Please no more conversations about Spanking......

Cindy - posted on 04/10/2010 ( 101 moms have responded )

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There have been so many countless conversations started about spanking that I think we can all agree now that the whole subject is all a matter of opinion and that nobody will ever agree with each other, and that it will ALWAYS turn into a huge fight. Who agrees with me on this?

Im not talking about spanking here. I dont want anybody talking about spanking in this conversation.
I am talking about who thinks nobody should post up about spanking anymore?

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Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

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ok i have a request from all of you...there is a conversation called "i need some support/advice" that a girl just posted and it is a very serious topic and i think she needs lots of advise and support to stay strong. I dont really know how to get other people to view it but this was the quickest way!! She is in an abusive situation and wants to leave but is having trouble and she has a young son who watches her get abused...please go visit the conversation and help her out! thank you!

Gwen - posted on 04/12/2010

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I have loved reading this thread... and I agree with most of you. Thses topics are called sensitive for a reasona dn ppl need to RESPECT other peoples opnions and ways of parenting. Sometimes its better to just read and not comment at all! LOL...

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I so couldn't agree more lets stop with the spanking threads for some peace of mind for all the moms who feel so strongly for and against it..:-)

Sarah - posted on 04/12/2010

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i agree! those debates turn out the same no matter what! ppl disagree and it turns heated. too many ppl wont see things any other way but their own so whats the point?

Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

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yes dawn we are over it. No autjhorities need to be called but just simply leave me alone and same to your 2 friends too. If you see a post or conversation you soooo strongly disagree with please stay away from it. I never asked you to keep responding or reading and i never asked you how you raised your children. that is all non of my business. the conversation was started from me venting out my frustrations and got WAY out of hand! As for you feeling undafe by me, i dont know how you could ever, you have no clue where i am and if you feel unsafe by people oppinions then maybe this public site of oppinions isnt the place for you. I will never join a subject like that ever again. I do not wish to be your friend but i also do not wish to be your enamy! So yes, the past is in the past and im glad it will be kept there!!

Eileen - posted on 04/12/2010

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I TOTALY AGREE...WE ARE HERE AS MOTHER'S TO HELP EACH,AND GET /GIVE ADVICE TO HELP US IN THIS DIFFICULT PROCESS OF RAISING CHILREN IN TODAY'S WORLD! WE'RE NOT HERE TO TRY TO CHANGE ANYONES MIND ON HOW TO RAISE THERE KIDS OR BASH THEM ON HOW THEY DECIDE TO DO IT! IF WE GIVE ADVICE OR COMMENTS...WE SHOULD REALIZE THAT NOT EVERYONE IS GOIN TO AGREE WITH HOW YOU DECIDE TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN! DON'T REPRIMAND ANYONE WHO HAS A DIFFERENT VIEW OR WAY TO DO THINGS!

Cindy - posted on 04/12/2010

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Me too Jackie I look to this site for advice more than any other website too which is exactly why I'm sick and tired of clicking on conversation to get some advice or starting a conversation to get some advice and poeple just judge you or tell you that their way is the only way, It's like UGGGHH!!!

Jackie - posted on 04/12/2010

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I think any topic that has a gray area is pointless to talk about it just ends up in a fight anyway. I look to this site more for advice than anything else.

Dawn - posted on 04/12/2010

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a lot of these subjects on circle of moms are pretty controversal,but one can't help but talk about these things and sometimes it turns into a heated debate. it is also very easy to misunderstand people on here. we are all human and are all prone to error.

Dawn - posted on 04/12/2010

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can we all get along now? i would like that . how about you? we don't all need to be buddies,but lets try to get along

Dawn - posted on 04/12/2010

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angela , i do not get why you are so mean to me , but it is about time to confront this. i am not a bad person . i do not know you,but i am sure that you are a good mom and love your kids as much as i do mine. u can either continue being enemies and let this drag out forever or u can chose to accept a truce and move on. there is no need to get authorities involved like u had threatened on a previous thread bc i don't want to bother you and in the end , it's all pretty petty . i felt threatened and unsafe.that is simply how i felt. i apologize for any misunderstanding on my end and you should do the same . i will not bother you again. i hope everyone including you has a wonderful day.i am over it . so should you be. now can we all move on?

