Showering with your sons

Laura - posted on 11/21/2010 ( 166 moms have responded )

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I have a question for everyone. Do you or did you shower with your sons? At what age did you stop? Mine are 6 and 9. I have still showered with the 6 year old, but the 9 is too old in my book. What about the rest of you. Just curious. What brought this up was a friend who has boys one still under the age of 1. She won't shower with them. So I thought I would ask.

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Question: Why do some of you stop showering with them when they start to notice things or ask questions? Why not just answer the questions? I'm honestly just asking here, not trying to be rude. I mean, I understand not doing showering with your kids at all, ever, if the whole idea makes you uncomfortable. But I just don't understand the concept of it one day being ok and then the next day it NOT being ok just because he/she asks a question. Is it the question that makes you uncomfortable? I'm sorry, I just don't get it. I don't understand having such strict personal boundaries with people who once lived in us. I'm not saying I would ever give my son a tour of my vagina or anything, but if he pointed and asked, I'd tell him it's a vagina....but him asking questions and noticing things doesn't mean I'd never shower with him again.

Amanda - posted on 11/28/2010

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Me and my hubby shower with both our 3.5 year old daughter and our 20 month old son. I think it will help them to feel comfortable in their own skin - AND it's an opportunity to each them how to properly wash their hair and clean their bodies, etc...We sing in the shower and everything it's great fun! LOL



Our daughter is of course asking questions like...Mommy why are your boobies bigger than mine. Or asking Daddy...what is that? (pointing between his legs). We answer truthfully. That is a penis. Boys have a penis. Girls don't have one, they have a vagina. Again - it's a learning opportunity.



How old is too old? Good question. I'm pretty sure they will let us know when they want to shower on their own. As long as they can wash everything properly and not make a HUGE mess! LOL



And to those who say it's inappropriate. Or inappropriate for a mother to shower with her son - that is HER SON. He was NAKED inside of her for 9 months!!! LOL



So perhaps you should be asking yourself - Why am I uncomfortable with the idea of being naked in front of MY SON?

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I just love on these posts how everything that you don't do is inappropriate and wrong and you make others feel like a perv. Just maybe being comfortable nude around your child and not being ashamed of your own body is not a bad trait to pass on. Bottom line is if it brings a Dad and daughter or Mom and son closer by sitting on the floor in the shower and playing while saving time so be it and live and let live.

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This is one of those subjects that has to be handled differently for each family. For our family, we aren't afraid of nudity and I don't consider my 3 year old son seeing me naked as an invasion of any privacy. I shower with my 3 year old son and will continue to do so until he becomes uncomfortable with it. He has asked questions in the past and I answer them honestly. My husband also still showers with him on occasion. In fact, the other day we were in a hurry and had to go somewhere but we all needed a shower. We have a rather large stand up shower in our bedroom so all 3 of us took a shower together and thought nothing of it.

It's just a matter of what you and your family feel comfortable with. And when it gets uncomfortable for anyone in the scenerio, you stop.

Jac - posted on 11/26/2010

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I think showering/bathing with your children is fine as long as you and they feel it is. Our family is a very open one when it ocmes to nudity, my kids (2 lads & 1 girl) are 18/20/21 now and still are ok with seeing me naked, I don't flaunt it but I don't hide it if they come in while I'm changing or having a soak. I respect their privacy and never walk in on them but if I do by mistake or our paths cross unexpected when they're changing in the bathroom & I've been unaware, then they don't get embarrassed or annoyed. I think this is becasue I've always been very naturally open with them, I answer every question honestly and always have done no matter how uncomfortable it's made me feel. I've wanted my kids to grow up NOT feeling self concious of body issues or embarrassed by nudity. I believe in most cases that when a person gets older, if they are embarrassed by nudity it stems from their parents and the way they have been made to feel.
My middle child was on long term steroid treatment fromt he age of 9 to 16 hence he gained a lot of waight and alot of stretch marks, he felt quite self concious about this during his mid teens and the fact theat he has one shrunken yellow eye, but now he's comfortable with it all and has an attitude of love me love my body, I'm so proud of him, he has a beautiful girlfriend who he feels very comfortable with. I strongly feel that if I had brought him up that nudity was an issue then he would have alot of problems with self image right now so I stand by my openess.
Being a parent and making decisions to do with thier development is never easy but I felt that no matter how uncomfortable I felt with certain aspects of it, I was determined to bring my lot up with the least amount of issues possible.....andI can honestly say it worked out great for all of us, we're a very close knit family, who love and support each other an awful lot :-) xx

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I don't shower with either of my children, but that's just because I don't like the crowd. During the appropriate season though, our family does hot tub together, sans suits. Nudity is not a way of life here, just rather common.

