Alicia - posted on 07/27/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
I'm frustrated and confused. Our oldest trained when he was almost 3, he's a very A type personality though so once he decided he was ready there was no holding him back, and no turning back.
Then came #2... He's 38 months old and is due to start pre-kindergarten September 1st (today is July 27th) due to a severe speech & language delay. (that's how they do it in Canada) Now, I'm trying to get him potty trained before then as those are the rules. He will go pee every time I put him on the potty ( I set a timer and take him every 45 minutes) but will not go into the bathroom on his own. I have both potty chairs and little potty seats that go on the big potty in each bathroom.
First we tried Pull ups, then I thought maybe they were too confusing because it's too much like a diaper so we put on big boy underpants but it doesn't matter what I do he'll just go in his pants, or on the floor if I leave him naked, thank goodness for hardwood floors! If I ask where his poop and/or pee goes he'll say the potty; however, I'm now starting to wonder if he actually knows/understands when he has to poop or pee. Am I wrong to continue training him? Is he just playing me or could this be another developmental delay? Should I back off and keep him home another year, which would be a really bad idea because he'll get soooo much help from the school in terms speech & language help or keep plugging away (which is frustrating for both of us) and get him trained before September?
ps: Cognition is not the problem,our doctor just saw him and told me that he understands complex questions & requests. HELP!