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Rhonda - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 57 moms have responded )

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I have been a SAHM for 3 years. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. I do absolutely everything around here. He wont so much as take the trash out and dares me to ask him too! I do the house work, yard work and everything in between. That doesnt really bother me, what bothers me is him flat out saying that I dont do anything just because I dont have a job. He thinks that just because I dont have a "real" job that I must not do anything. It actually makes me cry when he says such things because I know that without me, our family would not run as smoothly as it does.

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Miranda - posted on 03/30/2012

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Stop doing eveything for a week. Then say "what you told me I never do anything so I decided not to." It is similar to what Dr. Kevin Leman says in his book Have a New Husband by Friday.

Beth - posted on 03/30/2012

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My husband is like this a lot too. I think they don't realize exactly how much it is that we do, that they don't notice or that they think doesn't matter. I think with my husband, he feels like because he is bringing in all the money, that his only duty is to go to work. When he gets home, he's "off". They don't understand that the household has to be a partnership, both of you doing your duty. Some days to him that might feel like he's doing "extra", but what do they think it would be like if we worked too? Sorry, I don't have much advice for you, I can just relate.

America3437 - posted on 03/30/2012

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So just stop doing it all and let him see exactly how much you do!

Happy - posted on 03/30/2012

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Then, I would be changing the locks. I can be a better single Mom without some man-crap at my house then with it. But, you have to decide what YOU are willing to live with and are not willing to live with. There is now ay in HELL that I would let a man treat me that way, period.

Rhonda - posted on 03/30/2012

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He lost his job here while back and I went to work, he took the kids to my aunts while I was at work!!

Bonnie - posted on 03/30/2012

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He needs to have at least a day in your shoes. They don't know what it is like until they have to do it. A SAHM's list of chores never ends and you are right, the family probably would not run as smoothly as it does without you being there to take care of it.

Happy - posted on 03/29/2012

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My husband, when we first married and had little ones would say similar things. Then I went out of town for a week and left him with the kids. He has never said anything again. May not be possible for you but sometimes men just don't see things unless they live it. You have to decide though what are you deal breakers. After a while, I would change the locks while he is at work, but that's just me.

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