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It kind of bothers me the way some of the comments on here do not take into consideration a child’s natural curiosity. They seem to think that they can squelch that curiosity by just avoiding the situation. If he has questions, he is going to ask, or find out on his own with information provided through peers and such; which might not be nearly as accurate as the information you can provide him with.
I have always showered with my son and when he got to the age he became aware and curious about the differences in our bodies, I took it as a learning experience for him, not a time to shut door on his curiosity. As time went on, I would answer his questions with as accurate information as I could.
The differences in the human body, from one gender to another, are never going to go away, and neither is his curiosity. You have to decide yourself whether you want him to have correct information or distorted information picked up from his friends.

Maria - posted on 05/26/2011

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I showered with my oldest untill he started pointing at my goods, lol. After that I don't think it is appropriate.

Kathleen - posted on 05/24/2011

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I have one son, I stopped around 2. I am now raising my grandson, and I was just thinking about this today. He is only 3 months now.

Marsha - posted on 05/24/2011

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On occasion, I still shower with my sons. It's perfectly natural and greatly helps their ability to not feel ashamed of nakedness and, in general, themselves. I'll gladly keep showering with them until they no longer wish to do so.

Ginny - posted on 05/24/2011

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Joy, good point and good question. I stopped when my son started feeling uncomfortable, not when he started asking questions. I'll do the same when my younger kids become uncomfortable about it too. On a slightly different point, I have to say that even if you don't sexualize the naked body, it's going to happen one day for your children. It's inevitable.

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I shower with my two older sons 6 and 3 years old, they and I don't mind at all. I will stop until they say it is uncomfortable.

Ginny - posted on 05/24/2011

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My oldest is 7, and when he started getting embarrassed to see me naked I realized it was time to start covering up around him. He also no longer takes baths or showers with his younger siblings. We're not a super-modest family and I think we've instilled a healthy sense of the body as a natural thing not to be ashamed of in our kids, but I think the idea of privacy is an important one too. Especially once kids start getting to an age where they realize that there is a link between nudity and sex. I don't want my kids to feel uncomfortable around me. Would I want to see my parents naked? Heck no. And it's not for me to assume that my son is too immature to feel the same way about us.

Louise - posted on 05/18/2011

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My three girls (aged 4 and 2yo twins) mostly bathe all together in the tub, its thier play and bonding time. However, some times my hubby or I will take one in the shower if she wakes late from the day sleep, or needs an extra bath. Of course the oldest girl has noticed differences, we just told her that he has a boys bottom, and they are different. She also goes to kindy where there is a shared open toilet room, no cubicles, so she views all this as natural. Sometimes she will shower by herself, including washing her own hair, sometimes she needs more help. The twins actually love showering with Daddy as he cuddles them and they love the skin on skin contact, and eye contact. Each to thier own tho, and we put clothes on in bed and walking around the house so she understands to shower naked is fine and natural, to walk about the house as a family we put clothes or t least undies on.

Erin - posted on 04/22/2011

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I'm not sure I understand why noticing differences in bodies is any different than noticing differences in anything else. My son is just two and it's not a big deal for any of us to shower together...it's a little cramped for the whole family but it's still fun :) I think sometimes that nudity is viewed as perverse in our culture and I'm not saying anyone should shower or bathe w/his or her child but I think we need to realize that there is nothing wrong w/showing our bodies. It can give an opportunity to talk to your child about gender and bodies and eventually how someone should and shouldn't be touching them. I do agree tho...9 does seem old to me..hahaa but 6? ya, i'd have no problem with that.

Tabitha - posted on 04/22/2011

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I may be a bit late with this post, but i have to reply. Mary 1959 an 9 year old girl and 8 year old boy are way to old to be showering with each other. I don't think that is something that you should encourage, it can only lead to problems later.

