Potty training my 3yr and he will not go poop on the potty. And he only goes pee if I ask him. If I don't ask every 1hr he will go in his pants. So any advice or tips that can help. Thanks

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Racqueline - posted on 01/30/2009

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Thank you all for your advice. I took alot in and now I'm going to apply all the different idea's, And yes being patient is the # 1 key....thanks guys!!!! I will report back to let you all know how it went.

Racqueline - posted on 01/30/2009

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Quoting Courtney:

Just be patient! I know how it is. I have a three year old too. Boys are not always as easy to potty train. He may not be quite ready yet! You could try setting a timer. Tell him when the timer goes off he needs to go try to potty! This may help him be resonpsible enough. Give heavy praise when he does go pee. Do you give him a small treat when he goes?? When we potty trained our daughters ( 4 and 3 ) I got the mini m&m's and gave them one when they would pee in the potty. and 2 if they would poop. It seemed to work well. I also found that the use of pull ups is to much like a diaper for the kids. As for the pooping in the potty, can you tell when he needs to poop. does he show you signs, like going to hide in a corner, squatting, things like that. If you can catch him when he does those things. When my daughter ( 3 year old) had trouble with pooping in the potty, we would take the poop from the diaper and dump into the toilet and say this is where the poop goes. clean her up and move on with the day. She would also flush the toilet for us and say BYE-BYE poopy.It took a while but she finally pooped in the potty. One thing I noticed with her was that she had very hard poopy and did not like to poop. She found out it was much easier to push the poopy out into the toilet ( more space). Your little guy will get it just be patient and persistent. hope this helps some.



Thank you for your advice. Every little bit helps....Yes we do give him a treat when he does go (also m&ms.) He has been do very well with peeing. He has been wearing underwear, I only put him in a diaper at nap time and bed time (normally that's when he poops). Today he pooped in his underwear and I did what you say I showed him it and told him it goes in the potty then we dumb it in the toilet and we moved on with our day. So let see if that works !! Thank you again for your advice.....:-)

Iris - posted on 01/29/2009

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We are potty training our third son. The first was a nightmare the second pretty easy. This one i used what worked for the second one and we have the pee done. He has accidents. We picked a day and put a shirt and underware on. no pants. When he peed we would take him to the potty and sit him on it told him that is where it goes change him and he would help clean up the mess. In about a day or two they would say they needed to go pee pee we would hurry up and go with them and whala.The poop well that seemed to come along with time mainly. Every time they poop there pants put them on the potty and say that is where it goes. Also find out what time of day and when and how often they go write it down if you need to then put them on the potty every day at aorund that time or everyother day that is what we did with our second son and in a few weeks he started to tell us when he had to go. kandos are great for them to wipe with too.

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2009

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All I can tell you is what I did for my son, and maybe it will help.  Every child is soooo different when it comes to potty training.  Study your kid and don't get frustrated if someone else's methods don't work for your child.  



To start with, we stripped him down to nothing, no undies or pants, just a shirt.  Then I did my best to camp out near him during the day and let him know if he needed to go pee, to go to the potty (or, in the begining, the potty chair that we kept right by him).  ACCIDENTS WILL HAPPEN - the absoute best thing to do is DO NOT scold, whine, or get frustrated.  Don't say "Oh, man - why did you do that?  What's wrong with you?  Just go to the potty".  Just say "Oops, had an accident, let's get that cleaned up."  And then have a talk about needing to get to the potty.  Tell them if they start to pee or poop before they get there, they should hold it and tell them how to do it.  



 



For poop - well, that's always harder.  Patience and love is the key.  This is very uncomfortable for most kids and the more grace you give them, the better they will feel.  Try to get them lots of fiber during this process and, if they are holding it, give them some prune juice to get the pipes working again.  Also, take them for a walk - exercise stimulates the digestive system.  WE also read a great book called 'Where's the poop' together.  Made my son feel more comfortable with it.  



 



We reinforced with pez candy and chocolate milk.  That helped tons.

Alyson - posted on 01/29/2009

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Try to be patient! I'm not sure why 3 is the "magic" potty training number - some kids train at 2, some kids train at 4. Most of them are not going to kindergarten in diapers ;). My first (girl) easily trained by her 3rd birthday, my second trained by a couple months after her 3rd birthday, and my ds was not fully trained until he was 4!! I found he was so much busier playing, he'd forget that he had to go or just waited too long to break away from his toys and had an accident. Try to be patient, you can force it and you will be frustrated cleaning up messes, or you can stay in diapers or pull-ups for a few more months, talk about using the potty, and eventually he will start telling you when he has to go.

