Rose - posted on 07/11/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
hi i'm Rose. I'm 27 and I've come to a point where I've realised I have been placing overly high expectations on myself as a mother and partner. I have 3 boys under 5 and had never asked for help from my partner, family, or friends because i was stubborn and thought I could and should do everything myself. In trying to please everybody else, I was neglecting my own needs, which in turn resulted in resentment, anger, frustration, confusion, depression, stress and anxiety. I decided to seek help and counselling.
I was caring for my children 24/7 with no time away from them. My partners job requires him to work away from home for weeks at a time (intermittent parental absence) which also affects me and the children emotionally. To care for them properly i now realise its about quality of time, not quantity. I need to give myself mental space (time to think,plan,organise) without my children present each day. I needed to give myself 1 hr a day of exercise.(walking is great to relax and free the mind) I need one on one love and attention from my partner without the children, and 1hr of organised family activity time each day.
Its been a very positive turn around and my confidence is building as I make ME important and cared for. I have been reaching out for support, communicating my needs, and getting a couple of hours break each day and its doing wonders!
just letting all those full time mums know if you are at the end of your tether, its never too late to reach out for help. YOU are the most important ingredient to the family mix!