taking a bath or shower with ur kids do u agree or disagree?

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Sandra - posted on 11/23/2009

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It is fine. It also makes the puberty talk easier when they are exposed to it at a younger age and can see for themselves what will happen. It makes all the embarassing conversations easier for all involved.....

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 03/30/2011

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I shower with my 3 children aged 4,2 and 14months. I see nothing wrong with it. They are my children i dont want my kids to be embarressed about their bodies.

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I agree with it. Even when kids get old enough to notice and ask there is no reason to freak out and kick them out of the bathroom. It is that type of reaction that helps perpetuate this nudity/sexuality is bad stigma that causes more problems than it is supposedly meant to solve or prevent. It is the hiding of the body that triggers an unnatural interest. Of all the guys I know that have peeked at moms, sisters and/or other female family members or females in general are the ones that were raised with the most puritanical family experiences. You can have a healthy nudist experience without making exhibitionist. Again it's those that grow up within families that hide nudity that are more likely to flash and take a perverse interest or pleasure in being inappropriately nude or having inappropriate interest in others bodies.

Jackie - posted on 01/08/2010

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It's whatever you feel is comfortable for you and your kids..I don't think there is any real right or wrong in this ...well, unless the kids are old enough to know about private parts...then that would be inappropriate

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CANDICE - posted on 01/08/2010

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i think its ok. i bathe with my babies, 22mth twin girlz and i take showers with my 7 mth old son. they like that personal time with mommy but i will be glad when they can bathe themselves. yippie for independence!!!

Melissa - posted on 12/17/2009

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i shower with my kids... my daughter is almost 4... its fairly rare that i shower with her anymore.. but sometimes if im just in and out or in a hurry its alot faster.. i also shower with my 2 month old twinboys... it just saves alot of time., energy, and water.

Dani - posted on 11/27/2009

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Growing up I had prudish parents and can't recall ever seeing either naked. Well, I have changed that with my kids (boys 5,3 and girl 2). I can't believe that the one thing I was born with -my body- can be 'wrong'. If I can call my elbow 'an elbow' then I can call my vagina 'a vagina'. If the kids ask questions,that's fine! My husband and I answer simply and accurately and don't make a fuss. The kids don't even notice if there's some clothes missing. They'll be comfortable with their bodies, have less body-image issues and be able to go to the doctor and tell them what's wrong and where.

We shower and bathe together often and in doing so save water and time. Oh, and the kids all love playing together still.

Lynnette - posted on 11/27/2009

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I think political correctness has gone mad in UK. Of course its ok to have a bath or shower with ur kid, for god sake they came from inside of us ladies. When my kids were little I had no choice, if they came in the bathroom and I was in the bath they'd dive right in.

Victoria - posted on 11/27/2009

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I don't see there being a problem with it. My husband and I used to shower with our daughter during her first 3 months of life. She loved the shower as a newborn. Every now and then I'll take a bath with her, she's only 14months old.

Linsey - posted on 11/27/2009

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its great you asked this, I also was wondering when it was time to stop my daughter and her daddy taking baths and showers together, She is only 15mnths so I knew it was fine rite now but didnt really know when to put a stop to it. But reading all of these makes me see that daddy will know when its not okay any more.

Andi - posted on 11/27/2009

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I don't see a thing wrong with it, up to a certain age, and the mother will know when that age has been reached. I still shower with my 4 year old daughter from time to time. I have not showered with my boys, ages 8 and 6, for a couple of years now. Only a person with a sick mind would think sick thoughts of a mother showering with her children. Sadly, there are people like that out there.

Janet - posted on 11/27/2009

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i do i dont think theres nothing wrong with it i even take baths with her and if i had boy i would do it to its your kids. you do what you want to do who cares what anyone else says. and when to stop i think when they start asking questions lol but im sure it wont be for awhile and by that time they will be taking showers by themselfs. good luck shanna i hope this helped

Kim - posted on 11/27/2009

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Why not? Apart from saving time and money and just being easier it helps them to know that there is nothing wrong with the human body within the right boundries. Great time to bring up the chat about it's ok for Mummy, Daddy etc (whoever looks after the kids) to wash you, dress you etc but that's it and tell you otherwise etc.

Adelaide - posted on 11/27/2009

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i personally dont have a problem with it. But even things done innocently are badly misinterpreted. Not worth the grief. Safe than sorry!