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2009

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I had major issues with my daughter...she was pee trained even through the night for over a year and still would ask for a pull up to poop! my husband and i were to the point that we would say no more pull ups and she would hold her poop...NOT GOOD so we went to the pediatrician and she told us to let her poop in the pull up but ONLY LET HER USE IT IN THE BATHROOM so that she would associate the 2 together... so we did... she also told us that after each meal to sit her on the toilet for 5 minutes and we did... she also told us to make a BIG calender and hang it up in the bathroom not a small little thing, a whole piece of bristol board, she said the little ones just don't have the same effect of a great big one!!!.. she got a sticker to put on the calender if she pooped in the pull up, had a pee or just did the 5 minute sit..it worked like a charm!!! it took about 1 month of putting her on the potty after each meal for her to poop in the potty but it DID work!!! still to this day if she poops she gets a few chocolate chips! I hope this helps I will be using the same system for my son when the time comes!!!!!!!!!!!

Courtney - posted on 01/29/2009

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like Tara I had my daughter clean out her underpants, however for me all it did was encourage her to play in the toilet. It became a game. That was very frustrating.She still likes to play in the toilet. GROSS!! I did find that just staying at home with the potty chair close by and underpants on that it was easier. She finally did get it.

Tara - posted on 01/29/2009

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I did gave my son a sticker everytime he pooped in the potty after seven stickers he could pick a prize. After a week he got upset that he did not get the toy he wanted. I told him if he would use the potty he could have the prize. It seemed to work. Also telling him that he would have to clean the mess out of his big boy underwear helped things along. He told me that it was gross and started to cry after that he never went in his pants.

Sandy - posted on 01/29/2009

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I also did the treat thing, 1 M&M for pee and 2 for poop. I also went a few days putting him in his underwear and staying home, it was only a few accidents before he started telling me on his own every time, they can't feel it in the pull up and don't like it when they feel it in their undies. just be patient and good luck!

Courtney - posted on 01/29/2009

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Just be patient! I know how it is. I have a three year old too. Boys are not always as easy to potty train. He may not be quite ready yet! You could try setting a timer. Tell him when the timer goes off he needs to go try to potty! This may help him be resonpsible enough. Give heavy praise when he does go pee. Do you give him a small treat when he goes?? When we potty trained our daughters ( 4 and 3 ) I got the mini m&m's and gave them one when they would pee in the potty. and 2 if they would poop. It seemed to work well. I also found that the use of pull ups is to much like a diaper for the kids. As for the pooping in the potty, can you tell when he needs to poop. does he show you signs, like going to hide in a corner, squatting, things like that. If you can catch him when he does those things. When my daughter ( 3 year old) had trouble with pooping in the potty, we would take the poop from the diaper and dump into the toilet and say this is where the poop goes. clean her up and move on with the day. She would also flush the toilet for us and say BYE-BYE poopy.It took a while but she finally pooped in the potty. One thing I noticed with her was that she had very hard poopy and did not like to poop. She found out it was much easier to push the poopy out into the toilet ( more space). Your little guy will get it just be patient and persistent. hope this helps some.

Kristy - posted on 01/29/2009

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I have the same problem with my 3 yr old! She is so stubborn that sometimes she will just flat tell me no. She can go on the toliet so that's not the problem. She has peed and pooped before, but I just can't seem to get her to WANT to be potty trained. Grrrr. Help. Help!

Dawn - posted on 01/29/2009

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hi Racqueline. i'm having almost the same issue...my daughter will pee no problem she will tell me when she has to go. but she refuses to poop in the potty. she says it hurts her. she's only ever pooped once in the potty and that was for my mom so i wasn't there to know what happened. i have tried everything. we tried bribing her with all kinds of things from stickers to new toys. and one day i knew she had to go so all day i had her sitting on the potty. i even brought back out the potty chair so she could sit in the living room and watch tv. i sat and read to her she just held it all day. then the minute i put her pull up on before bed she pooped in it!! so i'm anxious to see some of the other ideas. let me know how it goes with y our son.

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