Stuck at home and friendless......

Deanna - posted on 03/20/2009 ( 78 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone! I'm new to this whole Circle of Mom's thing, but boy is it ever great!

I just wanted to post something and ask if other "stay-at-home mom's" feel this way too.



After my daughter was born I had post-partum depression which stemmed into a full fledged severe depression to the point that when I hit rock bottom last summer, I contemplated suicide. I'm proud to say that I am dealing with my depression and have since been feeling so happy and loving life! But I still have days where I feel very depressed, sad, lonely and I think it all comes down to the fact that I feel as if I don't have any friends. Sure I have all my "friends" on facebook and MSN that I chat with occasionally, but I don't have any human contact with other adults while I'm stuck at home all day with my daughter.



I have tried to set up play dates with other mom's I know but it never seems to happen. I'm hoping I'll have better luck now that the warmer weather is starting to arrive. But I think I need to make a whole new circle of friends. But I don't know how to do that, or where to start, or anything. It's scary! I almost feel like it's the first day of school and you don't know anyone and you need to start making friends all over again!



I live in London, Ontario. I'm 25 years old with a soon to be 3 year old little girl (April 13th). I'm a friendly person, I love to talk, I'll talk to anyone that will listen to me and always have!

Does anyone else feel like this sometimes or is it just me???

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Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2009

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I feel like that alot. I am home 24/7 with my two kids. My husband works all the time and we only have one car. I have no real friends that I hang out with. You are not the only one.

Emma - posted on 08/13/2009

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i know exactley how u feel ,

when my son was born 10 may 08 i was living in a hostel and it was HELL!!!! my partner worked all hours god gave him and i was so alone and had to contend with drug missusers and alcaholics partying until god know what tim ein the morning the only good thing that came out of it was my baby boy sleeps through anything :) i was on 60mg of antidepressents a day and thought many times of just dissapeering, now i have moved into a flat and my partner me and my lil boy are sooooo much happier, but he still works and i dont know anybody in my area, i have tried going to baby groups but the other mums just look down their nose at me as i am only 19..

i have learnt how to have hard skin so i just ignore them but it is a very lonely life .... x

Valerie - posted on 08/05/2009

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I haven't had time to read all of the responses so I may repeat what has already been said.

My advice is this:

Get yourself out! I know it's easier said than done, I've been there. Being a SAHM was a lot more lonely than I ever expected it to be. The first few years, I was a lot like you. You have to take charge and get out of the house with your children. Go to the local park or school playgrounds. Go to the public library, they usually have a children's time each week. I have met many, many moms that way. I have also taken my kids to McDonald's and let them play and met moms that way. Once you start thinking of places that you can take the kids, that's where you will also find other moms. We do have a mom's group here in town that is wonderful, but there are only a few of us that attend regularly. The hardest part is jumping in and introducing yourself. Don't be too shy to say hi and don't feel badly is they don't respond quickly. This is the hard part, but I promise you it is worth it. I have made a few very special friends in that past couple of years doing all of these things. I hope this helps some of you.

Wendy - posted on 08/11/2009

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I felt so alone when i had my little boy coz not many of my friends had baby's so i went to play groups and swim and play groups i made a few friends but then i realised i was just bored so what i did was i went back to work i find it helpful because i get to socialise now and its abit of time to myself which i think every mum needs plus it gets me out of the house, and I go out with my work mates aswell and i'm much happier now and i know its work but if you get a good job with people you get on with and can have a laugh with it helps you feel happier and i actually enjoy goin to work as much as i like spendin time with my little boy its just nice for the break.

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Have you heard of Mother's of Pre-schoolers? (MOPS) It has been a total lifesaver for me. I have made so many new friends there who are going thru the same things as I am as a mother. You just need to be a mom of a child age newborn thru kindergarten. Give it a try. I have been involved for 4 years now & will keep going as long as I can!

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Joan - posted on 05/25/2012

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Hey I'm a stay at home mom of four great fun children and I'm also pregnant now (I know it's alot)I'm also married I'm 24 with absolutely no friends at all I don't go out and hang out with any one because will there isn't anyone in my life to do that with I don't talk to anyone besides my kids and husband I wish all the time for "girlfriends "to talk and hang out with it sounds so pathetic but it's my life non the less.....dose anyone have this issue ?