Sarah - posted on 11/26/2009

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My daughter is two months and three weeks.. I was having a hard time giving her a bath in the baby tub because I had to lean over and I had back pain before I got pregnant and I had an epidural so it's worse now.. I can't hardly bend over with out pain standing back up.. I take a bath with her.. I'm less likely to drop her and she seems to be more calm when I'm in there with her.

Melany - posted on 11/26/2009

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It's ok but i would say when they start pointing and asking it might be time for u 2 stp or u could even jus use a swim suit so they cant se things they shouldnt, cause they see mommy is dif and gonna start wondering about other lil girls. well best of luck!

Ashley - posted on 11/26/2009

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I agree i take a shower with my daughter all the time we have the same parts so she dont ask questions and it saves on time and water we use lol

Linzi - posted on 11/26/2009

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its always been me and my son so nakedness has never been an issues he is 6 next year but he still wants to get in shower or bath with me, and until it becomes an issue with him wanting privacy or getting "too grown up" then its absolutly not an issue i never want him to have issues with his body so until he decides he can hop in with his mum

Ashley - posted on 11/26/2009

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My son is two and he hates taking one by himself. Eventually I'll stop letting him shower with me, but for now, why not? It's so much easier to do him real fast and then get myself showered. It saves water, it saves time, it saves your sanity... I don't think it's a problem or anything to be shameful of.

Brandy - posted on 11/25/2009

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If I need a shower before nap time and my fiance isn't on days off, the only way I get it is to let my 19 month old daughter play at the bottom of the tub while I shower (well lately she stands up beside me and mimicks me washing my hair and such) then when I am done, I get out and fill the tub a bit for her and I stand at the mirror and do my hair and makeup and usually get to finish before she decides she is done. She gets to splash and I get to get ready without interruptions.

Amy - posted on 11/25/2009

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I dont see a prob with it at all...I have bathed with both of my younger ones...a boy and a girl...and they bathe together at almost every bath. I have tried to do it seperately and they have such a fit so I just do it together...as far as some people saying to stop when they start asking questions, i totally disagree. we teach our children that everyone is different and this is a perfect opportunity to explain the differences between genders in a safe and comfortable way. My daughter is 5 and my son is 4 and they dont even notice the difference...they just play together in the tub like they do out of it. Like someone said before, being naked isnt something to be ashamed of. It is natural and healthy for children to be comfortable with their bodies at a very early age so they can grow into a healthy adult. My only advice is to follow your instincts and dont let anyone cloud your judgement on what is right or wrong. Half of being a parent is listening to those instincts.

Tara - posted on 11/25/2009

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Depends on sex and age. My daughter always showered with her dad but we cut out those before she turned 2, I feel its inappropriate after that. She still showers with me, hell thats the only way i can get her to get clean! Im sure my son will shower with me and his dad as well but when he gets to that age we will have to cut them out.

Ericka - posted on 11/25/2009

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I don't see anything wrong with it until they reach a certain age like another member said, where they start to ask questions. I am a first time mother of twin boys and at first I had to sit in the tub with them as well because they were learning how to sit up and to big for the baby tub. I don't think it's fair to judge on the gender either, because they are our children.

Cyndi - posted on 11/25/2009

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I have 3yr old twin boys and sometimes the only way I am able to get a shower is for us to go in together. There is nothing wrong with that. When they were younger I worried what I would do when they got older and started asking questions about our differences. Well one day we were in the shower and one of the boys asked "Mommy, where is your peepee?" I was just honest and told him girls don't have pee pees thats why boys are boys and girls are girls, He said oh, ok. That was all that was said, and he went back to playing and washing. If YOU don't make a big deal about THEY wont either!

Michelle - posted on 11/25/2009

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my son is 15 months old and i used to only bathe with him on occasion. but his new thing is jumping out of the tub. so i find it much easier to sit in their with him. of course he points at *mommys* parts, but i tell him what they are. you have to know that they are learning alot from you. so i guess i would rather him know he has a pepe and mommy has .. privacy. i couldnt think what else to say when he'd pointed. so i figured it was a start. hah but my own mother has told me once wait till he asks why i am broken down their, cause we're different in all.. lol then ill have to find another name for it and reason. but i do not see one thing wrong with bathing with your children. if hes a good boy or he gets really anxious, ill take him into the big boy shower with me too. same with his dad.

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I completely agree. I´m a single mom and in order for me to get things done efficiently through out the day I have to take a shower with my daughter who is 11 months. I think its a great bonding experience for both of us. I have a little inflatable pool and I put in the shower and my daughter plays while I shower and then its her turn...it might sound a little crazy to many but I´ve become very creative with my daughter and so far so good! LOL!