Mary1959 - posted on 04/17/2011

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my 2 was 6 yr when they stop
son is 8yr daughter 9yr
they shower togather now

Jennifer - posted on 04/06/2011

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Well, me myself will not only shower with my boys (I have 4 boys) past the age of 4, but I no longer prance around naked. Don't get me wrong, they've seen me naked but I try not to let them, because their curiosity might just get the best of them. I have 4 boys and I stopped showering, bathing with them around the age of 4. My personal opinion of course, the 6 year old is probably too old to.My 3RD boy will be 6 and I would be embarrassed for him to stare at me and then start asking questions. School age, kids talk and I believe that kids should be kids and not be introduced to too much nudity, even by mom and dad. You're probably comfortable, I'm just not that comfortable in front of the older ones.

Sabrina - posted on 04/06/2011

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My son was 5 or 6 the last time he showered with me. We have always been open about nudity in our house..I refuse to teach my children that nudity is wrong. My husband loves baths and until my son was 8 he would ask to climb in once in a while. At 12 my son knows about the human body and doesnt point or laugh when the girls in his class are developing like the other boys do..he does sometimes come into the bathroom when I am showering so that he can pee, but if you dont make a big deal out of it they wont care. The funniest thing about showering with your son is when they ask questions. My son was 3 when he started freaking and yelling "Mommy your penis fell off" roflamo..He just thought that everyone was a boy at that point and was just starting to notice the differences.. I agree with everyone that said as long as everyone is comfortable with it....water conservation and time savers are the best part about it lol..

Sabrina - posted on 04/06/2011

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My son was 5 or 6 the last time he showered with me. We have always been open about nudity in our house..I refuse to teach my children that nudity is wrong. My husband loves baths and until my son was 8 he would ask to climb in once in a while. At 12 my son knows about the human body and doesnt point or laugh when the girls in his class are developing like the other boys do..he does sometimes come into the bathroom when I am showering so that he can pee, but if you dont make a big deal out of it they wont care. The funniest thing about showering with your son is when they ask questions. My son was 3 when he started freaking and yelling "Mommy your penis fell off" roflamo..He just thought that everyone was a boy at that point and was just starting to notice the differences.. I agree with everyone that said as long as everyone is comfortable with it....water conservation and time savers are the best part about it lol..

Penni - posted on 12/19/2010

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I still sometimes shower with my sons 6 & 3 years of age.. Until they tell me they are to big for me to shower with them i do not see why i cant... you do what you feel is right for you..

Sammie - posted on 12/18/2010

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My daughter is 18 mo, nearly 19. She still shower's with both my partner and I. We don't have a bath tub, she sometimes uses the portable bath tub in the bottom of the shower. She plays with her toys, and is learning to wash herself. If her father or I are in the shower, she will just stroll in, even if she is already dressed! She loves water and would shower 3 times a day if you let her! She will not stay in the shower alone, she plays up and runs out. Sometimes I can get away with sitting on the floor just out side of the shower with my legs under the water flow, but even that is pushing it with her. Soon, she will stop showering with her Daddy, purely because she is getting taller and I don't think it is appropriate for her head to be in that general vacinity. We are also expecting baby #2 in February, so I imagine we will continue to do the same thing :) Ultimately, not having a bathtub, it's easier to be in the shower with her, because you are going to end up just as wet trying to clean her! :)

Donna - posted on 12/18/2010

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I have 4 kids. 23 girl, 21 & 20 yr old sons & a 23mth old daughter. I showered & bath wiz my boys tills they were 2&3 just till they could bath themselves under watchful eye of mum untill they reached school age... When they pointed to different parts of the body i was always open & honest, straight to point wiz em...

Amanda - posted on 12/08/2010

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Ok way to old. I never had undressed baths with my son. I used a swimsuit. I would change in front of him, but bath time to me is different. That should be their space as well as yours. They also need to learn boundaries about what is ok and what isn't when it comes to being naked! I have a friend who used to shower with her 6 year old son because she didn't feel like giving him a bath. One of his friends at school found out and he was teased. He came home crying for two weeks. Asking questions in naturally and you should answers them, but teaching them to bath themselves is what you need to do. To me it doesn't matter if they have the same part as you or not 6 is way to old. He can do it himself.

