should i let my son watch scary movies hes 4

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Nicole - posted on 02/16/2010

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It depends on the movie. My kids watch almost everything we watch but it's been that way forever and my kids are 2 1/2 and almost 7 and they both know that movies are not real and it's all fake but that's just our house. You know your child and you know what they can deal with and what they can't. If your questioning it then I think you already made your choise.

Pamela - posted on 02/11/2010

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At 4, the lines between real and pretend are too blurry. Wait until he is older.

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Shannintipton - posted on 09/11/2011

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Thank you for your response but anything over six months is a little old so I am going to close this thread. Okay. :)

Mandy - posted on 02/17/2010

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kids r funny peeps , we worry 4 them wen it cums 2 watchin tv, should we shouldnt we , but there the best ones to let u no weather they like it or not lol, at a young age they no so much nd they learn so fast,my nearly 4 yr old learns so fast that scares me lol,my lil man tells me if he dont like it,so thats what i listen 2 [him ] lol . good luck hun ...

Aisha - posted on 02/17/2010

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I personally think its not a good idea at all because exposing ur kid to stuff like that can lead to not just nightmares but other things in the later age as well I hope it helped!

Rona - posted on 02/16/2010

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Call me overprotective, but whatever we let our kids watch, and listen to, they are goin to act out later. ESPECIALLY stuff they see on tv.... your inviting whatever is on to come in to his/her mind and take controll.....

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NO, absolutely not. Children can not differentiate between fake and real, hence the toothfairy, Santa Clause, easter Bunny. Do you really think your child is going to understand that the things on tv are not really happening? You will traumatize your child. I can go on and list the reasons but I think this is sufficient.

Rita - posted on 02/16/2010

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No, absolutely not. Ratings on movies are there for a reason. I would not invite trouble in the way of nightmares or language that is often associated with the movies. NO WAY....I dont even let my 3.5 yo watch an CSI...or drama series on TV during prime time! Some things are just not ment for children.

Corena - posted on 02/16/2010

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Your child's brain will store images, whether he understands what they mean or not. Don't show him anything that you don't want to be stored in his memory permanently.
My question to you would be...
Why would a 4 year old need to watch scary movies?

I really think that we (society) have adopted a horribly bad perspective on what is good for children. The result is teenagers and young adults who are completely desensitized to violence and death...it means nothing to them anymore. I don't think that is OK. Life is not a video game or movie. I want my kids to understand that violence and death affects real people everyday and it is not just an abstract idea shown on a screen.

I really can't believe how many people are telling you it is OK.

Wow.

Lindsey - posted on 02/16/2010

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I think that as long as it doesn't cause him to have nightmares, go for it. We let our daughter watch all kinds of movies, including scary movies, when she was really little. We have never had problems with nightmares or her distinguishing between what is real and pretend. She is now 8 and still watches a wide variety of movies. As long as you feel comfortable about letting him watch scary movies, do what feels right for you. Every child is different and you are the only one who can really determine what is best for him.

Bethany - posted on 02/15/2010

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you're the one who will have to get up to him with his nightmares, so choice is yours. I have a rule not to look at anything I don't want to dream about, and I use it for Charlotte too.



You're shaping your very own person there, be careful what you make of him.

Stacey - posted on 02/15/2010

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I think it depends on the kid and how you prepare them....we live in a small house so kids were constantly coming out of bedrooms when they heard the tv from my hubby and I watching an R rated movie. We don't just let ours watch anything but I remember my daughter telling me she wanted to watch something that was pg13 (she was 3) So we sat her down and explained that everything in movies weren't real and that nothing bad really happened that they made it look real by using special computers....the whole shebang was explained. She's only ever had nightmares a couple of times and those weren't on nights she got to watch older rated things. Truthfully, the world around us isn't exactly peachy and because I was raised completely sheltered I was unaware and unprepared for the world I was thrown into at 18. Almost always in movies things turn out ok at the end. If you question it, preview it and then decide.

Christine - posted on 02/15/2010

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I also have a 4 year old and when me and my husband watch a scary movie, we tell him to cover his eyes and if it sounds as bad as it looks, then we tell him to cover his ears too. He does this everytime we tell him too. He will bury his face into a couch pillow, and cover his ears. I do believe that he has seen a scary part or 2 and so far nothing bad has happened.
So as long as you are aware when your child is watching, just tell them to cover! Good luck!!

Brianna - posted on 02/15/2010

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Kids are so senstive and impressionable and can be hugely impacted, even traumatized when seeing things that they cannot understand is not reality. I was exposed to scary movies as a young child and was hugely affected by it. I was very fearful, had nightmares, etc for many years after.

So NO, kids shoud not see scary movies, in my opinion.

Lori - posted on 02/15/2010

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NO!!! it will desentise them to real feelings of fear, and it will cause nightmares. I have a 6yr old daughter and a 4 yr old son who i dont even let them watch road runner, they like to act what they see out on each other or the dogs. stick with Yo Gabba Gabba, sesame street, team umi zoomi is reall fun i watch it. I always watch movies and new shows before they see them. follow your gut you know what your child is able to handle.

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Hi Tashia! I'm Krista a mother of 2. A 7 yr old and a 5 yr old. My daughter (5) watched E.T. last year and had nightmares about it. I really didn't think it was that bad of a movie you know scary wise, but when I was up in the middle of the night I realized it must have been scary for her. I wouldn't let him watch a scary movie unless you want to be up in the middle of the night. Good luck. Hope it all works out..

