Amanda - posted on 08/24/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a 2 1/2 yr old and a 1 1/2 yr old who constantly fight and never take what i say seriously. I tell them to stop fighting and pop their butt but they just continue on (half the time) like i am not even there. And to top that off, i never have "me time". My husband doesn't get home from work until 10:30 at night, so i have the kids all day by myself, 24/7. we don't get babysitters at all. Last time we had a babysitter was while i was in the hospital having my son (the 1 1/2 yr old), It causes us to fight, because we dont get that alone time that we need. I am constantly in a bad mood because i dont get my alone time that i need and nobody will help!! I've tried talking to my family and his but i always get told no. It's not that my kids are so bad nobody will watch them, when they are at a family members house they are fine, they might fight a little but not near as bad as they do at home. My grandma tells me that when she had my mom and aunt she didn't have a babysitter either, they stayed with her all the time and when they would go somewhere the kids would go to. So that's pretty much her telling me that No she won't watch my kids because nobody watched hers. It's like nobody understands! I"m not trying to "put my kids off on ppl" i'm just trying to get an hour or two to myself. Does that make me a bad mom? It might sound to some ppl that i'm trying to get rid of my kids, but that's not it, i love my kids more than anything in this world, i'm just trying to get some alone time to save my sanity so i can start being a little happier. I've tried going into a room by myself for a few minutes to take a breather, but the kids follow me EVERYWHERE i go. And that's no lie, i can't go to the bathroom alone, when i take a shower they beat and bang on the door,when their daddy is right in the next room.
I have no idea what to do!!! Please help me!! Any advice will be highly appreciated!! And thank you for taking the time to read this!