Giving your child a public spanking... acceptable?

Sherry - posted on 09/02/2009 ( 193 moms have responded )

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Is it ok.. for instance to spank your child if they are not following the rules?? If you warned them, asked them, negotiated....then what comes next?? Do you spank in public? Is it worse to swat their hinney's or just let the behavior go??

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Veronica - posted on 09/02/2009

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I have no problem with spanking in public or any time. Unlike a lot of people, I think there is a difference between spanking and abuse. I want my son to know that if he is not behaving properly he will be punished. And believe me I have gotten some pretty dirty looks when I have swatted him in public.

JoDale & TaMy'S Kidz - posted on 09/02/2009

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Yes. Children are NOT adults and do not need to be put on the same level as adults...it's a BIG part of whats wrong with todays world. Let me clarify, that standing in public just spanking a child is kinda weird...but swattin their butt or their hand, and showing you mean business and that YOU are in charge, NOT them...that's fine. I have actually been in a store and seen a mother pull a belt off the rack and woop her child! That's a lil "out there" for me. Yeah, handing a kid a toy or something because their bored and your just frusterated thats cool...But, Im talking when the dang child needs to repremanded. There is a time that stands out in my head so PROFOUNDLY: I was in a mall and seen this kid just having a tantrum, all he wanted was to heard...but, because the Mother was rushed and frusterated she was literally dragging the 3yr old little boy dwon the hall. He was hysterically begging her and she was screaming at him. To me...that is more humiliating! She obviously never took the time swat his bottom or discipline him...there were no boundaries at all for either of them. I have three children, and at home they ALL know they can debate, question, get respectfully angry. But, in PUBLIC you repsect me and I will respect you. They know the guidlines and the rules...they know Iam their MOMMY & NOT THEIR dang friend! Many Blessings.



Hebrews 12:6-7: "...the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son. Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?"

Dawn - posted on 04/16/2010

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the question for those moms who are 100% against spanking is what do you do when a child is in a dangerous situation and a split second decision is necessary and theres no time to go on explaining why its wrong and timeouts are not appropriate for the situation? IE: when your child runs into a busy parking lot. do just stand there and yell" NO JOHNY DON'T GO OUT INTO THE PARKING LOT OR YOU'LL GET HIT" or do you do whatever necessary to not only protect the child, but also do whatever necessary to try to prevent him from doing it again. my point is that there are times where there will be no time for a time out or a talk, especially if you told your child more than once to not run out into the parking lot, where prompt action is a must to prevent injury to themselves or someone else whether its in public or not.

Georgia - posted on 07/18/2011

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I'm not against public spanking if its necessary. Times have really changed though. I remember one time when I was probably about six years old, I misbehaved while Mom was out shopping. I got taken to the ladies room in the store and got the spanking of my life for being disruptive. If the other ladies in the room said anything it was simply to lend encouragement to my mother.



I don't know if you would call this public spanking, but a couple of months ago I was visiting my sister when she caught her eight year old son lying to her about where he had been playing. She took him over her knee on the spot and gave him a bare bottom spanking to the point of tears. Its not the way I expected to spend a nice afternoon visiting with my sister, but I can't say it bothered me. I know how challenging kids are to raise. I respect any parent who takes the time in this busy world to discipline. As long as they don't cross the line to physical abuse, I'm for it.

Paula - posted on 09/27/2009

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I think its rediculous that you cant smack your own child these days without getting charged by the police... My parents punished me and my brothers and siters that way and i tell you id think twicw about acting up.... There your kids honey, if you feel its necassary and you have exhausted all other options then give them a little smack on the backside it wont hurt (for long lol) Good luck with it matey

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Jenni - posted on 07/18/2011

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Michelle - posted on 04/23/2010

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you know what my child sometimes or i just say a lot of times she doesnt listening to me unless i was in an angry mood,my mom spoiled her when she is 1and half or 2 yrs of age when we scolded her that is the wrong one...it is ok to spank her but not a lot of times and not infront of many people and when you do that tell him or her later what does the wrong thing that she's done explain it to her!