Sheena - posted on 08/13/2009

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I know exactly how you feel. My husband works long hours and I moved to a town that I knew no one. I have been here for a year now but I still don't really have friends. Where I lived before I had a lot of friends who I would hang out with during the day but now they are 3 hours away so it's not like I can take a day trip tp see them. Feel free to email me anytime. sheena.priest@everest.edu

Camille - posted on 08/12/2009

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I totally hear you! I feel like I just read a journal entry of mine!! I love talking to people, doesn't matter who! I have three beautiful boys, but I feel like I am going crazy because I don't see much of anyone else but them! Feel free to send me an IM or something. I can chat for hours!!

Laura - posted on 08/11/2009

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I feel like this a lot. I have found a couple of play groups that meet weekly. I also attend church and go to ladies funtions as much as I can through church. I think if you can keep yourself a little busy, it helps a lot, plus you meet new people the more you put yourself out there.

Tiffany - posted on 08/09/2009

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I 100% feel this way. Everything you wrote is what I have gone thru or are going thru. I'm just not sure where to start. I think I have forgot how to make friends. I know I have to get out but it seem like every group I find charges a large fee and we don't have the money for me to pay for something like that.

I have a hard time figuring out why nothing ever comes of the play dates I try to set up with other moms??

Yvonne - posted on 08/09/2009

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Oh honey you sound like me, I am a 28 year old SAHM of three. I have more friends on the computer than i do in real life. I have found it so hard making friends..and i think it sucks.

Tara - posted on 08/09/2009

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Wow...I feel the same way as I am one of the older new moms as my "old" friends have teenagers graduating from high school and I now have an 8 month old...it seems like likfe totally changes.

Bridget - posted on 08/09/2009

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I know exactly how you feel! I am currently in South Korea right now,I have been here for three months and I have made zero friends. I am home with my two boys all day and I do get very lonely as my husband works all day and I don't see him until late in the evening.

It is hard for me to make friends because so many "friends" in the past have turned on me or used me,so it is hard for me to trust anyone.

If you ever need someone to talk to,even though we are in different countries,email me.

Robin - posted on 08/09/2009

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Wow! I tought I was alone in those feelings, except for my sister-in-law. I don't really talk to anyone either except for my sister-in-law. I have been a stay-at-home mom for the past 7 years. I quit working as a waitress when I found out I was pregnant with my son (1st child). I had miscarried a child a few years prior to this pregnancy, and doctors wanted to take extra care with this one, so I quit working. After him, my husband and I didn't want anyone else raising our kids or have a babysitter, so I stayed home to raise him. Soon after he turned 4, his sister arrived. So now I have 2, and they are 4 years and 1 month apart. After my son, I wanted a daughter, so I can't complain there. Now 7 years has come and gone, and I have had bad days just like you, and thought I was alone just like you. I don't want to have any more kids, and is ready to go to work now. I want to help my husband with money, have extra money, and meat new people. I don't know how I got through these past 7 years, but I do know I've made some bad choices. Those bad choices have led me to the state of mind I'm in now. Don't take anything or anyone for granted, talk to anyone who will or will not listen,(gotta get out what you have to say somehow), and take time out for yourself. Wether it's being on the computer, finding new friends, taking a walk with your kids, taking a hot bath and having a movie on for kids, reading a book,crafting, ect.... Whatever you do, do not keep your feelings bottled up! That's what causes problems. When my husband would come home from work, sometimes he would ask how did my day go. It may not seem like that would be satisfying to a stay-at-home mom, but to me, that told me I was important and was a person as well as mom, homemaker, and wife. Even if I didn't have hardly anything to talk about. And most of the time I didn't. Being a stay-at-home mom is depressing at times, lonely,(even though you have a child there), and you get the feeling of being trapped and you can't get out. I still feel that way. I try to look at the bright side of things, but sometimes negativity and ugly thoughts pop up, and it feels like I can't control it. That's when I have to get up and do something for me that makes me feel good. I'm sorry you feel this way, but I am kind of happy I'm not alone and there are others like me in the world. It really is a long-hard road to travel. Some people might not think so, but it is. In my opinion, I think men and women both have everything hard. If the stay-at-home mom is depressed and the house is a mess, and the husband comes home from a hard day of work, he should spend time with her, pamper her in some way, or at least comfort her so she doesn't get ugly thoughts or fade away. It's not a good feeling when you feel like a zombie. Doing the same old thing everyday with no expression. It gets old! My advice to all stay-at-home moms is to get up, get out and do something for yourself every once in a while. And I don't mean take a trip to the store or something. I mean get a haircut the way yuou like it, go buy a new nailpolish and try it out, buy a new outfit or dress if you can, plan a trip, take the kids to the in-laws or find a babysitter (someone you trust), and plan a romantic getaway with your significate other! Something so you don't feel like a slave or a nobody! Plus that getaway will get you both into each other again, and make you feel like a real woman again! And if for some reason there isn't a man or significate other, then go find one for a weekend! A good friend or just a girls weekend out! Whatever floats your boat. I'm going to end with one last saying. "If you are not happy, find a way to make yourself happy!" It's really all we can do to live life to the fullest.