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I completely agree. I´m a single mom and in order for me to get things done efficiently through out the day I have to take a shower with my daughter who is 11 months. I think its a great bonding experience for both of us. I have a little inflatable pool and I put in the shower and my daughter plays while I shower and then its her turn...it might sound a little crazy to many but I´ve become very creative with my daughter and so far so good! LOL!

Sheena - posted on 11/24/2009

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If your fine with it, it should be fine for your children. My son is 1 and I put him in the shower with me. Now when my son is older I won't but that will come when I feel that it needs to. Its all about your comfort and your childrens. If your children ever act like they don't want to bathe with you and they want to alone than it would be time to change that.

Bernadette - posted on 11/24/2009

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I think it's fine. I won't anymore with my 5 year old son bc he started realizing that we do have different body parts. I stopped with him pretty much when he turned 5 and it was even less before then bc he started bathing at night or earlier with his Dad.

Chelsea - posted on 11/24/2009

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i think its fine, but like some others have said when your children are to the age they ask about your difference i would at least limit it to mommy and daughters and daddys and son. i put my daughter in her baby bath tub in the shower with me sometimes its the only way i get mine in.

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Wow so many moms doing the same things I do, feels so good to know. I'm also glad to see that several preggo moms are still capable of bathing when so far along. I'm 36 weeks with my second and my daughter is 20 months. She has begun to notice her body parts as well as mine, but since we are both girls I don't see this as a bad thing. I plan to bathe her brother with us as well, but may stop getting in as soon as he gets to be 1ish. And sadly, soon enough my daughter may be too big a girl to bathe with her brother. They always get to the point where being with little brother or sister is a drag.

Dale - posted on 11/24/2009

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My husband and i take turns at showering with our boys (5yrs and 3mths) my 3mth old is too big for his babybath and we only have a shower so we have no choice but to shower the 3mth old our 5yr old also showers on his own most of the time.

Ashley - posted on 11/24/2009

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I took baths with my son when he was little, before he could sit up by himself... now sometimes he watched me while I bathe, or he watches his dad. Not a big deal. He knows that boys and girls have different parts (he's 25 months old)... if he points or says anything, we teach him what the body part is.

Addry - posted on 11/24/2009

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Why do most of you keep saying to stop when they start asking about your/their body parts or why you or they have different body parts? That is just insane! Why not take that opportunity to teach you child something? That is one of the many opportunities that we have as parents to show our kids that it is ok to love and touch your body! Why must we always make distortions in our kids minds about their bodies? Don't we already have enough problems with girls and boys having poor body images? We should try and help these kids! Why are we so scared and so uncomfortable with ourselves that we don't our kids to see us naked? Don't repeat the cycle, Break it! We all want the best for our kids right? So lets show them that we are also human and that we are also different and have our faults but that does not mean we/they/other should love us or think of us any less! YOU know there are those of you who are thinking: NAKED = SEX! NOT TRUE!, kids need to learn about that as well, but That I agree when the right time comes! Just because we are naked around eachother does NOT mean we are going to Molest eachother or have SEX with eachother! My husband, my daughter and I are comfortable taking showers with eachother and we have our "nakid time". My daughter LOVES it, she if free and runs around and is her happiest! Why would I want to thwart that or take that away from her? There, I put in my 2 cents~

Panda - posted on 11/24/2009

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I agree with this. Here are my reasons. You know being a mom you never arrive anywhere on time, right? Ok, well I started to put my girls on the shower with me to take less time bathing them. They would help each other as would I. This is also, helpful when you have to pay $0.25 for a shower in the parks. I prefer not to take a shower with my youngest now, I feel she is getting to old. She is 9 and will still ask to be take a shower with me. I want to make clear we didnt take showers together everyday, just when I needed to free up time. I only allow her to take showers with me when we are at a park now. I dont feel "odd" I look at it this way, I havent had the bathroom to myself in 13 yrs now. It's seems to me my girls need something no sooner than I get in the. It's like when the phone rings, they need something. So, like I said I feel at the age of 8 yrs for girls to take showers with mothers. I would never allow my hubby to take a showe with them. I think If I had a son I would've ended the showers together around 7. Children start asking questions at that age. I hope thta I have not upset anyone with how I did things or how I feel. Good Luck

Shauna - posted on 11/24/2009

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Quoting Rachel:

I think its fine to bath or shower with you children to a certain age like most ppl say you no when not to i have 2 lil girl one is 3 n half and the other is 1year 11months. sometimes you just dont have time to have one on your own.



