Stay at Home Mom?

Nancy - posted on 07/25/2011 ( 118 moms have responded )

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I just wanted to know how many people want to always be stay at home moms? And what are your views or reasons for this?

Also, I would like to hear from some long time stay at home moms and what they feel about this?

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Brianna - posted on 07/25/2011

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im a stay at home mom and i have a 20 month old daughter. i havent worked since i was about 1 month pregnant (i quit me job and then found out i was pregnant a week later! then was very sick and unable to return to work while pregnannt) i love being a stay at home mom and want to remain one because i wanna be the one raising my kids not someone else. i dont wanna miss out on anything my daughter does.

Barbara - posted on 09/13/2011

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I've been a stay at home mom for a long time now. I stay home but I most definetly would not say I do not work. I cook, clean, nurse the sick husband & children, take care of pets, homeschool, etc. No woman should EVER feel that if they decide Not to work outside the home that they are LESS in someway because that is just NOT true. My family is very close and I really think it's because I'm around most of the time. Now I did have to work at first and still do work on occasion or with my husband & son but I'm 99% home. Did I plan this? No. But I'm glad it turned out this way. I hated leaving my children at daycare all day then come home tired and have too cook, clean, help w/ homework, etc. and drop into bed only to do it again. I actually get paid more to stay home by not paying a stranger to care for MY children, I get more quality time w/ my children & husband since I'm not out working, don't have to pay so much in gas, oil, wear & tear on my vehicle, etc. Benefits outway the income. I have great Outcome!

Stacia - posted on 08/31/2011

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I have 20 years experience ( and counting) as a stay at home mom.
I have been there for important milestones in an infants life. The first smile, sitting up for the first time, rolling over and the big Taking the first step. Memories I cherish with each one of my kids. I have also been there when they come home from school with wonderful news and the not so wonderful news of friendships going bust.

As a mom of a soon to be 20 yr old I have found that is is Jr. High and Sr. High that my daughter needed me most. To be her biggest supporter and to help navigate her through tough choice. To be there when she got home from school even if she did not want to talk right away she knew I was there for her.

The one thing that I found was I needed to make time for me. Time for me to be out of the house, with out my children. Some times we drop our son off with grandparents or close friends so we can have a date night. Other times I take 2-3 hours to have supper with friends.
I have a great deal of respect for mom's who work out side the home. They work hard all day long and then come home and work another full time job.
Every Mom is a working mom, some get paid with $$ and kisses and other get paid with kisses.
I chose the kisses and have not regretted it for one moment.

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I do have to admit, Emma, it took me 3 tries to finally become a sahm--I kept giving up and going back to work!

What kind of work do you do? I would love to have a job that I loved so much I could not wait to return to it. I'm in the US, most of us only get 3 months maternity leave, some only get 6 weeks!

The sahm job is kind of like that for me because I get to fill my time with things that I am passionate about. It would be boring if I focused ALL of my time and energy on J (and J would be a mess!), so I fill my time with other interesting things--I am never at a loss for something to talk about at dinner!

Jayde - posted on 09/07/2011

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I have been both, and I like both for different reasons. I like being a stay at home mom when the kids are little and since I have 2 under 4 its easier or the pocket book to have them at home with me. I do work from home so that really has helped out a lot and I might just stick with the stay at home thing for a long time since I enjoying working on my own schedule and not having to commute. With a total of 5 kids at home right now, staying home is the only choice that allows me to keep up with all the appointment and other things without having to call in every other day.

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Carol - posted on 04/19/2013

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My husband and I decided 10 years before we had children that I was going to stay-at-home with the kids. I must tell you that in my opinion, its the BEST move that we ever made. I'm lucky in the fact that he has an excellent, high paying Trade and therefore that really does help. Although we are NOT wealthy by any means. I cannot AFFORD designer clothing, winter trips to Mexico or Hawaii, Figure skating or ballet lessons for my daughter. Although I will tell you what I do have from my hard working, tiring but FUN hours of being at home with my two kids. I volunteer a fair bit with the school and I get so many compliments on how well-mannered and GOOD students that my kids are. I even had the janitor tell me one day, whatever you are doing at home, you are a great job. I love your kids. I can take them literally ANYWHERE and never have to worry about behavioural problems in public. I have time to keep the house CLEAN, we eat a sit down HOME cooked dinner almost every night and the best part, we have time to ENJOY one another as a FAMILY on weekends. I'm not running around all weekend, exhausted and trying to play catch-up with everything. You won't get wealthy from staying at home but you will get the satisfaction of having a HAPPY, healthy well run family.

