Amrit - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 32 moms have responded )
The details are too much to get into, but I feel like I have created a monster. Basically I was younger and dumber a year and a half ago than I am now and went to my mom for moral support during a tough time with my hubby. She took it too personally and got too involved and defensive of me. She wrote me a huge email saying many not very nice things about my hubby and my hubby read it as we read each other's emails. He was hurt and infuriated by the things she said and sent her a nasty email to which she replied in kind and told him not to email back. Now they both hated each other and I was in the middle. Then there were a couple face to face arguments which DID NOT go well, and I am left with my mom banning my husband from her house and refusing to speak to him, and my husband banning her from our house, from seeing her granddaughter, and from seeing me. I do not wish this to be this way, but now they are both so engrossed in their stubborn ways that I see no way out. I know that I need to stand by my hubby and our future together, but I have a tremendous guilt and feel like I am completely shunning my mom which is a horrid feeling because we have always been so close. Is there anyone who knows what this is like? Can anyone give me suggestions that might heal this? Have I failed beyond repair? :( I can't bear the thought of my daughter not knowing her grandma, and I can't bear the thought of her knowing that daddy hates granny.