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Hmmm interesting thread. I see lots of suggestions on how to avoid smacking, and Sherry it looks like you have an argument for every one of them. Yet, in your original post you ask if it's okay to spank them in public. Yet you argue with everyone who says no it's not okay. What was the point of your question? If you are going to smack them anyway and you don't care what anyone else thinks and you aren't willing to try any of the suggestions offered, why did you start this thread?

Nikkole - posted on 04/23/2010

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i dont think there is any thing wrong with spanking in public. I know that some people say dont do spank them in public it's embarrassing for them. well maybe next time they wont do it.

Kristy - posted on 04/22/2010

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My 2 year old will try to throw a fit in public. I give her a swat on the backside. Usually does the trick. There is a difference between spanking and beating. I see nothing wrong with public spanking.

Catherine - posted on 04/16/2010

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I'm not sure where you live but here in TX we are allowed to spank with open hand on bottom only. I usually take mine to the bathroom bc i dont want to humiliate him in front of ppl.

Rachelle - posted on 04/15/2010

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we dont do public spanking b/c of "those people" mentioned previously. i ask my children if they would like to see the restroom when they are behaving badly in public. we tell them before we leave the house that that means a spanking. it usually streightens them out. or you could use the "no dessert" threat but ALWAYS follow through EVEN if their behavior improves. warning and negotiating and asking doenst work if your not tough. they behave badly then streighten up when dessert is threatened then you give it to them= a child who will act up again. be strong the first couple time and it wont happen again, trust me.

Rebecca - posted on 04/15/2010

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Having working with children and parents I would STRONGLY suggest that you never spank your children in public... EVER!!! I have to say I believe in spanking to a certain degree. I try never to spank out of anger. But the reason why you should never spank in public is because there are some people are really against it and will report you. I have seen it so many times and also I have seen some people just start yelling at the spanking mom and threatening her and embarassing her. So I would never want to experience that. I would just take my child out of public and deal with the behavior there.

Steffi - posted on 04/15/2010

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I usually tell my son to stop or I'm going to ignore him and he usually stops. I don't care to much about how other people think of me and/or my child as long as my son's obeying my rules. i also use distraction's like look at this something i grab out of the cart that I'm definitely going to buy.

Stephanie - posted on 04/08/2010

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it's worse to let the behavior go. Then you teach your child that the rules are different outside of your home than they are inside your home. be consistent no matter where you are.

I've had lots of people come talk to me after I disciplined my children to tell me how proud of me they are and that I'm so brave. I appreciate their confidence, and my well-behaved children. I have three and another due in Sept.

Dawn - posted on 04/08/2010

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Anna Schrock,
i say let cps come over my house. they will see how i run my household and that i have nothing to hide about how i raise my kids. my girls are more respectful than a lot of kids in our neighborhood. in my state Cps isn't going to get involved in someone spanking their kids. they have worse parents to deal with . like parents smoking crack in the next room while their sick baby is stuck in a play pen all day. now that is abuse

Dawn - posted on 04/08/2010

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jenn morris,
well if they get embarrassed then maybe they won't repeat the bad behavior in public again. that is how i see it. it is not disrespectful. it is teaching what is acceptable in public and what is not.

Dawn - posted on 04/08/2010

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lisa,

so i'm guessing that you also think that talking to them and putting them on time outs work all the time. do not take this as being disrespectful but i think that your kind of reasoning IS the reason why kids today are rude, disrespectfulo to authority, and are getting into even more trouble with the law then past generations.think about all of the school violence that has been on the news over the past several years.it is that too permissive kind of reasoning that is one of the causes along with parents not being home enough or home when their kids are home from school that causes all this madness among teens in our society.

the time out metho is only a short term way to handle things. it is a ineffective punnishment for those children that are over the age of 5 and trying to talk to your kids about the behavior does not work for kids who let everything you say go into one ear and out the other.taking privliges away is also ineffective if you have a kid like i do that does not give a hoot what you take away. so what exactly do you suggest us moms do? sit on our behinds eating chocolates and watch our kids self destruct like it's some kind of movie of the week on tv?.