I agree. Everytime I jump into the tub to relax for a bit,. my four year old or my 18 month old instantly come in there and want to jump in with mommy. so much for the relaxing bath...lol.

Rachel - posted on 11/24/2009

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I think its fine to bath or shower with you children to a certain age like most ppl say you no when not to i have 2 lil girl one is 3 n half and the other is 1year 11months. sometimes you just dont have time to have one on your own.

Alex - posted on 11/24/2009

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There are an awful lot of comments on here that highlight how uncomfortable we all are with our bodies and I think it shows up how obssessed with inappropriate sexuality we have become as a society. I regularly shower and bath with my 4 year old son and have no plans to stop until he tells me that he wants to wash alone. I don't want him to start being ashamed of his body and getting the notion that there is something wrong with asking questions about his or mine. We live in a crazy world and I want my son to always feel comfortable to ask me anything he is curious about. There is nothing wrong with nakedness, it's how we created our children and how we all arrived here, when did it become something to be concerned about?

Beth - posted on 11/24/2009

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We used to bathe my daughter in the sink in the bathroom cause it was easier not having to bend over and all.. but as soon as she was too big for the sink, I used to take her in the bath/shower with me. I see nothing wrong with it. I am a SAHM, and shes 4 now. It seems very hard at times to get a few minutes alone to take a shower, so the majority of the time, she joins me... Every now and then, she likes to take a bath, and I supervise her. But I see nothing wrong with having her with me. To me, its our special time, and she loves it... Shes always asking me, "When can we take a shower today?". I put mirriors in the shower and she has a few toys to occupy her while I'm washing. There was a time, when she started asking questions, "How come your boobies are bigger then mine" ect..ect..ect, and I constantly met het curiosity. I'm not sure how I would feel if I had a boy tho. I'm sure after a certain age, I would have to let Dad take over the job.

Delany - posted on 11/23/2009

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I think it's okay until they are 2 then it get's weird because they start asking too many uncomfortable questions about body parts.

Felicia - posted on 11/23/2009

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Quoting Shanna:

im disabled and its hard for me to reach over the tub and wash them and to save some money on water i get in wit my boys one is 2 years almost 3 and the other is 3 months like its easyer for me but i dont kno if its right u kno i washed wit my mom when i was kid and my sister so i dont see harm in it but then again i have boys not girls so is it ok or no ? and if it is what age should i stop?


I think it is totally fine to take a bath with your kids! I think it is a wonderful bonding time and kills 2 birds with one stone. I would say that when you son is 3 you might want to stop bathing with him just because he is getting old enough to remember everything. Or you could continue bathing with him and wear your bathing suit?? But the little one... in my book you have about 3 years left with that. Have fun!

Melissa - posted on 11/23/2009

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I agree its ok to take a shower with your baby, Its much easier for me to take one with him rather than have him wonder around the house or something while im in there.. He would rather take a shower anyway..

Kryss - posted on 11/23/2009

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I have read some comments and i think i agree with most moms but, here is my view...when my son was born and. until he was probaly two...i showered with him, i felt as a bonding thing but, i think its age and wht their curiositys are.

Sumner - posted on 11/23/2009

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i have a 12 yr boy an 8 yr old girl and a 5 month old boy and i have bathed and showered with all 3 of them i stopped at a certain age i believe with my oldest it was 3 yrs and my lil girl was at almost 4 i havent stopped yet with the new baby its a time to bond and let them know its ok to be close to another human being i think its a very natural and comforting thing for babies and toddlers but again their is an age limit

Heather - posted on 11/23/2009

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I have 19 month old twins(boy & girl) they will not take a bath alone so in order to keep them both safe in the tub at the same time we get in with them and they love it. If we try to give them a bath alone they scream and fight the whole time.

Kristi - posted on 11/23/2009

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I bathe the kids together in the bath and will occasionally hop in with them - how else will I have time to bathe? - lol. Occasionally I will shower them instead and haul one or both in with me. Saves time, and then dad will come by and grab them out and towel them off for me. They are 1 1/2 and almost 6 - girls. Dad still bathes with them occasionally also, but I have noticed he throws a washcloth over his private parts - his call, his comfort zone. They have seen him naked so I don't worry about them getting body issues.

Candice - posted on 11/23/2009

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My husband doesn't feel comfortable with it so he doesn't do it, but my Mom did it with me and so I feel fine with it. Bathtime is playtime for my son so if I have time I let him have his own bath, but if we are in a rush then I just plop him in with me.

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