Karen - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hey I am Karen I completely understand sometimes all of your single friends disert you. Especially when you are a young mom they look at you like you haven't ever read a parenting book and you would put a diaper on upside down or something. I would like to be your friend you seem cool and smart don't give up I have two girls Sophie will be 3 in september and Naomi, is 10 months old. I have my hands full of all kinds of things at all hours but if you need a friend or someone to dish with about how is this humanly possible that all of your old friends are mysteriously busy when you want to see them. I could help out. I live in Washington State and my kids are biracial so i have a hard time sometimes finding children who don't think my girls are too different to play with. good luck in all you do don't ever give up on being a good mom, I am sure you try really really hard. email me if you like.

Char - posted on 08/08/2009

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i totally understand where you are coming from. i have always had issues from a young age with depression and with the birth of my first daughter, who is now 3, it just got worse and worse and it didn't help that her dad was a no good (blank)... it is nice of everyone to send you their email and screen names but at the same time, like you said, you have internet friends. there is nothing like social interaction and i joke with my husband that i have no other friends besides the ones that used to occupy my uterus. my husband has a good job but doesn't make enough money for us to have the luxery of taking the kids to gymboree and other things like that... not that i'm that kind of mom any way (power to the mom's that are!!!!) my husband doesnt understand why i might want to get out of the house without or even with the kids because when he gets home he is tired from a long day of work and just wants to spend time together (in front of the boob tube =/) spending time with my hubby is all well and good but again... there is nothing like having some one on one girl time that seems to help you get out of a funk. have you thought of getting a part time job just on the weekend?? thats what i did and although i don't meet many people, it's just sort of nice to get out every now and then and see some human faces. i love my kids and my hubby but i'm a social butterfly and sometimes i just need to spread my wings!!!!!



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Michelle - posted on 08/07/2009

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I also have gone through the depression after every birth. It is horrible and very hard. There is no worse place to be. One thing that you may try is calling your local hospital and seeing if they have any mom groups. Some of my friends have done this and it has really worked for them. They have gotten some lasting friends out of it. Hope this works. Good luck!

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I can relate to your situation. I'm a Canadian who married an American and lives in the States so all my family and friends are in another country. When my son was 4 months old we moved 800 miles away from all of my husbands family and friends. I'm not an overly social person, I joke that I'd make an awesome hermit, but everyone needs a few good friends. Now I have two small children and am alone with them all day, which is a blessing but also lonely. So you are so totally not alone, it's just to bad that we're all spread out or we could get together!!! :)

Zowie - posted on 08/07/2009

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i can definatley relate i have 3 children and being on little money we realey get to go places and i don't have asny friends and my family lives far away and i just get so low being all alone my poartner just doesnt understand that he gets to interect with other adults at work where as i am forever here with ou 3 kids day in day out the last time i had a break was when my eldest was one he is now four but i would love to make friends and i know what you are on about these mother and toddler groups are really daunting i had a rough time of it at school with bullys and i have just found out that most of the women in the groups i have been just sit around and bitch about people and it makes me think what are these people saying about me when i have left it makes me quiet paronid.

