So your a stay at home mom, What do you do?

Jasmine - posted on 12/08/2009 ( 119 moms have responded )

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I'm just curious. I mean I know your taking care of your kids and most likely the household but what else? How do you make ends meet? What do you do to occupy the 24 hours of the day? What is your situation? Why did you choose to be a stay at home mom? Thanks!





Please let me add before anyone else gets offended!...

I am an expecting mommy, my little boy should be here very soon. My husband actually passed away recently, so it will be just me taking care of the baby and hopefully both of our families. I will (hopefully) be returning to my part-time job eventually, it's not too many hours but I want to spend most of my time with my son anyway, like many other moms said I don't trust anyone with my child. (not as a baby atleast) I am going to need some kind of income. I'm hopeing a family member will be able to babysit for the few hours I go to work because a daycare would be too much. I am taking online classes now. Other than that, I don't know what is going to be my situation. Whatever life throws at me I will be ready :) I HOPE. lol I just wanted to get an idea of what other moms do....Thanks again....

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Callinda - posted on 12/09/2009

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Staying at home is so rewarding, but at the same time really demanding! I have worked full time, part time and more recently been a SAHM - which I think it the hardest of all! But I do it because I can never get back this time with my kids and I want dont want to miss a thing!
I try to stick to a routine each day so that we manage to get everything done. With 3 kids under 5 I think you have to be organised!

5am - up for babies feed
6am - shower & get ready for the day, clean bathroom & put on load of laundry
7am - kids breakfast, empty dishwasher, clean up kitchen
8am - dress kids, make beds
9am - out for a few hours - could be kinder, swimming, playgroup, supermarket shopping, etc - depends on the day!
10.30am Morning Tea then some outside play (during which time I will do some gardening, hang washing out, etc)
12pm - Lunch, 2nd load washing
1pm - set up older kids with an activity or two (craft, puzzles, colouring, playdoh, etc, so I can get an hours cleaning in - I have a schedule with different rooms on each day of the week)
3pm - afternoon tea, get a start on dinner
4pm - watch some cartoons with the kids to chill out, more washing!!
5pm - 'Family Time' before dinner - could be a board game, books, etc
6pm - dinner & dishes
7pm - bath & bed for the kids
8pm - finish off days cleaning, put away washing, get ready for the next day
10pm - computer time - bills, emails, etc
11pm - Bedtime!

Life is hectic, but I wouldnt change a thing :)

Renae - posted on 12/08/2009

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Occupy the 24 hours??? Oh my god, I don't stop from 6am until 10pm and then I'm still up twice a night with feeds and baby is 9mo. And I only have one baby? How does anyone have 3 or 4 kids? My job is 24/7. When I was working full time (before baby) I spent all weekend cleaning house and running errands, now those 2 days of work is spread across the week in between baby. (Although lately I have been spending about 1-2 hours on COM but that is some before I go to bed and the rest in the middle of the night waiting for baby to go back to sleep). Baby and I also go to playgroup, swimming and gymbaroo so each of those takes up half a day.

I always intended to stay at home. I feel like noone can take care of our baby as well as I can and noone else is going to give him the proper attention. My husband doesn't like the idea of putting a child in daycare to be looked after by a stranger and he thinks they develop better at home with a mum who does developmental activities with them (which I do different ones every day).

We make ends meet because we have no debt other than a small mortgage (we have an investment property but its rent has been covering the mortgage for a couple years now) so we never really needed both wages. We don't borrow money, everything including cars was saved for. Credit cards are for convenience, like purchasing on the net and money is put on there before it is spent. Dropping to one wage just means we can't throw money around without thinking like we used to. But it did take a change in attitude and habits and we ate through the savings pretty quickly to start off and kept having to remind ourselves we have to think about what we are spending now.

Staying home and looking after baby is so much better than going to work. But, I too will be interested to see what people say. I know mums who say they get bored sitting at home (they are welcome to come clean my house!) and SIL goes to the shops every day "for something to do", I can't believe it. I must be doing something wrong!! I would love to be sitting around all day getting bored! LOL

Nicki - posted on 12/10/2009

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My husband is in the Navy, and I was 5 months pregnant when we relocated, so I had to leave my job as a financial counselor then, and we knew we would be moving again when the baby was around 1 month old, so there was no point in going back to work until our permanent station. During that time, however, we found that with disciplined budgeting, coupon cutting, and less recreational spending, that we could afford to live on one income. Therefore, when the baby was born in March 09 and we relocated to RI, I decided to continue to stay at home. It is tough, being that we cut our income in half while adding on a major new expense (baby!), but it is the most rewarding thing being able to stay at home with him! Being military, we have housing and healthcare covered. Since my husband works so close to home, we have decided to go down to one car. I got a Saturday only job at the local YMCA for a free gym membership (and a little spending money), and my hubby is home with baby then. A typical day for me would be...



7-7:30 am: Wake up...diaper change, morning bottle, cartoons while Mommy has her coffee and makes breakfast

8 am: Breakfast

8-8:30: Get dressed, pack diaper bag, get ready for gym

9-10am: Mommy goes to the gym (baby in childcare at YMCA)

10:30-12:30: Diaper change, bottle, and Mid-morning nap

During this time, I shower, clean, do laundry, and make my hubby lunch.

