Pre-teens and screen time

Tamisaville - posted on 01/18/2018 ( 5 moms have responded )

3

0

1

HELLO!!! I'm new here, and was looking for support in regards to pre-teens/teens. I feel like I'm failing...all my son wants to do nowadays is get on the computer. What techniques are you guys with older kids implementing to restrict screen time without your kids despising you because of it???

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

5 Comments

View replies by

Michelle - posted on 01/22/2018

4,904

8

3249

You are the parent and you enforce the rules. Who cares if they are despising you? They need to learn to obey rules.
It will only get worse if you don't enforce things now.

Jules - posted on 01/19/2018

2

0

0

We have two teen girls that got phones way earlier than I wanted…but we did relent and with that came more responsibility for my husband and I to be diligent with them on their phone use. They are on IPADS all day at school and they have become addicted to their phones when they get home. Ugh. Have you asked him what he thinks is appropriate? HE may surprise you...even though it is all he wants to do. They will give themselves way less time than you think they would. We have a few rules we have established but not so much restricting time to a certain number or day. I think that depends on your kids. I worry more about having access to just about everything at their fingertips is dangerous. Couple of rules that we have are:

1.The phone/computer/game station is MOM and DADS…we paid for it. If we see them disrespecting it or not follow all the rules to follow we confiscate it.

2. We have the passwords and the right to check anything at anytime (without whining and rolling eyes).

3. When we see they are on it too much we have every right to take away. Its time to play a game or go out and do something. If I notice them too much on their phones or in front of TV we just turn it off and try to come up with something.

4. When friends are around they need to put those phones AWAY. A lot of times I have to remind them of this…because some friends have no rules and can watch whatever. They don’t like this rule…very embarrassing when mom says no more phones in front of friends. But by having the rule ahead of time...helps. They are 7th and 8th grade and once the phones are away they have fun running around acting like they should at their age.

Sorry so long. Been dealing with this the past year...found some help here..http://bit.ly/2Dt1sXs One more thing that helped get them off...I've been really diligent about supporting their hobbies...or trying to help them out with finding something to do other than screens. My oldest is making jewelry and sells on etsy. It has kept her busy and making some money.

good luck. Its a battle!!!

Lovely4953 - posted on 01/18/2018

8

0

1

In our house, screen time is limited to weekends and school breaks and for no more than 3 hours a day. School days it is a total no no. If the kids get into trouble or are being super disrespectful to us or others they get it taken away entirely for a time. Also, if they don't keep their rooms clean they can't use the electronics until it's done. Good luck! In the end, they'll always find some reason to "despise" us but they tend to get over it pretty quick. Best of luck in your endeavors!!!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms