please I need answers , I am very concerned!

Lamiae - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 71 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 9 months old. the problem that I am currently having with her is that she refuses to change her diaper in any of those changing stations found in the public bathrooms. Once she sees me pulling down the station she starts crying really loud and really bad to the point other people start asking what is wrong with her. I don't know what to do with her and I am wondering if any of you had the same problem with their babies and what did you do? Thanks!

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Tasneem - posted on 05/02/2010

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yes i did but for a very short time..but i used to change it in the pram itself rather st the changing station...n she wud happily do it...try.

Lamiae - posted on 05/02/2010

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thanks ladies for your help and suggestions. I hope that something will work for us.

Marcia - posted on 05/02/2010

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I think its just a phase. My son was exactly like this. We had to literally go out to the car and change him if we were in public. Seriously! I remember one time I took him to Swiss Chalet and as soon I put him down on the changing table in the bathroom he started screaming. I swear people must have thought I was beating him or something. Eventually it just wore off. Good luck!

Kim - posted on 05/02/2010

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My daughter is one and we have the same problem. Whenever possible (aat the mall...) I change my daughter in the fitting rooms instead. My daughter is much happier being changed on the floor, I think it just makes her feel safer. After all those changing stations seem pretty high to a little one. also I am rather short so it makes it easier for me too. I have a roll of diaper disposal bags and just bring a changing pad with me and changing her in a fitting room is easier and less stressful on both or us. The only inconvienence is when you have a really smelly diaper that you dont want to carry with you! But as long as you have diaper disposal bags on you, you can double bag it and detour to the restroom to get rid of it asap if you need to. I hope this helps, I know it works for us and was a great solution as our daughter seems to have trouble calming herself back down after she gets upset. Therefore, if you can avoid a meltdown and keep everyone happy why not?

Cheree - posted on 05/02/2010

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My kids never would go on a changing station ever, i had to change them in the car , or some where on the floor. When i went out with them

Zara - posted on 05/01/2010

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Wow thats horrible. My kids didn't ever like them but they would just cry a little bit. I hope she gets better!! You may just have to make sure you got a good clean diaper on before you go then change her when you get to the car I had to do that many times. Good Luck Girl

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Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2010

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This is gonna sound bad, but My husband and fath-in-law kinnda dropped my daughter when she was about 10-11 mths old and she has been frieghtened of falling ever since. They were swinging her ( when your walking and they both had a hand. Count to three swing her up and say weeeeee.......) Well for some God awful reason they both let go of her hands so she feel on the concrete. She is now almost three and she is still scareed to death of falling. She will not lay on the table changing station for anything. She crys "mommy me fall" She is potty training at home, but since she doent give me but a 30 sec. warning, when we go to town I put a pull up or diaper on her still. So when we are in public, I still on the toliet (clothed.......lol) and she will lay across my lap whil I change her so I have 2 hands. If she only goes number one I can change her standing up. Either way. My point in all that, was my daughter is the same way.....lol.....

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I think she's normal. Try using dressing rooms if you're at a store/mall. I also would suggest having a large plastic changing pad and just doing it on the floor somewhere. (If you're yucking at that thinking dirty, do you really, truly think that changing pad is cleaner than a floor?! Honestly, I see them mop the floors. I have yet to see them ever clean that changing station.)

Sherry - posted on 04/30/2010

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it could also be the shock of a warm hinny being placed on a cold cold plastic surface. Tht's assuming you don't use a mat... then again the loud noises of so many flushing toilets can grate on even an adults nerves.

Kloe - posted on 04/30/2010

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try doing it in the pram on a blanket it she wont let you do it on the change table

Rachel - posted on 04/30/2010

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Yes, my daughter is TERRIFIED of the thing. She was used to being changed on the floor when she was in diapers, just because it was easier for me and I didn't have a real changing table. I would just calm her down through it and hurry as quick as possible when I would use them. If people have a problem with her being upset when you're changing her on one, I'd just say I'd be afraid too. It seems like since it's not very sturdy, it'd feel like your gonna fall off (even though we know it wont but ya know..) Good luck. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you can always change her on a blanket on the floor.