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Hi Deanna

I just read your post, you are not alone as I have the same problems. It's really hard and very isolating especially if no one visits or the phone does not ring. Somedays I cant even remember what day it is lol !

Things just don't seem to go my way, how ever hard I try.

So No you are not the only one and I really do understand how you feel.

Takecare and don't give up.

xxxxxxx

Stephanie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I had three children and with all three I had post padum depression went suicidal and ended up being diagnosed with bi-polar. I feel this way a lot. You are not alone you can talk to me anytime. I've been there! I however live in the states in arizona lol but have hope your not alone. trust me post padum depression can become very sever talk to your doctor about taking meds it can help. If you don't want to take meds talk to a counselor. write me any time I'm stephanie btw:)

Valerie - posted on 08/06/2009

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Annarien- My town is also small. The biggest thing we have here is our WalMart. Our Mom's group was started exactly like you mentioned wanting to do. A few moms got together because they wanted the same thing. They spoke with a church here in town about using one of their meeting rooms on a regular basis. (We meet every 1st and 3rd Thursday) The church was extremely supportive and the pastor helped them out a lot. We actually have child care with paid workers that the church helped to find because they have a preschool thru the church and knew how to do that. The church gave us the first years' funds to get started and then we organized our own yearly fundraiser after that. Putting an ad in the paper sounds like a good idea to get others willing to help out. I believe there were 4 ladies who started ours. A couple of them were members of the church where we meet, so they knew the pastor. After they got everything organized, they put an ad in the paper for the first meeting. I grew up in this town and thought I would know a lot of ladies there, but when I walked in, I didn't know a single one. We have been surprised over the years how many SAHM's there are here. I hope that you can make it work. It has been a true blessing to us. I have my family here, but there are so many that are like many of these ladies here, no family and no friends. This has been a life-line to them. I have met some very special ladies who have become big help when I need them. I hope that some of this helps you. I wasn't one of the ladies who actually started the group, but I have been a member since the beginning. We started in February 2003. Please let me know if you have anymore questions. I can talk with the ladies who started the group and try to get you any information that might help, if that is something you want me to do. Let me know. :O)

Melanie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I hear ya sister!!! After i had my twins, it was hard to get out and more trouble than it was worth and I had very lonley and depressing days. I told my husband I had to get out and do somthing. Being a farmers wife, I am the one always home with the kids because he works from dawn to dusk! I researched different things I could do from home but also get out once in a while. I was introduced to something that I would have loved to get into long ago. I work my own hours, however many hours a week that I want to, I make a great income and ( This is what I love) I met many wonderful people that I now call GREAT friends that I see a couple times a month. Let me know if you are interested in hearing more about this. You can contact me at mtbrandts@hotmail.com

Rachel - posted on 08/06/2009

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I know what you mean. When you have kids, if your friends don't have them they don't understand. It is very important that you have mom support. You can email me anytime. rmorales0000@yahoo.com

Leanne - posted on 08/06/2009

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yeah totally me, i always thought i was on my own in so many way's but now looking at circle of moms i know im not. i have to boys 11 and 9 and as one of then has autism and other problems no one wants to get to know us but hay thats life. good luck hunni x

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You sound just like me. My daughter will be 3 April 30th as well. I started taking Prozac and really breaking down this winter. I have now moved to a place that I know absolutely no one but my husbands family and my daughter. It's in the desert so it's too hot to go out and meet anyone right now. I find myself feeling alone all the time. It weird to not have any friends around.

You explained how I feel perfectly. So much better with words than I. Hope to see you around on here.

Suzanne - posted on 08/05/2009

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Been there, done that! I have 5 kids and find it very difficult to get it together to meet other moms. I hope you are feeling well, and that the warm weather has brought you some happiness and friends where you are! I'm in Kingston...only a few hours away!

Vicki - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi Huni, I haven't read all the replies so I am sorry if this has already come up. I understand what you mean, we live in Florida but are originally from the UK, so all my family and friends are there. My dd is nearly 2 and i really need that human contact. There is a great website called www.meetup.com you can search for groups that are local to you maybe you will find a group of moms close to you that hav reular scheduled meetups. I found a great group of moms on this website and we have a meet up scheduled everyday, not that you have to attend everyone but the option is always there.

good luck huni

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I feel your pain on a daily basis and have for 7 years now. Hang in there- it will get better! I'm going back to school for IT starting Monday... you just never know what life's going to throw at you. ;)
Hope this helps!

