Holly Janelle - posted on 05/25/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I'm so angry and sad I just don't know what to do. I have a SO of almost 2-1/2 years. He has an 11 yo son that I have been taking VERY good care of I take care of everything under the sun when it pertains to taking care of my SS. Before me, my SO was with a girl that was a school teacher but just didn't know how to handle him (because he is a very head strong difficult kid), and the fact that he had a kid by someone else(and I kind of feel the same way). The next was a complete b...you know what and told everyone that he still peed the bed and was just really mean just a good for nothing(he married her btw I guess to stop fighting he says and they split up not even a year later). Before I came along my SS was being taken care of by his grandfather who has lived with my SO and SS since the ending of the first major relationship with the school teacher and he let him sleep in his soiled sheets and everything his clothes everything smelled like urine! I have taken the reins around here and so that isn't the case anymore. I take care of everything(I'm 24 btw he is 31) no one has to lift a finger.I take are of every aspect of this house and do a damn good job excuse my language, but my SO other acts like when we get into arguments about what I do and how I get no aknowledgement he says it would be done if you weren't here because his dad lives here But since I moved here his dad doesn't do anything doesn't have a job and doesn't do anything except mow the lawn even though he is a nice guy but needs to get out on his own seriously he is just comfortable because my SO doesn't push him to get a job or anything. And he says that even though his dad is half ass at everything he does, I promise you he would miss me! anyways sorry I keep jabbering on but anyways he told me because we fight and argue (because of him and his ways that he won't change) that he is starting not give give a crap anymore and when I told him my ex e-mailed my brother asking about me my SO said he didn't even care he said I could go to him and he wouldn't get jealous or mad and told me I do an OK job at taking care of his son ya he had the freaking nerve to say that. I take better care of my SS than his own flaky mother who doesn't have custody and is jut there when she feels like it. So anyways I quit laying out his clothes for him before work and after his shower in the bathroom when he gets home so his heiness doesn't get cold, quit having his tea ready when he gets home from work and quit making his dinner plate I still make dinner though because everyone has to eat!...the list goes on I made everything really easy for him where he didn't have to do anything when he got home and just relax but im done making it easyfor him if he isnt going to appreciate it. He acted like it was so damn hard to show me he appreciated what I do. Since I have come in this house it has changed for the better No question. My SS used to get into trouble ALL THE TIME at school but now it's very rare but he won't let me take any credit for that even though I have created structure and stability in his sons life. Last night in bed he said "I have a 3 day weekend" and I said "uh huh" and he said "I guess That's good for me and bad for you" I just kept quiet why should I make him feel better when I couldn't give a crap right now he made me feel like dirt?? At least he can tell that I sick and tired! I deal with all of the above and my father in law living with us, and a best friend that comes over to our house almost every single day that he spends more time with than me(idont care right now but before) and this has been goong onfor at least a year straight he has known this guy since high school inmean isnt it family time?? come on! I'm so close to wanting to get out I have looked at apartments and I know the one I want but I'm waiting on this job and if I get it I have some serious serious thinking to do and I $175 deposit to get ready to put down. I'm angry and sad and annoyed but I think the only thing stopping me us our 14 month old beautiful daughter we have together. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me she is my life I know if we broke it off she would be my main priority not another man but I have a strong feeling his would be finding another girl to fill that void. My daughter and her happiness is all that matters to me at this point and it wouldn't change if we broke up I would actually enjoy it being just my little love bug and I.
So after reading this what is your outside opinion I need all the help I can get! Thanks you yalls time :)