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LOL! Trinity, I've done that plenty of times.....I typically don't comment unless I have something constructive to say or I feel passionately about what I've read! A lot of the time I read thru posts JUST to get advise and feel absolutely no need to make a comment!

Trinity - posted on 04/12/2010

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lol, ok, so are there any moms out there that just like to sit back and read all these comments? I hardly ever comment because sometimes its more fun to just read, and actually I end up getting a lot of advice and tips that way to. :)

Lisa - posted on 04/12/2010

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I am on Dana side WORLD PEACE or atleast lets realize that no matter what we will never truely and 100% agree its just not going to happen but we can atleast be civil and always remember that there truely is 100 different ways to raise a child while my opinion is that there is a difference between spanking and beating its just that my opinion. I will never try to force that on anyone cause I have had a great many things try to be forced on me. But if we can all just simply say, what works with my child my not work with hers and has long as the child is in no danger physically or mentally isnt that what really matters? We are all just momma's trying to be that best that we can and find opinions for something if what we've tried doesn't work! Sorry but I just had to say something cause those of us on are all good caring mothers cause if we weren't we wouldnt be here and be so passionate about posts that are on here! Have a good day everyone and my all of your children stay happy and healthy forever! Yes I sound corny blame it on pregnancy hormones!!! LOL

Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

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i was never in a conversation about spanking before and yes i learned my lesson about joining one ever again haha. it turned into a nightmare where women who spank thought i was personally attacking them haha. Fortunatly i do not know any of you so i could never personally attck you. Im glad my lesson is over. and i can not believe people go back to conversations like that after just being in one...its like they want the drama. and yes i do agree with the woman who said when posting about stong emotional topics such as spankign or breast feeding, expect strong emotional responces back!!

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Good mornin! It's soo nice to see everyone getting along.....hope everyone has a great day!

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Siobhan - posted on 04/12/2010

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I think we should be able to discuss any issue we want. However, spanking is one of those topics that will always ellicit strong emotional reactions and can easily turn into an argument. On top of that these arguments too often devolve into personal attacks and even name calling. Its a shame, but at the same time I understand it because I have very strong feelings about the subject myself.



So my fellow moms beware; when posting about a controversial/emotional issue be prepared for some strong reactions. We should all try to give our opinions & leave it at that instead of engaging in an unproductive back & forth (which is easier said that done sometimes). Try your best to be respectful & before you click that Post button try asking yourself "Am I stating my opinion in a way that contributes to the conversation, or am I arguing and picking out an individual to disagree with?

Brittnii - posted on 04/12/2010

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ive commented on another post that just caused drama sayin that no one is gonna agree with each other because everyone has their own opinions...and yes i do agree with this because all it does is start drama and fights...when this website was made for mothers to come together and talk about their children and make friends...no to tell someone whos right and whos wrong with everything they do...people come here to feel like they arent alone when it comes to certain things...not to be yelled at or called names or called wrong for saying something...i agree with u cindy...JUST LEAVE YOUR POST AND MOVE ON PEOPLE!!!! :)

Chelsea Cleo - posted on 04/12/2010

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This is a place for people to ask questions and get peoples opinions and answers so if they need to ask about spanking then they should. Some people generally want advice and they want other peoples opinions, people who dont want opinions instead of advice shouldnt be posting about it

Cindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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LOL! Whoa there chicky! All I'm merely saying is that its an annoying and tired out subject. CHILL out! lolololol There is no need to get so worked up. Goodness.

And no Im not offended or anything lol You dont have to remind me that you mean no disrepect lol because I am definitely not one of those women who takes offense to every single little thing, ya know?