12:30: Baby wakes up...diaper change, lunch

1-3: Playtime with baby

3-4:30: Baby's second nap (Mommy finishes laundry, works on budget, pays bills, etc, and starts dinner)

5:00: Daddy comes home...dinner time, kitchen cleanup, playtime with Daddy.

7:00: Start getting ready for bed...bathtime, bedtime story, lullaby

7:30-8pm: Bedtime for baby

And I usually get to bed around 10-11.



I definitely don't ALWAYS stick to this routine. All of you would probably agree that while it's great to have a schedule, you have to be flexible and your day may not always go so smoothly. I definitely have to change things up from time to time. I do also spend a lot of time hanging out with my neighbors who are also stay at home moms doing playdates, etc, and in the summer we go up to the community pool or take walks around the neighborhood. All in all, I stay way busier than I ever did when I was working! A mother's job is never done!

Rebecca - posted on 12/08/2009

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Well for me I do childcare. I had 4 other kids in my home besides my own 2 and was bringing in over 1200 a month. My husband is military,Canadian, and we live very well for our ages. We have our own home and our vehicles are paid for. We have 3000$ in debt,thank God that's all lol. Any money i make is spending money fi we want to do something like go to a resturaunt and anything someone pays me by cheque goes to our debt. In 2 months my income alone put out debt down almost 3000$ as we were in almost 7k when i started doing it...our furnace broke in our home and our roof leakes so we needed a new one. On monday wednesday and friday evenings i go to the gym for about 1.5 hours for some me time and to relax some. I decided to be a stay at home mom when iw as 5 months pregnant with our daughter,our second child, because i went back to work when our son was 6 weeks old and bought a business. I aws working over 60 hours a week there and my husband and i decided it wasn't worth me having a store if everything i made had to be paid to employees and when i ddi work i would have to pay a sitter for 2 kids. It was the best decission of my life! I started the childcare when i was 6 months pregnant and the familes came back to me when our daughter was almost 2 months old. This is by far the most rewarding "job" in the world! My husband took all the parental leave when we had our son so i was able to go back to work and it made since as military personnal in Canada get 94% of their income during leave while civilians only get 55%. How about you Jasmine? How do you fill your time and what do you do and what is your situation?

User - posted on 12/15/2009

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I home school and work transcription part time............... and I have no time:)

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Well, my babies are all grown now, but I decided early on to stay home with them and also work from home. I'm a scopist who edits transcripts for court reporters. Been doing it since my first was born 22 years ago. They have online courses for it now which are excellent and affordable, "BeST Scoping Techniques classes are good. The hardest part is breaking into the industry, it's mostly all by word of mouth, but I love my job and now work in a full-time capacity from home setting my own hours, including many weekends like this one.

Sani - posted on 10/11/2012

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Please I am a mom with 5 kids and could use a way to make some extra money at home. Tnx lots.

Sani - posted on 10/11/2012

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I am a mother of 5 kids. A 13years old daughter an 11 years old son a set of twins age 5 and a 3years old son. I recently left my job of 12years because it was to much for Me to keep up with all of their schedules and continue to be a good employee. My husband and I decided I should stay at home and focus on the kids. I have never been without a job and find that it is driving me crazy. Maybe its just the thought of being unemployed.

Taryn - posted on 12/16/2009

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First of all let me say Im sorry for your loss. Secondly, being a stay at home mom is more than just child care and housework. Motherhood should come with multiple Masters Degree. I am not only a maid and childcare worker, I am also a nurse, counselor, Teacher, chef, Cheif financial officer, Head of home security, safety inspector, stylist, personal shopper, law (rule) enforcement officer 2 a family of 4 everyday. I dont get paid a dime but wouldnt trade this job for all the money in the world!! Yes its messy, stressful, and often thankless but just like those who get paid to work I knew that when I took this job and if my children grow to be strong independent productive respectful caring giving members of society then that will be payment enough for me.

Megan - posted on 12/16/2009

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I stay at home because we own our own business and we are fortunate enough to be able to afford me to stay home with our two children. I just love bing home with them. I am constantly cleaning, playing with my kids, reading to them, changing diapers, feeding them, helping them with something, and constantly picking up after them.....so much to do and not enough hours in the day. LOVE staying home with my babies!

Megan - posted on 12/16/2009

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I stay at home because we own our own business and we are fortunate enough to be able to afford me to stay home with our two children. I just love bing home with them. I am constantly cleaning, playing with my kids, reading to them, changing diapers, feeding them, helping them with something, and constantly picking up after them.....so much to do and not enough hours in the day. LOVE staying home with my babies!

Fay - posted on 12/15/2009

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I stay at home because being ex military I was away from my daughter for a long time. I feel that I have alot to make up for plus I like being there for her, and she likes knowing that I am there for her. She is 9 but still "wants" me to be around and has not gotten to the age where I embarass her...yet. I take care of the house in the morning when I get her off to school and then with the rest of the day, I do alot of volunteer work. I volunteer at ther school and at a clothing/food bank. It fills my day and time until I go to pick her up from school. From there it is homework, dinner, baths and she loves for me to read to her. Then we get up and do it all over again the next day.