Terra - posted on 09/13/2011

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I've been a SAHM for over a year now. I gave birth to my second child last month. To be straight up honest with you, when they start going to school, I want to start working again. I don't get out much, and i would rather get paid so that i can afford all the stuff that i want to get for my kids.

Jill - posted on 09/12/2011

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I have been a SAHM for 7 1/2 years. I love it! I started out running a daycare in my home for the extra income and found that i had made more money doing that than i ever did working. plus i got to stay home and raise my own child. then #2 came along and we decided to try not having the extra daycare kids and now I just stay home with my almost 4 year old. i always say, "a bad day at home is far better than a good day at the office." I will admit that staying home isnt always the easiest job. your job never "ends". but your children are little only once. before you know it, they will be going to school full time and they wont "need" you as much as they used to.

right now, i write for yahoo! and decorate handmade keepsakes for extra income. it's not a lot but it gives me a little of my own spending money and it keeps me from watching cartoons all day.

some advice, staying home will require you to find adult conversation, or your brain will turn to mush. :) schedule a regular play date, get out and walk, and take your kids to the park, dont be afraid to talk to the mom sitting next to you. there are so many things you can do while being home, it's hardly ever a time to be bored. I always say, "God didn't bless me with children for someone else to raise...." good luck! and whatever you decide to do, it will be the best for you and your family and it will be wonderful!

Leeann - posted on 09/11/2011

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I would like to work when i send my last child off to school, and my friends and hubby think i should, but in all honesty i love staying at home. i love being able to get them off the bus, helping them with homework if they need it. cooking them breakfast and dinner. i even love laundry lol. i know i could still do most of that and still work, but i feel more satisfaction from staying at home than, i ever did working. although i did love the money.

Joanne - posted on 09/11/2011

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Ive been a stay at home mun for 11 yrs my youngest daughter is startin full tym nursery on thursday 15th an now she is in full tyn i am goin to work as a nursery nurse i always loved bein at home with my girls an prefered it that way as i was there for everythink they done. X

Gigi - posted on 09/08/2011

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I was a stay at home mom while my kids were growning up. I have quit my job to watch my 3 year old and have had her since she was 2 months old. shes a blessing. her mommy, my daughter is pregnant with her brother due Jan 2012 and I will also be home with him. I love it and can afford to stay home to watch them. My daughter still provides me with food and milk and such. I treat her just like I would my kids except she is my grand.... and can usually gets her way within reason, proper, pleases and thank you's. we do starfall since she was 6 months old. she is a pretty bright lil girl. has a hard time with pronouncing a few letter like L and SQ but she is a bright girl... I LOVE HER VERY MUCH and glad I can stay home to take care of her.

Robyn - posted on 09/07/2011

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I like being a stay at home mom. Im so thankful that my husband goes to work everyday to provide for us because lets be honest, work is grueling a lot of time. Just the routine of it. Getting up early to get ready and to drive an hour to work. Then finally driving another hour home. Dont get me wrong, Im super busy at home too taking care of my 2 boys, but I am in the comfort of my home with everything I need here. I think when my kids are in middle school, I might want to get a part time job.

Carisa - posted on 09/07/2011

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I became a stay at home mom because I was laid off when my daughter was 4 months old (yeah, went back for eight weeks and was then laid off) It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I would never have thought about being a stay at home mom before than. And let me tell you, when my second daughter was born, I was sooo happy that I didn't have to go back to work. I love it and don't plan on working full time until all my kids are out of elementary school.

Brooke - posted on 09/06/2011

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I have always wanted to be a stay at home. I never went to daycare and I remember all sorts of fun things I did with my mom. My daughter just turned 4 and I worked full time her first 2 years and then went down to part time. Once our twins are born in a few months I am staying home. I work part time in childcare right now and love working with the kids, teaching them and watching them grow so I am kind of sad to be leaving. I want to be with my children though and influence them with my ideas and values. I also don't want to miss out, they are only young once. Once our twins are born and our daughter starts Kindergarten next year I'd like to start a daycare out of my home. That way, I can be at home with my children and still contribute financially.