Kelly - posted on 12/08/2010

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I have a 3 year old son and I allow him to still shower with me....I have had ppl tell me that he is to old and I need to stop but i think it is at the discretion of the parent. I think once a child begins to observe and ask questions about "body parts" is probably a good sign to stop.

Merry - posted on 12/06/2010

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Yes Randie, my goal is to breastfeed Eric a natural duration, and world wide the average weaning age is 4 years. So since most kids on earth are still breastfeeding at age 4 that's what I'd like to aim for for my kids.

I at least want him to get an average amount of time! So, ya 4 is my goal, cuz I don't want him short changed on the natural progression of weaning just cuz I live in sexual America! :)

We are home schooling so don't worry about teasing etc. I would love to help America get out of this sex craze, and breastfeeding is a natural way to desexualize breasts.

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Thank you Laura S! That's exactly what pushed me over the line from being rational into being...well...not rational lol I do apologize if my language offended anyone. No excuses, I just shouldn't have spoken like that. But when a mother comes on here and says "what is wrong with you?" (and more) about a conversation that was going along pretty nicely (even though we all didn't agree)....THAT'S out of line too. If you go back and read all of my posts (and the majority of all of the other women's posts as well) you'll see that most of us have never tried saying that what another parent does on this subject is wrong or inappropriate and yet, it's ok for someone to come on here and say that what we're doing is? It's ok to have someone come on here and blast us but we aren't allowed to speak up for ourselves? Inappropriate language in my post? Definitely. But does my point still stand? For sure.

Katie - posted on 12/05/2010

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I shower with and infront of my three year old son everyday! It is a natural thing to do. I am a stay at home mother, so instead of leaving him somewhere while I shower, he comes in the bathroom with me. It is competly NORMAL!!

Laura - posted on 12/05/2010

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Randie I think the saddest part of your whole post is that you think half of the world is perverted. Yes it is important to teach your child about the bad things in the world and how to protect themselves but we can't live in fear. I know Joy can debate very well and I think what push her over the line was the same thing that pushed my buttons. A post that doesn't seem to be there any more that starts out "What is wrong with you women" and saying we were wrong and teaching our children wrong. If you don't do it and don't agree fine but don't tell us we're wrong.

I am sorry you were so traumatized when you were little but maybe if you had grown up from birth seeing that it wouldn't have affected you so much. Just another point of view.

Nicole - posted on 12/05/2010

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You keep saying that you aren't saying that people are wrong Randie but by the words you are using you are basically saying that they are wrong. I mean you used the words "Holy Crap" what did you mean by that is it supposed to mean that it is a good thing? I don't think so.

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I agree with Laura Hoffmann :) ...holy crap you are gunna breast feed till what age??? 4?? did I read that right...Im not saying your wrong Im just double checking you wrote that right lol

Nicole - posted on 12/05/2010

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I don't understand how anyone can think that there is no benefit to kids knowing what the opposite sex looks like naked. Do you really think that they are not going to see it somewhere else and if they haven't already seen it than how do you think they will feel when they see it for the first time in a magazine or on TV or on a movie. Again I have to say what on earth is wrong with seeing someone naked and why do people always assume the worst first. Like do you guys think that a large percentage of parents will molest their kids or do something innappropriate around them. This is so sad. No wonder kids are so messed up they are taught to be embarassed of the human body. I just don't understand.

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Ok im sorry Joy...but your mouth is inappropriate...I really like these debates...And I for one am not one of the moms who thinks MY way is the ONLY way...I love to read both sides...and that is the point of talking about it on here. To figure out both sides and THEN we all can decide which is our own best choice keeping all these point of views in mind. If you cant handle this kind of debate then step out of it and dont look back because I read that post and was like WOW she is either drunk or really pissed that some of us prefer not to shower with our boys...I mean who in there right mind would get THAT angry at something like that. If your mad because a few people had some strong disagreements about the way you parent WHO CARES there are always going to be people like that just write them off and move on. I still think that its not okay for a daughter to shower with her daddy. and I would never shower with my son. If its okay for you then okay cool. I havent read every single post but Im sure MOST of us have not singled you out and said your doing it all wrong. My opinion is, you think there is a possibility that we have good points and I actually see YOU as a mom that thinks your way is best.

The reason this is such a debate is because of a lot of reasons actually. But most of all because half of the people in this world have perverted minds and we can never be sure who those perverted people are. So when we read about little girls taking showers with their father. The first thing we are going to think is I hope that man is alright in the head because if not then that lil girl could be at risk.