spankiong is not disrespect it is an acceptable means of discipline when all else fails. it is a way of making sure that life doesn't kick them in the ass later on as teens and adults. as my dad would say if he were here "spank them now so that lifes difficulties don't kick them in the ass later on . it makes them understand that what they are doing wrong is dangerous and can hurt themselves or others if used in that way.it also makes them very aware of the consequences of their actions. they are not little adults and therefore do not understand things the way adults do. if used appropriately, spanking lets the child know and allows them to understand the dangers of their bad behavior.ie: when a child runs out into the road or when a child punches or hits another child.it lets them know that their behavior is absolutelty unacceptable and not to be repeated. to do next to nothing to discipline your kids is irresponsible and when ther is no time to distract them with a snack or a game (like when the run out into a busy parking lot or road)spanking is absolutely warranted even in public. if my opinion makes me an abuser than so be it.

Chantelle - posted on 04/07/2010

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I agree that spanking and abuse is 2 different things. But I would never spank my child. My mother never spanked me when I was growing up and I would never spank my child. When my son acts up/throws a fit at home I give him 3 stern warnings not to act like that again. if he does it a third time I take him to the spare room that has no toys in it and I close the door and leave him in there for 5 minutes or until he calms down. I have different dicipline when I am out in public. If he is acting up out in public I usually ignore him and continue on with whatever it is I am doing. When he starts to realize that Mommy isn't going to react to his actions he usually stops. My sister spanked/swatted my neice and it eventually taught my neice that it is okay to hit/spank other kids when they are doing something that she didn't like. She slapped my son when he was 6 months old to where he was left with a bruise on his leg. I asked her why did she hit her cousin and she said Mommy spanks my bum when I do something wrong. So I hit Kyle because he was playing with toy and I didn't like it. That showed me that with her mother spanking her when she really missbehaved taught her that hitting/spanking others is okay.

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He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

Proverbs 13:24. We spank our boys, we usually dont have to in public because we do it at home and they are pretty well behaved but in public we sometimes have to because if we dont it only gets worse. They think you wont because your embarrassed then they have found a weak point. Kids arent stupid they know. Anyways hope this helps. God Bless!

Crissy - posted on 09/28/2009

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well i have discovered that spanking my child doesnt work for us. not saying im against it bc i have tried it. like i have noticed some people state...theres a diff in spanking and abuse. i put my children in time out while we are out in public. if there not listening i will sit them down or make them stand in a corner. mine have learned to listen when we are out places cuz there embarrassed when people are staring at them while being punished.

Crissy - posted on 09/28/2009

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well i have discovered that spanking my child doesnt work for us. not saying im against it bc i have tried it. like i have noticed some people state...theres a diff in spanking and abuse. i put my children in time out while we are out in public. if there not listening i will sit them down or make them stand in a corner. mine have learned to listen when we are out places cuz there embarrassed when people are staring at them while being punished.

Jessica - posted on 09/28/2009

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I think that a child should be spanked is if the child has done something that is most dangerous like running out into the street but even at those time I dont spank I have to agree with Lisa when she said that it is embarrassing to your child when you hit a child at any time. How would you like it if someone told you not to do something a few times and then you do it and someone comes off and swats you for it. You would be in shock. I think parents need to find better ways of teaching than hitting. Because in the long run what are you teaching your child when you hit them. That it is ok to hit when someone dont listen to them.

Virginia - posted on 09/27/2009

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I believe in spanking as a last resort but in public I try to grab the ear tight and give a final warning. If that doesn't work which isn't often at all, I take them to the rest room to spank. There is usually one available so that is my solution.

