Stacy - posted on 09/12/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
Ok I stay home with my wonderful 19 mo old son. I love it! Im really blessed to be able to stay with him. Ive always worked fulltime as does my husband and he still currently works, and I stay home. It is a major adjustment financially and it is very stressful with bills. We afford our everyday life, our necessities, and our have to pay bills (rent, utilities, car pymts, ins. etc) We do have other bills from our past that we owe and we cannot pay right now because we cant afford to. I have always envisioned staying home to take care of my children. Quite frankly im stressed over this situation and I feel like he is my responsibility to take care of and not a daycare. My children my care love nurture. I hear awful things that fulltime working moms only get to see their kids going to bed at night and thats it! I want my family and their wellbeing to come first, Being able to stay home and him to have time with me and for me to build him into a great person on our beliefs. I love my families life, it is simple and happy. I dont want to sound selfish because I really dont want to be I just want what is best for my son and I dont feel a daycare can do what I do. I do get hint like gestures from family members that I should work and not stay home with my son, and its really hurtful really and aggravating at the same time. We are private (me and my husband) and no one knows our financial situation, they only see that when they invite us on major trips or whatever it may be thatw e cant go because we cant afford it. I dont understand why they look at us like we should make more money and not that I have a very healthy smart young child who is developing wonderfully that I am teaching him the best in ways. He has everything he ever could need also lol too much I dont want to be confusing but I am cunfused myself. My point is I am just in a rut trying to figure out if I should leave things the way they are and not to stress over money, and know that in time we can lower our debt and take care of our child the way that me and my husband wants to, or should I just go against our belief in staying home with our children and work for the good of our debt crisis. Im just really afraid that things will be more stressful for our family and we wont have time with our son, just not as connected as a family if I work.
Please help I really need some insight. Thanks!