Another reason why some people are on my side of the debate (Saying that its not okay for a Daughter to shower with daddy, and same for son; mommy) Is because when I was a little girl about 5 years old I remember this specific time that a family member walked out of the bathroom and his penis was accidentally poking out of his boxers (there was nothing sexual about this incident, he quickly realized it was hanging out and fixed it immediatly lol) but it still shocked me and I can still remember the feeling I had! It was a horrible feeling and I just know I would not want my daughter to feel that embarrassed/shocked feeling. I mean yes she might not get that feeling she might be fine with it BUT what if she is embarrassed?? I just wouldn't even want to purposely put her in that situation. I mean your right its probably just fine for most kids, I just wouldnt do it just in case she is one of the few who feel modest. I was exposed to alot of nudity as a child and I still grew modest...so you just never know how a child will feel about things. And no most kids are not gunna tell you when they are uncomfortable...I know I never did. This is probably how your husband feels, that they just wouldn't want to embarrass the boy with his moms naked body. If they grew up doing it and they are fine with it THEN YOUR RIGHT! NO BIG DEAL! But If your a first timer and your debating whether or not this is okay...just keep in mind that it might not be a positive experience for them, they might feel like I did when I was exposed to male nudity ( keep in mind that I have never been sexually abused or anything Im just a modest girl :) But you never really know and thats the point... that all kids are different and one will feel okay about it and the next kid wont be okay with it. So its kinda like, some kids can swim some cant...but you dont go pushing kids in the pool without knowing if they can swim or not....I mean my way of thinking is why risk it if on the other side of the fence there is no benefits? there is no life lesson to learn. There is absolutely no reason a lil girl should need to know what the male body looks like. Same for a son to know what a women looks like. So if there are no benefits, no lessons to teach, then yes it is unnecessary. That being said if she does happen to see daddy naked its no big deal, (whats done is done) and if she asks any questions I would be more then happy to answer.

JOY you need to not post if your going to be so angry at an honest debate. I mean omg grow up.
PS I have no problem with what you are doing with your son. I also have no problem with what Laura is doing with her sons but I just personally am not comfortable with it. I am comfortable with my daughter shower with me because there is a benefit in that! (She can learn what she will look like when she gets older and I WANT her to ask question)....sorry for having my own opinion guys

Merry - posted on 12/05/2010

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but my husband is uncomfortable with our daughter one day seeing him naked, and i think theres no real reason a dad needs to be naked in front of his children, i mean i told him he cant freak out and make a big fuss if it ever happens, cuz i think if we act lke privates are 'wrong' then our kids will think they are wrong! if we act like privates are normal, but ment for private use lol, then they wont be ashamed of their own bodies, just understand it is for them only to touch (except mom and drs)
so i think dad to child should be up to whenever one or the other is uncomfortable with it.
mom to child really should be until child is uncomfortable, as moms we are supposed to be breastfeeding our children and so naturally we are designed to be at least semi naked in fron of our children for a few years or so.
I think when mom is a big prude and wont let her toddler see her body she will damage them mentally because we are social creatures, and our nakedness is something mom and child should be comfortable with for long enough for the child to grow into their own need for privacy.
so its just boobs, they are here FOR your child. the ONLY reason you have boobs is to fed your child, its just a vagina, the reason you have it is to give BIRTH to your child. all parts of mom are directly related to her children, penises are not so directly involved :)
so ya, mom should be showing her kids that her body isnt going to stand etween her and her child and that if your child cant even ask you 'whats that?' then how the heck do you expect them to ever ask you, what is sex? when can i have sex? should i send naked pictures to this boy?
if private area questions are off limits then be prepared for ALL private questions to be absent.

Merry - posted on 12/05/2010

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When Eric is uncomfortable with it I would stop, but also whenever he weans from breastfeding id probably stop then.
average weaning age is 4 years, with a range between 3-7years of normal weaning age so whenever he is done breastfeeding i could imagine id be done being naked in front of him. He is 20months now and has asked what my private area was called, i said mommys privates and that was it. I am confident in telling him the real words so when he is older and asks more specifically i will say boys have penises girls like mommy have vaginas. adults have hair on their privates!
So I say if humans are ment to be breastfeeding from moms breasts until 3-7 years its naturally speaking just fine to see mom naked until then!

