soon to be stay at home mom

Emma - posted on 09/25/2010

I made sure we got out of the house as much as possible, walking in the park, visiting friends and family and I also took my baby to toddler groups and swimming. I have LOVED being at home with her as I worked with my older 2 children, enjoy every second of it! xx

Emily - posted on 09/25/2010

hon, im a stay at home mommie myself that delt with the post pardom depression. My baby was 3 months early so i had to deal with the stress of not having him with me. But it honestly isnt (to me) as people want to make it. Now I only have my one little boy and im srue it will get more stressful when u add more babies. But just the one, isnt bad, My stress relief is takin a hot shower while the baby is asleep. also his swing has saved a lot of headache, hes one of the unlucky ones with acid reflux so the swing lets me sleep knowing he wont choke in his sleep... just enjoy bein a mommy, its great

Tina - posted on 09/25/2010

Thank you ladies means alot all this advice is really helping me seddle my nerves about it!!

Laveda - posted on 09/23/2010

well me im a stay at home mom and yeah it can be stressful but when you feel like you are gettin to the point of no control then just as long as the baby is not cryin put him or her i the car seat and or bed and go in another room for like 5-10 mins but make sure you turn the moniter on and just cry out it helps trust me i am single mother of 4 and have two babies back to back and stress is a very big issue when they father hasn't beeen there since day one of there lives

Jodi - posted on 09/23/2010

Get a daily schedule/routine going as soon as possible!!!! Once you have that, things just kind of flow into one another for the most part, although a child will always throw a wrench in the works occasionally! Also, I would never have survived without a sling for my baby. With it on, I could hang laundry out to dry, wash the dishes, dust, vaccuum, sweep, mop, even mowed the lawn (put big ole earmuffs over my baby's ears) all while wearing my child who usually blissfully slept through it all!
I also got a laundry sorting station with the three canvas bags on a rack, one for lights, one for darks and one for colors, saves time on sorting laundry when it comes time to throw it in! As long as you can manage your time, have a system or a schedule down (after the first couple weeks of parental shock wear off!) and know when to take offered help, or ask for it, it really isn't "that" hard! It's not easy, and some days are hell, but that's with any job you have! The rewards you will reap are more than enough to make it worth it! Congratulations and best of luck!

Tina - posted on 09/23/2010

Thank you both very much that helps alot and i know my hubby will help me out with our son wen he gets home from work as much as he can! :)

Amalea - posted on 09/23/2010

Sweetie, I have been a stay at home mother for many years now. Ive tried going back part time and all that, hasnt worked out. I will honestly tell you, its like having a different kind of job, either its for you, or not. And DO NOT feel bad if you want to go back to work. Not everyone is fortunate enough to live off of one spouse's paycheck. When I first started staying at home, it was hard, because none of your friends really have time for you, sometimes youre bored out of your mind, and people will actually sneer at you being a stay at home mom. Its a full time job baby, no lunch breaks or time off, but Ill tell you now, its got the best benefits in the world. Best thing to do is get yourself a hobby or two, because with the baby sleeping alot, youll have extra time on your hands. Dont get down on yourself in these times. For example, I started candy making and baking more interesting and harder things. Get involved with local things, like mommy and me yoga, or playdates. Find other stay at home moms with kids that ages are near yours. Being a stay at home mom doesnt mean sit on your butt either. Cook and clean, keep the household running. Now that my son is in school, Ive tried going back to work (I have a college education) but it never works out. My son, who is 7, tells me hes the luckiest boy in the world, because his mommy is there to love him when he walks in the door. Being a stay at home mom isnt lazy, or always easy, but it has the greatest rewards ever. I really hope that you have a great adventure.

Candy - posted on 09/23/2010

It isnt hard per say. It can be overwhelmimg as one mom put it. If you have a Hubby or boyfriend or father of the child or close friend try to get a day ,a hour ,a couple of hours to yourself. That is what helped me the most. My Hubby would take a day and watch the girls so I could go out and eat lunch or watch a movie.To remember the dishes can wait the cloths can wait but that baby want. They grow up so fast and then they are in school and you have all the time in the world to do the house. Remember YOU are a good enough Mom. God gave this child to YOU and YOU to this child. for a reason. RELAX!