Alicia - posted on 12/15/2009

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I am a stay at home mom also. I have an 8year old a 7 year old and a 1 year old daughter. We are very blessed that my fiances job provides us with a pretty comfortable lifestyle. My days are mostly boring to be honest with you. The boys are in school during the day so its just me and my daughter. My job is basically everything, laundry, cleaning, breakfast, lunch, dinner, picking up toys, homework, grocery shopping, and just basically being a mom. Im very fortunate to be a sahm, but its lacking as well. I own a clothing label and thats brought me a bit of sanity, but Im the kind of person that doesnt like to have any down time, or vacant minutes.... bordeom is my enemy, and I cant wait until the kids are all older and in college so I can start living my life for me :)

Lora - posted on 12/15/2009

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First I am so sorry to hear about your husband. It sounds like you are a very strong woman. And I also babysit in my home. I can stay home and be here for my kids while bringing in money at the same time. I look at it like this also. I am saving money by not having to have certain clothes and eating out is tempting when you're working outside the home and the gas money you can save as well. I can work on my housework and be there for my kids, ect...I love being off in the evenings and weekends to go to my kids functions and sports. I am my own boss...But I am thankful everyday that God has given me this opportunity! I hope everything works out for you...God Bless!

Lena - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Emily:



Quoting Lena:




Quoting Emily:

What do we do?? How do we occupy 24 hours of the day??? hahahaha. oh my gosh.

im just wondering if you have ever looked after a child? or even watched someone else look after a child? When kids arnt napping, and thats IF they nap.. a BIG if..they are usually demanding constant attention. Children are also very accomplished at mess making, so while it may be easy to keep a house tidy when there are just adults living there, its a completley different story with children. You cant simply tell them to "clean up". Being a mum, and running a household is like having 3 fulltime jobs. but we dont get paid, and we dont get holidays, we dont get sick leave, we dont get weekends. We DO get the love of a child though.

Taking care of the kids and running a household is extremly difficult. I wouldnt make a statment like that unless you have tried it yourself.

I personally am a single stay at home mum, and i also study via distance ed. My son goes to daycare 2 days a week so that i can get everything done.

EVERYDAY clothes and ishes need to be washed, floors need to be vaccumed and swept, food needs to be cooked, usually 2 different meals at each meal time and everything dangerous needs to be kept out of a baby's reach. You need to be on constant lookout for ways they could hurt themselves, because if you miss one, you can bet bubs will find it.

If you need to go out for some reason.. food shoppinh, doctors, etc.. the work piles up and it usually takes you another week to get on top of it.

really, come live this life for a day and you wont be stupid enough to post a question like this again!!!!!!!!!!!!!







First of all, kids don't feed the trolls... But seriously this is hilarious I barely finished reading this. You took this WAYYYYYYYY too personally. The girl just wanted to know what you do the entire day EXCEPT all the household work. Wow, why are mothers so offensive...








 








But to answer the curiousity of an innocent girl... Well, when I do get a chance I just lay on my bed and do some internet browsing or chat with my husband while he's at work. We try to get out of the house as a family and do lots of fun things to stay away from all that stress :) Or other times, I just get my hair and makeup done to feel like a pretty mama for my husbands arrival from work :)








 








 









Maybe i dont get time to lay around on my bed and "get away from all the stress". maybe all i have time to do in the day is clean up after my son, get the washing done, keep him happy all the while and maybe get some study in if im lucky? Maybe this leaves me a little on edge?






 






im glad you find other peoples lives hilarious.





that is why you are so in edge. you dont even take 5 min for yourself. I'd rather "lay around" for atleast ten min that i get than be a stressed out mom for my kid. I think she will appreciate it that more :) 

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I had no idea that I would stay home untill my first daughter was 4 months old. I went bak to work and it just felt wrong. Lucky for me that my husband was on board for me to stay home and it was the best choice for us. It's harder than going to work, at least I think so. I'm busy all day with the girls, household stuff, running around and child activities. There's never a dull moment at our house.

Angela - posted on 12/15/2009

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As a stay at home mother and a wife you have duties to cut costs and learn to save money. By staying home I save money on daycare, wear and tear on my vehicle, gas, and it saves on my marriage. I am able to make sure that everything that needs to be done is done before my husband gets home which allows him time to play with our daughter and time for me. You can cut coupons, learn to be a better grocery shopper, sell avon or jewelry. You can do a lot of things to save money. I have a certain price I will pay for certain things or I won't be it. Boneless chicken breast- 1.99lb, lettuce $1, pasta $1. I shop only the sales because I have time to go to three different grocery marts for my groceries. My grocery shopping has saved us hundreds of dollars per month. I check craigslist for toys and other baby items and I sell items that we do not use anymore. I made my own baby food for awhile but lately have not whereas my daughter has been transitioning to other foods. I was washing my floor twice a day until right before Thanksgiving. Lately I have been busy so its been twice a week, but usually my day is like this:



up at 630- make bed sippy cup for the baby, throw a load of laundry in

730-8- dust and get on facebook

8-9 get breakfast for both of us, clean up breakfast and kitchen

9-10 together time

10- nap time



If the floor needs to be washed or laundry needs to be transferred I do that, than get online.



pick up so everything is organized



once a week I wipe down all the babies toys with wipes or clorox wipes

clean the fridge

microwave

stove

wash the bedding and shams





there is always something to do, keep your house clean!

Rachel - posted on 12/15/2009

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Well When i got pregnant i thought i would continue school and allow my son to be at a day care. But when he was born, my husband was working a case on a women who worked in a day care who was physically abuseing a child. ( my husband is a detective ) So i decided to put school on hold and be a stay at home mom. My son is now 3 months old and my day is never boring. Watching my son grow and change has been the greatest part of my life, and i feel so lucky that im able to stay home with my son and not have to work. When your child is born you will understand, that there really isnt a dull moment in your day and you will constantly find something to do. Between laundry and feeding the baby and cleaning the house, and haveing some down time for you, you will be so busy. trust me....

