should i let my 16 year old daughters boyfriend move in to her bedroom to live at my house
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Jocelyn - posted on 11/07/2009
No way! I can't believe you would even consider it actually. I'm sure he's got a nice sob story but don't do that to your daughter. She's too young to have a live in boyfriend especially in your house! I actually worked with a girl who's mother let her boyfriend move in with them. He had a great sob story of course but it really ended up jading her daughter. Plus, when she finally wanted to break up with the loser she felt she couldn't because she was living with him. What exactly do you want to teach your daughter anyway? I'm guessing she's already having sex since she wants him to move in but do you really want that going on in your house?! Don't help your daughter grow up faster than she already is!
Jackie - posted on 11/07/2009
Why is the first option for a boy to spend his nights in bed with your daughter? We don't know your situation but it bothers me that you automatically went to bed sharing instead of other options like live in our basement.
Its your job as a parent to save your children from themselves. My husband and I were having a similar talk last night. It was about co-ed sleep overs and I told him flat out that it will never happen with either of our children because its our jobs to protect them from their hormones and teenage minds. I don't know this boys situation but I know he has plenty of MALE friends who can take him in. There is no reason in the world for you to allow a boy in your home who is sexually interested in your daughter.
Forget pregnancy your daughter is 16 which means in a few months there will be a new boy. How is she suppose to date a new boy while this boy is sharing a bed with her playing house? Teenagers should only date... not play house. It traps them in relationships they shouldn't be in.
Tell your daughter your responsibilities are to her and her future. And that you will help this boy get a safe home but it won't be yours.
Tiffany - posted on 11/07/2009
I DONT THINK THAT IS A WISE IDEA. WHEN I WAS 16 ALL I COULD THINK ABOUT WAS SEX AND HOW ALL MY FRIENDS WERE DOING IT. THEN I DECIDED TO JOIN THE CROWD AND BE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. I MAY HAVE BEEN LUCKY ENOUGH NOT TO END UP PREGNANT BUT IM 20 NOW AND HAVE A BABY THAT I WASNT READY FOR. I WOULDNT CHANGE IT NOW BECAUSE I LOVE MY SON MORE THAN ANYTHING BUT I WAS NOT READY TO BE A MOM BEFORE IT HAPPENED. HIS DAD IS THE FIRST GUY I EVER MOVED IN WITH AFTER BEING WITH HIM ONLY A YEAR. IF YOU END UP DECIDING TO LET HIM STAY WITH HER A WISE CHOICE WOULD BE TO MAKE SURE SHE IS ON A GOOD BIRTH CONTROL (THE SHOT WOULD BE THE BEST ONE BECAUSE YOU CAN BRING HER GET IT AND KNOW SHE GETS IT DONE) AND ALSO HAS AND KNOWS HOW TO USE CONDOMS. IF SHE ENDS UP PREGNANT HER BOYFRIEND MAY NOT STICK AROUND AND HELP HER AND THEN SHE COULD END UP DEPRESSED AND CAN HAVE OTHER PROBLEMS AFRTERWARDS. THINK ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTERS FUTURE BEFORE MAKING THAT CHOICE. I HOPE I HELPED.
Jaclyn - posted on 11/07/2009
This question should not even need a response from anyone else!!!!
What has happened to our society today? I would never have even dreamed of asking that question of my parents when i was 16 (and it wasn't that long ago!!!!)
Remind your daughter that she is still a child and has plenty of time to make mistakes like this in her life. There's no need to start at 16!
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