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That's EXACTLY my point! Not you or anyone else can tell me what I CAN or CAN NOT say! How or what I can comment on is my decision! Just because someone starts a thread saying they don't want anymore comments directly about spanking or smacking doesn't mean I can't comment however I choose......I'm not trying to be difficult! Just tryin to make a point! LOL!

I'm honestly sorry Cindy....I mean no disrespect!

Beck - posted on 04/11/2010

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Isn't it interesting that it was said no attacking or comments about smacking or not smacking and yet it was said earlier that smackers are child abusers. Just saying.

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I know, I know.....LOL! I'm honestly not tryint to start anything Cindy! ;)

I hate to say it but people are gonna fight no matter what anyone says or how many threads are started trying to encourage everyone to ' just get along '.......it's human nature!

I vote for WORLD PEACE! Who's with me?

Cindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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I agree, but we also don't want everybody fighting because of their different opinions either!

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I think A LOT of things are misinterpreted on here because it's impossible to know how each person communicates.......without verbal communication and body language it's so difficult to know exactly how somebody intended something to come across! I think there's a ton of overly sensitive moms who need to toughen up a lil' and the other extreme is overly sensitive moms who are passionate and outspoken and the two groups don't always mesh well! LOL!

I need to make one more comment about what Tara said:

I didn't plan to respond to the conversation until I read that parents who choose spanking as a method of punishment are monsters. That makes it personal. That is a judgement and that's not what this site is for.


Tara: Unless the person was directing that comment at YOU specifically then you can't and shouldn't take it personally! It was a general statement and YOU had the right to ignore it! IMO you're no better than that person if you ended up barking back! I'm not trying to trash on you and I do tend to agree with you.....all I'm saying is that we ALL have to take responsibility for what we type, how we comment etc......nobody MADE you respond to what she said!

Everyone needs to stop whining and start accepting that this is a public forum and not everyone is gonna agree with you all the time and they shouldn't......what a boring place this would be if everyone got along! UGH! ;)

Lacey - posted on 04/11/2010

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Thats funny Danna. And your right Cindy it usually does start out nice. And it usuasully is the same women, but its probably the same women who just feel so strongly and are just very outspoken. Like myslf. And to be honest I have just been terribley BORED today.lol

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Sorry, I had to! I was never part of any of the other conversations and I've just spent the last hour catching up! I know you didn't want anyone commenting further about the whole spanking issue Cindy but I'm just being funny and honestly you have to know at some point this thread will turn into a fight also so I just thought I'd get the ball rolling! LOL!

Cindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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But I think it's pretty clear now that it's always going to be the same women who post on it with the same opinions as they had on the last 50 convos about spanking.

Lacey - posted on 04/11/2010

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Yea they did start another thread about spanking, but I think everyone was beeing pretty nice and respectful on it. I commented on it and think that the post at least so far is actually OK. And really if you dont want to read anymore about it, you dont have to click the post. You know what its about so dont click it to read about it. Sorry if that came out harsh.

Cindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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Oh man, I just saw that someone started yet another conversation about spanking called "Spanking Continued...".

Yikes!

Tara - posted on 04/11/2010

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I didn't plan to respond to the conversation until I read that parents who choose spanking as a method of punishment are monsters. That makes it personal. That is a judgement and that's not what this site is for.

Jessica - posted on 04/11/2010

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I was thinking the same thing, there have been waaaay too many conversations about this lately, and inevitably they turn into fights, its such a controversial subject. I think that is one of those things where we have to agree to disagree. I know I for one am tired of posting my opinion on it, especially since it will never change anyone's minds!

Cindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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Ok ladies, please do not name ANY names on here.... Why you ask? Because It will just start fights, which is part of what me and this conversation is saying needs to stop.



Also, Kate I couldn't agree with you more, But when you see these same conversations started you see there are like over 200 women responding to the conversation and that it's also alot of the SAME women too.



It's like don't they ever get tired of talking about the same thing day after day after day? lolol. Obviously nobody has changed their parenting because of there same opinions they keep saying over and over so they should just let it go, ya know?