Nichola - posted on 12/15/2009

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my partner works 2 jobs to support us, at the moment its just me my fiance and our daughter who is 3 tomorrow, but i am also expecting our second baby in 2 days time so after the baby is born dave will be giving up his second job (he only has a second one at the mo to help out with xmas and the new baby) but he earns enough to keep us and thats the way he likes it, personally i think that you shouldnt have kids to hand them over to someone else so i will be a stay at home mummy until my kids go to preschool and i wont be going back to work before then, i had my kids to bring them up myself not to pay someone else to do it lol, but thats just MY opinion, some people cant afford to not work.

amoungst looking after my daughter and soon to be baby my day is more then full!! as well as doing all the housework, making sure dinners on the table when dave comes home.....washing ironing and making sure my daughter gets plenty of play time (thats what kids are all about hey lol) and some days i like to take her swimming or maybe just to the park... whatever im doing im always busy.... mind you its nice to have a lazy day every now and then, where we stay in our pj's all day watching rubbish day time tv haha but then us mums dont get a weekend so we deserve it hahah

Krystal - posted on 12/15/2009

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Hey, I feel the same way. I do have a lisence, I go to school online, my husband is in the military so he's hardly home. I only have one son, he's 11 months. I feel depressed all day too. We share a vehichle if I need it my husband will bring it home during his lunch break but money is so tight there is no reason for me to go out. I dont' know anyone here where I live cuz i had to move here to the base where my husband is stationed. I know one girl who has two kids of her own so she is busy mostly. I have always worked more than one job and now staying at home makes me stir crazy. I dont get enough oomph to clean or take a shower. I hate it. My husband lets me run errands when he gets home so I can get out for an hour or so but it doesn't really make me feel much better. I have lost interest in all my hobbies. I dont know what to do to make myself happy. I have a great husband and great son, but i'm still miserable.....you''re not alone girl!

Jessica - posted on 12/14/2009

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well i do a mommy meety every wednsday with friends and familly, use moms set and talk as the kids play.. Its alot of fun, u get out of the house and u get adult time, let ur kid interact with others. I also do hair so i do hair from home for a lil cash hope everythang gos well for u good luck in everythang u do (sorry for the bad spelling lol)

Lori - posted on 12/14/2009

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Kathleen - posted on 12/14/2009

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What do we do all day...Well, there is plenty to keep one busy when 3 toddlers under 5 are constantly destroying the room you just cleaned for the 17th time. But when I do get a break, I check on my older daughters via Facebook...keeping up with them and their friends comments helps me to know when to step in and maybe steer them back on the path...I became a stay at home mom due to a series of events..My high paying, work from home career was out-sourced to India...at that time I was pregnant with my fourth child so did not look for a job right away...went back to work as a CPA in a small firm when baby 4 was a few months old. Eventually, baby 4 joined baby three in daycare...about 45 to 50 percent of income was going to daycare and fuel. Then came baby 5. When he was born, quit my job to become SAHM as more than 50% of income would have been given to daycare and fuel. Now they are 4, 3, and 15 months. I juggle bills and expenses each month to stretch hubbies pay. I clip coupons. I do not buy convenience foods. I do not buy myself anything unless it is desperately needed. We also have a 16 year old high school junior and a 20 year old in college (using planned savings for that). We have no debt....NONE.....credit cards are for convenience....always paid in full each month...when youngest is a bit older, I may start doing taxes, etc...as am keeping my CPA license current....
I am not always the best mom. I get frazzled....I fell lonely alot.....I seldom go anywhere as children do not always behave well....
BUT, I know that I am doing important work...I know that my children feel loved....I know that my husband appreciates what I do each day....I just need to work on reminding myself of these things when the loneliness and self-pity try to bring me down....

Maritza - posted on 12/14/2009

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We decided I would stay at home. I have a two month old, so I don't get many breaks. I love to write, so when she's napping, I use my free time to write (after I've cleaned up and eaten, of course). I also like to drink coffee, so I meet my friend for coffee sometimes. I'd love to meet other moms who stay at home in my area, to meet for coffee and chat.

Kathleen - posted on 12/14/2009

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Quoting jasmine:



Quoting Jennifer:

Hello, Hello. I am a stay at home mom of three beautiful children ages 5, 4, 3 and I work from home with an amazing company that give me the freedom to work when i want and has an amazing record with the Better Business Bureau. And the best part about is the is NO RISK!!! So if anyone would like more information please let me know!!






I would like more information ;) THANKS!






More info please...

Jasmine - posted on 12/14/2009

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Lol Wow, ok thanks guys, I'm glad we got that settled. Thanks Emily. Thanks Lena ;)

Kathleen - posted on 12/14/2009

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Quoting Jill:

I am so glad to hear I am not the only mom who's not accomplishing anything spectacular! I'm so glad I read this thread! My only son is 11 months today. My husband and I decided I would stay home when I went out on maternity leave.About 9 days before our son was born. Sometimes I feel like I'm not contributing because I have no income but between cooking, cleaning and entertaining our baby I am on the go all day. Finding time to fill out Xmas cards or any me time is almost impossible. My situation is a little different though. My husband works over night so I am alone with the baby 18 hours a day! Whew, we are women hear us roar (or snore when we get the chance)!



