stay at home mom having a bad day...what do I do?

Taylor - posted on 08/14/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Today is a bad day and I feel guilty for not being into "mommyhood" but my kids are 21 months and 3 months old and I am at home all day everyday with them as our husband runs our business and is never here. I don't have any friends in this small town and I feel very depressed. Any other mom's in a similar situation? What do you do on these days?

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Mia - posted on 08/14/2012

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OH NO! You need some support! AND FRIENDS! What did you do before kids? Why not make the business a family business and take the kids in and work with your husband? Maybe you could start a home-preschool co-op with other stay at home moms? That's what I do and i also work from home at nights and often during nap. It is quite probable that a LOT of your "guilty feelings" and depression is postpartum related with a 3 month old and kids that close together in age - postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety (I had both ppd and ppa with my second for over a year after having the first and second 21 months apart and yours are even closer - NO history of either depression or anxiety either) You should start treating that right away! You are doing what you should be doing and the most important thing you'll ever (or could ever) do!! BUT you still need to be nurtured as well and you need to nurture your soul and mind as well. Message me if you need ideas!

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Tami - posted on 09/28/2012

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DARN. computer finishes my sentences with a period .make regular word capital letter.it makes it hard to go on a rant then you read what you wrote and your like what does that say .lol have a good day mom's try to not let them kids get you down .

Tami - posted on 09/28/2012

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I am having a bad day ,too. I am not depressed per say just feeling so unappreciated and disrespected from my children and my husband .I have a10 year little girl who is having "let's test mommy and see how much of my bad behavior. Will she put up with."Usually the best behaved little girl ever.My. 8 year little boy ISS just plain mad at me he lost a c.d. that his papa bought for him .I never even saw the darn thing . He lost his legos and today he gets free. time at school today.So recourse somehow that is my fault to.They started sports this year and have a very busy schedule . I have a little girl who is 2. Years old so I stay home with her during the week .I work evenings on Fri,sat,Sun .On paper that sounds great but does,my always work that. Way .My husband likes to get drunk always 2 times a week and tell me how he feels about everything . I never like to burden anyone with how I feel.this mourning I broke down and cried call my husband told him this assess b.s""" I feel like there is me and babygirl then there is him with the kids . I doesn't defend me with them . He takes them to most of there practices for sports so i get where they are favoring him right now.I am the one who signed them up for the games and did the budget with the family income .Encouraged them to go and try .They both love it and are doing great so i am so proud. I Feel as if I just wanna say fine put the baby in daycare work full time Make myself way to busy to endure their rudeness .let them figure it out by there of their self .

Katie - posted on 08/17/2012

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I am so with you! We moved to a new town where my husband got a job so I could stay at home with the kids (16months, 3 years and baby on the way). He is gone all day and hates his job so he is miserable when he is home. (I have a LOT of respect for single moms given how hard it is to have a husband that is so unavailable at times.)
To counter loneliness, I joined a gym that has day care. (I saw a Zumba class on the biggest loser and thought it might be fun.) Now I can workout while my kids get some social time.
There is also a group called MOPS I was told about but haven't tried yet. It's supposed to be a support group of some time. Google MOPS to find a group near you.
What works the most for me is getting out of the house. With kids that small it is tempting to stay at home. Get out. Some malls have playgrounds. There are all kinds of fun things to be found. There is a Carousel museum near us that restored 6 old amusement park rides and only charges twenty-five cents per ride. There are aquariums and the kids love the zoo. (and if you join the zoo as a member, admission to other local attractions are also discounted or free!)
I know it is so hard to be a stay at home mom. I hope things get better for you. Just know that you are doing a fabulous job. Your kids are blessed to have such a loving mommy!
If you need a friend, feel free to e-mail katietompas@yahoo.com. :)

Stifler's - posted on 08/15/2012

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Watch of my favourite movies while having a coffee and a danish and the kids run a muck.

HappyMommy - posted on 08/14/2012

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Hi there I am a new member I have a 5 1/2 month old and my husband works all day and I am a stay at home mom too! I live in la and there are a lot of nice walking areas around here..I go for strolls often to change my mood...don't feel guilty we all go through it

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