Annarien - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi Frankie I would like to know more anout MOPS, is it a online group?

Hi Valerie thanks for some great ideas, the thing is we moved to a very small town it's a mining community and the closest thing to a mall is the supermarket :) so it makes things so much harder, I thought I should maybe start a mommy group. But I'm not sure what you do in a mommy group? Maybe you can give me some advice. I thought of putting an add in our news paper, maybe there's other mommy's that feels the same way. Hope to hear from you soon*

Annarien - posted on 08/05/2009

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Hi mommy's I'm also new here and so glad I'm not the only one feeling rock bottom.
Hope to find a lot of new friends here on C of M.
We moved about 6 months ago and my little girl is my only company.
You all have a wonderful day***

Jennifer - posted on 08/04/2009

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I know just how you fell most days I am home all daywith two beautiful children (7august girl)(4august boy)that fight all day long I fell as if all I want to do is give up but I cant so what I did was plug myself into chruch and then I have my talk with adults. when I am at home I talk to my 7 year old like she is an adult I you need to talk you can contact me at monkeykids2@rocketmail.com

Amanda - posted on 08/04/2009

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Im so with you Ive been feeling soooooo lonely. I was a full time worker with a prestigious job in the business world until I had my daughter who is now 4 months. I know its hard and it seems everyone I knew dont have kids and dont want to hang with someone that does. I was forced out of work while pregnant so Ive been alone about a year now only talk to my bf when he comes home from work my cats my daughter and family when they call otherwise its my friends on facebook to. Anyway Im with you. Also the depression yeah I know that as I have borderline personality disorder.

Courtney - posted on 08/04/2009

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I feel your pain! Most of my friends are single, working, and have their own lives. I don't get asked out to get-togethers anymore, and I feel like I've been kicked to the curb due to my new addition! It's hard being a stay at home mom. I thought it would be great not working and all that, but eventually I got a little burnt out. My daughter is 7 months now and I'm putting her in daycare in a month so I can have a little time to myself sometimes. It's frustrating for me being a first time mother and having to find ways to keep my daughter occupied all day everyday. I finally decided I need some help so I don't go completely insane! That may sound selfish, but oh well! Anyway, I don't know what kind of advice to give you, but I do relate to the feeling friendless.

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2009

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This was perfect for me to read today. It helps so much to know there are so many others out there that feel the way I do. I know for me a lot of times it's my state of mind. The number of friends I have does not change from day to day, but whether or not it's "enough" does. I've been totally checking out lately--spending more time online than playing with my kids and stuff like that, but I know it will pass and might try out some of these groups people have talked about.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2009

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Hello! I know exactly how you feel I'm there with you. I have kids and a husband and no friends to hang out with or really talk to. They all moved away to another state far away from here. I feel like I can't make any friends either and I try so hard but I'm to the point now where I think everybody thinks I'm a weirdo or don't like me. I live in Maryland.

Susan - posted on 08/02/2009

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Another suggestion would be to volunteer at a library for just a short time a week. It does help. If you can get out for a walk, do it. You might meet other sahm that are lonely. Start a group for tea (or coffee) once a week. What ever you do, do not get onto drugs. My husband printed out something about anti depression drugs that the doctors are trying to push onto, depressed new moms. They really do need help but not the drugs. I think you said that you did not have access to your car during the week as your husband used it for work. Find places near by that you could volunteer at. This is a great way to get out, take the baby with you (volunteer where you can have the baby with of course). You do not have to make it a full day just an hour or two, whatever you think is best for you. Talk to people on the phone, just every once in a while, so you do not make a "pest' of yourself, and limit others access to you so you do not get overwhelmed because people can take advantage of the "lonely". LOL I can sure associate with you. I had young children when we went to Germany, lived on the "economy" and did not speak German. Boy was I lonely until I started going for walks to the commissary and PX that was a couple of blocks away. Then I worked for awhile at the day care center. Even our land lady did not speak English, which was tough. I made it through, you can too. (Back then we did not have computers either, that is a great way to make friends and not get too lonely. LOL)