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Just pray about it, and do what you think the Lord would have you do, and what your conscience is good with as appropriate. If it bothers you or another family member discuss it with them if you feel the need, and then consder what is best. What is right for one may not be for another. We need to be sensitive to others. For some people(families) nudity is not an issue, while others are very modest. For a teen boy it maybe be embarassing or even arousing. On the other hand if he is used to nudity it may not bother him. I still think as a mother we need to keep some things between our husband a wife relationship. What would be the reason of being nude in front of your teen son anyway?

Laura - posted on 12/05/2010

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JOY! JOY! JOY! LOL You said exactly how I feel I am just to lazy to type all of that out :)

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Ok, for any of you who have read my previous posts on this topic, you know that I think showering or bathing with children should be stopped when anyone involved (the child or the parent) becomes uncomfortable. Well, in the sense of fairness, I have asked my husband about this and here is what he has to say.

I posed the question to my husband like this:
If you were in the shower and Jacob was 13 (our shower door is transparent). Would you be ok with Jacob sitting down on the toilet lid and having a conversation about girls / boys with you. He said yes, he would be ok with that.

I posed the same question but, what if it was me, with the same transparent shower door and my husband said "No, that's just wrong." got up and walked away.

I think it's sad that A) I don't know my husband as well as I thought I did and B) that he feels like any nudity my son may see of me would reach a certain point of innapropriateness. To teach such things is to say that at some point there is something wrong with the human body. Aging or not. Youthful or not. There is nothing sexual about the way I shower with my son. The day that he....HE says that he wants privacy, well you know what? He's got it. Until then and even after then though, I will not refrain from dressing where I like or undressing where I like (in my own bedroom) and if my son happens to see it then you know what? So friggin' what? It's a BODY. I'm a WOMAN. BIG FRIGGIN DEAL. I wish everyone who had a hangup on this topic would at least concede to the fact that it's not like I'm asking my puberty infested son to shower with me. I'm not asking my puberty infested son to let me wash him. I'm talking about my 3 year old. Get over your disgusting selves. If you're thinking that me bathing with my 3 year old is inappropriate then there is something flawed in YOUR mind, not mine. Get the fuck over your selves. OMG I'm so over this topic and the friggin perverts who think I'm defective because I shower with my son and will continue to do to until he tells or asks me otherwise. I'm also so sick of the people who think that THEIR way is the ONLY way to raise a child. Those that think that at XX number (age) a child should do THIS or at XX age they should do THAT. FUCK THAT. My child does what he wants, what he can, what he is ready for...........whenever he wants, whenever HE is ready, whenever HE is ok with it. Anyone else who expects their child to be any different than how THEY want to be is fucked in the head. IMO. Gonna get flagged for saying it but I really don't care. I've been watching this thread from the begining and all of you people who think that it's inappropriate for me to shower with my son can kiss my ever lovin' American ass. Fuck me runnin.

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Why is it wrong? You change your baby's diaper. You give your baby a bath. You teach your toddler to go to the potty. Is there some issue with your own nudity that you are worried about? If you are uncomfortable about your body, your children will pick up on that and will learn to be uncomfortable about their own body. This will lead to confidence issues which can turn down all sorts of roads.

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Sometimes it had to do with saving time when we were hurried.When the boys got old enough, they bathed together.There is nothing wrong with it when they are still babies.

Amanda - posted on 12/04/2010

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My son is 23 months old and has always showered with either his daddy or me. He loves to take showers with us! We will probably stop when he can take a shower on his own :)

Nicole - posted on 12/04/2010

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I really don't understand why this is crossing the line this is stupid!!! What is the world coming to when we have to be ashamed of our bodies in front of our kids. If your kids don't see what the opposite sex parent looks like naked do you really think that they won't see it as they get older in porn magazines or on TV. Especially boys. No matter how much you try to shelter them from seeing these things they are going to and I think for a boy to see there mom naked when they are say 5 when she is there to answer questions about the differences is sure a lot better than them finding out the difference from some porno magazine that they get from a friend. At least their mom won't be posing or do whatever they do in the magazines or even worse porno magazines. If you teach them that it is ok around mom, dad, brothers or sisters but not to show themselves around other people there will be no problem. That is modesty too. It is like saying that a kid should never hear about sex or see anything about sex until they are old enough to have sex. Look where that got us. If the kids are uncomfortable or mom or dad are uncomfortable than that is a completely different story. At a certain age they will start to want more privacy and it should be given no questions asked but I think that being open about these things will also make your kids a lot more comfortable to come and talk to you about big important things like sex, drugs or whatever. They won't be scared that you will want them to be innocent and shy and "modest". That is one of the biggest mistakes of parents today!!!