Krystal - posted on 09/27/2009

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TAKE THEM TO THE BATHROOM WHEN THEY ARE IN FRONT OF EVERYONE ITS LIKE THEY ARE ON STAGE AN WILL JUST DO IT AGIAN BUT IF YOU GET ONE ON ONE IN THE BATHROOM IT WILL SLOW DOWN TO A STOP BUT KEEP IT UP DONT DO IT ONCE AN THREATIN DO YOU WANT TO TAKE A TRIP TO THE BATHROOM IT WONT HELP KEEP IT UP AN IT WILL HELP GOOD LUCK

Sarah - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter is almost 12 and yes when she was little and we were in public I would try to find a place in the store where we would be alone and explain to her why she was getting a spanking. Then, I would do my job because I loved her and I needed her to know that her behavior wasn't okay. I DO NOT agree with these mothers that spank, yell, and smack their children causing a big scene. All that does is embarasses the child and causes them to have low self-esteem. You have to be responsible about it!

Jenn - posted on 09/27/2009

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I personally am not a fan of spanking but I realize that many people do it, but I would think doing it in public would be humiliating for the child. For myself what I have found works with my son if he starts getting carried away and loud in a store I tell him to stop or I will leave the cart right there full of groceries and we will leave and next time he won't be able to come shopping with me. Always works every time.

Petronela - posted on 09/27/2009

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sorry my post is late but i am a newbie here and this post was interesting....i too smack my boys on their bottom if and only if its necessary and everything else fails whether in public or not but it happens very rarely . i was raised like that (please understand my mum never smacked us unless we were very naughty ) and the bible sais it as well so its still a bit of a dilema but each parent deals with their children the way they see fit

Victoria - posted on 09/11/2009

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Pr 23:13 (Amplified) Withhold not discipline from the child; for if you strike and punish him with the rod, he will not die.
Pr 23:13 (Message) Don’t be afraid to correct your young ones; a spanking won’t kill them.
Pr 23:13 (NIV) Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.
Pr 23:13 (NLT) Don’t fail to discipline your children.
They won’t die if you spank them.

It's not word for word Spare the rod & spoil the child, but it's there & it's in several different versions to make it clearer. (I love the online bible such a great tool.)

Danielle - posted on 09/09/2009

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My son gets warned that we are going to the bathroom and if that doesn't contain the situation, we GO to the bathroom. He knows that if we are going there and no one has to use the potty, there's going to be trouble!

Brittany - posted on 09/08/2009

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When all else fails, I do believe a nice little spanking will put a child in their place. However, I worked in daycare (not anymore now that I'm a mom) before and when parents would spank their child for bad behavior, talking back, etc. every other mom in the place would drop their jaw and comment upon leaving. It really sucks what this world is coming to, but you reallllly have to watch what you do or Child Protective Services will be on you in an heart beat. I absolutely would not let the behavior slide. I've seen those cases too where mothers let it go and the kid completely takes advantage of them (SO NOT COOL!) But, if I were you, I would ask them first, warn them next, and if they keep on doing what they're doing, ask them if you should take them to the bathroom and "talk" (and by talk I mean getting down on their level, telling them to straighten up and if they don't, thats when you pop em one) this way you are not letting the behavior slide but also not in the public eye where people are never "minding their own business."

Victoria - posted on 09/08/2009

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There is nothing wrong with spanking in public. I was at the state fair and my son had been acting up for 2 hours. I tried everything. So I spanked him right there. An old man walked up to me and said " Don't hit him again please". I told him to mind his own business. 36 hrs of labor. I make the rules. Children need boundaries. There a difference in abuse and spanking. My friend takes her daughter to the car or bathroom for the spanking. 3 warnings then a trip to the car and that's the spanking.

Debi - posted on 09/08/2009

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The only time I ever spank my children is when they have done something that could potentially harm their own or someone elses wellbeing. If you choose to spank a child I think it is best done privately. Your intent is to enforce a rule, not to humiliate your child. When a child is humiliated they tend to want to lash out...it's just human nature.