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i have been a staying home since March 2009, although my first baby girl was born Aug 2 2008.....my second baby girl was born July 30th 2009.......I like staying at home i do, but we live in a 2 bedroom apt and the neighbor downstairs is such a witch......the girls dont have much room to run around.....now baby #3 (a boy, finally lol) is only 3 weeks away and there will be absolutely no room......

Vegemite - posted on 09/04/2011

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I am a stay at home mum at the moment because my husband can currently make more than me and we want one parent at home with them as we want our kids to be raised by their parents. I feel a little suffocated and tied down at home but that is the sacrifice I must make for my kids well being at this young age. However we are currently in transition for a life change. Soon we'll be moving to the country where my husband can run his classic car sales business from home during the day while the kids are at school and be SAHD before and after while I will work part time. He is more adept at the stay at home parent thing than me and I'm sure by sharing both rolls we will be much happier as a family.

Nelly - posted on 09/04/2011

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I have 4 kids 16, 14, 12 and 10 yr olds and I've been a stay at home mom since my oldest was born, we didn't want our kids to be raised by anyone but their parents

Sherry - posted on 09/02/2011

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my dear we never planned this it just happen, trust me it like 10 to one outside the house job, on your feet all the time it like it never ended..

Kaylene - posted on 09/02/2011

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I have been a stay at home mom now for 24 years and I love it and wouldn't have it any other way :)

Sheri - posted on 09/02/2011

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I love being a sahm. However, I've been struggling with it bc I felt as if it was the only thing I am capable of...I have bipolar and in the last 5 years since I was diagnosed the longest I've been able to hold a job outside of being a sahm is for 3 months! I've felt like I have had to be a sahm because that's all I can succeed at. But after a good talk last night I am feeling bettet about this issue...I am a woman of faith and always pray for God to guide me and show me His will. I have come to realize that I am not a failure for not being able to hold a job...God has just shown me His will and that He wants me to be a sahm! He is in control and utimately the one who has closed the doors for me to work outside the home...not me. I am glad I came to this realization...I am now much more content being a sahm!!! :)

Jamie - posted on 09/02/2011

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I have been a stay at home mom since shortly after my husband and I got married 2 yrs ago. I have a 4yr old and a 1yr old and we are thinking about another :). I wasn't sure if i would love it since so much of my adult life my identity had been tied up in my job. What i did was who i was.
It took a couple things for me to realize that I would love to be at home with my kids. My husband brought up the fact that everyday when i came home I was just annoyed and very often angry. Not being able to control anything at my job was frustrating me more than i knew. This coupled with the fact that my then 2 yr had been calling my daycare provider mom occasionally made me rethink my life.
I did some research before making this major decision. if you go to any search engine you should be able to find a calculator that will allow you to plug in all your income and bills and see if you can afford it. I thought for sure that we couldn't but computing the daycare costs and all our other bills against what we would have both been making, we actually made $5 by me staying home.
There are days that you get frustrated and would do anything to interact with some other adults. My advice is that if you decide that staying at home is what you want to do then make sure that you have a good support structure in place. Have a plan for someone to give you at least an hour a week to yourself and make sure that you have some sort of hobby or work from home activity that allows you to have grownup time.
good luck making your decision

Ashley - posted on 08/31/2011

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I am a SAHM since 2009. I have two children. My son is 27 months and my daughter is 4 months. i love it, I hate it, but I wouldnt trade it for anything. I enjoy waking up to my children, I just miss being able to do something I want to do. I plan on going to school for either business management or medical assisant. And once my kids are both able to be in daycare together I would like to go back to work part-time. I love my children and I am trying my hardest to teach them things, but there are a few things I cant teach them. And I think it would benefit them in the end.

Deborah - posted on 08/31/2011

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I`ve been a sahm mum now for 5yrs and i don`t miss going out to work and don`t intend to go back to work im happy doing school runs and having time to myself thru the day!

Emma - posted on 08/30/2011

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well i would love to see my kids to school. i not only want to do this because i want to raise my children with no outside help (from daycares etc) but i was also in the army for the first two years of my daughters life and barely got to spend time with her so this is my chance. i love my children and i want what is best for them.