Courtney - posted on 02/15/2010

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you have to think about the fact that children of this age are, like someone else said, 'sponges'. they will pick up on things that we dont expect them to, things that might seem insignificant, and store them in the back of their heads... kids of this age are still grasping the concept of right and wrong. do you really want your child to watch these moves and think that maybe some of the movie content is of the right thing to do when it is not? Keep your kids as children as long as you can. innocence is a thing thats slowly but surely being lost amongst our society...

Jenny_D - posted on 02/14/2010

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Why would you? That is not at all necessary and it would be mean to induce fear in your child. Keep his world safe and clam!!!

Janelle - posted on 02/14/2010

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Good question...?.. ponder the possiblility that your child may really believe that those scary movies are real no matter what you try to tell them. Together with the fact those movies aren't made for 4yr children in mind, they may also have bad language and sexual content.. 4yr children aren't equipped to understand that sort of thing...They may have nightmares...??/ should you let your 4yr old watch scary movies? I'm sure you can decide for yourself once you consider all the possible consequences...

My daughter who is 4yrs old recently watched her older brothers Scooby Doo dvd and had nightmares about it. the only reason why I let her watch it in the first place was that I had totally forgotten what scooby doo stories were all about (chasing ghosts, monsters etc) because I hadn't even put any thought into it. Learnt a valuable lesson there!!! Good luck with your decision

Kelly - posted on 02/14/2010

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I think it goes beyond whether or not they will have nightmares. There is a lot of content in movies rated PG13 or R that is not suitable for small children, including language and sexual content, as well as the violence and "scariness". I once heard someone say (and this is how I explained to my kids why they couldn't watch movies not rated for their age), "what do you put into a trashcan? garbage. What do you get out of a trashcan? garbage. So if you put garbage into your brain, what are you going to get out of your brain?" Sounds corny maybe, but it makes sense to me. But my kids honestly were not allowed to watch PG13 movies until they turned 13, and R rated movies until 17. I only have one over 17 so far, and we pick on his 16-year-old brother and say something about a movie and then say "oh thats right, you haven't seen that because its rated R". (And yes, he is able to laugh about this). They are ok with it. It was a big deal to them to get old enough to watch things they hadn't been allowed to before. They actually do appreciate the fact that I care about them not being exposed to things that they are not ready to handle. Anything you would not want your child in the room with in real life, why should they see it in a movie, when they are too young to understand the difference between real life and imagination? Let them just be a little kid for awhile.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/14/2010

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There really isn't any reason to. It may scare a child that young, desensitize them to violence and leave them with a lot of questions (Why is that man bleeding?) Scary movies are something better suited for teens and adults.

Stacie - posted on 02/14/2010

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No. If you had to ask, then you already know the answer. My kids are 9 and 10 and I still do not let them watch scary movies. They don't add any value to their lives and there's ALOt of more productive things they could be doing with their time.

Paula - posted on 02/13/2010

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I think 4 is a bit young, as their imagination is so vivid at that age - and they struggle to understand that it is not real. However, it does also depend on the child - my 12 year old won't watch things that my 8 year old is quite happy to sit down and watch

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My son gets scared watching scooby doo sometimes so i wouldnt recommend it. It can give them nightmares and make them afraid of the dark etc.

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depends my five year old cant because she has nightmares.even when she started school i talked to her about strangers etc and she started to have nightmares so no scary movies etc.i would say scary movies for adults is a big no.i mean my daughter couldn't even watch ants and other kid movies because shes so sensitive to them.my sister was saying some parts of the princess and the frog might be scary for her as see saw it with her son and thought of my little one if she were with them.

.i don't no what type of child i have lol.Simpson's is a no no with itchy and scratchy.

Lindsay - posted on 02/13/2010

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I think that's all up to the parents to decide. My daughter watches scary movies with me sometime, but they don't affect her. She just laughs at them. I think it really depends on your child. If they are more of the sensitive type you might not want to, cause it might cause nightmares. Test the waters first. If your child is more of an independent type who doesn't get bothered by a lot it should be okay. Your mom instincts will kick in and you will know what is right in the end.

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No way. What's the point in letting a kid watch something that's not even remotely intended for their age group? This is like when I came home from running some errands one weekend, and found my husband sitting on the couch, watching Platoon with our (then) 5-year-old daughter and (then) 4-month-old son. Needless to say, I put an end to that, and he sat through The Little Mermaid for the remainder of the afternoon. LOL Our daughter still had nightmares of mommy and daddy dying at war (being that she knows we are both veterans, it was a little extra bad for her to watch Platoon at such a young age.)

So yeah, no scary movies for little kids. Wait until they're teenagers and like that kind of thing.

Lesley - posted on 02/11/2010

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when my son was 4, I was watching the movie Hostel....my son was in his room napping.....about halfway through the movie he woke up and came out right at the part where it was showing a dead person laying in a pool of blood.....he looked at the screen....then looked at me and then looked back at the screen pointed at it and said "look mommy ketchup"........

Lynnette - posted on 02/11/2010

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My 4 year old finds some places in some Pixar movies scary and we always tell him not to worry, that it will be ok. I think that kind of scary is fine! It's age appropriate. But there's a lot of garbage out there that I find astounding that people allow their kids to see. The mind is like a trap and that stuff stays in there and shapes who we become. Studies have been done that show that people become desensitized by repeated exposure to violence. You are right to take the issue seriously.

Isabel - posted on 02/11/2010

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You know kids are like sponges...you need to ask your self if this will better his life at 4..will he have night mares? I don't let my daughter.(10)..she has gown brothers and sisters that have let in behind my back...she has never been glad she saw the movies..haha..so I look at it like this is filtering through my child and my answer would be no...not at 4...I'm sure you will do what is best...good Mom for asking! You have a good day

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