Vicki - posted on 09/08/2009

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Quoting Christa:

Whatever form of disipline you choose to use.....if you are ashamed to do it in front of people than you probably shouldn't be doing it at home either. So my answer is...if you believe in spanking as a form of punishment then you should be able to do it in public. Not everyone will agree with you or like what they see.....just like some people can't stand to watch a kid throw a fit.....parents bet them to stop.....and to end the situation the parent will give the kid whatever they want. Neither or great methods but sometimes we as parents have to do what we have to do. As long as you know and understand why you are doing what you are doing....who cares what everyone thinks.



Well said!

Esmeralda - posted on 09/08/2009

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i do spank my children in public, when there is no other choice. i do try other ways of disciplining them but especially in public, it not always works, like keeping them busy. but ofcourse there is a big difference in spanking and abuse, and i do have to say that my kids are usually very well behaved, especially in public or at friends places. but many people don't agree with me, but it does work for me, and it is me that is raising my kids, not outsiders. if i have a child screaming in a supermarket for a chocolate bar, and i won't give in, people will look at me as if i can't handle my kid. but if i am spanking them for it, it is still the same people giving me dirty looks, because i am disciplining my child. so it will never be good enough for them, but it is my kid were talking about here, not theirs. so yeah, i do spank them in public, but my kids are normally very well behaved in public.

Christa - posted on 09/08/2009

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Whatever form of disipline you choose to use.....if you are ashamed to do it in front of people than you probably shouldn't be doing it at home either. So my answer is...if you believe in spanking as a form of punishment then you should be able to do it in public. Not everyone will agree with you or like what they see.....just like some people can't stand to watch a kid throw a fit.....see the parents beg them to stop.....and then to end the situation the parent will give the kid whatever they wanted. Neither are great methods but sometimes we as parents have to do what we have to do. Punishment of any kind is not fun but it has to be done. As long as you know and understand why you are doing what you are doing....who cares what everyone thinks.

Esmeralda - posted on 09/08/2009

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i do spank my children in public, when there is no other choice. i do try other ways of disciplining them but especially in public, it not always works, like keeping them busy. but ofcourse there is a big difference in spanking and abuse, and i do have to say that my kids are usually very well behaved, especially in public or at friends places. but many people don't agree with me, but it does work for me, and it is me that is raising my kids, not outsiders. if i have a child screaming in a supermarket for a chocolate bar, and i won't give in, people will look at me as if i can't handle my kid. but if i am spanking them for it, it is still the same people giving me dirty looks, because i am disciplining my child. so it will never be good enough for them, but it is my kid were talking about here, not theirs. so yeah, i do spank them in public, but my kids are normally very well behaved in public.

Jana - posted on 09/08/2009

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I'm 31 and come from a time where parents spanked. Now, my parents didn't have to spank me or my brother, b/c my father was a great authority figure and what he said went. Also, I come from a time where manners where taught. It seems there was a lack of discipline in between my time and the teens of now-a-days (I have 2 teen siblings and 4 teen neices and nephews) and manners got thrown out the door somewhere in there. What happened to yes ma'am and no sir and holding doors open for people older than we are? Not to say they are all like this, but the change is noticeable. I teach my son, 3, about manners, bad and good. When he has bad manners, he gets a warning and I tell him if he continues then his toy gets put up in time out. If that happens, he gets warned again and that usually comes with "what happens when you have bad manners...right, you get a spanking" So he knows what's to come if he continues. He makes his choices, just as adults do, and he suffers the consequences, just as adults do. You think if an adult throws a temper tantrum at work he'll get promoted? Probably not. Reprimended, possibly fired depending on the situation. We teach our children at a young age that with action comes consqences or rewards. This is the real world we as adults live in and it is imperative we teach as the real world applies to us. You will not always get rewarded for doing good, but most definetly get punished for doing bad. Sad, but true. Spanking is not child abuse if used in this manner. Spanking becomes wrong when done out of anger and loss of control...that is showing the child that to gain control of a situation, mommy uses force and is angry and in return we are creating a violent situation. Unfortuantley, in this day and age, more ppl believe that it is their right to step in if they feel a parent is acting wrong. And yes, we've all seen the situations that blow our minds away and we are appaulled. But some ppl believe it is their "duty" to call authority and report wrong doing to a child. My son slapped me in my face at a store one day. Yes, I got angry and of course my first reaction was to spank. But I do not spank in public. I calmly asked him, thorugh clenched teeth, "what happens when you hit" and proceeded to walk to the restroom. He was more terrified of what was to come, knowing what he did was wrong, that he cried so loud it was as if I had already spanked him, and I never spank hard enough for him to even cry! This is, more or less, the reaction you want, b/c then, you don't have to feel bad for spanking and you never have to worry about spanking "hard enough" for them to "learn a lesson." Plus, this shows on-lookers that you are composed (and gives you time to count to 10!) in your discipline. I also feel that if you are going to be out in public, you go prepared for keeping you child busy/entertained, or limit the time spent at one place. We can't expect them to have the amount of patience we have and it's not right to set your child up for failure, but for success. If you see they are getting ancy, cut your trip short and go back another day. If you push their limits, they will push yours and the end reaction is in your hands, not theirs and that is ultimatley, not fair. (also, this depends greatly on the age of the child!!)