KRYSTA - posted on 08/30/2011

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I HAVE BEEN A STAY AT HOME MOM FOR 11 YEARS ... I WOULDNT HAVE HAD IT ANY OTHER WAY ..!! I DONT WANT SOMEONE ELSE RAISING MY CHILD .. PLUS WITH THE PRICES NOW DAYS , ID BE WORKING JUST TO PAY A SITTER !! PLUS I DONT WANT THAT FEAR OF SOMETHING HAPPENING TO ONE OF MY KIDS .. U HEAR THEM STORIES ABOUT SITTERS THAT ABUSE OR JUST LOCK THE KIDS UP AND STAY ON THE PHONE THE WHOLE TIME !! IF ITS ME THAT IS THERE FOR MY KIDS , I KNOW THEY ARE GETTING WHAT THEY NEED AND HOW THEY ARE BEING TREATED !!

Kathy - posted on 08/28/2011

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I've always wanted to be a SAHM, and I am one now, but I didn't get my wish right away. My mom was a SAHM and to this day I value that, the time I got to spend with her and that she raised me, not a babysitter. I didn't get my wish right away I had to go back at the end of my year of mat leave but when my husbands work relocated him that was the deal, we move this far I get to stay home with our daughter. I miss the extra money, but we have decided that come this fall I'm going to look at babysitting a kid or two not only to help with $$$ a bit but also because as it gets cold its going to be harder to have my daughter out to play as much, and less likely to meet kids.

Sue-Ann - posted on 08/25/2011

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Dear Sherri, thanks v much for yr reply and sharing your expertise :-) . Btw, congrats to the next one coming along. Is it gonna b a prince or princess?

Sherri - posted on 08/24/2011

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Sue-Ann it certainly helps. It can help in their self confidence, it can help in their learning especially alphabet, numbers etc. especially in lieu of being placed in front of a TV all day. It still takes a hands on parent to make these things happen though, which it seems you are a very dedicated and active mom.

Just as far a potty training, speaking, crawling, walking etc. usually there is no differences in parents who are home vs. working parents.

Sue-Ann - posted on 08/24/2011

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Hi Sherri, thank you very much for the frank comments to a new mom like me:-).

I do agree that every child is different and dev at different rates. I'm sorry if my comments have made it sound like i'mm omnipotent or some super mom. Itis a misunderstanding if it does.

Drawing from your rich experience in dealiing with the very young children, I wish to check with you if home envirnoment plays a part in helping to accelerate milestones and maximise potentials e.g. speaking in proper complete sentences and also how fast a child can be toilet trained?

Does nurturing a child help the nature part and bring it out?

If I had put her in mymil's house, she will be plopped in front of tv all the time, which I think, I read somewhere that it affects how fast a child speaks to some extent.



As for nannies, choosing a good one that can give lots of attention, bonding and care is not that easy. Let alone, cultivating good habits and healthy eating from young.

With these factors and some others in mind, I feel that as a mom, I am most suited to look after her. I just want to do the extra bit and help to maxmise her natural abiliities so that she can blosom...

Sherri - posted on 08/24/2011

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Sue-Ann I have been a SAHM for the past 11 yrs have 3 children and another on the way and have done in home daycare for 11yrs.

Although it is amazing you stay home with her. You had nothing to do with her talking in complete sentences she was just ready. Also you had nothing to do with her being potty trained at 21mo's either, she was ready and you helped. All children are different and develop at different rates. So although there are many things you I am sure have helped her with, those two things have nothing to do with the fact you stayed home. They would have happened at the same rates if you worked or not.

Sue-Ann - posted on 08/24/2011

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Hi! I am also a SAHM since 2009. My girl is 21 months old.

I am currently on long no-pay leave. My initial plan was to return to work initially when my daughter turned 6 months. However, feelings developed and research into caregiving and nurture for the developmental years changed my mind.

I did not hand over to my mil as planned or passed to any other caregivers or hire nannies as persuaded by others.

My staying at home was a total shock to my relatives and family as I have always put my career as priority before having my daughter.

You can find out more of my reasons from my blog - http://www.moremoreplease.com/books-and-...

Im glad I made this choice as I never miss any milestones and I could help nurture my daughter in many ways. For one now - she is day-time toilet trained by me and could speak in sentences too.

