sleep without putting her to sleep

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how would i get serenity to go to sleep in her bed without me putting her to sleep

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Amber - posted on 08/06/2009

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My daughter is 8 months and I can't get her to go to bed without me rocking her and she still wakes up about 2 times a night--bad nights about 5 and I always have to rock her back to sleep but I love mommy daughter time so it doesn't bother me. I just haven't had the heart to do the cry it out. I don't think there is any other way than cry it out because I've looked, then again she is a very demanding baby. If you find something let me know!

Valerie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I have a stand fan that I run in his room for white noise and a instrumental lullaby CD that I play softly. I have that on before I take him to his bed. He always has his sippy cup of water and special blanket. We sit on the couch and cuddle for a minute and I talk to it being night night time. Then I walk him to his bed saying night-night and love you's. I lay him in his crib and cover him with his blanket. A lot of times he will stand up right away and fuss for about a minute. Then he lays down and is right to sleep. My mom has a very hard time with him crying at all, but I know that he is fine. He cries when if I try to rock him to sleep too, and this way he only cries for literally 1 minute. It's not a sad cry, it's a mad cry. Anyway, we have a routine and he knows when it's time for bed.

Pamela - posted on 08/04/2009

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I had that same problem i used to rock my son to sleep everynight ! then he started getting a lil heavy for me to be carrying him around for an hour at night . hes 15months and 33lbs!!! ,, Anyways what i do now is i lay him in bed with a sippy cup of water with all the lights off and he usaully soothes himself to sleep , i taught him how to play with his own hair and he'll rub his leg and just fall asleep , Just make sure the room is dark and quiet and she should know its bedtime if you hear her rolling around just go in an pat her on the back an after she settles again leave the room .... Just please dont let her cry it out! ! i find that just mean !

Jane - posted on 08/04/2009

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if she's not an infant, then a routine. bath, book, bed. my mom had 7 kids and never did the cry out thing. she just did the same thing every night and it is the time of day that they need to feel secure the most, that everything will be okay. i tell my daughter while we're reading that if she wakes up and needs me, just to calmly call for me and i'll be there if she needs me. let her pick out the books and have one that is the last one your ready everytime. "pajama time" and "the going to bed book" by sandra boynton are fun and all about bedtime.


personally, i think bedtime should be all about cozy and quiet and happy. but a lot of moms say that crying out works great as well.



if she's an infant, i always rocked my now 2 year old to sleep i just made sure to rub b/w her eyes on her forehead before i stopped rocking her so i could do that for a minute or so once i put her in her crib. and i stopped rocking her for about 2 minutes before i put her in her crib. i have a cd that plays thru the night and i make sure i go in her room ahead of time and have the cd on, the lights down and everything set before we go in together so she can see that it's bedtime.



good luck and sweet dreams.

Mandy - posted on 08/04/2009

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cry it out is really dangerous.

i am getting all my facts from Dr William Sears sleep book. I have found it really helpful.





Infants who are routinely separated from their parents in a stressful way have abnormally high levels of stress hormone cortisol and lower growth hormone levels. These imbalances inhibit the growth of nerve tissue in the brain.

Researchers at Yale Unerversity and Harvard Medical School found that intense stress early in life can alter the brain's neurotransmitters and structure in a similar way to that found in adults with depression.

A study from the Unerversity of Hertfordshire, U.K., showed infants with persistant crying episodes were 10 times more likely to grow up to have ADHD, concluding this may be due to unresponsive parenting.

Research at Baylor University found when chronic stress over-stimulates an infant's brain, the child will grow up with an over-active adrenaline system, causing aggression, impolsivity, and violence later in life.

Studies at the UCLA School of Medicine found the stress hormone cortisol actually destroys nerve connections in critical portions of an infant's developing brain, and when babies are neglected, they can grow up to be violent, imolsive, and emptionally unattached children.

Doctors at Case Western and Duke Universities showed prolonged crying in infants caused increased pressure in the brain, elevated stress hormones and decreased oxygenating to the brain.

Researchers found babies whose cries are usually ignored will not develop healthy intellectual and social skills.

Doctors at the National Intitute of Health found that infants with prolonged crying (not due to colic) in the first 3 months of life had an average IQ 9 points lower at five years of age and poor fine motor development.

Infants with excessive crying during the early months show difficulty controlling their emotions and become even fussier when parents try to console them at 10 months.

All babies cry, and most babies grow up to be emotionally and neurologically healthy children. However, this research is clear on one point: intense, extended periods of crying alone can permanently harm a baby's developing brain. What does this mena about the Cry It Out method? A baby who only cries briefly for a few nights is probably fine. What about crying for many minutes, night after night? We cant say how many minutes and how many night are safe, because no one has ever researches this. We urge parents to be very cautious if they decide to try this method.

Dr William and Martha Sears

Heather - posted on 08/03/2009

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Cry it out...thats how I did with my son....and had to redo it a few times after my mom put him to sleep a few nights in a row, and again after my husband was home on leave. It is more torture for mom than the babies...everytime I had to redo it it was harder and longer time periods starting off, so try not to let people put them to sleep too often.

Lauren - posted on 08/03/2009

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I use a dark room. A dummy for comfort. I only re-enter the room when I hear my girl making noise so I just replace the dummy in her mouth - she is normally sound asleep within 30mins

KEETA KARLENE - posted on 08/03/2009

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OTHER THAN JUST PUTTING HER IN HER BED AND LETTING HER CRY IT OUT THERE IS JUST NO WAY. I HAVE 5 KIDS AND I NEVER DID MANAGE THAT ONE CORRECTLY. I NEVER HAD THE HEART TO JUST LET THEM CRY IT OUT LIKE I WAS TOLD TO DO!! BEST OF LUCK..

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