Julia - posted on 09/08/2009

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I have taken my daughter to the bathroom to spank her. Now all I have to do if she is acting up is say "DO YOU NEED TO GO TO THE BATHROOM" and she stops.

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Quoting Edie:

Well its only what ive been told i have to check up on that. A few of my friends and family have told me you can get into trouble smacking your child in public. Whats the problem anyway i dont think anyone is going to physically abuse their child in public its at home thats the problem.. not spanking of course but the abuse.


You would be surprised. But I do agree most abuse happens behind closed doors.

Vicki - posted on 09/08/2009

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I think there is a big difference between smacking & child abuse! I have 3 children & I have had to slightly adjust my disapline for them all, as all children are different & therefore do not all respond to the same thing. However, I am consistant with what is acceptable & what is NOT so they are all treated equally i.e. disaplined when necessary even if the disapline is slightly different. I beleive you must only treaten a punishment if you ARE going to follow through. I think smacking in public is acceptable as a last resort, but not when you see the parent has lost control of themselves never mind their child. Although you must bare in mind you are only seeing the end of the situation, I hate when people shake their heads at a child being checked as they will have not have seen the whole lead up to that moment, the parent could have had a day of the child being bad/violent etc.



With my eldest all I needed to do was put him in a time out on the bottom stair of the hallway for a couple of minutes & if he persisted he was straight back out there - eventually (a few weeks) just the threat of the time out made him behave so therefore in public I would just stop what we were doing (BUT NOT LEAVE) & stand there until he stopped his bad behavour, he soon got bored & stopped so we could continue what we were doing. He is now 7 & 1/2 & speaking to him works.



However, my 2nd son is a whole different ball game (from the age of 3 he became VERY hard work). The time out did nothing except spiral him into a violent rage, so I would have to get down to his level & phsyically hold him to look at me while I explained this was bad & he would get a smack (on the bum) if he continued to trash around & not listen, then I would remove him to his room & if he trashed it, once he calmed down I make him clean it up (this was hard sometimes took HOURS!!) So I could control him in the house but he went through a period that lasted about 1-2years when he tested me EVERYTIME we went out in public (very bad behaviour, running off, hitting me or his brother) & I only went out with him when I really needed to i.e. food shopping, buying the children new shoes & I did make sure they had ate before we went out & take stuff to try & amuse them if it was a boring errand. So when we were out & he was bad or not listening to stay safe, he would get a smack & I'd hold his hand/arm the full time out & if he still tried the carry-on I get down on his level & in a calm but very stern voice (so only he could hear me not everyone around us) that he would spend the rest of the day in his room (with no toys) once we got home after our errands if he did not behave (& this is usually what happened). He is now 6 & although is still harder work at times he is alot calmer & getting better the older he gets.