But wait!  You are accomplishing something spectacular!  You are rearing your son to be somebody someday!  And remember that you both agreed to this plan.  Don't ever feel that just because you are not getting a 'paycheck' each week, that you do not contribute.  What we do is priceless.  No one on earth could pay us the wages we deserve, so we do it ALL for nothing but LOVE!  I have to remind myself of this every time my 3 year old fails to make it to the potty, or my 5 year old pours herself some koolaid (all over the floor), or my 15 month old dumps all the toys out of the toybox, or my husband says, "I am going to get ...xyz... from town be back later" without any thought for how Mom cannot just leave the house any time without loading up all the kids....But I digress....I do love my family, but no maid would do for them what I do each and every day....

Emily - posted on 12/14/2009

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Quoting Lena:



Quoting Emily:

What do we do?? How do we occupy 24 hours of the day??? hahahaha. oh my gosh.

im just wondering if you have ever looked after a child? or even watched someone else look after a child? When kids arnt napping, and thats IF they nap.. a BIG if..they are usually demanding constant attention. Children are also very accomplished at mess making, so while it may be easy to keep a house tidy when there are just adults living there, its a completley different story with children. You cant simply tell them to "clean up". Being a mum, and running a household is like having 3 fulltime jobs. but we dont get paid, and we dont get holidays, we dont get sick leave, we dont get weekends. We DO get the love of a child though.

Taking care of the kids and running a household is extremly difficult. I wouldnt make a statment like that unless you have tried it yourself.

I personally am a single stay at home mum, and i also study via distance ed. My son goes to daycare 2 days a week so that i can get everything done.

EVERYDAY clothes and ishes need to be washed, floors need to be vaccumed and swept, food needs to be cooked, usually 2 different meals at each meal time and everything dangerous needs to be kept out of a baby's reach. You need to be on constant lookout for ways they could hurt themselves, because if you miss one, you can bet bubs will find it.

If you need to go out for some reason.. food shoppinh, doctors, etc.. the work piles up and it usually takes you another week to get on top of it.

really, come live this life for a day and you wont be stupid enough to post a question like this again!!!!!!!!!!!!!





First of all, kids don't feed the trolls... But seriously this is hilarious I barely finished reading this. You took this WAYYYYYYYY too personally. The girl just wanted to know what you do the entire day EXCEPT all the household work. Wow, why are mothers so offensive...






 






But to answer the curiousity of an innocent girl... Well, when I do get a chance I just lay on my bed and do some internet browsing or chat with my husband while he's at work. We try to get out of the house as a family and do lots of fun things to stay away from all that stress :) Or other times, I just get my hair and makeup done to feel like a pretty mama for my husbands arrival from work :)






 






 





Maybe i dont get time to lay around on my bed and "get away from all the stress". maybe all i have time to do in the day is clean up after my son, get the washing done, keep him happy all the while and maybe get some study in if im lucky? Maybe this leaves me a little on edge?



 



im glad you find other peoples lives hilarious.

Emily - posted on 12/14/2009

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The way you asked the question lead to my defensive answer. I do not have time to sit here and read through all the replies! so sorry if i did not see any further posts made by you to suggest your motivation to asking this question! When you posted that question, the language you used such as "i mean what else do you do?" and "how do fill 24 hours in a day?" was sure to draw some negative responses, I do not have time to sit here and read through all the replies! so sorry if i did not see any further posts made by you to suggest your motivation to asking this question!

the truth is everybody handles it differently, some people get an "easy baby" who sleeps alot and can amuse themselves, some people get a "difficult baby" who has collic, or reflux, or both, or is generally just a fussy baby.

Lena - posted on 12/14/2009

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Quoting Emily:

What do we do?? How do we occupy 24 hours of the day??? hahahaha. oh my gosh.

im just wondering if you have ever looked after a child? or even watched someone else look after a child? When kids arnt napping, and thats IF they nap.. a BIG if..they are usually demanding constant attention. Children are also very accomplished at mess making, so while it may be easy to keep a house tidy when there are just adults living there, its a completley different story with children. You cant simply tell them to "clean up". Being a mum, and running a household is like having 3 fulltime jobs. but we dont get paid, and we dont get holidays, we dont get sick leave, we dont get weekends. We DO get the love of a child though.

Taking care of the kids and running a household is extremly difficult. I wouldnt make a statment like that unless you have tried it yourself.

I personally am a single stay at home mum, and i also study via distance ed. My son goes to daycare 2 days a week so that i can get everything done.

EVERYDAY clothes and ishes need to be washed, floors need to be vaccumed and swept, food needs to be cooked, usually 2 different meals at each meal time and everything dangerous needs to be kept out of a baby's reach. You need to be on constant lookout for ways they could hurt themselves, because if you miss one, you can bet bubs will find it.

If you need to go out for some reason.. food shoppinh, doctors, etc.. the work piles up and it usually takes you another week to get on top of it.

really, come live this life for a day and you wont be stupid enough to post a question like this again!!!!!!!!!!!!!


First of all, kids don't feed the trolls... But seriously this is hilarious I barely finished reading this. You took this WAYYYYYYYY too personally. The girl just wanted to know what you do the entire day EXCEPT all the household work. Wow, why are mothers so offensive...