Jennifer - posted on 04/30/2010

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Try the Magma Rye treatment. Talk her through what you are going to do. " I'm going to pull this down so mommy can change your diaper," then " I'm going to lay you down now okay honey" Use as calm as a voice as you can. If that doesn't work I say get one of those portable pads that are for diaper bags and do it on the floor. No sense in traumatizing her. If she doesn't like them she doesn't like them. But I would really try the Rye thing. I have seen it work wonders on babies in the years I have done daycare

Roz - posted on 04/30/2010

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My LO did this when I changed her in the Gap changing area...she screamed bloody murder so I had to change her on my lab while squatting lol. That was fun. But what I think it was for her was that it was VERY bouncy and that was new to her and scared her.

So now when I put her on one I make sure immediately I'm close to her face so she sees me smiling and I give her something to play with. When she's happily playing with that then I go to change her diaper.

But I don't know if that will work for you...my LO was only 2 months old when I did this and yours is older. I like the idea of using a blanket at home and out so she is used to that.

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My son was the same way, putting a thick soft blanket down helped him. I think also putting the same blanket down at home helped him feel that he would be safe and comfortable when I would do it in public. When children at any young age have a positive memory attached to something, it helps keep them calm in strange situations. So that's why the blanket thing wrokes, it's not a fix all in public though, you have to make eye contact and distract the baby from getting upset. At first they usually still fuss a little bit but after a few times they learn that's it's ok in public, just as it is at home and do trust it more.

*Lisa* - posted on 04/30/2010

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Lamiae (cool name by the way!) I think you are right that she associates it with the doctors office. It's amazing how much they pick up on at such a young age! Can you try changing her nappy in the pram/stroller when you are out?? I'm living in Hong Kong at the moment and this place is totally inconvenient when it comes to change tables or parents rooms so I often change him in the pram.
Oh I just read your comment Lynne hehe! Good advice ;)
Haha Erika! Poor kids hey! My son is also terrified of the vacuum cleaner! Whenever he has trouble sleeping, people always say 'try the vacuum, it will soothe him to sleep'. More like it will give him nightmares!!

Lynne - posted on 04/30/2010

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My oldest son hated those things too. For him I think it was just out of his routine, or maybe like some of the previous posters said, loud in those bathrroms/weird lighting/etc. So we just improvised, I would recline his stroller, put down a changing pad and change him right on that. Once he could stand I would just have him stand up in a stall and change him that way. A little awkward, but better than dealing with a screaming, squirming child you are trying to make sure doesn't fall off the changing table!

Lamiae - posted on 04/30/2010

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thnaks ladies, but she never fell from one. I think that she associates it with the table at the doctor's office. her 6 months chekk up(shots) was not a good experience for her.

Erika - posted on 04/30/2010

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lol lisa. my sons scared of those loud flushing sounding pottys, those restrooms where a loud fan comes on w/ the light, and those loud hand dryers.

Erika - posted on 04/30/2010

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It might be that it makes a loud noise or noises...it might be because she finds it to be too hard or not comfortable enough to be on. maybe it has to do w/ her coordination and feels/gets all discombobulated on there laying on her back...sorry for the bigword couldnt think of anything else. It might make her feel wierd to be laying on one up in the air upside down or w/e and she sees everything different than if she was just sitting or standing or sitting. Another suggestion might be the lighting..maybe it bothers her in public restrooms or maybe shes just comfortable being changed in public where she sees/notices strangers being changed. (comfort level)

*Lisa* - posted on 04/30/2010

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I was going to ask the same thing as Erika. She may be associating the change table with some kind of pain she experienced? My8 month old son screams when we walk into the doctors office because he now associates the office with injections. Poor kid. Also, does it make a loud sound when you pull the changing station down?? I know my son has issues with certain sounds, like the sound of plastic bags FREAK him out. Good luck!

Erika - posted on 04/30/2010

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Has she ever accidentally fallen from a diaper changing station either at home or in publlic? or even a sofa/couch...something high off the ground?

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