Wendy - posted on 08/23/2011

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I have stayed at home since I found out I was pregnant with our first child, 2005. I love it and would not have it any other way. But I also work from home now. So I am busy and the kids love it, they love to help me. I hope to have my husband home soon too, cause our kids hate it when he goes to work. I will always stay home cause I want to be there for my kids and not let someone else raise them. That's me though, everybody is different. I love being home!!

Cynthia - posted on 08/23/2011

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I have been a stay at home mom for about 2years. It has been the best two years. I got to raise her and be with her 24/7. I got to see her milestones before anyone and record every detail. I love it for that fact who better to take care of your kids than you? no one.

Joanna - posted on 08/23/2011

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I have been a SAHM for two and a half years, and I can't wait to go back to work. I do not find being a SAHM to be interesting or fulfilling. I had a high risk pregnancy and was told not to work, so I quit my job (big mistake...should have taken FMLA) and stayed home from my 6th week. My son is now two years and eight months old, and is in daycare four days a week, while I look for another job. It's not that I don't adore my child...I do! But I believe that being a SAHM is a calling, and it's one I just don't have. I have nothing but respect for other SAHMs, and I applaud you for your decision to stay at home with your kids. Unfortunately, it's not a decision I would make, or one that we can really afford. If it weren't for my in-laws paying for Nick's daycare, he would be with me 24/7, and that's just too much for me. I see that I'm in the minority here, but the decision to go back to work is one that I'm very happy with. Now if I could only find a job in this economy...

Kitty - posted on 08/23/2011

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Well I liked being a SAHM all the time It is just as hard as working away from the home cause there is EVERYTHING TO DO !!! CLEANING , COOKING , SHOPPING, YARD WORK, it doesnt end planing for this and that and paying bills.. it is 24.7 job not like the one that ends at 3pm-4pm daily.... and some times weekends arent even off lol...

Sal - posted on 08/21/2011

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i have 3 children, 3,4 and 15, i choose to stay home, i don;t have a career that i am passionate about and to go to work at a job i don;t love and pay child care just ins;t fun or ecconomical, i also feel that you will never get another chance to stay home with your babies, i did work when my oldest was at school before having my 2 younger and i did enjoy it as being a sahm to one school age child really doesn;t fill in much of the day and taking child care expence out of the equation make work a good option, there are definatly days when it get lonely frustrated and sick to death of the road i'm on, but over all i do love it and when push comes to shove i won;t be going anywhere

Andrea - posted on 08/21/2011

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I am a SAHM to a 20 month old girl and 8 month old boy. I always wanted to be a SAHM when I had kids because I don't like the idea of having to leave them with someone else for 8-10 hours a day and then not have a lot of time to spend with them. For the record I have nothing negative against parents that both work, to each his own. I am unable to work due to a back injury but even if it wasn't for that I still wouldn't work outside the home because I will be homeschooling our kids. I love being home with my kids and being the one to teach them new things and the one to see all their firsts.

Kim - posted on 08/17/2011

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I have been a stay at home mom for 19 months now. I really felt strongly about this. Finically it is hard but I vowed while trying to get pregnant that I would stay home as long as I could. To me, no one can raise your child as well as you. Daycare a few hours a week is good for social interaction or play groups. But if you can do it, it is the best way. I don't want ro knock moms that work, staying at home isn't for everyone. But when ur child is at daycare 6-8 hours a day with 10 other kids and one teacher or even two they don't get the one on one interaction that they get one on one with you. I honestly feel like the first few years are the most influential. By the time they go to kidergarden they are who they are going to be for the rest of their lives, the basics anyway. I want to be the one who impacts his life, teaches right from wrong, how to treat people. How can you possibly do that when someone else is taking care of them. Just my opinion!

Ashley - posted on 08/17/2011

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I am a SAHM and I wouldnt trade it for the world. however, I also run a home daycare to help us out financially. You would be surprised how much money you actually make running your own dayre, its alot of training & classes you have to go through first, which can get a bit costly.. but in the long run its well worth it! I get to work with children (which is something ive always loved doing) while also raising my daughter at the same time!! Plus she benefits from alot of social interaction! :)

Krystle - posted on 08/17/2011

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I'm a stay at home mom for over a year now i lost my job and so my husband decided that it would be better for me to be at home. i'm not to thrilled about it, but as time went on its gettin better cause i see all my children's progress and milestones. i feel alone sometimes cause alot of my girlfriends have jobs and all so i miss the adult conversations and also just being in a different enviorment is what i miss alot. but its all about finding activities to keep you and your children busy and it helped to set a schedule for my kids and get some much needed organizing done around the house.