 



But to answer the curiousity of an innocent girl... Well, when I do get a chance I just lay on my bed and do some internet browsing or chat with my husband while he's at work. We try to get out of the house as a family and do lots of fun things to stay away from all that stress :) Or other times, I just get my hair and makeup done to feel like a pretty mama for my husbands arrival from work :)



 



 

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Quoting Emily:

What do we do?? How do we occupy 24 hours of the day??? hahahaha. oh my gosh.

im just wondering if you have ever looked after a child? or even watched someone else look after a child? When kids arnt napping, and thats IF they nap.. a BIG if..they are usually demanding constant attention. Children are also very accomplished at mess making, so while it may be easy to keep a house tidy when there are just adults living there, its a completley different story with children. You cant simply tell them to "clean up". Being a mum, and running a household is like having 3 fulltime jobs. but we dont get paid, and we dont get holidays, we dont get sick leave, we dont get weekends. We DO get the love of a child though.

Taking care of the kids and running a household is extremly difficult. I wouldnt make a statment like that unless you have tried it yourself.

I personally am a single stay at home mum, and i also study via distance ed. My son goes to daycare 2 days a week so that i can get everything done.

EVERYDAY clothes and ishes need to be washed, floors need to be vaccumed and swept, food needs to be cooked, usually 2 different meals at each meal time and everything dangerous needs to be kept out of a baby's reach. You need to be on constant lookout for ways they could hurt themselves, because if you miss one, you can bet bubs will find it.

If you need to go out for some reason.. food shoppinh, doctors, etc.. the work piles up and it usually takes you another week to get on top of it.

really, come live this life for a day and you wont be stupid enough to post a question like this again!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Listen, please...do not try to turn my curiosity into a negative thing. No one else did. Of course I have looked after children! As a teenager I raised my little brother from changing, feeding, potty training to his 1st day of school and he has turned out just fine ty...No one is knocking sahm, I am just expecting a child and I know that there are alot of sahm's (HERE) I would love to stay at home with my son I really don't want anyone taking care of him daily, I don't trust anyone. So my question was just to get an idea of what other moms do and what to expect...and I see that others are curious too.  Then theres always that one peron on the defensive, I don't have time fo that, suprisingly you do.

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My husband and i both work from home together and we both look after our 3 year old and 3 month old. we work in the travel industry. if you're looking for a good side business or full time business, check out www.startliving.biz

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For us we have 4 kids 2 -9 years aboy and a girl both think they are helpers but lets face it they make more of a mess helping. And we have a 1year old boy and a 3 month old girl who was born a preemie. So since Im a stay at home mom my life is a little crazy right now. We have tried to set a time frame of what and where everyone should be doing but since our daughter has alot of drs appointments and I dont drive. Cause I have a seizure disorder . So my husband or my dad will do the running me around which is fine since having 2 babies so close together I need all the help I can get. Now when there is a manadate and my husband has to work till they control the problems at work which can go up to 36 hrs . Im stuck all alone with 4 kids and no way to get them milk or anything in the middle of the night. which stucks so I have learned my lesson the hard way already and have stocked up on stuff.But over life is what it is and I enjoy being with my kids and the older 2 are learning how to run a house kinda this year. so far they learned to do dishes wash clothes and wash the floor in the bathroom which at this age I am very proud of them. Our only problem is both kids think they are the parents to the babies so every time we turn around we find either kids trying to pick up either baby or trying to feed them and last week my oldest son wanted to give the babies their baths on his own .so i have my hands full.

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Well Lets see yes i take care of the kid, and the household, My husband is a long haul truck driver so it's usually just me and DS anyways. After i get done doing my hosehold stuff, I start working, I work from home so it makes it easy. After work I watch some Tv and get done whatever else i need to get done. usually my day is booked full, with work, cleaning, meals, exercise, DS, bath, shower, bed, animals. So thats my day in a nut shell lol

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I have a Leatherwork business making Equestrian gear and whatever else you can think of! No nothing kinky lol. I also have 2 horses so between the business, horses and Wil i have no time for much else!

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Well God helps make sure ends meet.. I really dont spend too much time on that. I have a 5 month old that keeps me pretty busy. I keep a clean house pay bills and volunteer at my church whenever needed. I have a regular routine which keeps me pretty busy through the day. By the time I get my household chores done my 6 year old is home from school and shortly after its dinner time and the husband home. I used to work fulltime. I find I am much busier now than when I worked 40 hours a week.

I chose to be a stay at home mom because I didnt want to pay child care costs and have my babies being raised by someone else. Im in no way knocking Moms who go back to work. Believe me if my husband couldnt support us I would be back at work too. I work probably work night shift though so I could be home while my husband was working and vice versa. Luckily for me I can stay home.

I would recommend for a stay at home mom who is bored to take up a hobby or volunteer somewhere. It can be rewarding to stay at home if you keep your eye on the prize. For me I just remind myself that no one can take care of my little ones better than me and it's me that they want to be with

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I pretty much don't do anything. I just stay at home all day and watch tv and hang out with my baby boy. Sometimes I try and get friends or family to come over to see me, because I don't have the car during the day while my fiance is at work. I usually am very bored during the day, and will try to go places with my baby and fiance when he gets home from work. We go to the mall sometimes, or on weekends we will stay over at a friends house. I would suggest to hang out with friends or family during the day.