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Privacy for a child is very important. When you take a bath with a child that is old enough to remember that is crossing the line (unless you live as a nudist lol)

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2010

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lol. This is crazy. Okay bathing with a baby is different then bathing with a 6 year old who will remember seeing his mom naked. Two years would definately be the limit. Why would you even want a child to see you naked. To each his own, but i prefer some modesty lol

Crystal - posted on 12/04/2010

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I still shower with my two year old he loves the shower and prefers it over a bath. I used to shower with one of my older sons as well but stopped when he was about 3 and was able to compare my body to other women.

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2010

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i dont think that you should ever shower with your kids. i have a 2 year old and a 13 year old i would never do that cause its wrong. you want to teach them right from wrong.

Laura - posted on 12/04/2010

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Antoinette I will ask you the same question I asked earlier. Do you think that breastfeeding boys (or breastfeeding in front of boys) is wrong too?

Personally I think baths are disgusting, and don't really get the children clean. My 4 year old knows better but I know my 2 year old will pee in the tub. Granted they still get baths because it's fun for them but most of they time they get a shower. If they wake up in time in the morning they will take one with daddy but if we need to wash at night my two year old will hop in with me. My 4 year old usually doesn't go in with me anymore but since I've showered with him I have taught him how to wash himself and now I feel confident at 4 years old he can do a great job all by himself.

If you've never done it and don't feel comfortable that is just fine and your choice. But there is NOTHING wrong with people who do. I wish some people would get off their high horse are realize there is more than one right way to raise a child.

Nicole - posted on 12/04/2010

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To Antoinette, why is there anything wrong with having a bath or a shower with your kids? My husband has baths with my 2 year old daughter and my 1 year old son all the time and has since they were born. It is their time together and they all love it. They look forward to it everytime. There is nothing sexual about it at all and I don't see anything inappropriate or wrong about it. No wonder people are so messed up these days when there are people out there making the human body seem so dirty. There are real things to worry about like parents, family, or other people touching kids in ways that are not right or saying things to them that are not right. Or physical and mental abuse to children not something as innocent as having a bath or shower together. I think the best time to stop is when the parents/children start to feel uncomfortable with it.

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I agree with Laura S. My son is 4 years old so he's at that age where he wants to do things on his own so i started to let him take showers by himself (under supervision), but on the occasion where it's convenient like we have to hurry and get somewhere I would shower with him to make it fast. It's just easier, but I think now that he's becoming more aware of the "nakedness" imma cut down on it. I'd say about 5 or 6 max. 9 is definitely too old hehe

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we always did family showers but our little girl is approaching 2 and my husband is no longer comfortable with it since she points and asks questions. so he stopped but she still showers with me and i don't mind her pointing and asking because we have the same parts. it was great when she was little since she was slippery when all soaped up and my hubby's chest hair helped him keep a grip on her while i washed her. but you can only do what u are comfortable with.

Nicole - posted on 12/02/2010

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What I believe is when you feel wierd about it than that is when you should stop. That said not that I agree but I also wouldn't go around telling friends or anyone that you are showering with them still not that there is anything wrong with it but some people may think otherwise. You will know how old is too old.

Alicia - posted on 12/02/2010

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Thats a good question my baby is ten months old and we just started taking baths together when he was almost 9 months old so i suppose ill be facing the same question eventually i would think when they start asking what body parts are and what they are for and curious questions like that. but i dont have any older kids so i havent been there yet.. just a thought.

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I took a few baths with my son starting around 6 months or so when he was trying to get used to the "big" tub. He's 14 months old now & I don't bathe with him anymore & haven't for awhile. When it's my turn to take a shower, if he's not napping or hanging out with daddy, then I will put him in the bathroom with me. I don't think I'd like taking showers with my son lol. I need that 10 minutes to myself!

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