My 3rd child is a mixture of her 2 older brothers as in sometimes time out is enough for her to do as she's told & other times she needs a small smack on the bum (but I must admit smacking is very rare). Like my 2nd child she hit 3 & this is when the testing behaviour started. So when out & about she is normally very good but occassionally (like every child) she has her moments & can have screaming tantrums which can last an hour but she will not get her way, unless she behaves. Like with our eldest we stop what we are doing (BUT DO NOT LEAVE) until she calms down, occassionally she does get a smack if she keeps going bananas & starts lashing out & hitting. She is now realising that the tanruming isn't working & it is gradually stopping.



I hate checking my children but needs must & I want them to grow up to be respectable people with morals & a sense of right & wrong, I'm their parent here to guide them, I'm not their friend (in time when we are all adults we can be friends). I explain to them that all grownups have to follow rules too, if not we go to jail, so I am teaching them to live by rules now so they don't grow up thinking they can just do as they please with no consquences! My parents smacked me as a child & when I look back I can honestly say when ever it happened (which wasn't that often) I had done something wrong! It did not damage me in anyway (as I wasn't beaten or abused) & I am very close to my parents. I must say from the parents that I know that only "speak" to their child when they have done something badly wrong are the parents that get walked all over (the kids laugh at them, back chat them & never do as they are told) and have no respect for their parents or people in general.

Edie - posted on 09/08/2009

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Well its only what ive been told i have to check up on that. A few of my friends and family have told me you can get into trouble smacking your child in public. Whats the problem anyway i dont think anyone is going to physically abuse their child in public its at home thats the problem.. not spanking of course but the abuse.

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a few ppl have came across like they dont know the law... not sure else where but in australia... ""u can smack ur child with REASONABLE force and only with the hand on the bottom or leg"" hope this helps with the ozzies.

Brit - posted on 09/07/2009

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I'll never forget when my father spanked me in the middle of the mall. And for something that really didn't warrant a punishment like that. Its because of that one spanking that I promised myself that would never happen when I had kids of my own.



And is it just me, or do you get kind of uncomfortable when you have to witness a child being spanked? It always makes me want to tiptoe away like I didn't see it happen!!

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Quoting Veronica :

I have no problem with spanking in public or any time. Unlike a lot of people, I think there is a difference between spanking and abuse. I want my son to know that if he is not behaving properly he will be punished. And believe me I have gotten some pretty dirty looks when I have swatted him in public.






Thank you very much Veronica, i am so sick of hearing its unacceptable to spank a child. I would much rather spank just to let him/her know they are acting in a unappropriated way then stand and scream at them. Yes there is other things but when you've told them no over and over a spank on the bum lets them know you are not kidding around that you are very serious and no mean no! When i was a child i was spanked in public and yes it was very embarrassing but it let me know not to do it again like running off or chucking a tantrum. I think its wrong they're making it illegal to spank your child in public its our rights as parents to punish our child and like Veronica said its not abuse its spanking.





Jamie - posted on 09/07/2009

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YES...thats whats wrong with all these kids, the parents are scared to dicipline in public, so the kids get away with everything...my children are older, but i see kids in stores throwing a fit for something and the parents just give in because they are embarrased....get real! Who's going to let a toddler control the situation?? Not a smart parent!

Jamie - posted on 09/07/2009

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YES...thats whats wrong with all these kids, the parents are scared to dicipline in public, so the kids get away with everything...my children are older, but i see kids in stores throwing a fit for something and the parents just give in because they are embarrased....get real! Who's going to let a toddler control the situation?? Not a smart parent!

