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so tired of it

Erica - posted on 02/22/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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so tired of my husband trying to run off and do things when i need hime the most. he thinks that he should go and volunteer at my sons school on a day my son wont be there cause he is sick. he tires to leave me home with both the kids one of them being sick and my with a bad knee. i would not mid it if my son was going to be at school so i dont have to deal with both of them by myself and one being sick. i told him that he does not need to go but he was insists. i took away the keys and then he gets mad at me and goes upstairs to lay in bed and sulk about it like poor him. i understand where he is coming from about wanting to get out of the house but i cant go anywhere by myself, that includes the store we have to take both kids and every thing. it just gets on my nerves. i would like to get out of the house once in a while too. my husband dont even try to get a job he lays around and does nothing. he is almost 500lbs. and he dont try to do anything about that either. i dont understand him most of the time.

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Jade - posted on 02/22/2012

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Hi Erica,

Men are babies. :) Just kidding, kindof. Haha. (Hope that made you smile.)

You don't deserve this kind of treatment. It sounds from your post that your hubby may be struggling with some things...the loads of responsibility that come from having a family, and also the responsibility of taking care of yourself, even though you also have a family to take care of. Have you tried talking calmly to him? I am sure you have, but explaining that you understand his need to get away from the house may make him feel like you are on his side, not blaming him.

Do you two get out together? This would make both of you happy, help you reconnect, and give you BOTH a chance to get out of the house. My hubby and I don't get out much, but we feel VERY refreshed when we come home, even after 2 hours or so.

We like to go for walks nightly as a family. It can be very tough to get out the door, but it's vital to our well-being, health, and sanity. :) As a SAHM, sometimes I do not get out all day, so I always look forward to getting out, even for just a half hour to let our dog run.

I see this alot with many of my friends, that their husbands are always fighting to get out the door. Finding sports, friends, activities outside the home. I cannot understand it. (Just like you said :) Do you and you husband strive to have a happy home (not just maintain)? Make it a goal between the two of you, and although it will NEVER be perfect, just knowing you both have a common goal, you can work together to make home a place everyone wants to be....Not escape from.

Also, take some time for yourself, you deserve it momma!! :) Good luck!!

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