Monae - posted on 08/01/2009

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Hi Deanna -
I don't know if you're still looking for help with this but this is what helped me. I started taking Mommy and me classes. I looked for classes that I had an interest in (like art) then signed up for a mommy and me version of an art class where you and your child paint pictures together things like that. The great thing is, not only are you meeting other moms out there (potential friends) but you're meeting ones that have similar interests. Hope this helps :)

Kayce - posted on 08/01/2009

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I would go to your local library and they have a bunch of events they hold daily for children. Story times and stuff like that. Also you can find on yahoo some groups around your area where mothers meet at like jumping time places, monkey joes, or even at their homes. search for anything possible and that is a wounderful way to meet other mothers. or even go to the park you can meet so many there and children for your daughter to play with. i hope you find something for you and your daughter to do. best of luck!

Crickett - posted on 08/01/2009

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remember thou my reply is late....only you can solve this one, but here are some hints. go to your doctor make sure if you are feeling lonley that maybe with your history there is more. i personally waited to long, 8 years i kept thinking it was something else. medicine can be changed or even upped if necessary. \
next.... plan trips out find some one to watch her and grocery shop with a neighbor or friend. just having a little time regular can make us feel better.
then... find something that makes you happy. church reading puzzles something new.
when our hands are busy are minds are quieter. less time to be worrying about bieng lonley. i will pray for you and hope you find that inner peace which can get us threw.

Dianna - posted on 07/31/2009

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Well I have always been depressed since i was 9yr old but i try to not to think like i this for my son Adam. So what i try to do is Listen to music and draw out my feelings. it's been workin out for me abit. But I don't have any REAL friends any more. I do try to go out with my son adam but no one is around, and i hate.

Samantha - posted on 07/31/2009

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It's not you. When I had my little girl a year ago, I realized that had NOTHING in common with the people I once hung out with. I slowly but surely started to dread talking to them because I had more pressing things to do than gossip, like feeding, burping, and changing my child. I have yet to make new friends. I went through a state of depression, and every now and then I get stressed because there's no one to talk to. So, it's not just you. I know what you mean about plans for play dates falling through. I know so many people with kids, but just when I get up the energy to want to plan something, everyone is busy or something goes wrong. Good luck with everything!

Jane - posted on 07/31/2009

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see if there are any mom groups around. maybe you could start one! check w/your library to see if there are any and if not, put up an ad to start one.

Laura - posted on 07/31/2009

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I was bored out of my mind when I first stayed home! When my daughter was 6 months old, I joined my local MOMS Club chapter (www.momsclub.org for info). I've met so many great moms. Each chapter has planned activities, plus I belong to a playgroup and freezer meal group through my chapter.

I also did MOPS (www.mops.org) for around 4 years. Mostly to have some time to myself.

I've never had luck just meeting moms and making friends. Having an organized group is great!

Stephanie - posted on 07/31/2009

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Hi, just wanted to say i feel where your coming from. I worked full time and was employee of the month and even won trips and cruises at my old job.
Now I am a stay at home mom to my 7 month old.
It is a huge adjustment and all my old friends just dont get it. Luckily there are a few of our friends that have children a little older or younger than ours but we are all tied down with sustaining our childs life that it is hard to get together.
I am here and I see many other moms are if you ever want to drop me a message or look me up on facebook!! :O)
Being a stay at home mom in my book is the best job ever. We should get paid if you ask me but that is another rant.....lol

Tara - posted on 07/31/2009

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I sometimes feel the same way, not having any contact with anyone besides a 2 and 6 yo can get very depressing at times. I joined a local mom's group. It forced me to stick to the playdates that I agreed to go to, because I wouldn't let them down. And it also helped me get out of my comfort zone. My kids love to interact with the other children and always hve fun. The other cool thing about my group is that once a month there is a Mom's Night Out, where the kids stay at home with dad. Then there is also a Potluck once a month...where the whole family is invited, including the dad. It has really helped me come out of my depression and I hope you find happiness!!

