Stigma

Kate CP - posted on 02/11/2009

I know I'm doing the right thing for my family and my circumstance. Some moms have to work (or chose to continue to work) and some are able and want to stay home with their kids. You just have to know in your heart that what you are doing for your family is what's best for your situation.

Tell everyone else to p*ss-off!

Stephanie - posted on 02/11/2009

You know, I was at  my friend's home the other day for her son's 1st b-day party and asked her how he naps during the day (I was curious because my 8 month old won't nap unless in my arms breastfeeding) and she proceeded to tell me what the daycare workers had to say about her son's naptime habits.  I was so thankful I made the decision to give up my career to be home with my baby girl.  It helps that I also make money online.

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Alison - posted on 02/11/2009

Social opinions of Mothers have always swung and of course alot of it depends on the culture/values/economic position of the country they live in...Once we kept the homefires burning and it was expected of us- and also single Mums had their children taken off them to be given up for adoption. Some people resented the fact that some Mums chose to work, 'taking the jobs of fathers and school graduates'. Last time the law was changed here in Aussie all parents(youngest child turning seven) with a partner working and earning under a certain amount per year had to go back to work (certain hours/wages to be maintained and constant reporting/monitoring). It just goes ON and ON don't it!?! It's no wonder alot of people have their own opinions on what a mothers/parents worth in the community should be! We have 4 kids 18, 14, 7 n 5 yrs and even tho' i've done volunteering on and off (nothing backbreaking) i haven't done one iota of paid work since meeting my hubby. We've survived on the most basic of wages (hardly ever held a healthcare card for medical and missing out on the baby bonus's) and we are as happy as pigs in poo :-)............For me Jennifer and from my hubby who says, We didnt have kids for someone else to look after them, the negative comments (recently a friends husband asked me when i was going to do something instead of wasting my intelligence) don't hurt as much as they used to. The evidence speaks for itself i reckon as we have a great family and there's plenty to be jealous of, if someone was feeling that way inclined, as we've done just as well if not better than those that feel they must comment...lol... As for friends hubby-he can go and kiss my intelligence! But seriously be proud of your family, your own story and don't allow anyone to insult your life choices Jennifer.... Whoa sorry about being long winded U fired up my passion. lol . Ali :-)

Stephanie - posted on 02/11/2009

I am a stay at home Mom. I have been since my kids were little. They are now 16 & 14. I had no choice in whether or not I worked because I have Muscular Dystrophy but I still get the "Oh you are so lucky" thing. they all think that I am just spoiled and all I do is sit around the house and watch TV. I get called on all the time to head up committees at school or organize field trips with the Since you don't have to work. they don't seem to realize that I have some days that I wish I could just sit and watch TV. It doesn't get any easier as they get older. In fact, I am busier now that I have ever been. I wish we could all get to a place where women appreciated each other regardless of whether we work outside of the home or not. None of what any of us do is easier than the other. We have the same responsibilites, they just take a different form. One thing I can definitely say is that even though I am labeled by society as a stay at home Mom, I am never home. So I have adopted the title - CEO of Product, Development & Socialization of a Home business. Take it if you like and where it proudly.  

Rene - posted on 02/11/2009

Easy I know my children not the daycare provider and when there grown im not going to wonder where they got that idea perfect example a mom i know who works full time her son hit my son after giving him a hard time for weeks i knew what was happening i told the school who didnt do anything till after i didnt know the boys last name when his mom walked out she almost died of embarassment she had no idea that he was swearing fighting and a whole lot of other stuff my son is 13 and still lets me know about his life and that makes everyday worth it

Lynda - posted on 02/11/2009

Hi Jennifer.  Where I live there really isn't too much negativity with regards to being a stay-at-home mom.  What little there is I just ignore it.  The ones that are negative about are the ones that either jealous or just don't understand how hard it is to be a SAHM.  The only negative I get are from men who think that SAHMs sit around all day eating and watching tv.  They just need a reality check and stay home with the kids 1 day and see how tough it is. 

But if you are having problems with people being ignorant, just let them know that when they are done with their job in the evening they go home and relax.  Where as a SAHM is 24 hours a day.  Like Dr Phil it takes 3 people to do the job a SAHM does.  So hug your child/children and be thankful you can spend the time with them while you can because once they grow up and become teens they don't want anything to do with you!!  Cherish the time you have with them!!