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I would be very careful about spanking in public because of all the people out there that may turn you in and say you abused your child.I have 3 kids and never once had to spank one in public,nor have any of them ever thrown a tantrum and embarrased me in public.If you train your child at home,that when you say no,you mean no,and begging and whining will only take away more priviledges rather than get them what they want;they'll soon learn that throwing a fit is useless.I have however,had to tell them already that if they keep up this behavior they will get a spanking when we get home,for me it has alawys worked.My kids do not enjoy spankings,and neither do they get them often,but when they do,it's not just a little swat.If you don't make it hurt enough,they really won't care if they get spanked.Never hit a child when you are angry (that is abuse);and never hit them anywhere except on their bottom.But when a child has disobeyed you,get a stick,and in love,because you want them to grow up to be respectful,obedient young people;spank them,on their bottom,hard enough that they won't want another one;then hold them,let them cry for a bit and love them.Mine children never go away from a spanking angry at me,they love me because they know that I love them,and do not enjoy spanking them but have to do it,because they have to learn respect and obedience. I'm far from a perfect mother,but I know that when I stick to my word and am consistent;(teaching my kids to listen the first time instead of saying something 4 or 5 times before making them listen) we are all alot happier.People that do not spank their kids end up yelling and getting angry alot of times,and trust me,my children would alot rather have a spanking then having me get angry at them.

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I do believe in spanking children when other things have failed...or as of way of making sure they know they are wrong in their actions. It does get their attention immediately. When my daughter was younger...she started acting up in a restaurant and it was really getting out of hand and my husband and I were at wits end. I got up from the table, took her to the bathroom (I believe she was 3 1/2 or 4 at the time)...and I spanked her one time in there. The look on her face was like she didn't know what just happened. I told her that behavior was not permitted in a restaurant and I hoped I didn't have to bring her into the bathroom again. When we walked back out to the table...the rest of our dinner was very pleasant and she was like the child we knew and loved. From that day on...when we have been in public...all I've had to say when it gets bad is "Do we need to go find the bathroom here?", and she straightens up like she's had an instant attitude change. I've now done the same thing with my son who is now five. I will admit with him, sometimes when I ask if we need to go to the bathroom...he still continues to act up. I follow through, we go to the bathroom, he'll get his bottom spanked, and then he knows he can't get away with unacceptable behavior. I always remain calm...I do not scream and yell...that has never worked for my kids. I also feel that yelling at them when angry can be worse than spankinig their bottom. I hope this helps answer your quesion!

Brandy - posted on 09/07/2009

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i know that is right.... I have got two boys that r only 14 months apart so i do what needs to be done at the time...my kids r only 3 an 4 so if i waited until i got home they would have no clue why they r getting a spanking

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might i also add.. untill these ppl r mums to more than 1 child and have got past the 2,3 year old stage i dont think they can comment... only talkin from experience:-)

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Hmmm interesting thread. I see lots of suggestions on how to avoid smacking, and Sherry it looks like you have an argument for every one of them. Yet, in your original post you ask if it's okay to spank them in public. Yet you argue with everyone who says no it's not okay. What was the point of your question? If you are going to smack them anyway and you don't care what anyone else thinks and you aren't willing to try any of the suggestions offered, why did you start this thread?

Nikkole - posted on 04/23/2010

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i dont think there is any thing wrong with spanking in public. I know that some people say dont do spank them in public it's embarrassing for them. well maybe next time they wont do it.

Kristy - posted on 04/22/2010

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My 2 year old will try to throw a fit in public. I give her a swat on the backside. Usually does the trick. There is a difference between spanking and beating. I see nothing wrong with public spanking.

Rachelle - posted on 04/15/2010

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we dont do public spanking b/c of "those people" mentioned previously. i ask my children if they would like to see the restroom when they are behaving badly in public. we tell them before we leave the house that that means a spanking. it usually streightens them out. or you could use the "no dessert" threat but ALWAYS follow through EVEN if their behavior improves. warning and negotiating and asking doenst work if your not tough. they behave badly then streighten up when dessert is threatened then you give it to them= a child who will act up again. be strong the first couple time and it wont happen again, trust me.

Victoria - posted on 09/08/2009

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There is nothing wrong with spanking in public. I was at the state fair and my son had been acting up for 2 hours. I tried everything. So I spanked him right there. An old man walked up to me and said " Don't hit him again please". I told him to mind his own business. 36 hrs of labor. I make the rules. Children need boundaries. There a difference in abuse and spanking. My friend takes her daughter to the car or bathroom for the spanking. 3 warnings then a trip to the car and that's the spanking.

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