Potty training

Ashley - posted on 06/20/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have a 3.5 year old whom I've been trying to potty train for about 6 months now. I know they need to be ready in order to absolutely potty train well so I'm not sure if she is ready. I've tried everything from naked to no more diapers or pull ups to letting her wet herself but nothing is working. I've even ran her to the potty in the middle of accidents to let her finish but she just holds it! I've tried rewards candy cookies stickers etc I've tried taking away her favorite things I've tried the big incentive I.e. Her wanting to go to school next year and riding the school bus but to no avail! I'm not sure if she's ever going to want to go on the potty and it's stressing me out! I'm not sure what to do anymore! I'm tired of the looks and comments from family members because she's still not potty trained! I'm just wondering if when she turns 4 how things will change in respect to how she'll start listening or understanding what I'm trying to get her to do/understand

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Ashley - posted on 07/06/2017

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Well i think you can take a deep breath that in five years from now you won't have these stresses. She IS going to learn to go on the potty.
Maybe do the opposite. Stop making it a big thing at all.
The children I've potty trained ( my son and daycare children) liked to go while others where going. my son went whenever i was going and he loved it, like bonding time. i didn't intend for the kids to do that or for him to do that, the potty was just there and they were mimicking the older ones in the restroom.

Dove - posted on 06/24/2017

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Relax! The more you push the harder it's going to be on both of you. As long as there are no developmental delays (has she been checked by a pediatrician to make sure it's not physical?) going on she is old enough to understand the process and what she is supposed to be doing... so let her do it. If she doesn't make it to the toilet on time have her be responsible for cleaning up the mess (but help her, of course). Not harshly or as a punishment or anything, but just matter of factly... this is what we have to do when we don't make it to the toilet on time. Hopefully she will soon realize that going in the toilet is much faster and easier than having to clean up after yourself all the time.

I would stop w/ the rewards since they do not seem to be motivating her and NEVER punish for an accident. Just be calm and matter of fact about the whole business and it's totally her choice to use the toilet or not, but just like when we make a mess w/ our toys we have to clean them up... when we make a mess w/ our bodily functions we have to clean those up too. See if that helps her any... and don't stress about the fact that she's not doing it yet OR what other people have to say about it. It's her body and her body only and SHE is the one to be in charge of her own bodily functions (assuming, of course, that there is no physical, mental, or emotional delay causing an issue).

Brandy - posted on 06/24/2017

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Hello Ashley,

Yes, potty training can be dreadful. That being said. There are ways to help ease the process. I have a question. Have you tried a 20 minute timer with constant fluid intake? Also, books that explain potty time to your child?

Mariah L - posted on 06/22/2017

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Hi Ashley.. My name is Mariah it is never easy potting training I am in the same situation but with a boy same age he refuses to go and I also tried everything you have, I also have a daughter who is now 7 when I was potty training her it was so much easier I would allow her to go when I go she copied everything that I did anyway so I thought why not right. well it worked for a while then it went back to her wanting a pamper. Well what I am trying to get at is figure out what she likes that you do and use that tell her if she wants that she has to go and every time you go take her with you or an older sister it is still going to be a struggle for a while I had everyone around me at the time such as my mom and sisters as well so everyone pitched in which was amazing. But hopefully she finally gets the hang of it and starts it by her self thee will still b accidents but fingers crossed that will all pass.. best of luck to you...

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