I decided to stay home with the baby because I knew I wouldnt want to be away from him for 8 hours a day. Another reason was because I moved and if I were to keep the job I had, I would have had a drive of over an hour each way to and from work, so it would be over 2 hours of driving a day, and it wouldnt have been worth it. I am glad I get to stay at home with my baby, but now that we moved I dont know anyone here and I get very lonely and my baby doesnt have any playmates near us

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I truely believe, it is way harder to be a stay at home mom than it is to be a working mom, Ive done both and Ill say this....as soon as my 3 year old starts pre-k next year I am getting a job! I chose to stay home with my girls because I dont believe having kids and taking them somewhere to be raised! theyre there from 8 am to 5 pm most of them anyway and thats just sad!!!! some moms just dont have a choice and I understand that! but if you can choose to stay home do so! noone else should teach your kids about values, manners, and plus you miss out on all the cute and sweet thigs they go thru at least their first 4 years! it takes a strong and amazing woman to be a SAHM. :)

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With my first pregnancy, I stayed sick alot so I chose to quit my job at a daycare. From then on I worked inside my home babysitting once I got to feeling better and after I had my son! Then at one point I started having health issues so I had to get disability. It's not the type of income I wanted to bring home, but it's better than nothing. I occupy my time with playing around on the computer, watching tv, or taking naps when I'm exhausted. That's when I don't have my kids with me at the house. As of right now I have a boyfriend who has been helping me with the kids and house! Him and I are making future plans together! Things have been a lot better since he's been in my life! If you ever need any advice or want to know anything, just ask! dustyhall2009@yahoo.com is my email address so just email there and I will get back with you!

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Facebook, malls, parks, grocery stores, baking, cooking, cleaning, more cleaning, laundry, picture taking, picture framing, tv, dishes, baths, sales, coupons, movies from redbox, play time, conversation with friends, hanging out with friends and family, watering the plants, gardening, decorating for the holidays, making a list and checking it twice, ufc, football only when saints are playing, oprah, more facebook, annoying feeling from watching your children too much, annoying feeling of not having enough time....there are alot of things to do I always never have time..hope this helped.



Money wise I get bargins and get things on sale I love to shop.

I dont have a 50 inch tv or a brand new car but who really needs that. I want it but I dont need it. My son is going to kindergarden soon so I'm gonna go to work and finish school. But it is worth it to wait till they are older. Your kids are percious they grow up so fast you can always make money but you cannot take time back.



I Don't have money to go to Italy for a family vacation right now but I know I will be able to in the future. For now I'll make italian food and hold off on the gucci and lv purses and stick to coach.

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Quoting Alanna:

I am an RN and was not sure when I married my husband what I would do when we had children, but I knew I wanted to stay at home when my first son was born. I have a 4 month old and a 20 month old and breastfeed both (well, my 20 month old I give pumped milk via sippy cup!). I am so busy with the kids all day that my house is a mess and I am lucky if I can get something decent on the table for dinner. I have OCD and basic household tasks take me a lot longer to accomplish than the average mom, hence my messy house. I feel that I am still trying just to get the hang of things. I am still trying to learn how to do this thing. I was so career driven as a child and teenager that I feel completely unprepared for motherhood and wife responsibilities. Anyone have any advice?



I stay at home with my two kids who are 22 months apart and I also have OCD. It is not easy as it takes a lot longer to get things done. My kids are now 4 yrs and 2yrs old. All I can say is that you will definitely get the hang of it. I was a young professional before all of this as well. It is very hard- a mothers job is harder than anything I've ever experienced, but I love it and wouldn"t trade it. I don't believe there is necessarily a right or wrong way to be a wife or mother. As long as you love your family you will develop your own way of doing things. Just hang in there! Having a brand new baby and a very young child, well it overwhelms you, but you will get through it....=)

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Mine decision was really not mine. I was unemployed when I became pregnant. I'd taken time off for graduate studies. I haven't had luck finding profitable work so I look at things I can do from home. Selling on Amazon and a network marketing group. Check it out ----> www.ardysslife.com/jennyjackson or www.drop3sizes.com/easily

Hope this helps!
Jenny
704.970.9574

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Many people do not understand nor do they have a respect for moms who stay at home.
I have been a stay at home mom for nearly 22 years. I have 7 children ranging in ages 22 yrs old down to 3 months old. I am 43 years old.
When I was married to my first husband who was a contractor I did all the usual cooking, cleaning, homeschooling all of my children, laundry ( and all of my friends would tell you that my home was always tidy and clean and I cooked all the meals from scratch. Additionally I worked for my now ex husband managing his office ( without compensation), ran errands for him and kept check on projects with the clients. I also took care of any entertaining of the clients and gifting as well for him. I could never do enough work for him to be pleased, it was never enough.
After a divorce, I remarried and I am still a stay at home mom with a newborn. I cook, clean, do all the laundry, homeschool 2 daughters, grocery shopping, help my husband with his union position, pay bills/budgeting, deal with health insurance , clip coupons and plan shopping trips for saving the most money.
Being a stay at home mom is more than a full time job. We don't get much recognition or appreciation. My ex husband told my older children that I was a liability but when it came to divorcing him he sat there and didn't beg for me to stay with him because he loved me but said, " This divorce is so very inconvienent, who will cook, clean and do laundry now??"

My husband (present) tells me that he appreciates all that I do here keeping our home clean and cozy and that he loves coming home at the end of the day and feels like he can relax. Bill loves being taken care of and watched over. He appreciates having his lunches packed and ready for him. ( I pack a hearty lunch and breakfast for him every day by making larger meals so there are leftovers---- sausage gravy,scrambled eggs and biscuits, stews, roast chicken or beef, soups, homemade breads) He tells me that he is the envy of the lunch room especially when he takes crab chowder.
He is a very good cook and helps out usually on the weekends or on evenings when I am just beat.

