre-schoolers) will help to break up your week a bit, and you will get to talk to other adult women expieriencing the same things, or who have also been through it too. Good luck!

Christie - posted on 11/07/2008

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It's very hard to become a new stay at home mom. Even though I enjoy being home it is hard not to have the people you work with and others out in the real world to talk to. I took my kids to Gymboree and met some great moms there and also was able to have some fun activities with the kids. Also, try to find a place to be away from the kids I also did a Bible study which was a great time to be with other moms and know your kids are well taken care of.

Aquila - posted on 11/07/2008

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Thank you Geneva... I am already a member of a Moms of Multiples club but unfortunately there aren't any kids that are the same age as mine...I actually was on anti-depressants for a little while after the kids were born and it did help but I am no longer on them.. unfortunately my husband is working all the time so I can't even tell him I need a break..I do tell my mom but there is but so much that she can do..However I think you are right about getting out of the house more.. Currently I put the kids to bed and my husband watches them when he gets home ( in case they wake up) so i can go to the gym..

Geneva - posted on 11/07/2008

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I think that all of us have been there at one point of time or another. I have been a SAHM for 11 years. I first want to ask is it possible that you might have the baby blue or post partum depression. I have suffered from it with all 4 girls. I have found it very helpful to talk to my OB/GYN and get on anti-depressant. It has made a complete turn around in my life. Second, I got involved with a bible study at church on Tuesday mornings that took me around other women who were also SAHMs. Third, I learned to ask for help. I learned to tell my husband I need a break. I learned to take anyone that I trusted up on their offers to watch the kids for me, I have now started a girls night. Once a month several ladies from church and I get together and go out for dinner. We are not allowed to bring any children and have to shut off our cell phones. The dinner is usually 2 hours and then some of us go home or some of us stay out late and go to the movies. I will be praying for you. I know that it is hard to only talk to babies all day long. There are several goups out there that do not cost to join. Look into MOPS(mother of preschoolers) They do not charge and will help you to get out of the house and around other women.

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