Iosel - posted on 07/30/2009

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Wow, all of these postings date back to March. I feel like I'm late for the chat. I'm 30 years old, I have two daughters, I'm a stay at home mom and I feel extremely lonely because even though I have friends with children, they either live too far away or have their own thing going on. I'm at home most of the time and I also feel like I have no friend or anyone else to talk to except for my kids. I love my girls, but sometimes I need someone older than nine or two to talk to.

Kirsten - posted on 07/30/2009

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hey deanna just read ur post from march and i am a stay at home mom feeling the same way i have a 6 y/o lil boy and a 6 mos old lil boy and worked until jan. 09 and adjusting to being a stay at home mom when im used to workin every day....its a big adjustment but goin to work with the first child i really know what i missed and didnt want to do that with my second lil boy and ur right the economy sux right now and day care for 6 mos old is 300 per week not including b4 and after care for my 6y/o is about 150 a week its not worth it to work (for right now) im thankful i have a supportive fiance...im also the same age as you just turned 26 july 15th well my bday is 7/15/83...i live in waldorf, maryland....if you wanna chat anytime we can....my email is krcameron15@yahoo.com

Jenny - posted on 07/30/2009

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I feel the same way most of the time. You feel like you have kids and all your old friends disappear or just don't come around anymore. I stay at home day in and day out with my children. I have a 5 yr old daughter and a son that will be 2 in November and am also expecting. I live in Kansas so you can imagine, I'm sure how boring it is here. I'm 22 and would love to talk to you. You can add me on myspace and facebook and msn messenger if you have it...sexyslickchic69@hotmail.com

Melissa - posted on 07/30/2009

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I know exactly what your going through. My son is about to turn 4 mos. and every now and then I get extremely depressed. My husband is gone all day and at night he comes home to eat dinner and then goes to sleep. (can't blame the poor guy, he' going to school to make a better life for us) So I feel all alone! Most of my "friends" that I haven't seen since the birth of my son don't have any kids, so there is no relating to. If you need an ear to talk to or just some up lifting conversation don't hesitate! I am 30 and live in San Diego CA. But I would love to meet & chat with new people that are going through similar experiences as myself.

Tabetha - posted on 07/29/2009

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I feel your pain so fully I have the same situation with the post partum and loneliness my husband is my only friend and he works 12 hour days if you ever want to talk i'm here for you :)

Jacklynn - posted on 07/29/2009

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hey yeah i feel the same way ....i am a mom of two and i can't stand it, i there is lost of people hope to be in my position and yeah i do love my children very much but...it is like you are cut off from the rest of the grown up world...but you do become fullent kid language...mississauaga 25....sucks that you are so far away

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hi, I am chris and I have NO FRIENDS, none at all :( just my husband.
I live a province away from my family and have 1 good friend who lives the next province over whom I speak to on the phone quite often but no friends to get together with. I have social anxiety disorder and find it difficult to put myself out there and meet new people. I am sad and lonely most of the time and have found this site to be a great company to me. I am even feeling like a terrible mom lately because when it is time for my childs birthday I have to wrack my brain to find children to come. I feel terrible that she cant have the big child filled parties that I had growing up and I want that for her so bad. I am so anti social and I dont want it to rub off on her. I have never been good at making friends and really have no idea where to start. It seems when ever I try to put my self out there, like joining a group or class it is like everyone else sines up wth a friend or 2 and they already have their own groups formed. I always feel like an intruder looking in.
If there is anyone else out there like me please let me know I am not alone.
I am DESPERATE for human contact other than my husband!

Dawn - posted on 07/28/2009

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hey i'm 21 living in ottawa ontario i have a an 11 weeks old little boy and at the moment going to post partum!! i need friends to talk to!! lost alot of friend because of my choice to have a child!! i would love to have someone to talk to my email is dawndraper@hotmail.com if you want to chat!

Stephanie - posted on 03/24/2009

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Hi Deanna,



I sure know how you feel!!! It is tough to stay at home and only have contact with little people there is no stimulatung conversation going on there unless it is about Barney!!!  I live in Strathroy which is about 25 mins from you. I have a 10 year ols daughter, another daughter who will be 7 in July and my wild child Nicholas who will be 4 on April 26. My email is tomcatchevy@aol.com. Give me a shout and we can exchange numbers if you want. My name is Stephanie and I will be 34 in May!!! Hope to hear from you soon.

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