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I have been a stay at home mom for 11 yrs and it is the best thing I have ever done.My husband and I agreed that I stay home before he was born.I tried to work for about a month when he was 1 and my husband said he would rather work 2 full time jobs than have to do what I did lol.So I quit and have been mom,wife,maid,accountant,chef, and taxi ever since and I love it.

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hi i am a younge stay at home mum well i am 23 which isnt so younge anymore but i have my daughter with me full time plus i also sell and sign people up to sell avon and nutrimetics and i also run my husbany company from home. i chose to stay at home just for the simple reason as i could and and i didnt like my job before anyway and i could also study if i stayed home.

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My day starts about 5am with my 5 month old, we snuggle and i b/f in bed...then about 6am we get up my 3 other boys usually get up when i get up..i then change baby, breakfast, breakfast clean up, older boys have bath, feed bubs again, bath bubs get the boys ready for school (lunches, drinks etc) make sure the boys are ready b4 8.30am which is wehn we leave for school (2 are in school atm) i get home about 9am bubs usually naps and i check emails, tidy up play with my 3yr old...do a couple of loads of washing, tidy and make beds etc...bubs is up, feeding bubs usually reading books with my 3yr od while feeding, change bubs, play with the kids...lunch time! after lunch clean up and tidy up hang washing out fold washing, bubs feeding again and then at 3pm i got to get the boys and go to shops if needed..get home do homework, give the boys a snack, play with them outside..dinner starts..while i prepare and start to make dinner i make the 3 older boys have a bath...Dinner time...bubs is usually feeding again, then after dinner and after bubs is done dinner clean up...watch t.v relax family time! then the boys go to bed about 7.30 and i bath bubs feed bubs etc...at about 9pm everyone is asleep!!!!!!! time to realx?? no way!!!!!!! about 1 30min of clean up preparation for next day...and then if i can be bothered i have a shower and go on the net for a while...i go to sleep at about 11pm....the boys just started school holidays..so now ive got 4 at home and ive got to find ALOT of things to do with them! but i woudnt never trade my life and i love my boys..my husband is working arvos atm so i see him from about 11am until 2pm..

its so interesting to read the other posts to see what everyone does the same and also to realise that im not the only one that doesnt get any alone time or time to myself! whether u have 1 or 6 its the hardest job in the world

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What do we do?? How do we occupy 24 hours of the day??? hahahaha. oh my gosh.

im just wondering if you have ever looked after a child? or even watched someone else look after a child? When kids arnt napping, and thats IF they nap.. a BIG if..they are usually demanding constant attention. Children are also very accomplished at mess making, so while it may be easy to keep a house tidy when there are just adults living there, its a completley different story with children. You cant simply tell them to "clean up". Being a mum, and running a household is like having 3 fulltime jobs. but we dont get paid, and we dont get holidays, we dont get sick leave, we dont get weekends. We DO get the love of a child though.

Taking care of the kids and running a household is extremly difficult. I wouldnt make a statment like that unless you have tried it yourself.

I personally am a single stay at home mum, and i also study via distance ed. My son goes to daycare 2 days a week so that i can get everything done.

EVERYDAY clothes and ishes need to be washed, floors need to be vaccumed and swept, food needs to be cooked, usually 2 different meals at each meal time and everything dangerous needs to be kept out of a baby's reach. You need to be on constant lookout for ways they could hurt themselves, because if you miss one, you can bet bubs will find it.

If you need to go out for some reason.. food shoppinh, doctors, etc.. the work piles up and it usually takes you another week to get on top of it.

really, come live this life for a day and you wont be stupid enough to post a question like this again!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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oh and ya to the lady that said about does the laundry and cleaning have to be done everyday...yes it does bcus if i miss one day the laundry starts stacking up even though there is only 3 ppl in my family i have a 4 month old who has a very sensitive stomach so she throws up pretty much on everything and yes same with the cleaning its like projectile vomitins so usually gets on the carpet. and my boyfriends runs in and out of the house doing god knows wat tracking mud all over the place so and with that swine flu thing or whatever im trying to keep the germs out!

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well i do all the household duties while taking care of my 4 month olds needs. i have to get dinner and eveyrhting done for when my fiance gets home...o and ialso drop him off and pick him up for work...and oh ya i dont have a schedule or ne thing my daughter usually gets wat she wants when she wants. so

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I am a stay at home mother of two beautiful girls. I have a 16 and a half month old and an almost a four month old that I nurse. I get up anywheres from 4 something in the morning and IF i am lucky sometimes I get to sleep into eight... I quite often multi task if i ever want anything done. seeing i'm having a hard time of finding a job that i can do from home so i came up with a new motto for myself "my full-time job is my children and my husband, and my oart-time job is everything else!"

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Oh, we do nothing ya know sit around all day eating bon bons nothing much.....what do you think we do ??? Taking care of a baby/toddler 24/7 is hard work in of itself..not to mention keeping the house clean,preparing meals,paying bills, grocery shopping,and anything else that needs to be done . There seems to be this stigma attach to anyone who decides to be a stay at home mom. Being a stay at home mom is the hardest yet most rewarding job there is. I respect anyone who chooses to be a stay at home mom/dad.

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