They sound like broken records! lol

Sherre - posted on 04/11/2010

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Kate-agreed.
It's aggravating when so many people post the same topics on these forums but then I remember, I have 7 or 8 other groups so what's spoke about in one might not be spoken about in another. As far as the obvious, although people want opinions on such hot topics, sometimes it isn't best to get advice from these sites because they're opinions and not FACTS! I hope everyone will respect one another's parenting and stop bullying eachother :)

Kate - posted on 04/11/2010

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Why even look at a post about spanking, breast vs bottle, or any other that you don't care to bother with? Sometimes the subject of a post is obscure in the title, but when you see what it's about, just move onto something else. Just because it's there doesn't mean you have to participate in it or even look at it. If these posts are ignored, there can't be any hurt feelings or arguments.

Tara - posted on 04/11/2010

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I'm just saying that you are talking about people responding every 5 minutes when you did the same thing. You got personaly with me when you starting judging me and when you called me a monster and then called my children little monsters! How much more personal can it get? I've never done that to anyone and I'm appalled that you or anyone would do that to me. The famous quote we've all heard a million times, Practice what you preach! You want to make comments on the things other people have done, when you've done the same thing. You make it seem like you are above all others and you can say what you want about other people, but when it happens to you it's like a crime. I don't appreciate the things you said about me and my children simply because I have different parenting views and opinions than you do. It's rude and it's making others have bad opinions about you. I'm not saying you are a bad person or anything, because I don't know you, I just wish that everyone had the same respect I do for others when it comes to things like this. Because I don't know these people I'm not going to call them names and their children names, when I don't know them, I don't know their situations, anything, but you don't look at it like that. I know everyone has their own opinions and that's great, that's what I love about everyone being different, but because we are on opposing sides gives no one the right to start name calling and being disrespectful. And it was about me when you said parents who spank their children are monsters and their making their children monsters.

Angela - posted on 04/11/2010

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well caitlin, i try to be nice, i try to move on, i try to leave her in the past conversation but she continues to bring it up and talk about me on other peoples pages and such..thats not very nice and supportive either. so ladies, if you all can not move past the fact that i am against spanking then please let me know so i will leave this group. other wise if you can be nice as well and leave me alone if you cant be nice then i will stay and go about my business! there seems to be no other women in this entire group who dont like me except the ones who dissagree with me in that conversation. I learned my lesson that women are simply too sensative to debate so i wont bring up any topic that might be sensative to you! Cindy, i am sorry this was all on your pieceful conversation, it should never have turned into that! maybe the other girls will just leave me alone and it can go back to being pieceful!

Caitlin - posted on 04/11/2010

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Okay Angela she said she didnt want to start a fight. Lets calm down now. People get upset over sensitive subjects but the whole point of this forum is to support eachother. Cant we all just be nice. What happened to the, "If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all?"

Angela - posted on 04/11/2010

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tara, it was my conversation that i started so of coarse im going to continue going to it! why dont you leave me alone and stop being a bully! I have a difference in oppinion than you and that will never change so leave me alone about it. i dont know you or your family so how could i ever be personally talking about you? my topic was a general one and obveously a bad one and lots of moms took it so personal...i dont know you so if what i am saying is not true about you then i wasnt talking about you!

Tara - posted on 04/11/2010

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I don't think people should make conversations that begin by judging other mothers. I'm a very good mother, and I know that. I don't need anyone trying to call me names because I choose different ways of parenting. I think people can be easily offended, and I believe that sometimes other people try to see who they can make feel bad. I thought this site was for mothers to support each other and not to judge other mothers because everyone parents differently. This site was meant to help each other not to judge and attack one another, and yet some people find a way to do just that. And yes Angela, why don't you take your own advice on that one, you are guilty of your own judgement there.

Sheree - posted on 04/11/2010

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Agreed. Also the breast vs bottle feeding debate has been had one too many times as well :)

Annemaree - posted on 04/10/2010

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yes cindy i agree also agree with angela this site is about giving opions and advice not fighting

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