Nicole - posted on 08/16/2011

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I would love to be a stay at home mom forever. Well till kids r grown n gone. Will see if we can afford it.

Bridgette - posted on 08/16/2011

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LOL! I grew up with a mother who took down all of the curtains each weekend to wash. I took care of my two younger sisters getting them dressed and to school and learned to cook at 10 years old. When I got together with my husband our apartment looked like a hurricane had come through it for several years. I am so sorry, sometimes we get hit with challenges, but I think it's all in how you handle it. You are doing GREAT!!! I am a diabetic and suffer from seizure disorder. The medications I take just knock me out after around noon. I do the one room thing on top of laundry and such as well. I am sure your family appreciates all that you do-don't feel bad. I am lucky-my daughter is now 16 and my son is 11, so I get help now and then. My daughter is a complete SLOB, though!! Her room is so bad, we keep the door closed. I figure she will have enough to do when she gets out on her own so I don't get on her too much about it. She makes up for it by helping out with my son when he has bad days! Keep up the good work-no coffee and bon bons:)

Steff - posted on 08/16/2011

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Thanks Bridgette!! If I'm honest, I've never been a neat freak, and now with a 5 & 3 year following me around & merrily undoing any tidying attempts I do make...lol!! I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, potentially Fibro too, plus am now developing multiple ovarian cysts on a regular basis it seems. As far as daily housework is concerned, the dishes are washed, laundry gets done, tidying - well I try & get one room completely tidy each day, but it totally depends on my energy levels, as on a good day I feel like a zombie & even the school run can wipe me out! I do get depressed / embarrassed by not being able to cook a meal from scratch every day when hubby gets home from work, and the house being somewhat untidy, but it's not from laziness (any anyways, aren't us SAHMs only supposed to drink coffee & watch daytime tv all day?). Luckily I have supportive friends & a rockstar husband, who understand my situation, and get that I would rather be doing stuff with the kids than mopping floors.

Bridgette - posted on 08/16/2011

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Steff, thank you for such a wonderful post!!! I love being at home as well, but it really takes a toll on my husband having to work so much to make ends meet! I was going to go back as soon as my son was in school full time and stable-he is autistic, but I have developed a few health problems of my own. It feels good to know that our kids are more important than getting that spot off the wall!! =)

Steff - posted on 08/16/2011

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After my daughter was born in 2005, we had originally thought that I would go back to work when she was 6 months old, we'd found a great dayhome & thought it would all work out ok. When my daughter was 3 months old, our dayhome provider announced she was moving away, so that plan fell through. We sat down & did our sums, and decided that financially it didn't actually make much sense for me to work full time, as there would be precious little money left over after dayhome, gas etc etc - and we were both having second thoughts about the new dayhome we had found. At that time, I went back to work part-time of the weekends, so that my husband could care for Rhiannon when I wasn't there. When our son was born at the end of 2007, I became a SAHM full-time. All of our family live in England (we're in Canada), my husband works around 14 hours a day, and the weekends are the only time we are all together as a family. As we came to parenthood in our late thirties, I had worked 18 years full-time before having kids, first as an accountant, and then in retail management. Money is tight with only one income, but we make it work and prioritise our needs. It has been the best decision we could have made, in hindsight.

I love being at home, and my husband is working hard to try to make it work so that in the future I don't have to work if I don't want to - if I get very lucky this may actually come true!! Over the last few years I have developed some health issues that would prevent me from being an effective employee anyways I think, but thats another story!! What it does mean is that my house is not always pristine (or even approaching it!!), but I choose to spend the limited energy I do have with my kids rather than attached to a hoover. I'm proud to be able to witness my children's milestones & the everyday stuff. It's not always pretty or fun, some days its downright hard, but life is never perfect, right?

