Sahms .. Do you have any help or you do it all by yourself??

Danielle - posted on 03/07/2011

I'm a SAHM of two and I don't have any help either. My husband works very long hours so most of the time it feels as though I'm a single mom. But I do have help if I need it. I had to have cancer removed from my cervix back in July and my family came together and helped me. The kids went to my parents for a night and my hubby took off work for the day. Personally I like it this way. I have my own little routine that fits =)

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 03/07/2011

I dont have help, im a sahm of 3 under 5. I roll up my sleeves and tough it out everyday. Even when i was heavily pregnant each time.

Stifler's - posted on 03/07/2011

I don't have much help. We have no family close by. I have friends who will watch Logan but I feel guilty asking unless it's important. I have a husband who will come home and help bath our kid and put him to bed, help me change our bed if I feel like I can't handle it alone, get washing off if I ask etc. I'm heavily pregnant with our second. Anything hard can wait until the weekend like grocery shopping, and mowing the lawn is Damian's job. I just have dinner ready when he gets home, we all eat, he and Logan have a bath and Logan goes to bed, I have a long hot shower, we watch tv then go to bed. I do one load of washing a day and unload the dishwasher in the morning. I'm lazy but it beats the hell out of cleaning all the time.

Lydia - posted on 03/07/2011

i think you should be really thankful for all the help you get. my husband helps a big deal and my mother in law helps out too, but my parents live on a different continent - so no help possible. i do most of the housework, but about once a month me and hubby have a day where we d a big cleaning of the house together, so that all floors are washed and stuff i didn't get to get done.

house work and raising a kid are both tasks that are 24/7 and there is never an end to it, so you can always use more help no matter how much help you have already... if you don't have help you just survive by doing the basics.

Michelle - posted on 03/06/2011

You do get a lot of help. I have 3 kids (2 from my previous marriage). When I was pregnant with our daughter (1 in 2 weeks time) I did everything. Taking the older 2 to school, picking them up, cooking dinner etc. My husband helps out with some of the housework and looks after our daughter when he gets home.

Only my Mum lives in the same country and she is over an hour away so doesn't help at all. My Dad and inlaws live on the other side of the world so that's impossible.



I was a single Mum of 2 for 5 years and worked full time without any help at all. You get used to what you have and always want more.

Michelle - posted on 03/06/2011

Honestly I don't have any help. As a matter of fact I'm home all day with the 3 kids, taking care of stuff, and my husband comes home and I'm still taking care of everything. My husband is usually out of town at least one week out of the month for work. Although I've been trying to get more help out of my husband lately. Some of it is unavoidable because of my husbands job. My family works and my in laws who are retired live across the country. I'm mostly on my own. I don't know if I'm the norm or not. It does never feel like enough when you are at 38 weeks. You're just tired all the time. If I were you I'd enjoy the help you have because I'd kill for that kind of help.