My daughter goes into grade 1 in a couple weeks, and my son could go into playschool a couple mornings a week if he ever decides to beome completely potty trained (eek!!), as they don't do diapers in playschool here. I suspect for the first few months he'll be at home with me, but we'll join some library programs & go to our local playgroup, so he can socialise still. We'll be doing the school run every day, as we are out in the country & two school bus rides away.

Winters can be hard, with 6 months of snow & minus temps, you can be less inclined to go out unless you have to. I have online friends, and keep myself busy with various needlecrafts - I found a buried inner craft diva, and would love to somehow pursue this and maybe even earn some money from it. I have thought about volunteering when both kids are in school full-time, helping other mums who are alone & isolated with young children, as it can be a lonely life. I have joined a book club & a stitching group, and my hubby understands that sometimes on the weekends I just need to leave the house & remember that I have a name other than "mummy".

Merry - posted on 08/15/2011

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Do you homeschool? I remember from previous posts you let your boys self wean, which instantly made you my friend! Lol

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I've always wanted to be a stay at home mom!
Reasons
1: I want to breastfeed
2: I want to homeschool
3: I want to not use daycare
4: I want to be my kids primary caretaker
5: I don't trust many people to raise my kids
6: I think babies and kids benefit from a full time mom
7: I don't have any career aspirations
8: I think raising kids is the most important job ever!

Jennifer - posted on 08/15/2011

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I have a 5 year old boy and a three year old girl. I stay at home and I will tell you why, First I want to raise my kids and give them my morals and standards, second children with stay at home moms tend to do better. I understand if it is not possible for your situation.
When I was 14 I began babysitting three boys, as time went on the parents were there less and I was there more. The parents didn't have big exec jobs, I dunno where they were half the time. When I was 18 and graduated I moved in with them, and basically I raised those kids and took care of the house. When I started the youngest was 5mo, on rare occasions I would have off, or go on a vacation the parents couldnt calm him because he wanted me.. All three boys respected me over their parents and when the parents would try to tell them something or discipline them, they would run to me. Granted not every situation is this bad, but I want my kids where I can keep them safe and know they are safe, and where I can decide how they are raised. Unfortunately since I was so young, I doubt I did a good job. Hope it all works out for them.

Julie - posted on 08/14/2011

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I have been a SAHM for 9 years. Our reason was simple, my husband and I both felt our kids would benefit more with me at home. My kids are 9, 7, 5 and 4 and I love that I have not missed one single thing with them. I am available for school parties, field trips, homework, football practices and games, gymnastics, girl scouts. They always have someone who can be there for them.

At this point in time we have no plans on me ever going to work. I think it is just as important to be around when your kids are teenagers and adults. Not to mention the amount of time I have to give to my husband because I'm not overwhelmed trying to be mom and work full time.

Angie - posted on 08/13/2011

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I never planned on being a stay at home mom, but when we found out that we were having twins in our first ultra sound things changed. The price of daycare doubled, insurance doubled everything came down to money but i still planned on going back to work, then when put on bed rest at 31 weeks for my babies it made me think how much i missed durring my pregancy when i worked 40 hrs all kinds of retail hrs, and then when i held them in my arms i knew i was not going back to work and for the last 2 yrs i will not change it i love being a stay at home mom. just remeber for you sanity you will need to have time to yourself and when you get it take it, the dishes can wait a few hours. i wish you luck, also day care and expense of me working was more then when i stayed at home.

Breda - posted on 08/10/2011

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To be honest I know nothing else than staying at home for the past nearly 9 years! My youngest is starting school in September and I'm looking into do a night course so I can be there for my children for when they come home from school. I have the utmost respect for moms who go to work everyday, it's just not for me.

Kim - posted on 08/09/2011

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I haven't always been a stay at home mom. When I had my first child at 18, I went to work when he was 3 months old (left him w/ his grandparents while I worked) because I had to work to pay the bills. He was my only child for 15 years and I worked full time. When I met my current husband, he had 2 children from his previous marriage and I got pregnant right away. Since his job can support us, it made sense for me to become a SAHM since any money I would make wouldn't even cover day care. We've since had a 2nd child together bringing the grand total to 5 kids (4 still at home now) so for us, it's just the way to go. I feel very lucky to be able to be a SAHM mom with my kids now since I didn't get that opportunity with my oldest. But I have no judgement for women who want to work. Whatever you need to do to be happy in your home & life, you should do it.

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